Married Men: Do you enjoy 'a bit on the side?'

[ravip]

3 hours ago, toofarnorth said:

If the food at home goes from hot and spicey to cold and uninteresting  go out and spice up your life a bit . But then this topic is not about food is it.

Hmmmm...no. But about a type of spice, I guess.

[ravip]

4 hours ago, WineOh said:

I strongly disagree with this.

I married my wife for her brain first and foremost.

She is a smart woman.

 

However, walking down the street I am constantly checking other birds out.

all the time.

 

Heterosexual men are hardwire biologically to have sex with as many different women as possible.

It is hardwired into their DNA to promote procreation and ensure the survival of the human race.

 

It is social morals that stop many men from unzipping their shorts. 

Heterosexual men are hardwire biologically to have sex with as many different women as possible.

 

In a nutshell, Heterosexual men like a fruit salad while the ladies prefer their favourite fruit?

[CrunchWrapSupreme]

2 hours ago, 1fortheroad said:

Long story short I have been dropping by the apartemnts every week for about  the last year, apart from lockdown!

In my first few years of teaching, colleagues eventually revealed to me many such stories. They were in similar situations, striking up friendships with parents, Thai teachers, admins, and even officials higher than school level. Farang teachers attract some attention out in the Issan boonies. After awhile the inevitable happens. Heh. Amazing how simple and straightforward it is in contrast to the West.

[Don Chance]

Some of us are 'wife sitters.'

 

 

Edited January 23, 2021 by Don Chance

[Sujo]

Im in malaysia, every one of my malay and chinese friends have bits on the side.

 

I have never been married or had kids, i have lived with my malay gf for 6 years. About 2 months ago i told her i wanted to break up because i fancied other girls for some fun.

 

Her answer was to tell me that was a stupid thing to do, just get with whoever i want as long as it isnt with her friends and dont tell her.

 

so that sorted that out. Happy days.

[Seeall]

4 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

I guess then if you can't get it up any longer you'd approve of your wife taking on a lover as you can't keep her happy any longer in old age. Works both ways - or is it just for the men ? Guess you may like the idea of another guy shafting your wife, but I wouldn't.

 

ifs shes paying the bills then yeah works both ways.. if not then trade it in....

[Seeall]

6 hours ago, Pilotman said:

MODS, I think you should close this rather pathetic and uninteresting  post. 

I like it

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, Somchai Jackson said:

Thai wives and girlfriends who are being taken care of financially seen to have a different view about "men's needs."  I'm not talking about the bargirl types that foreigners get in relationships with.  Those gals are competitive and that insecure competitiveness never dies although if she finds you flirting with another women you may die.

Middle and upper class Thai women who are financially secure allow their men to meet "men's needs" which explains the culture of karaoke, curtain hotels, giks, and mia nois.  Also Thai men who work outside of the country or away from their villages or khets.  Their women understand their "men's needs." 
I know, all us guys from the US and farang countries are called Sex-Pats.  We don't make up a fraction of the sex trade and sexual trysts that happen between Thai men who are married and other women.  If you're taking care of your Thai GF or wife or whoever in style then she knows better than to open her mouth about sex on the side that isn't with her.  That's a fast way to find herself poor.  Then suddenly she becomes a mia noi to make ends meet. 

And if you're a foreign guy who doesn't understand this little piece of Thai culture then you are a fool.  More than likely your GF or wife or whoever is taking your money and banging someone else on the side. 

What he said!

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, Kelsall said:

Single man: "When you married guys are out fooling around, we single guys come over and <deleted> your wives."

 

Married man:  "Thanks."

make sure you leave a big tip.... helps us out!

[Seeall]

6 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

I think there is a big difference with what Thai guys do and what many farangs do.

 

As far as I know for many Thai guys having a mia noi is a status symbol. He wants to be seen with his mia noi and he spends money so that the mia noi has i.e. a nice car, apartment, etc. And if he can afford more than one than probably he will have more than one. Sex seems to be not the most important part of those relations to mia nois.

It seems mostly the wife knows. I have no insight about what they think about this.

 

Many farang guys play around. And it does not really matter if they have farang or Thai girlfriends or wives. They do it because they want to have sex with sexy girls. And maybe other sex than with their wives. With a Nana girl you direct your own porn movie - even if you don't make a movie.

Maybe farangs tell their good male friends about their encounters but most definitely don't tell their wives.

I think there are very few guy who want to be seen in public with their sexy girls - because the wife may find out...

I love my movies... thai girls also mostly love to watch them..

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, Peterw42 said:

I'm not out playing up and dont really intend to, but as others have said, its almost expected of you in Thailand. Thai girls seem to grow up thinking its normal for a guy to play  up, have a mia noi. 

I think the belief that westerners are less likely to be unfaithful is one of the reasons some Thai girls  seek out westerners.

 

I have also seen some mates get caught out having a bit on the side but the odd thing is they dont get in trouble, the wife seeks out the girl they have been seeing, to tear strips off her. 

yeah its kinda strange...

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, WineOh said:

I strongly disagree with this.

I married my wife for her brain first and foremost.

She is a smart woman.

 

However, walking down the street I am constantly checking other birds out.

all the time.

 

Heterosexual men are hardwire biologically to have sex with as many different women as possible.

It is hardwired into their DNA to promote procreation and ensure the survival of the human race.

 

It is social morals that stop many men from unzipping their shorts. 

point being?

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, CraigInBangkok said:

I see things differently ... I don't see the point of just blowing your load in a faceless hole. I did loads of that when I was younger and its just an empty feeling, as soon as it over just trying to get them out the door. Been with my wife 18 years and for me sex never got boring plus its so much better with an emotional connection. 

good for u

[NanLaew]

7 hours ago, WineOh said:

...as for the demographic of the people at the dinner, all of them were well educated with good jobs and good social circles. ...

 

That in itself precludes any meaningful comparison or even simple honesty from this forum's farang hoi poloi now doesn't it?

[Seeall]

you not moved on yet?

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, HashBrownHarry said:

School girls......yikes.

confuses me.....

[Seeall]

4 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

I guess then if you can't get it up any longer you'd approve of your wife taking on a lover as you can't keep her happy any longer in old age. Works both ways - or is it just for the men ? Guess you may like the idea of another guy shafting your wife, but I wouldn't.

 

if he took over the payments, perhaps a good deal and time to upgrade?

[Seeall]

7 hours ago, WineOh said:

Last night I was at a dinner at a friends house.

it was mostly couples, and a few single thai guys.

Everyone at the dinner was Thai except myself.

As the night grew on and the drinks got slung back , the topic of 'mia nois' came up.

 

It turns out that every single Thai guy at that table who was either in a relationship or was married had 'a bit on the side.'

Some had more than a bit on the side 

and some were just downright greedy... ???? 

 

My wife then looked at me and said 'you dont, do you love?'

to which I replied 'of course not darling', but in a very sarcastic way.

 

I suppose what I want to know is if you are married, do you ever play away from home?

Considering the numbers last night and the open admitting in front of their wives, I would say that it is very common in Thailand for the man to fill his boots whenever he gets the chance.

And none of their wives seemed to give a monkeys.

To my mind, if the other person involved says its OK then more power to them I say..

and as for the demographic of the people at the dinner, all of them were well educated with good jobs and good social circles. 

 

What are your thoughts? ???? 

a good share, cheers

[Seeall]

5 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Do they cheat? In which way? Do these guys love their mia nois? Do the Thai wives miss the sex with their old husbands? Or are they happy when he jumps around on another woman because then she doesn't have to do that job.

better to go shopping they say..

[surangw]

how  many would do it if they did not enjoy it ?

 

[Brian Hud]

Just to play Devils Advocate would any of the Thai men be happy if their partners / wife where having a bit on the side ? 

[Seeall]

7 hours ago, KannikaP said:

In English we say What's good for the goose is good for the gander ! (Or the other way round).

So just pose the same question to your other halves and see what they say.

but its mostly not a balance..  this is the <deleted> the west had endorsed....  and the evil western women follow...  98 % of the time a women will engage a partner better off financially than her....

so all the ahhh love love love is a load of <deleted>......   its in their dna!!!!!!  used to be the guy with the biggest club now its finance.... so when silly westerners talk of equality thy somehow forget the mans life long hard ernet savings, whisst the female sat around  coffee shops waiting...... so no gander <deleted> here.....

[Seeall]

1 minute ago, Brian Hud said:

Just to play Devils Advocate would any of the Thai men be happy if their partners / wife where having a bit on the side ? 

 

1 minute ago, Brian Hud said:

Just to play Devils Advocate would any of the Thai men be happy if their partners / wife where having a bit on the side ? 

how many storied have you heard that the brother is the husband? so yeah !!!!!!!!!!!    more money the better!!!!!!!!

[4MyEgo]

13 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

But she simply cannot love you in the same way as we love in the West.

Interesting analogy. 

 

cannot love you in the same way as we love in the west", what does that mean, my wife love me long time, isn't that the saying, plus she doesn't get to clean me out if we ever split up, like the law systems of the west, and I get to have my cake and eat many others too, if that ain't love, then I live in a fantasy world.

 

She also isn't a ball breaker, accepts me for who I am, cooks, cleans, and fusses over me like there is no tomorrow, hasn't changed since I met her in 2006, never has a headache, it's me that has to have them at times.....lol, never seen that in the west and if she is only with me for the money, she has a strange of showing it because she NEVER asks me for money, or expects anything, although I do "take care her too", so that saying, "no money no honey" doesn't apply here.

 

Love in the west sucks, and can literally clean you out financially as many here on TVF will tell you, the women are ball breakers and are lazy, Thai's, well the ones I have met, are all good girls, short or long time ????

 

Now there's one way of loving if you think outside the box. 

 

Love is what you both make of it, and as long as you have the mutual respect and feelings for one another, then nothing else matters, cakes galore.

 

 

Edited January 24, 2021 by 4MyEgo

[WineOh]

15 hours ago, colinneil said:

Bit on the side hells bells i dont get any at home, let alone a bit on the side.

I laughed out loud then mate.

thats a cracker ????

[WineOh]

14 hours ago, Neeranam said:

Only weak men deliberately hurt their wives. 

This is my whole point.

 

this thread was about a sample portion of local Thai people at a dinner party discussing Mia Nois. Out of all the wives at the table not a single one of them seemed hurt or angry that their fellas were nailing other women. In fact, to be honest, they seemed to like it.

 

these women were anything but hurt, sir ????

[Pravda]

I don't really want to cheat on my wife. She is a kind woman and she helped me a lot during this pandemic. My previous Thai wife was nice too. I would honestly feel like a scumbag cheating on them. 

 

When I was free and had several "relationships" that I met on tinder with a few who said things during sex such as "f me I'm a bad girl" and "don't be afraid to choke me and slap me if you can't get it hard" then sure.... I'd cheat on them as outside the bedroom they were very unpleasant and vile human beings. 

 

[1FinickyOne]

13 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

But she simply cannot love you in the same way as we love in the West.

 

Up to you, but not really what I'm after.  Personally I would hope to find something a little bit more "exclusive" from both sides.

That is pretty generalized... how exactly do we love in the west? more of a touch of unrealistic, non-long lasting romance in the beginning? The old Joni Mitchell style - moons and Junes and fairytales - the dizzy dancing way you feel - for most of us, that doesn't last... I think divorce rates are about 50% in both cultures.... 

 

But take comfort - if that is really what you are looking for, exclusivity, it is out there... I have met Thai/farang couples here who do really seem to be soul mates... lovely to see, but I think rare in either culture. I love it when I see such unions.. good luck to you and I hope you find that.. 

[WineOh]

10 hours ago, Seeall said:

point being?

I have no social morals ????

[WineOh]

7 minutes ago, Pravda said:

don't be afraid to choke me and slap me if you can't get it hard

Whats her number mate?