Avoid trap of losing money to women

[Sparktrader]

Every guy I know who lived in Thailand lost money. $100,000+ Married Thais and money went into family or taken by women or just wasted on randoms.

 

Now not rich folk either average people.

 

Whats the best way to avoid this?

 

Is there a way of living that results in fun without the downside? That is whilst still dating women etc.

 

People say rent dont buy but that costs. 

 

 

[CharlieH]

Yeah, dont leave your common sense in the departure lounge and let the head on your shoulders dictate your actions not the  head in your pants !

[Sparktrader]

Its still hard for most guys. The little head takes over. If only it was so easy. One bloke said he wished his willy was cut off at age 20 then he would be rich.

[KhunLA]

1st, don't leave your brain at immigration when arriving at BKK.

 

Don't do what you wouldn't do in your home country.

.... support your GF / wife's family

 

Stay single, as you would in your home country, if smart

 

Live within your means.  Set a budget, stick to it, as you should

anytime, anywhere.

 

If buying (condo) how do you lose money, though you'd be stuck for at 

least 10 yrs in same place, so chose wisely. Or rent, play it safe.

 

Prioritize ... do you really need a car, or even a motorbike.  I don't, and if

money was an issue I wouldn't, or I'd have the Celerio I go on about ????

 

All simple, but fall under that uncommon common sense for some expats.

 

 

[Onerak]

1 minute ago, Sparktrader said:

Its still hard for most guys. The little head takes over. If only it was so easy. One bloke said he wished his willy was cut off at age 20 then he would be rich

In ancient times, kings and emperors have waged wars for women. This is as ancient as one's DNA. Just swallow your pride and give what you could and never think of money for a moment once parted.  

[LaosLover]

If I had a relationship with a poor person in Alabama, I'd likely run into a lot of the same poverty-based relationship problems and expectations as I read here. If it were a black person, there would be cultural differences.

 

But Alabama is like wealthy Switzerland and a black Alabama sharecropper is practically my sister compared to the disparities in Thailand.

 

When I lived in England as an American, I underestimated the differences between them and me because I felt that I "knew" the place because of the shared language, which you don't even have in Thailand. But England is like Mars to Americans and Thailand is like Pluto. So always remember you're visiting Pluto and that you're not a Plutonian.

[Sparktrader]

I get very horny. I pre paid money to this woman i met once. Have seen her since but still silly on my part. Her hot body and smile fooled my brain. Hottest backside Ive seen in ages.

 

Im scared of doing this again. Head upstairs frozen.

 

If I dont wake up i end up like the others.

 

[86Tiger]

 

 

 

.......Whats the best way to avoid this?........

 

 

Never go to Thailand.

[LaosLover]

Dating women with fantastic backsides is always more complicated. They have access to a mirror and have peered over their shoulders. They know what's what, backside-wise.

 

If they live in a poor place where plucking you like a goose is a very accepted norm, and are broadly racist against you, that crack in the back just got even more complicated.

[scubascuba3]

Some guys are needy and get girlfriends or wives quickly. I'd say stay single, be a sigma male perhaps

[Sparktrader]

2 minutes ago, 86Tiger said:

 

 

 

.......Whats the best way to avoid this?........

 

 

Never go to Thailand.

I love asian women. No interest in others.

[Sparktrader]

Which hobbies lower sex drive? 

[Sparktrader]

Are Cambodian women any better?

[LaosLover]

What percentage of men in the world are happy at all with their relationship/sex deal? Would you even say one in twenty? Past 50? One in a hundred? Even Brad Pitt got stuck in hell.

 

If my wife ever dies, I'll be googling to see what being a Sigma male means, and then actively striving to become one (I think).

 

In Thailand, men finally get more sex, but the relationships are more iffy. Still, you see more happy faces in Pattaya than most places.

[scubascuba3]

7 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Which hobbies lower sex drive? 

knock one out before going out

[Sparktrader]

1 minute ago, LaosLover said:

What percentage of men in the world are happy at all with their relationship/sex deal? Would you even say one in twenty? Past 50? One in a hundred? Even Brad Pitt got stuck in hell.

 

If my wife ever dies, I'll be googling to see what being a Sigma male means, and then actively striving to become one (I think).

 

In Thailand, men finally get more sex, but the relationships are more iffy. Still, you see more happy faces in Pattaya than most places.

Sigma is independent confident guy like James Bond.

 

 

[Nojohndoe]

1 minute ago, Sparktrader said:

Sigma is independent confident guy like James Bond.

 

 

Aha!  Voyeur?

[scubascuba3]

If you find a woman who takes care of you like this, she's a keeper 

[Sparktrader]

Maybe i find an ugly woman who doesnt care about money. Might be best. Just likes cooking and massages. No kids either.

 

These hot women all gold diggers but those hot backsides put a spell on me.

[LaosLover]

These days I look more like James Beard than James Bond. James Beard can be as confident as he wants, that groin aint dampening.

 

Really: Brad Pitt = miserable. If anything, being Brad Pitt worked against him. George Clooney's life? No thanks. Harvey Weinstein?  The king of classy Hollywood, reduced to begging women who repulsed them to pleeeese take a shower with him. 

 

Just not that many tales laying around of guys at any level being sexually satisfied and love-happy. That's why I really value my wife. After her, there is nothing -or not much on a good day.

 

What do you want? A lot of girlfriend-type relationships in a short period of time without laying out much cash?

 

Who has gotten that, how did they get it, and can you be that guy?

[SheikYabodyline]

Any man who loses money to women and to scams in Thailand would almost certainly lose it elsewhere; the problem is not Thailand, its women or its scams, the problem is you.

[BritManToo]

15 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

What percentage of men in the world are happy at all with their relationship/sex deal? Would you even say one in twenty? Past 50? One in a hundred? Even Brad Pitt got stuck in hell.

 ....... and Johnny Depp ....... not to mention Will Smith.

[Myran]

Sounds like you should get smarter acquaintances. None of my friends, or myself, have lost any money here.

 

It's not rocket science: don't be a complete idiot.

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, LaosLover said:

Just not that many tales laying around of guys at any level being sexually satisfied and love-happy. That's why I really value my wife. After her, there is nothing -or not much on a good day.

That's why I really value SEA.

When one woman leaves, a younger and prettier one moves in.

[richard_smith237]

I guess it all depends where you are, who you hang around with, where and how you met your significant other.

 

 

The vast majority of Western guys I know in Thailand are in perfectly normal relationships with Thai women, not really much different from the west... Mutual respect, similar socio-economic status... just regular decent couples....   I don’t know why some guys struggle and end up in disastrous situations. 

 

 

[cyril sneer]

just go the jimmy savile route, don't think he was ever in a meaningful relationship

[Sparktrader]

5 minutes ago, SheikYabodyline said:

Any man who loses money to women and to scams in Thailand would almost certainly lose it elsewhere; the problem is not Thailand, its women or its scams, the problem is you.

Most marriages result in money lost in any country. Are you saying unless you stayed married for 60 years you have a problem?

[LaosLover]

6 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

I guess it all depends where you are, who you hang around with, where and how you met your significant other.

 

 

The vast majority of Western guys I know in Thailand are in perfectly normal relationships with Thai women, not really much different from the west... Mutual respect, similar socio-economic status... just regular decent couples....   I don’t know why some guys struggle and end up in disastrous situations. 

 

 

So you'd have to stay in one place for a while, acculturate a bit, and then draw from the very small pool of woman of similar socioeconomic status to you.

 

And then still hope you don't end up like Will Smith. I mean, he was alpha enough to playMuhammed Ali in a movie and ended up a total cuck.

 

Def agree that you should shop around and not jump on the first bus that sails on by. So to get the quality women, you have to not be trying to get them -which is hard when you are gagging to get them.

Edited April 13, 2022 by LaosLover

[AverageBloke]

 In almost every scenario its going to cost you to be with a woman. The trick is to find a woman who genuinely appreciates what you do for her, I don't mean she should be falling at your feet for making her life easier.  I mean she should have your back because she knows you have hers. 

[Sparktrader]

8 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

So you'd have to stay in one place for a while, acculturate a bit, and then draw from the very small pool of woman of similar socioeconomic status to you.

 

And then still hope you don't end up like Will Smith. I mean, he was alpha enough to playMuhammed Ali in a movie and ended up a total cuck.

 

Def agree that you should shop around and not jump on the first bus that sails on by. So to get the quality women, you have to not be trying to get them -which is hard when you are gagging to get them.

Any hot backside gets me in.