If you want to get along with your GF, by extrapolation, then do not be so direct in your verbal intercourse. 

 

Try to couch your criticisms of her by storytelling. 

 

Speak in parables. 

 

This is my short and sweet advice to you. 

1 hour ago, GammaGlobulin said:

No, not lying.

 

Call it grease.

 

Social grease, something which many primates engage in exuding.

....call it grease?

you mean when I negotiate with chick her price?

I am not saying that we should not be sincere. 

 

Without sincerity and true love, no relationship can survive. 

 

Still, always seek out the hidden beauty in your GF, and let your GF know how much her hidden beauty truly means to you. 

 

Same goes for Thailand. 

 

There is so much hidden beauty, here. 

 

Think of your best story, and, through doing this, you will become even happier. 

 

The purpose of storytelling is temporary diversion from reality. 

 

Everybody does it. 

 

I am just saying that the importance of avoidance of direct confrontation, here, is not to be underestimated. 

I felt a lot of GrengJai trading the OP 'story.

 

Has he been in the newly legalised Krathon tree leaves? 

 

 

Many people here may not know this about me:

 

In fact, I have been passionately IN LOVE with a woman, in Thailand, but only from afar.

 

I do not mean to say that she is very "far", from me, in terms of miles or kilometers, like the Moon from the stars.

She is just around the corner from me, in Earthly terms.

 

Her close proximity to me makes my life all the more intolerable.

 

Of course, I ask for no sweet advice on this forum.

I only ask for some sympathy.

 

Truly, I am smitten with her. Just a whiff of her imagined perfume makes my heart palpitate.

 

Do you even think that I am joking?

 

I will never declare my love to her, simply because my great longing for her sweetens my life, and provides me something to look forward to.

 

I sometimes dream about her, and often tell myself stories about her.

 

She is so beautiful to me; I cannot think of any other.

 

If we should wed, I would only tell her stories which would promote her happiness.

 

All cultures are not the same.

 

I love this culture.

 

This culture is pretty special, and glorious.

 

 

 

3 hours ago, RafPinto said:

Oh dear.

Gave up after 2 lines

Please post Executive Summary. 2 lines only. Save the waffle.

My cursor has hovered over the 'ignore option' a few times. I think this time I'll use it.

1 hour ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Uttering the term GrengJai can also mean: "I truly realize that my request for your help has been a great imposition upon you... But, your help is something I really need.  Therefore, now that you have helped me in this way, I really feel indebted to you for your great kindness". 

You know, I'm convinced that you've been sent over from that Tiger forum to sow anger and frustration amongst the members of this forum, leading to mass exits from this forum, so that we don't have to read the tripe that you spout (to yourself mostly, judging by how many times you reply to your own posts) every day....

 

Just give it a rest...

"The secret of a good sermon is to have a good beginning and a good ending, then having the two as close together as possible."

George Burns

 

 

6 minutes ago, Farmerslife said:

"The secret of a good sermon is to have a good beginning and a good ending, then having the two as close together as possible."

George Burns

 

 

Old enough to recall him?

1 hour ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Many people here may not know this about me:

 

In fact, I have been passionately IN LOVE with a woman, in Thailand, but only from afar.

 

I do not mean to say that she is very "far", from me, in terms of miles or kilometers, like the Moon from the stars.

She is just around the corner from me, in Earthly terms.

 

Her close proximity to me makes my life all the more intolerable.

 

Of course, I ask for no sweet advice on this forum.

I only ask for some sympathy.

 

Truly, I am smitten with her. Just a whiff of her imagined perfume makes my heart palpitate.

 

Do you even think that I am joking?

 

I will never declare my love to her, simply because my great longing for her sweetens my life, and provides me something to look forward to.

 

I sometimes dream about her, and often tell myself stories about her.

 

She is so beautiful to me; I cannot think of any other.

 

If we should wed, I would only tell her stories which would promote her happiness.

 

All cultures are not the same.

 

I love this culture.

 

This culture is pretty special, and glorious.

 

 

 

 

27 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Old enough to recall him?

I think so, but at my age the memory plays tricks. ????

26 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Old enough to recall him?

Anyone over 40 would know him

Tell us the story about when you said "mai dong graeng jai" to a Thai person.

8 minutes ago, timendres said:

Tell us the story about when you said "mai dong graeng jai" to a Thai person.

Whats that mean?  No have strength to do something?

1 minute ago, Sparktrader said:

Whats that mean?  No have strength to do something?

ไม่ตองเกรงใจ You do not need to be considerate. Or, do not worry about offending me.

30 minutes ago, timendres said:

Tell us the story about when you said "mai dong graeng jai" to a Thai person.

This is not the typical usage:

 

Most people just say: GrengJai

 

This is sort of like saying....  BaoQian, or DuiBuqi, .... meaning, "sorry"

 

Of course, love means never needing to say sorry.

 

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GrengJai is a very easily understood concept.

 

I am not sure why there is no good translation in most dictionaries.

listen,i respect greng jai.

when thai deal with thai they follow their culture.

when thai deal with farang they have to respect our way too, cause they want desperately get the best out of the global world...

give you a sample: when i deal with google i make them respect my rights and they make me accept their terms and conditions. fair enough.

so, my frank and straight request will be answered by a thai story. fair?

I would put Gamma on IGNORE but I need a laugh to get my blood flow going in a morning.

 

I Googled Gamma Globulin to discover it is an antibody. Quoting www.uptodate.com 'One of the most common side effects is HEADACHE.....having NAUSEA and VOMITING.   LOL

9 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

I would put Gamma on IGNORE but I need a laugh to get my blood flow going in a morning.

 

I Googled Gamma Globulin to discover it is an antibody. Quoting www.uptodate.com 'One of the most common side effects is HEADACHE.....having NAUSEA and VOMITING.   LOL

Forgive me. 

This is all that I can say. 

 

If I had told you the right words, you'd be mine. 

Learn the Thai language

 

Always be friendly and cheerful

 

No need to disagree about trivial matters

 

Join in their fun

 

Laugh with them

 

Show the Thai people you are willing to share their culture

 

Keep the stories short and sweet

 

etc, etc,

2 minutes ago, ChrisKC said:

Learn the Thai language

 

Always be friendly and cheerful

 

No need to disagree about trivial matters

 

Join in their fun

 

Laugh with them

 

Show the Thai people you are willing to share their culture

 

Keep the stories short

 

etc, etc,

This is true. 

 

And, sometimes,... 

 

Play Led Zeppelin, Walking Through the Park... Very LOUD. 

 

There is a time and place for everything. 

4 minutes ago, Sticky Rice Balls said:

Amazing Thailand!

Walking through the park.....

 

15 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

I could go on, and on, and on

And you do.. and repeat this phrase as well... [since you understand good writing you might self-edit some of your own work and stop the repetition and cut it all down a good bit]  

 

more simply put: Graing Jai = to impose

 

And: 

 

the response, for example if a workman asks you to buy a beer - Proong Nee or tomorrow. It is accepted as "No" but it is a soft "no" as it allows the possibility of tomorrow..

 

Just understanding that there are going to be cultural differences is a good first step.... plenty of pain and anger here caused because the farang weigh things by their own customs and don't know or understand that things can and are done differently here... 

 

 

She refused to be bored chiefly because she wasn't boring.

 

Just now, GammaGlobulin said:

 

 

She refused to be bored chiefly because she wasn't boring.

 

Such a stunning beauty.

2 hours ago, jensmann said:

so, my frank and straight request will be answered by a thai story. fair?

only in the Gamma World... 

 

2 hours ago, jensmann said:

when thai deal with farang they have to respect our way too

They don't always [rarely] know your ways... they live here and know the ways of here... how can they possibly know the ways of every different country... it is more our duty as visitors to learn their ways

10 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Of course, love means never needing to say sorry.

 

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GrengJai is a very easily understood concept.

 

I am not sure why there is no good translation in most dictionaries.

that is the movie version of life.. the real quote should be 'love means always having to say your sorry..

 

As I said above - the simple definition of graing jai is - - - to impose. no telling of stories needed.

Whats the point of the topic?