Social life and dating in Thailand

[Hummin]

9 minutes ago, rimmae2 said:

Not sure what the point of your post is.

 

I know many females who work for donors, accountants, lawyers, etc who would be interested in a relationship with a non Thai, non Asian man. These include females that I previously employed. 

 

Probably you are familiar with different types of people to those in the professional CBD in Bangkok.

What Im saying, he might aim to high when no positive response or anyone of those he fancy come back to him for a date, and rather block him? 

 

Why do you think he do not get any response? 

 

Just a reminder, he is a new member with a delicate story. Do any bells ring? 

Edited June 12, 2023 by Hummin

[NextG]

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

Well, I thought I answered his questions, stating, no posh woman wants a man who do not want to treat her as a princess. 

 

Every woman comes with a price, and the more attractive get in line and present what you are willing to offer.

 

Reading his post, no wonder he is not successful. Get it?

This ’price’ thing is really nonsense. 

[KhunLA]

Guess it just goes to show, looks & money isn't the driving force woman are looking for.

 

I'm just OK, reality wise, on looks & money, though I think I'm handsome & rich.  Cars while single in TH, certainly wouldn't impress anyone.

 

My Thai language skills are barely passable, though pointing and saying, 'how much & I want', will get me by, shopping.   

 

Don't, won't do P4P ... but damn, I've had a blast here when single.  Go figure ???? 

 

HINT:  try listening, more than talking 

[JimTripper]

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

What Im saying, he might aim to high when no positive response or anyone of those he fancy come back to him for a date, and rather block him? 

 

Why do you think he do not get any response? 

 

Just a reminder, he is a new member with a delicate story. Do any bells ring? 

Good question. Op what exactly are you saying or writing about when people are not responding or blocking after just meeting online?

 

It could be something you are saying or just the app. The apps are tricky people just bounce in and out, your just fodder in many cases. Could also just be jerk waters with fake profiles, fake pics, some real weirdos out there…

[save the frogs]

another idea just came to mind.

 

consider teaching english online (ie Zoom) a couple of hours a week,

 

it wont pay much, but you may attract some office ladies looking to brush up on their english skills.

and as a teacher, you have a chance to connect with them and get to know them ... 

 

sorry if you think it's a stupid idea. it's hit and miss with me. 

 

[cobra]

5 hours ago, blackcab said:

 

You will struggle to find that in most countries from most nationalities.

 

It's nearly always about looks and money/status.

Agreed, though exceptions can exist this is usually the norm IMHO.

 

Water finds it's level, equal levels of attractiveness, education, status, etc, is the top of the bell curve,

rags and riches, beauty and the beast, rarely succeeds ????

[scubascuba3]

If i could see the profile i could tell you straight away

[1FinickyOne]

What do you think your problem is? 

 

If you have money, you cannot distance yourself from that. It is part of the package, part of what might make you attractive. If you don't want to share, that is not an attractive trait. Pretty much everyone wants money. If you are putting it out there that you want someone who  doesn't want $ then you are turning off 99.9% of the population. Are you turning a positive into a negative? 

[sumongkhwai]

I am a very active person so I am always looking for someone who wants to do something, not get something. Was never really into the bar scene. When I started dating my now wife on our first weekend together I asked her what she wanted to do, go BKK, Koh Samui of Phi Phi Don. She said she wanted to go camping. And to do this day our favorite get aways are the floating hotels on the River Kwai where we can fish from our deck and the hotel staff grills up our dinner, go kayaking and hiking!  And so, 15 years later happily married although she's still struggling with snowboarding LOL!

[BritManToo]

10 hours ago, TheCowboy said:

Is that code for something?

= white

[BritManToo]

9 hours ago, CharlieH said:

Keyboard Casanova has a better ring to it ????

Internet INCEL?

[BritManToo]

8 hours ago, JimTripper said:

There’s not always a “price”. There’s a thing called chemistry, mutual attraction, vibes…

Not when you're 50+ and she's 20+.

[LaosLover]

You're in a very sexually/socially conservative culture where you don't speak the language and you're the wrong color. 

 

Next up: an atheist black man moves to Utah and asks: Why don't hot mormons want to get with me? 

 

It's not you, it's the them. I agree, you need introductions and to see the same people over time. That's never easy to contrive anywhere. That's why people are throwing darts on the internet.

[Lacessit]

IMO the OP is wasting his time looking for the type of woman he describes. They simply won't be interested in being automatically labelled as a prostitute by their fellow Thais, because they are with a farang.

 

Better for him if he sets his sights lower in terms of status and education. There are plenty of women here e.g. golf caddies, nurses who would love a relationship, and make good partners.

[LaosLover]

8 hours ago, rimmae2 said:

Go to the gym even if you don't enjoy it - you may be surprised what you will find.  

I think the me-too ship has sailed on cold-approaching women at the gym, even in Thailand.

 

At mine, they will complain to the staff and then you get a warning (the Jett Gym chain). Usually, they send over 3 staff to gently confront the offender.

 

I have an interest in Thai Buddhism and temple art. Women, being much more religious than the men, find this creates a kind of Man Bites Dog level of interest in their minds.

 

But how one might move from, "Nice Buddha, Ayuthaya-style?" to "Lay down, I want to get to know you better" remains a mystery to me.

Edited June 13, 2023 by LaosLover

[2baht]

12 hours ago, SomeFarang said:

or standing in Asok intersection with a bag of money.

You're on the right path! 

[OneMoreFarang]

12 hours ago, SomeFarang said:

I don't have much opportunity to socialize, although I do frequent coffee shops, restaurants every single day and on weekends try to visit night spots (bars/clubs)

And do you see other regular guests in those places? Do you talk with some of them?

I think it is almost impossible not to see people again and again. Just say hello. And say hello to everybody who you maybe want to talk to, not just the pretty girls.

You don't have to walk away with a dinner date. Just make conversation, and another day more conversation. The rest will follow. 

 

[LaosLover]

The women he wants are also highly sought by Chinese, Korean, and Japanese men -whom they would vastly prefer as partners. When I first came here, I wanted an arty bohemian-type GF.

 

1) they're not really allowed to exist all that much in the patriarchy.

 

2) those that do live within 3 miles of Soi Asok and nowhere else in the country. 

 

3) these are exactly the kind  of women that a well-off Asian wants too and can easily outbid you for. All 6 of them. Such women are swarming in New York and London -with the adjacent attitudes and hip sizes. Pick your pain.

 

15 years ago, I tried the It's Just Lunch dating service. The woman (all over 40) fit his criteria, but they were impatient and judgmental, because they paid The Boyfriend Store, so where's my classy, rich boyfriend in a hurry? Do it for laughs, but it's not cheap.

 

Met a couple of nice oldie, plump Aussie white women finance/NGO types, but wouldn't most men here just rather just stick their finger in an electric outlet?

[stoner]

39 minutes ago, 2baht said:

You're on the right path! 

it would be the path of least resistance. 

[save the frogs]

what you need is a .... low maintenance woman

 

 

[ignore it]

I don't think the OP has a clue about relationships. Less about relationships with Asian ladies

[LaosLover]

2 minutes ago, ignore it said:

I don't think the OP has a clue about relationships. Less about relationships with Asian ladies

Some truth here.

 

The OP:

-has lived here for years

-is affluent and speaks Thai

-hired Thai people to do his internet dating for him

-hired a Thai marketing person to market him as a dating prospect

 

And yet, he has still come up empty, for years on end.

 

Not a diss, but consider talking to a therapist.

 

[mania]

13 hours ago, SomeFarang said:

been living in Thailand for 6 years, speak and read/write Thai, have my own car, etc. You get the picture.

Yes but...I'm 99% sure with you having lived here 6 years but joined this forum 13 hours ago this is just a windup

 

That aside if what you say above is true you would have no problems at all starting a relationship with a intelligent Thai woman.

 

Because if you can speak/read/write Thai you can approach anyone you see that you think might be a nice try. Someone working or shopping you see & strike up a conversation etc etc etc

 

It is not rocket science & has not changed in centuries

[Freddy42OZ]

The Thai women in the middle classes and above have no need to date Western men, they have their pick of well paid, well educated and decent Thai men.  That's not to say there aren't Thai women from the middle classes and higher who would consider dating a Western man, it's just not something they are actively looking to to do.   

Thai women from the lower classes are the ones who sometimes have had to put up with less than ideal Thai men; and as a result sometimes decide to give Western men a try out of desperation to find a man who isn't an alcoholic and a gambler and who won't abuse them.   

If you want to meet a Thai woman who's from the middle classes and above then you need to start developing friendships with Thai people from that class.   

Do you have any Thai friends at all?  Have you even been to their homes for dinner parties or invited them to your home for a dinner party?   Have you ever mentioned to your Thai friends that you are looking to meet a nice lady?

[jvs]

40 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

Some truth here.

 

The OP:

-has lived here for years

-is affluent and speaks Thai

-hired Thai people to do his internet dating for him

-hired a Thai marketing person to market him as a dating prospect

 

And yet, he has still come up empty, for years on end.

 

Not a diss, but consider talking to a therapist.

 

Maybe just another wind up topic?

We get one like this every so often,i am not taking this one serious at all.

 

[newbee2022]

There is some truth in your post.

If you go to a cafe or restaurant frequently visited by younger people/students you will recognise the young women are accompanied by quite good looking men, Thai men, tall as Westerners.

I think we are not so much high ranked anymore. It has to do with better education. Many attend university and get a degree.

They are not interested in Farangs even those got money. Why deal with pesty bald farangs with big bellies and bad teeth when you can have a young Thai man talking in the same mother language and is willing to achieve the same goal: build up a career, having a family and a house.

In short: Things change here. Thailand is on the way to adapt Western style and some kind of culture. Buddhism is on the downturn just now shield for Govt. to keep people calm and down. ????

[wombat]

13 hours ago, stoner said:

yes.

a walk down beach road Pattaya  with a 1k note on his forehead will sort out all his problems,
Jing Jing ????????

[ChrisKC]

If you write some of these things as above, in your profile for a prospective mate of the sort you say ou are looking for, then you won't attract them. There doesn't seem to be much you say about your personality. Being good looking for example, maybe a first attraction but rarely is it a lasting one.

 

And don't be surprised that stating that being financially well off, doesn't demonstrate that you are kind and thoughtful and considerate, caring, and honest and reliable.

 

Thailand is not much different from anywhere else as it relates to finding your ideal partner. And one might even have to accept that even finding your perceived ideal, that there is no guarantee of a lasting rewarding and loving relationship. 

[JimTripper]

1 hour ago, LaosLover said:

Some truth here.

 

The OP:

-has lived here for years

-is affluent and speaks Thai

-hired Thai people to do his internet dating for him

-hired a Thai marketing person to market him as a dating prospect

 

And yet, he has still come up empty, for years on end.

 

Not a diss, but consider talking to a therapist.

 

I’m getting a workaholic vibe as well.

 

Maybe he wants to meet people in his head, but is someone who really just sits on his computer all day and night, maybe chats a bit. Goes to a cafe or uses a dating service, but it’s just a speed dating thing where he does it to do it, but is more involved in getting back to work or making money.

 

It’s really common in large cities in the USA. People will speed date to feel like they are dating, but then go back to what they really love, their jobs. Narcissistic in a way. Many end up just sleeping with prostitutes.

 

It’s hard to analyze when the op does not respond or answer further questions.

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, Freddy42OZ said:

The Thai women in the middle classes and above have no need to date Western men, they have their pick of well paid, well educated and decent Thai men. 

Not if they are old, like older than 30.

Thai guys, like farang guys, like girls and young women. Maybe up to end 20th.

If you like it or not, that is reality.