Are Thai men getting tired of foreigners with thai women?

[Dan O]

14 minutes ago, Maitdjai said:

Nothing is for free, my friend. Only in "your" own fantasies...

Yeah yeah yeah. Throw out another cliche. I think my point was understood by most except males that have a certain view of females like you appear to have

[FruitPudding]

No, cos their mothers taught them to not marry hoes.

[BigStar]

 

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

it happens more times here than you can shake a stick at!

 

thai men are jealous of western men in almost every conceivable way!

 

bob.

 

Against the spread of such egregiously bigoted nonsense the mods need to invoke the "disinformation" rule as they did so liberally during COVID. But perhaps some posters are privileged.

[OneMoreFarang]

We see stories about jealous Thai guys about other Thai guys in the news.

And there are stories about farangs jealous about other farangs.

I can't remember reading or hearing a story where a Thai guy and a farang guy desired the same woman.

It seems most of the time we have different taste.

 

And then there are Miss Thailand and similar competitions. I can't remember any good comments from farangs about the white winners. 

[Maitdjai]

1 hour ago, Dan O said:

Yeah yeah yeah. Throw out another cliche. I think my point was understood by most except males that have a certain view of females like you appear to have

Don't care so much about, who is "understanding" you.

Especially in this forum, scattered with idiots.

If you "throw out" pseudo- intellectual, Farang-Barstool

"The Thai woman in the Thai cultural context" expertises,

don't wonder, to get a statement. Cliche, or not.

So, what do you think, whom you could get, without payment?

Even if you wouldn't be

(I doubt it)

an (Quote) "Old Axx"? 

[richard_smith237]

4 hours ago, bob smith said:

it’s the classic small willy syndrome playing out in front of your very eyes.

 

Indeed it is Bob....  but why do you insist on repeatedly playing that out for us all  ???? 

[Hanuman2547]

5 hours ago, theblether said:

Many things can be true at the same time. No decent Thai man wants a woman with the scent of the sex trade. 

 

Also, farangs are universally a laughing stock among Thai men, they can't believe who we wrestle with. 

 

However, you made a different and more valid point. The arrival of the younger expatriate generation has increased competition for young Thai men. It's not unusual to see middle-class girls dating and marrying stable younger farangs. That is starting to annoy some younger Thai men as their general xenophobia mixes with sexual jealousy. All of these relationships that I am aware of are thriving. One friend has just given birth to her second baby, she lives near The Somme, France. I can't think of any relationships that have broken up but neither do I have a drone pursuing pals across the world. 

 

So, no - Thai men are content to allow farangs wrestle with the sex trade "belle's" 

 

And, yes - they don't like having their better ladies stolen away.  

Younger working expat farangs have been dating and marrying university educated middle class Thai women since the 80's and probably before.  

[drgoon]

1 hour ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Indeed it is Bob....  but why do you insist on repeatedly playing that out for us all  ???? 

It's his ego fantasies 😆

[drgoon]

All falang องคชาติใหญ่. Thai girls fantasy. Somchai's jealousy.

[richard_smith237]

44 minutes ago, Hanuman2547 said:

Younger working expat farangs have been dating and marrying university educated middle class Thai women since the 80's and probably before.  

 

Middle to upper (hi-so)....    and this doesn't bother the Thai guys in the slightest IMO and there are plenty of women available, just as there were in any country (or were before I met my Wife).

 

'Cos those others in the market are still well and truly in the market, and they are smart and of sufficient status not to worry about another foreigner of equal smart and sufficient status any more than another other guy.... 

 

 

Regarding the lower status females and males....   thats their issue...   Its like fighting over a 10 to 2 bird in shi££y ritzy night club in a crappy backward UK town....    pathetic and not worth it....      we just have to be careful to 'judge the room' where-ever we are, because a lot of us struggle recognise the social dynamic. 

 

 

 

That said: if I was a hard working postal worker and some foreigner nicked off with my issues - I've be peeved and perhaps carry a grudge, so that aspect is understandable. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[ChaiyaTH]

Yes. Thai economy is down and girls here always look for better options, so now likely more eyes are on foreigners or the good money stories of girls who do do foreigners already. 
 

Thai guys are aware we make 3-5-10-20x daily what they do, thats why they are always vigilant AF when walking with their girls on the market. 
 

But its not as if thai guys are jealous on us with the discarded girls they no longer wanted once they hit 22 or older. No thats really not the case.

 

It is their girlfriends who secretly eye us or our girlfriend or both, or gossip and talk with friends abt money and foreigners.

 

in a way, imagine we are them, i would also see the foreigner as a threat / enemy. In fact even we are not, any guy who likes our girls, and has more money, doesnt look worse, is a threat.

 

its naive to think its not.

[ChaiyaTH]

3 hours ago, vangrop said:

 

 

 

An educated Thai lady won't care also. She will stick with same level Thai man and don't care about farangs.

 

Yeah right, thats why boat loads of them in 25-45s are single too and the biggest purchasers of XL massage toys on lazada and shopee… and most active on dating sites.

 

The only thing you are right about on that end is that they would try to date and certainly not do a short time or for money. Even all of them cost money sooner or later.

 

Yes i am talking about bachelor degree thai ladies in bangkok with proper jobs.

[richard_smith237]

26 minutes ago, ChaiyaTH said:

in a way, imagine we are them, i would also see the foreigner as a threat / enemy. In fact even we are not, any guy who likes our girls, and has more money, doesnt look worse, is a threat.

 

its naive to think its not.

 

You worried about guys with more 'game' taking your girl ????

 

 

 

 

[scubascuba3]

Are foreigners tired of sharing their wives and girlfriends with their secret Thai boyfriend/husband?

[theblether]

3 hours ago, Hanuman2547 said:

Younger working expat farangs have been dating and marrying university educated middle class Thai women since the 80's and probably before.  

I

Yes,, but numbers have vastly increased in the last decade plus. 

[spidermike007]

1. Thai men do not seem to be interested in a divorcee over 40. 

 

2. Thai men do not seem to be interested in a woman who has children with her last boyfriend or husband. 

 

3. I barely think we factor into the equation, if there's a half a million expats here in Thailand and every single one of them had a Thai girlfriend or wife, that's just a small percent of the population of women, so I don't think we're really that big a factor. 

 

4. My woman is quite young and attractive and she does get attention from Thai men, but I've never once gotten a nasty look from a Thai man, or even a disapproving glance. So that kind of backs up my theory. We just don't matter much. 

[Kenny202]

9 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

Just my opinion, but given the fact that most Thais pair-up at high school or uni, plus the fact that Thai women generally like to stick to Thai men, the ones that end up with foreign guys aren't going to be ones that would want to go with Thai men in the first place.  Even if they aren't prostitutes/divorced/single mothers, they're still the type to not want a Thai guy, due to not likening the way women are treated in relationships with Thai men, or some similar reason.

 

I just can't imagine, currently, educated and well off Thai men, who would be looking to pair-up with educated Thai women with good economic prospects, being in any position to be adopting a "bloody foreigners, coming over here, taking our women" kind of viewpoint.

I don't think Thai women or Thai people in general think we are an upgrade or step up in society unless there is a lot of money and trinkets constantly offered...new homes to show off on Facebook. When they say "you take care me" they mean it in every sense of the word without a thought for taking care of you in any way. And unless you have very deep pockets will be hard to maintain that level of expense for long...and that's when things start to go South. "But I bought you a new car and gold 2 months ago?" That was 2 months ago....this is now. I have been here ten years and from what I have seen we are the last resort for those in debt or in trouble. And even then the lowest in Thai society see us as a last resort, or a step down and expect to be renumerated for it. Age difference doesn't seem to factor into it greatly either. Got a mate of mine now in his late 30's, good looking guy, wife the same age going through hell. Nearly every woman I met here or know of who said Thai men were no good, beat them, were lazy etc had those exact traits themselves and either went back to a Thai man or  had a Thai man in the background all along. I cant think of one relationship I know of that has been successful or happy. At best they are still together but both miserable or the guy only there because he has put all his assets in her name and out of options. These are only my first hand experiences. The dating game post 30's isn't a lot better back home. Broken people from broken marriages (men and women) with many issues. I am sure there are many good women here but like back home most of the gooduns will have been scooped up early in their 20's. Goes for guys and gals. On the positive side was in a discussion here a few years ago some guy complaining his wife was lazy etc and another guy said be thankful they are like that otherwise they wouldn't want anything to do with us old codgers. Very true. Many of us are older guys, maybe not in the best of shape. Don't delude yourself into thinking a Thai woman is with you because of your sexual skills or good looks or be looking for true love. Accept it and make the most of whats available. You just have to work out what are the good points and advantages of living in Thailand and make the most of it....try and avoid the pitfalls....one being getting married and entrusting your life / life savings / future / assets into someone you barely know with very little education life skills or morals.

[OneMoreFarang]

10 hours ago, Dan O said:

Considering most thai men have giks or mai nois i don't think there's much worry on their part as their view of women is pretty low generally speaking with many more concerned if the woman can bring home extra money.

If you are concerned about your wife bringing home money, then you do something wrong - at least in Thailand.

[Excogitator]

12 hours ago, Elkski said:

On my very first short visit to Thailand in 2016 i couldn't understand how thai men accepted sharing their women with foreigners. 

Of course I since  learned how they are like pimps and even saw BF's dropping off their GF's on soi cowboy.   And most thai women seen with older Western men were not desired by most thai men.  

But there has been an uptick in social media of hiso or media influencers with western men.  And even large envious wedding celebrations.  And of course FB posts of the resulting cute lew kreg children.   

I'm not sure if some of these younger Western guys had family money or if these extravagant lifestyles are supported by the media income or Thai family money? 

But if I was a Thai guy with a hard earned degree and seeing the pool of desirable Thai women being taken I would be easily influenced to support politicians that were cracking down on any illegal acrivity or income by a foreigner.  I would also support the new tax laws that grab some of this endless money flow some expats seem to have available. 

Elkski, it has been a trend for quite some time now for desirable Thai ladies (highly educated, young, middle-class,childless and previously unmarried), to choose younger foreign/western guys. I am in such a relationship myself, and we got married last year (and marry her you must). Can't speak for all similar relationships,  of course, but we have met nothing but acceptance and goodwill in Thailand, both from friends, family and strangers. It seems to help that we are comparable in age, looks, and also in income and social status. I believe the main motivation, for ladies like my wife, to marry a foreigner, is that they are happier with a guy with a modern mind and mindset, who treats them like an equal partner.

[Will27]

11 hours ago, still kicking said:

Tell me more 

You've previously said you moved back to Australia to obtain the pension as you lost all of your money in Thailand.

[Ralf001]

6 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Are foreigners tired of sharing their wives and girlfriends with their secret Thai boyfriend/husband?

 

Mine has her brother to come to stay when Iam away.

 

He must sleep on the lounge though because the bed in the spare room is never used.

[scubascuba3]

1 hour ago, Ralf001 said:

 

Mine has her brother to come to stay when Iam away.

 

He must sleep on the lounge though because the bed in the spare room is never used.

Yes common, i heard one recent story that the farang let the gardener/handyman move in because the farang 70s couldn't satisfy his thai wife 30s anymore, from the horses mouth

[Will B Good]

14 hours ago, bob smith said:

Thai men are incredibly jealous of foreigners at the best of times, so when a well heeled, younger farang comes along and cleans up at the club then of course they are going to resent that.

 

I should know, I have been that guy on many occasions.

That made me laugh

[Will B Good]

After 18 years married to a Thai 26 years younger than me, I can honestly say I"ve never come across anyone....Thai or non-Thai........who gave a monkey's.

[transam]

5 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

After 18 years married to a Thai 26 years younger than me, I can honestly say I"ve never come across anyone....Thai or non-Thai........who gave a monkey's.

That is correct...........

[connda]

16 hours ago, Elkski said:

On my very first short visit to Thailand in 2016 i couldn't understand how thai men accepted sharing their women with foreigners. 

Easy - there are more women than men in Thailand.  Go to your average village and you'll see a whole load of ageing spinsters looking for a husband.  So the answer is: Thai guys don't want them.

[Ralf001]

2 minutes ago, connda said:

Easy - there are more women than men in Thailand.  Go to your average village and you'll see a whole load of ageing spinsters looking for a husband.  So the answer is: Thai guys don't want them.

 

I shop for ladies in the 25 to 29 age range, bout a 50/50 split female to male.

[connda]

16 hours ago, Elkski said:

On my very first short visit to Thailand in 2016 i couldn't understand how thai men accepted sharing their women with foreigners. 

Just curious, but using your logic (considering you're in Utah), how can you accept sharing American women with migrants and foreigners?  See, in the US that immediately gets you labelled as a racist, and rightly so. 
So, are you promoting racism in Thailand?  You can't understand why Thai guys aren't more racist? 
Amazing Americans.

[brianthainess]

14 hours ago, bob smith said:

that’s what they say to your face..

 

wonder what they say behind your back!

 

bob.

Well at least she is not with Bob.         

[brianthainess]

8 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Are foreigners tired of sharing their wives and girlfriends with their secret Thai boyfriend/husband?

You mean their 'Brother'.