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I was absolutely mortified at what I witnessed yesterday.
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Why Do So Many Foreign Men Still Marry Short-Time Girls?
This post is about the question of marriage, which comes up quite often in conversations about expats in Thailand. I’m obviously referring to a possible marriage to a woman who works in the sex industry, specifically the ones offering short-term sexual services for money. While I have also indulged personally, I can’t imagine ever marrying one of them. When one sits down and speaks with these girls, it doesn’t take long for the average dude to realize what he’s dealing with. Many of them are skilled manipulators, adept at lying, and are very calculating in their overall approach to money extraction. They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage. These aren’t qualities I’d associate with someone who would make a good wife or genuinely care for you, your needs, or even be a trustworthy and reliable life partner. Another thing I consider is their background. Many short-time girls come from impoverished, rural, peasant-class environments. Their education is often minimal, and they generally know little about the world beyond their own limited life experiences in Thailand. Many come from broken homes where they’ve had to fend for themselves from an early age, which understandably shapes their worldview, survivalist instincts and agendas in ways that don't align well with what men seek in a life-partner. Emotionally, these women can also be challenging to deal with on a daily basis. Arguments over trivial matters can become frequent, as their level of emotional maturity and lack of intellectuality can get them stuck in a cycle of insecurity and jealousy. They may hold onto strange superstitions, have beliefs in old wives’ tales, and ghosts which can lead to further misunderstandings or clashes in perspective. This isn’t to say they’re “bad people” in any way, but rather that their life experiences and upbringing may not have prepared them for the type of relationship foreign men are hoping for. Another important consideration is the impact of their past work on their ability to form healthy relationships. If someone has spent years engaging with men purely through transactional relationships, where money is the driving factor, it can be hard for them to understand or value other aspects of a male-female partnership. Concepts like trust, emotional intimacy, and mutual respect might take a backseat to financial expectations. Additionally, working as a sex worker for an extended period can leave emotional scars or cause anger issues and psychological trauma that could become irreparable. The constant need to mask true emotions, deal with rejection or exploitation, and navigate an environment centered around money and power dynamics can make it difficult for them to trust, connect, or even open up fully in a long-term relationship. This emotional baggage usually weighs heavily on both partners, often creating friction and misunderstandings that become evident over time. So why do men fall for them? Is it loneliness, the thrill of saving someone, or simply the charm and beauty that these girls exude? Many short-time girls are experts at creating the illusion of affection and love. They are good at making a man feel special, even if it is just for a fleeting moment. Perhaps for some men, this simple hoax becomes addictive, and they mistake it for something real when it is not. Another factor could be a lack of understanding about the cultural and social realities that these women come from. Some men may feel a sense of responsibility or even pity and think they can “rescue” these women from their perils. But, more often than not, these relationships don’t end with the fairy tale type ending they envisioned. For those who marry these girls, the question remains: do they truly believe they’ve found love, or are they happy to settle for the bits of attention and care they feel they can’t get elsewhere? And then what happens if and when more serious financial dynamics of the relationship come into play? Many of these marriages seem to revolve around money, with the man acting as a provider and the woman expecting continued support for her and, often, her family. In my opinion, marrying a short-time girl is a gamble at best where the odds are rarely stacked in a man's favor. While there are exceptions, and some relationships do genuinely work out, the majority seem fraught with issues. These women, by the nature of their work and upbringing, are often ill-equipped to handle the demands of a long-term partnership in the way many men might have hoped for. -
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Koh Chang: A Tropical Paradise with a Touch of Luxury
I visit Koh Chang three times a year. I stay at Kai Bae low season when room rates are rock bottom. -
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I was absolutely mortified at what I witnessed yesterday.
Why are so many people responding to a Bob Smith thread...you just made him think barboy is a legitimate alias -
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Thai lawyer argues most expats won’t be impacted by personal income tax
The reality is that you have been successful at wearing me down with your continued criticism of my efforts to try and help members understand income tax. For me the way forward is simple, I will not post any more on tax or on any other subject on AN. For those members who have sought my help, my apologies for this change of direction, you will now have to find another source of help and information and likely pay for that service. I wish you all good luck. -
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Cost to Send a Pea: How much to send a pea from NYC to Thailand via UPS?
A pea (or credit card) would go in a envelope. -
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Thailand Vigilant Amidst 'Disease X' Outbreak in Africa
LOL... a little,,,,5'6" 171lbs, but you wont believe me anyway. -
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Trump's Sex Crime Cabinet
I wonder if E Jean Carroll will have to leave America for her safety now that Trump won the election? It would be poetic in that Tara Reade who Biden raped had to flee to Russia for her safety from the American left. I wonder why some rapes are supported by the left who want to attack the victim, while others..... https://www.npr.org/2023/05/31/1179158199/tara-reade-biden-sexual-assault-russian-citizenship
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