Popular Post Frankie072 Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 An old flame from bkk in 2018 connected with me on facebook a few weeks ago and started sounding me out again. She has a good job as a medical receptionist in bkk and was a lot of fun. Thought about hooking up with her again when I eventually get back. she has been flirting lots and seems very keen. bit worried though because I saw her Instagram account and now she seems to be living a flash lifestyle with holidays in Thai beach resorts, couple of big tattoos, and pics of her smoking expensive cigars. Her Instagram account has a lot of posts about her being lonely and no pics of any guys She sent me one pic with a big gold ring on her left hand on the western wedding ring finger. noticed the same pic on Instagram is cropped without her hands. Does this mean she is married? Silly question maybe but what is your take on the ring? 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post thaibeachlovers Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 (edited) I very much doubt Thais en mass follow the western custom of the husband banding his new property. ( in days past western women were the property of men- father, then husband ), and certain customs persist despite the reality changing eg the father of the bride "gives away" his daughter, as in transferring the property to her new husband. IMO, it may or may not mean anything. Only she can answer your question. If I had to guess, I'd say that she is in a relationship with a rich man, and she may or may not be married, but he's not around at the moment. Edited May 31, 2021 by thaibeachlovers 3 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post OneMoreFarang Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 She is obviously special and she loves you. Marry her! 2 1 21 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie072 Posted May 31, 2021 Author Share Posted May 31, 2021 54 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said: I very much doubt Thais en mass follow the western custom of the husband banding his new property. ( in days past western women were the property of men- father, then husband ), and certain customs persist despite the reality changing eg the father of the bride "gives away" his daughter, as in transferring the property to her new husband. IMO, it may or may not mean anything. Only she can answer your question. If I had to guess, I'd say that she is in a relationship with a rich man, and she may or may not be married, but he's not around at the moment. thanks for your reply that was my suspicion, was looking for another opinion. funny thing is she has also hinted about a partner visa for aussie land can not really ask her directly because unlikely to get a straight answer from a thai girl 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 13 minutes ago, Frankie072 said: thanks for your reply that was my suspicion, was looking for another opinion. funny thing is she has also hinted about a partner visa for aussie land can not really ask her directly because unlikely to get a straight answer from a thai girl Many years ago I had a permanent Thai BG GF that I saw whenever I went to LOS on holiday for many years. Between my visits she obviously went with other guys ( I wasn't paying her to stay out of the bar, like some do ). Eventually she left the bar and went home to go to uni, but I continued seeing her on holiday. The last time I met her she was obviously involved with some rich guy, but still going to go with me to the beach. However, when she refused to go to the beach I had chosen she had to admit she would have been seen by friends of her husband! Needless to say, the liason ended then, and I never saw her again. can not really ask her directly because unlikely to get a straight answer from a thai girl Why not ask her? If she is obviously making a story up or refuses to answer that is your answer. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kwasaki Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 37 minutes ago, Frankie072 said: thanks for your reply that was my suspicion, was looking for another opinion. funny thing is she has also hinted about a partner visa for Aussie land can not really ask her directly because unlikely to get a straight answer from a Thai girl Thai wives do wear wedding rings as your say left hand of 3rd finger, whether she is married or not you will have to just holiday here and find out for yourself. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie072 Posted May 31, 2021 Author Share Posted May 31, 2021 40 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said: Many years ago I had a permanent Thai BG GF that I saw whenever I went to LOS on holiday for many years. Between my visits she obviously went with other guys ( I wasn't paying her to stay out of the bar, like some do ). Eventually she left the bar and went home to go to uni, but I continued seeing her on holiday. The last time I met her she was obviously involved with some rich guy, but still going to go with me to the beach. However, when she refused to go to the beach I had chosen she had to admit she would have been seen by friends of her husband! Needless to say, the liason ended then, and I never saw her again. can not really ask her directly because unlikely to get a straight answer from a thai girl Why not ask her? If she is obviously making a story up or refuses to answer that is your answer. thanks for your insights. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie072 Posted May 31, 2021 Author Share Posted May 31, 2021 she has never really asked for cash but is now asking about an aussie partner visa I need to work out whether it is worth investing the time in a relationship with her or to move on. on one hand she is asking about a relationship and partner visa on the other hand she seems to have a lifestyle which exceeds her income also confusing is that she has a respectable job in bkk and went to uni if it was clear cut I would not ask, but think it is good to ask for other opinions 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 1 hour ago, Frankie072 said: she has never really asked for cash but is now asking about an aussie partner visa I need to work out whether it is worth investing the time in a relationship with her or to move on. on one hand she is asking about a relationship and partner visa on the other hand she seems to have a lifestyle which exceeds her income also confusing is that she has a respectable job in bkk and went to uni if it was clear cut I would not ask, but think it is good to ask for other opinions Speaking from hard experience, soon as they start asking for large amounts of money ( directly, or some reason such as international holidays ) it's time to say NO. If they don't accept NO, then it's time to move on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post thaibeachlovers Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 1 hour ago, Frankie072 said: she has never really asked for cash but is now asking about an aussie partner visa Sounds like the long con to me. Loads of guys have paid large to take the GF back to home country, only to get dumped soon as they get permanent residency. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post richard_smith237 Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 Could be a ‘mirrored photo’.... (check for any writing in the picture). She sounds like an ‘occupational farang hunter’..... Tattoo’s, smoking cigars, flash holidays etc... she’s been hanging around with Westerners a lot quite possibly P4P and supplementing her receptionist career. You have doubts already, so you already know the correct answer. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonwilly Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 Back in the day when I was married my wife wore a ring on her left hand in the western manner, quite common for the younger generation as was the White Wedding Dress the wife hired for our village wedding. Poor john 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wombat Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 my take on the ring is that this is LOS and you think to much. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sipi Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 I'd be more worried about smoking cigars than the wedding ring. 5 1 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post holy cow cm Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said: Many years ago I had a permanent Thai BG GF that I saw whenever I went to LOS on holiday for many years. Between my visits she obviously went with other guys ( I wasn't paying her to stay out of the bar, like some do ). Eventually she left the bar and went home to go to uni, but I continued seeing her on holiday. The last time I met her she was obviously involved with some rich guy, but still going to go with me to the beach. However, when she refused to go to the beach I had chosen she had to admit she would have been seen by friends of her husband! Needless to say, the liason ended then, and I never saw her again. can not really ask her directly because unlikely to get a straight answer from a thai girl Why not ask her? If she is obviously making a story up or refuses to answer that is your answer. If back in the day if I got on along with her enough as in fun, I probably would have just changed beach locations. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JimHuaHin Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 In my experience over the decades in different regions with different social groups is that a ring, or no ring, on the marriage/engagement finger means SFA. I have met married women who do not wear a ring, and those who have never been married wearing a ring. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post holy cow cm Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Frankie072 said: she has never really asked for cash but is now asking about an aussie partner visa I need to work out whether it is worth investing the time in a relationship with her or to move on. on one hand she is asking about a relationship and partner visa on the other hand she seems to have a lifestyle which exceeds her income also confusing is that she has a respectable job in bkk and went to uni if it was clear cut I would not ask, but think it is good to ask for other opinions Just when was her traveling to beach resorts or beach hotel areas done? In reality there were a lot of Thai traveling around the country going on holidays because the hotels and resorts and even airfares where cut by a tremendous amount, and then add in there was also the Thai government program that had a pay 50% we pay 50% in which the Thai people took big advantage of. So it was very easy for them to travel and look like living high on the hog when they actually only have a mediocre income. Expensive cigars? How could you tell? If you want to know the real deal then just ask her and see what reply she gives. But don't accuse as this will more than likely sour things tremendously. BTY., Why don't you see if you can find her on Thai date sites like Thai Cupid etc. Edited May 31, 2021 by holy cow cm 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said: The last time I met her she was obviously involved with some rich guy, but still going to go with me to the beach. However, when she refused to go to the beach I had chosen Our lives pass in the blink of an eye.... and in that blink, happiness and joy can be fleeting 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AgMech Cowboy Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 3 hours ago, Frankie072 said: was looking for another opinion. OneMoreFarang gave you your second opinion. No more needed. Have fun!!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said: The last time I met her she was obviously involved with some rich guy, but still going to go with me to the beach. However, when she refused to go to the beach I had chosen she had to admit she would have been seen by friends of her husband! Needless to say, the liason ended then, and I never saw her again. You could have just chosen another beach. It's not as it Thailand has a shortage! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timendres Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said: Sounds like the long con to me. Loads of guys have paid large to take the GF back to home country, only to get dumped soon as they get permanent residency. Or locate the trophy cash cow. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said: Sounds like the long con to me. Loads of guys have paid large to take the GF back to home country, only to get dumped soon as they get permanent residency. And asset stripped. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Hayduke Posted May 31, 2021 Popular Post Share Posted May 31, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, Frankie072 said: She sent me one pic with a big gold ring on her left hand on the western wedding ring finger. noticed the same pic on Instagram is cropped without her hands. Send her a photo of yourself wearing a ‘Western-style’ wedding ring. Then send her another without the ring. If she asks, say your buffalo died so you had to pawn it to pay for the funeral....ask her why she pawned hers. Edited May 31, 2021 by Hayduke 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimbo53 Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 Maybe she already has a Bf in Oz that cant get her a visa due to unlawful activities,and your just the man that can facilitate that! The ring....that will be for the benefit of the Aussie Bf on Instagram. I smoke cigars,their not cheap in Thailand,it sounds as tho she is very high maintenance anyway..Time to give her the bums rush. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speedhump Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 1 hour ago, 1FinickyOne said: Our lives pass in the blink of an eye.... and in that blink, happiness and joy can be fleeting Let us play the game of life as sportsmen, pocketing our winnings with a smile, leaving our losings with a shrug. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RafPinto Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 I have a pair of used ones. Will make you a fair price. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caneda Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 1 hour ago, sipi said: I'd be more worried about smoking cigars than the wedding ring. Or about smoking at all! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RafPinto Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 4 hours ago, Kwasaki said: Thai wives do wear wedding rings as your say left hand of 3rd finger, whether she is married or not you will have to just holiday here and find out for yourself. 3rd finger? That's the stinky one. Unless she has 6 fingers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RafPinto Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 Can you put a picture online. Maybe someone recognises the ring or her or both. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobMuir Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 I have had casual relations with over a dozen married women in Thailand, including 4 in one housing estate who all knew about the others. Many think if they can get away with they will do it. I reckon she is probably married to a fat, old rich farang who she isn't attracted to and who can't please her sexually. Has his cash already and now looking for someone she is at least partially attracted to. Happens all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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