Did you stop masterbating after marriage?

[OptimisticAndy]

Seems like there is no need anymore, and it's also not exactly convenient!

 

I'm wondering whether it's normal for men to stop masterbating after they have got married and had kids? And is it healthy? 

[roo860]

Why not start a questionnaire?

[OptimisticAndy]

Just now, roo860 said:

Why not start a questionnaire?

Well this is kind of a questionnaire. It's a couple of questions after all.

 

No worries I expected a few giggles, and why not? But hopefully there are some genuine responses too because I'm interested to hear them.

[Celsius]

I imagine my wife n different scenarios and sometimes we masterbathe ensemble

[Neeranam]

 Masturbating can be better than sex with someone else! 

[problemfarang]

i think all of the questions' answer is in some questions: are you happy making love with your wife? She and you can full fill each other's fantasies? are you ready to have a wife? are you a sex addict? Instead of masturbating.. can your wife do the handjob? your marriage based on sex or love or both? 

[proton]

No, it's the only sex I get after 18 years of marriage, but only once a fortnight!

[Puccini]

4 hours ago, OptimisticAndy said:

I'm wondering whether it's normal for men to stop masterbating after they have got married and had kids? And is it healthy? 

There is no scientific information to indicate that the cessation of masturbation after getting married and having children has any effect on the the health.

[D M G]

Synonyms

• bash one out
• bate
• beat it
• beat off
• crank one out
• fap
• frig
• jack off (US)
• jerk it
• <deleted> (US)
• knock one out
• play pocket pool (UK)
• play with oneself
• pleasure oneself
• masturbate
• mastuprate
• rub one out
• self-abuse
• self-pollute
• service oneself
• skeet (Canada)
• toss (primarily British)
• toss off (UK)
• Delete (primarily British)
• Delete off (Britain)
• whack off

Hyponyms

Female:

• buff the muffin
• diddle
• flick the bean
• jill
• jill off
• itch the ditch
• pet the kitty
• play the clitar
• polish the pearl
• ring the devil's doorbell

Male:

• bash the bishop
• beat one's meat
• beat the bishop
• bop the bishop
• choke the chicken (US)
• flog the dolphin
• flog the log
• pull one's pud

[thaibeachlovers]

I'm pretty sure that masturbation goes back to the pre marriage level after about a year of marriage when she decides not to have sex anymore, or only on special occasions.

[bendejo]

5 hours ago, Puccini said:

There is no scientific information to indicate that the cessation of masturbation after getting married and having children has any effect on the the health.

That's because no one will admit that they do, therefore there are no men to be studied.

 

 

[worgeordie]

I was told by someone , if you lay on your arm until it feels dead ,

then do it , its feels like someone else is doing it for you , myself

I would ,have not ever done such a thing disgusting dirty thing......???? winking eye.

 

regards worgeordie  not a <deleted>

[brianthainess]

Only two types of men in the world, <deleted> and liars.  

[soi3eddie]

4 hours ago, D M G said:

Female:

• buff the muffin
• diddle
• flick the bean
• jill
• jill off
• itch the ditch
• pet the kitty
• play the clitar
• polish the pearl
• ring the devil's doorbell

Best part of this topic. Ring the devil's doorbell. 555

 

 

[scottiejohn]

13 minutes ago, worgeordie said:

,have not ever done such a thing disgusting dirty thing......???? winking

Don't you have a spell checker? I am sure the first "i" in "winking" should be an "a"!

[BobBKK]

When I was young I used to do this BEFORE a date so I didn't get over excited.

Now I'm old I go on a date and do it AFTER because it's getting more difficult to finish and I'm getting more lazy.

[BananaStrong]

TITLE WRONG.

 

You certainly don't mean STOP, you MUST mean START!!!!!

 

lol

[Artisi]

10 hours ago, OptimisticAndy said:

Well this is kind of a questionnaire. It's a couple of questions after all.

 

No worries I expected a few giggles, and why not? But hopefully there are some genuine responses too because I'm interested to hear them.

well you are Optimistic , so good luck - plus is this aimed at male or female masturbates?

[BangkokReady]

It's an interesting question.  Masturbation isn't really the same as sex.  It's more about simply pleasing yourself, of course, with a lot less effort and no pressure to satisfy another person.

 

Perhaps some people can use sex in the same way as they do masturbation, although I'm not sure how satisfying it is for the other person.  I suppose it depends how the other person views sex.  If you had sex with someone simply to satisfy your urge, with no concern for their pleasure, it might not be great for them.

 

"Hey, I'm feeling like I want an orgasm.  Come here!"  Pump, pump, pump, climax, done.  "Thanks babe."  Is that good for her?  Can someone even have sex with someone without thinking about pleasing them?

 

Or maybe someone can ask their partner for a hand job whenever they want?  Just ask for a helping hand each morning while you sip your morning coffee?  Is that reasonable?  No stress or pressure for you and you get your relief, but is it going to make your partner feel a little like a sex worker?

 

Another issue is the use of pornography, or perhaps fantasy, which I believe is about satisfying a guy's need for a bit of variety, which he obviously cannot get in a committed relationship.

 

Would you feel OK about having a quicky with no concern for the satisfaction of your partner while thinking of someone else?  Or would they be willing to give you some relief while you watched pornography?  Kind of like a human fleshlight?

 

Or do married men only ever find their wife attractive and never have sexual thoughts about any other women?

 

I suppose it all has to do with what you are happy with.  What if you got to the point in your relationship where you only have sex a couple of times a week, but you wanted an orgasm every day, or if you got bored but did not want to stray? 

 

What if you're significant other didn't want you to masturbate but still made things less than satisfactory in the bedroom?

 

Seems like more questions than answers on this one.  Perhaps everyone is different.

[thaibeachlovers]

1 minute ago, BangkokReady said:

Perhaps some people can use sex in the same way as they do masturbation, although I'm not sure how satisfying it is for the other person.  I suppose it depends how the other person views sex.  If you had sex with someone simply to satisfy your urge, with no concern for their pleasure, it might not be great for them.

Hence the beauty of prostitution. No need to care about the other person's feelings as it's all about the payer.

[thaibeachlovers]

3 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

What if you're significant other didn't want you to masturbate but still made things less than satisfactory in the bedroom?

You just nailed it with my first ( ex ) partner.

 

I solved it by going for a lot of "saunas". I thought it might have been a bit expensive, but after I left her I was happy that she didn't get all my money.

[Mickeymaus]

The answers confuse me. The OP is clearly talking about "masterbaiting" - whatever that might be - and not masturbating. Yes, his question seems to be a kind of baiting.

[connda]

A joke I learn in my youth.

There are two types of men.  Those who masturbate and those who lie about it.

However - it's not a joke, is it?   Men are wired to be promiscuous and to spread their seed.  Natural hormonal urgency an our sex drive is a yoke we deal with from our pubescent youth.  Probably the kindest act from that bi$ch, Mother Nature, is that the male sex drive wanes as you reach your elderly years and gives you a bit of reprise.  Did I "choke the chicken?"  Yeah, who didn't?  Oh?  The "liars" didn't. 

This is a quote by Robert Heinlein that has stayed with me most of my life:
Masturbation is cheap, clean, convenient, and free of any possibility of wrongdoing —and you don't have to go home in the cold. But it's lonely!
Source: Time Enough for Love (1973)

[connda]

5 hours ago, D M G said:

Synonyms

• bash one out
• bate
• beat it
• beat off
• crank one out
• fap
• frig
• jack off (US)
• jerk it
• <deleted> (US)
• knock one out
• play pocket pool (UK)
• play with oneself
• pleasure oneself
• masturbate
• mastuprate
• rub one out
• self-abuse
• self-pollute
• service oneself
• skeet (Canada)
• toss (primarily British)
• toss off (UK)
• Delete (primarily British)
• Delete off (Britain)
• whack off

Hyponyms

Female:

• buff the muffin
• diddle
• flick the bean
• jill
• jill off
• itch the ditch
• pet the kitty
• play the clitar
• polish the pearl
• ring the devil's doorbell

Male:

• bash the bishop
• beat one's meat
• beat the bishop
• bop the bishop
• choke the chicken (US)
• flog the dolphin
• flog the log
• pull one's pud

Pound the one-eyed trouser-trout.

By the way.  A more apt question would be, "Did you stop masturbating after you came to Thailand?"  Even the homeliest Incel can get laid here.

Then to the OP.  You do understand that women go through menopause in their late 40 and through their 50s, and at the end of that joyless experience, many women's sex drive drops to about zero.  As they say, it takes two to tango.  If you have a post-menopausal Ice-Queen for a wife, another good question would be - "Have you ever purchased consensual sex with a willing sex worker in Thailand?"

[2baht]

You've made it pretty clear that you are a cranker!

[connda]

28 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

It's an interesting question.  Masturbation isn't really the same as sex.  It's more about simply pleasing yourself, of course, with a lot less effort and no pressure to satisfy another person.

 

Perhaps some people can use sex in the same way as they do masturbation, although I'm not sure how satisfying it is for the other person.  I suppose it depends how the other person views sex.  If you had sex with someone simply to satisfy your urge, with no concern for their pleasure, it might not be great for them.

 

"Hey, I'm feeling like I want an orgasm.  Come here!"  Pump, pump, pump, climax, done.  "Thanks babe."  Is that good for her?  Can someone even have sex with someone without thinking about pleasing them?

 

Or maybe someone can ask their partner for a hand job whenever they want?  Just ask for a helping hand each morning while you sip your morning coffee?  Is that reasonable?  No stress or pressure for you and you get your relief, but is it going to make your partner feel a little like a sex worker?

 

Another issue is the use of pornography, or perhaps fantasy, which I believe is about satisfying a guy's need for a bit of variety, which he obviously cannot get in a committed relationship.

 

Would you feel OK about having a quicky with no concern for the satisfaction of your partner while thinking of someone else?  Or would they be willing to give you some relief while you watched pornography?  Kind of like a human fleshlight?

 

Or do married men only ever find their wife attractive and never have sexual thoughts about any other women?

 

I suppose it all has to do with what you are happy with.  What if you got to the point in your relationship where you only have sex a couple of times a week, but you wanted an orgasm every day, or if you got bored but did not want to stray? 

 

What if you're significant other didn't want you to masturbate but still made things less than satisfactory in the bedroom?

 

Seems like more questions than answers on this one.  Perhaps everyone is different.

Well stated! 

[huangnon]

All joking aside, after a certain age, (50 yo is the watershed-no pun intended ????) masturbating regularly is healthy for men's prostate gland health, whether you have a regular partner or not.

Having a history of prostate cancer on both sides of the family, it's something I have to, erm take care of..

[n00dle]

of course not. sometimes you just need to knock one out. 

[n00dle]

2 hours ago, connda said:

"Did you stop masturbating after you came to Thailand?"

there is many the night since i hsave lived here that a quick tug has made me reconsider going out. 

As a budgetary measure its been very effective.

[Elkski]

If you are careful and pick the right woman for a wife there should be no need. IMHO 

 

Edited March 23, 2023 by Elkski