Do you think your changing as a person as you get older ?

[thaibeachlovers]

12 hours ago, jvs said:

So you have changed!

Not at all. Humans are capable of learning eg it's not a good idea to put one's hand in the fire, but my beliefs re the world are pretty much the same as long as I can remember.

I might do things differently because of experience, but that's nothing to do with my character.

I stopped looking to western women for a partner because of PC, but that didn't mean I gave up on women altogether or became another gender.

IMO opinion "changing" means something fundamental to my personality, but that hasn't happened.

[owl sees all]

12 hours ago, chickenslegs said:

You need to stop wearing Mrs Owl's high heels around the house.

An attempt at humour there CL.

 

I do not wear Mrs Owl's high heels shoes in the house.

 

 

Edited March 2, 2021 by owl sees all

[NoshowJones]

On 3/1/2021 at 8:09 PM, georgegeorgia said:

You are probably right ..and I say that with sincerely..

I don't know what it is ...I seem more happy with my own company nowadays

I don't think I would like to be alone all the time although I prefer my own company when traveling. I have been with my wife for about 15 years now and she works a lot of the time so we do not go out together a lot the way we used to.

[jvs]

6 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Not at all. Humans are capable of learning eg it's not a good idea to put one's hand in the fire, but my beliefs re the world are pretty much the same as long as I can remember.

I might do things differently because of experience, but that's nothing to do with my character.

I stopped looking to western women for a partner because of PC, but that didn't mean I gave up on women altogether or became another gender.

IMO opinion "changing" means something fundamental to my personality, but that hasn't happened.

Ok fair enough,i believe people do change but you call it something experience.

Maybe some one true character shows when they get older?

I think we see things the same here but we arrive at the answer coming from different angles.

You do not need to chane in a big way but maybe you did just a little?

[thasoss]

coming of age......liking yourself for who you are,being at ease with the good and the bad inside you.Listening before talking,and here in thailand accepting the culture,understanding your G/F and where she is coming from,not where you would like her to come from.Growing old has it's problems,mostly physical,but mentally still in tune with that 25 yo. of so long ago....aging can be a god send,even thinking you are in a way becoming wiser too.

[ICELANDMAN]

I am more handsome now, when I see myself on the mirror with no glasses

[elliss]

23 hours ago, ThailandRyan said:

So what your saying is that there is a new me every seven years.  Wo doppelganger heaven.

  

    Fyi .

      Known as the Angle of Dangle .

     Which Naturally , decreases with Age ..

    However that said , there are those among us ...555

[elliss]

8 hours ago, ICELANDMAN said:

I am more handsome now, when I see myself on the mirror with no glasses

 

 I dont look in the mirror anymore .

  Cheap Chinese <deleted> ..

[jack71]

On 3/1/2021 at 9:29 PM, georgegeorgia said:

I no longer tell work colleagues particularly women that I go to Thailand for holidays because they want to get the wrong idea not that I care anymore ...

but clearly you do care and are worried about your reputation as you live in the nanny state. I pity you

[jack71]

I have become angrier and less patient. I think it comes down to 2 things:

1. I started having a kid too late in life

2. I cant speak thai

[elliss]

30 minutes ago, jack71 said:

I have become angrier and less patient. I think it comes down to 2 things:

1. I started having a kid too late in life

2. I cant speak thai

 

 Can your kid , speak thai .

    Just asking ..

[connda]

1 hour ago, elliss said:

  

    Fyi .

      Known as the Angle of Dangle .

     Which Naturally , decreases with Age ..

    However that said , there are those among us ...555

Speak for yourself. 

[Dazinoz]

2 hours ago, jack71 said:

I have become angrier and less patient. I think it comes down to 2 things:

1. I started having a kid too late in life

2. I cant speak thai

Much the same for me. Had kid at 61, he died but was revived at 6 weeks and suffered brain damage. As a result mum didn't want him. I could not afford his medical expenses so now he is in Australia in adoption with a lovely foster mum. Plus the way his mum screwed me literally and figuratively has made me an angry man. I honestly don't think I will recover.

[thaibeachlovers]

19 hours ago, jvs said:

Ok fair enough,i believe people do change but you call it something experience.

Maybe some one true character shows when they get older?

I think we see things the same here but we arrive at the answer coming from different angles.

You do not need to chane in a big way but maybe you did just a little?

I certainly changed physically, but I've always thought the way I do now as long as I can remember, which I assume is what you are meaning. Experience and research have made me do things differently, but the basics are the same.

 

I believe that a person's character is formed by the age of three. After that it's just modification of response, IMO.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 3/2/2021 at 3:29 AM, georgegeorgia said:

Second thing is I no longer tell work colleagues particularly women that I go to Thailand for holidays because they want to get the wrong idea not that I care anymore ...

I worked with mainly women and they all knew I was going to Thailand on holidays every year. I never had a problem, but then I never told them what I did there, and they never asked.

[473geo]

8 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I certainly changed physically, but I've always thought the way I do now as long as I can remember, which I assume is what you are meaning. Experience and research have made me do things differently, but the basics are the same.

 

I believe that a person's character is formed by the age of three. After that it's just modification of response, IMO.

I guess it depends if a change in attitude is seen as a change in the person

[Berkshire]

[BritManToo]

17 hours ago, Dazinoz said:

Plus the way his mum screwed me literally and figuratively has made me an angry man. I honestly don't think I will recover.

Most of us have been there and had that done to us.

Plenty of booze, drugs and hookers helped me move on.

[Dazinoz]

19 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Most of us have been there and had that done to us.

Plenty of booze, drugs and hookers helped me move on.

Drink booze. Never have and never will try drugs (maybe I should). And it was an ex hooker that had my kid. 

[sidjameson]

35 minutes ago, Dazinoz said:

Drink booze. Never have and never will try drugs (maybe I should). And it was an ex hooker that had my kid. 

Is there ever such a thing as an ex hooker?

 

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, Dazinoz said:

Drink booze. Never have and never will try drugs (maybe I should). And it was an ex hooker that had my kid. 

I've never found their previous occupation made any difference to their lack of morals, honour, loyalty or gratitude.

But at least the (ex?) hookers didn't refuse me sex.

On the other hand the liberal application of alcohol and cannabis helps me forget my anger and disappointment.

Maybe you should give it a go ...........

Edited March 4, 2021 by BritManToo

[sidjameson]

51 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I've never found their previous occupation made any difference to their lack of morals, honour, loyalty or gratitude.

But at least the (ex?) hookers didn't refuse me sex.

On the other hand the liberal application of alcohol and cannabis helps me forget my anger and disappointment.

Maybe you should give it a go ...........

Have you ever thought that finding a woman who is as lovely and virtuous as your daughter (absolutely no sarcasm intended) might be a better way to go?

[BritManToo]

25 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

Have you ever thought that finding a woman who is as lovely and virtuous as your daughter (absolutely no sarcasm intended) might be a better way to go?

Good idea, but if I were her age, I doubt she'd want me.

And in the end, I suspect she'll become as bad as all the rest.

 

Edited March 4, 2021 by BritManToo

[Fairynuff]

On 3/1/2021 at 9:28 PM, Natai Beach said:

As I said, it hurt like buggery. 

If it hurt like buggery..... it probably was buggery ????????

[thaibeachlovers]

23 hours ago, 473geo said:

I guess it depends if a change in attitude is seen as a change in the person

If I had started off as a liberal and became conservative, that would be a change. I didn't, ergo I haven't changed. I started as a conservative socialist ( small s ) and am still a conservative socialist ie, public facilities should be owned by the state for the benefit of the people, but no one gets a free ride while other people pay.

[thaibeachlovers]

17 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Good idea, but if I were her age, I doubt she'd want me.

And in the end, I suspect she'll become as bad as all the rest.

 

My partner once said that she wished she'd met me when we were younger, to which I replied if she had she would not have been interested in me and visa versa. When I left her some years later I wished she'd never met me at any age, and that is something she had in common with my wife.

[thaibeachlovers]

18 hours ago, sidjameson said:

Have you ever thought that finding a woman who is as lovely and virtuous as your daughter (absolutely no sarcasm intended) might be a better way to go?

I'd never want a lovely and virtuous woman as a partner, as every other man she met would be hitting on her and she'd be no fun in bed.

[thaibeachlovers]

21 hours ago, Berkshire said:

I have spent many years trying to reach the stage at the extreme right side of the graph, but so far not successfully. I must have been brought up wrong, or at least differently to the way most people I know were. Some of them never got above the horizontal line at all.

[spidermike007]

Your lack of judgment of others, and tolerance are signs you have developed and improved. Good on you for that. 

 

I think most people do not improve, as they get older, unless they are making some conscious effort to do so. Many become lesser versions of themselves. Improvement is not a natural part of life. It is something we have to work at, and earn. It is a reward. 

[thaibeachlovers]

21 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Your lack of judgment of others, and tolerance are signs you have developed and improved. Good on you for that. 

 

I think most people do not improve, as they get older, unless they are making some conscious effort to do so. Many become lesser versions of themselves. Improvement is not a natural part of life. It is something we have to work at, and earn. It is a reward. 

I am still as judgemental and intolerant as I was at 20, but I learned that it doesn't pay to verbalise such sentiments to the wrong people. Does that mean I changed, or that I just learned?