You have simply described on end of the spectrum and thrown it out there as a blanket generalisation when really its the worst case scenario.
The primary factor is the 'standard of person you are' and the 'standard of person you marry'...
Nothing lasts forever, dictatorships, capitalism, socialism, democracy are all short term works in progress, hailed for a while, tinkered with for improvement beyond recognition only to sink back from whence they came. Eventually they are taken back out of the drawer of forgetfulness, dusted off and declared the new panacea of societies ills.......it's all crap, nothing can threaten you unless you take it all seriously.
"Boon is alleged to have forged his former daughter-in-law’s signature to secure a loan, resulting in damages estimated at 7.5 billion baht."
With such massive sums involved you'd expect the lender to at least ask to see the person who's signature was on the form.
I agree with all of this except for the final sentence, I'll also add another point:
1) The 'never get married comment' - For some, if wanting to be together, live together, travel together etc - then not getting marred isn't an option: Of the majority of marriages I know, the couple could not live together before marriage.
Thats awkward and requires patience and a learning curve - nevertheless, many families here do not allow their daughters to live to travel with another male unless they are married - and getting to that state of trust with the family so they accept you into their family takes time.
2) The other point - socico-economomic-educational compatibility - (IMO) dating someone within your social status (yes its a silly word but lets roll with it for a moment), someone who speaks educated English (not learned in a bar), someone with their own means (family is independently comfortable - there is no pressure for you to the the financial saviour... Someone who 'matched your level basically'... who can interact comfortably in any situation globally, can comfortably relate to family, who's family and friends you can comfortably related.
IMO those are the key things....
My Wife and I had part 2... but I wasn't going to be able to spend much time with her unless we were married.
She's snuck away to the UK a couple of times to meet her Cousin working there... But, as soon as I was 'known' to her parents, the UK trips and overseas holidays were off the cards... We had to go through the song and dance of getting the the parents to accept me, like me etc.. Always respectfully, this worked out and we were married.
Her Parents are awesome, they visit us weekly, and even though they live half an hour away, they often stay over night....
So, yes... when we marry, we marry the family to as they also become part of our lives...
As Khun LA wrote - that piece of paper might be a fantasy - but for some its a necessary box to have checked.
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