Do Expats in Thailand Often Trade Western Wives for Younger Thai Women?

[GinBoy2]

I've never experienced the OP's premise of a farang with western wife in tow leave for a much younger Thai woman.

 

Seen plenty of older divorced guys fall for the 20-30 year old younger than them and it end in tears.

 

At the end of the day, guys can delude themselves that a woman, Thai or whatever, is actually attracted to a man old enough to be their father

[Alpha84]

Bring your minging old whinging wife to Thailand, dump her off, then leave with a fresh young one. Yep, can't imagine why anyone would possibly want to do that???

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, GinBoy2 said:

At the end of the day, guys can delude themselves that a woman, Thai or whatever, is actually attracted to a man old enough to be their father

They're definitely attracted to my wallet. I always laugh at guys that think their women actually want them. 

[RSD1]

1 hour ago, GinBoy2 said:

At the end of the day, guys can delude themselves that a woman, Thai or whatever, is actually attracted to a man old enough to be their father

 

They might be drawn to the lifestyle he provides, which could inspire feelings of gratitude, security and genuine care for their older husband. Additionally, some may be attracted to that fatherly figure he represents, perhaps fulfilling a role they lacked during their childhood. So they could be attracted to him, but in different ways that aren't based so much on physical appearances.

[scorecard]

12 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

 

 

Most of them do, but some couples stay together, when the Western wife allows him to sleep around with Thai girls?

 

I'm aware of a Norwegian couple, been coming to Thailand for 3 months at a time  two times every year. Both late 60's.

 

They maintain a 'permanent' rental on a small house on the beach.

 

Norwegian husband and wife stay together in the house for the first 2 months of each visit, then the Norwegian lady flies back to Norway alone.

 

Norwegian husband then transfers to his long-term Thai GF/s house for one month then he flies back to Norway.

 

This arrangement has become well known. The Norwegian wife talks way too much, like a machine. She tells all 'My husband needs 2 women to take care of his sexual appetite so I have to be flexible.

 

Several years back the Norwegian lady found a very young Thai man to stay with her for the the third month. That lasted about 3 days then the Thai boy fled. 

[sungod]

11 hours ago, Dexxter said:

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[RSD1]

7 minutes ago, sungod said:

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[rumak]

15 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

 

This is the answer.  If 50 year old Western men back home could typically easily marry a 21 year old, they very likely would.

 

maybe if the 21 year old had a 21 inch neck .   seems to be a lot of those available

[john donson]

never stop using the big head for sex here...  giving away your hard earn life savings ....  thais in general never can or do... so why would you buy even your 'wife' a house in a lump sum of yours ?

 

LUST confused with love in most cases...

 

those sex workers are professionals at their trade... just like nigerian scammers...

 

well at least you will get some 'action' for your money

[Celsius]

On 12/6/2024 at 6:25 AM, Upnotover said:

I had a neighbour who resolved the issue quite nicely.  He and his wife found a girl they both liked and from then on shared.  His only complaint was that the girls seemed more into each other than him, nevertheless worked out acceptably for the three of them.

 

Do you like to blaster bathe to that thought

[baansgr]

On 12/6/2024 at 5:06 AM, SoCal1990 said:

It’s something I’ve seen happen enough times over the years that it makes me wonder just how common it really is: A Western man moves to Thailand, when he's in his 40s or older, often on a job posting or for business, and he brings along his long-term foreign wifey from back home. Fast forward a few years, and that same guy has suddenly divorced the wife and married a much younger Thai woman.

 

I’ve personally known three or four blokes who’ve gone down this road, and it always leaves me with questions. Is this really a natural byproduct of moving to a place like Thailand where the women and cultural dynamics are so different from the West? Or is there something about Thailand specifically, its allure, the culture, or simply its sexual temptations, that causes the breakdown of these long-standing marriages?

 

From what I’ve seen, it often plays out in a similar pattern nearly every time. The man becomes enamored by the attention he receives from younger Thai women that are around him, especially when compared to the type of relations he's experienced within his Western marriage. Then, whether it’s the novelty or simply the allure of something “new,” he hastily leaves his wife for a relationship that seems fresh and exciting and that possibly makes him feel younger again.

 

But here’s the downside: It doesn’t always end well. Some of the dudes find that their new Thai wives aren’t at all what they had expected. Financial strain is common issue, as the new wife may be all about the money, financial support of her family, and/or a spendy lifestyle. In some cases, the man ends up in financial ruins, paying out at a level he can’t continue to sustain and gets drained of lots of his cash by his wife’s extended family.

 

And then there’s often the added regret later. I’ve seen men, years later, look back and wonder if they made a huge mistake. And I wonder if they would still be happily married to their original wives if they’d never moved to Thailand? Maybe the move itself exposed cracks in the marriage or perhaps it was simply the allure of a younger, more vivacious Thai girl that was enough to cause them to overlook the good thing that they were giving up?

 

Of course, this raises moral questions too. Is it even fair to uproot your spouse, bring her to a foreign country like Thailand, and then suddenly dump her for someone younger and local? Is that selfish, even cruel, or is it simply just the nature of life itself and how things can change.

 

But how common is this in Thailand, really? Is it a steadily repeating pattern among expats who move to Thailand with their Western wives? And do most of these men find true happiness in their new marriages, or do they eventually regret the decision to trade in an established and loving partner just for someone that feels new, exciting and a bit younger?

 

A weak man will, a strong man wont

[mdr224]

5 minutes ago, baansgr said:

A weak man will, a strong man wont

Strong as in, able to go against a mans biological programming. I would say unnatural is more accurate description 

[bangadang]

Is the Pope a catholic?

[Will B Good]

14 hours ago, Dexxter said:

 

Some also seem to choose the fatter ugly ones too. Must be a habit from back home.

Weird choices some seem to make......I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

[Kinnock]

Is that a question or a sermon?

 

If a question: 'Yes'.

 

 

 

[wombat]

i advise people to honeymoon in Pattaya...ive had no complaints when the husband returns after dropping the bride back in home country

[NORDO]

For me it was the Western Woke culture.   Exwife had a great life, did not need to work.   Salary and career was great.  But blew it all by screaming about the new Woke culture.   I had enough.   Cashed out early pension and relocated to Asia.   Had been here many times previously with my employment.

 

after experiencing the Asia culture of how a lady treats a man, I jumped ship and went to work in SE Asia, sans exwife.  I’ve worked all four countries and enjoyed the concept of a man and his castle.    However, your lady is not an animal, she expects to treated well and supported for you to enjoy this type of life. 
 

every now and then I have a “Round-eye hit up on me.  I just tell them that there is no chance in hell that I’ll force myself into their imposed servitude.

[Prubangboy]

I moved to Chiang Mai with my western wife two years ago and separated from her last year. The usual "we grew apart scenario", with a dose of "still friends" (friendly, rather than friends, would be more accurate).

 

Chiang Mai has a fair few western women like my wife who meet up for lunches at places like The FreeBird Cafe. They have all sworn off men and sex 100%, but still get a fair bit of attention.

 

An even OK-looking older western woman is still in demand among western expat men. My ex innocently put up a friends-request on Tinder. She got 60+ responses a day, all from western men, maybe one every other day from Thai women who wanted to practice English.

 

I moved to Bangkok and would prefer a western woman myself. Education, light kink, temperament all figure into my preference. I am 72, I figure I might be able to date down to 56.

 

No prospects on either Tinder or at Meetups. Most older western women are married, at least for the moment. A few drunken German women in Hua Hin and Pattaya would be my dating universe, all with age preferences set lower than 72. I'm talking about 9 candidates in three cities, who were all very picky when I contacted them.

 

I'm going to Chula University in Bangkok this January, and might meet someone (Thai) that way. Tinder Thai prospects north of 50 speak limited English, have close to zero in their profiles, beyond a lot of "take care of each other" blather. I don't want to go much younger, and judging by their age range preferences, 65 seems to be the hard cut off date for Thai women 45-52.

 

My thinking going forward is:

 

-De-emphasize romance in my life and enjoy other great stuff about being me

-Take a look at Chinese women living here (also consider a LD relationship in Singapore).

-Put minimal effort into my search since the odds are bad and just wait to see what turns up.

 

 

Coments welcome, partic if Bangkok-centric.

[1FinickyOne]

19 hours ago, Lacessit said:

IMO supply would vastly outweigh demand.

pound for pound?

[Hanaguma]

On 12/6/2024 at 1:48 PM, Ralf001 said:

 

am, keen to flick my slag for a Jappa lady.

Thai's are over rated.

In your dreams, my friend.  Most 'Jappa' ladies wouldn't blink in the direction of the vast majority of reprobates and ne'er do well's that infest Thailand. 

[Prubangboy]

True. Not a single one on Tinder. A few old Chinese women, but again, no profile information.

 

Thailand dating reminds me of Henry Ford's color offerings for his cars: "Any color you want, as long as its black (or Thai).

[RSD1]

4 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

I figure I might be able to date down to 56.

Sounds like a death sentence. If it came down to that I rather pay to bump uglies for an hour with one in her mid to late twenties. You'd feel a lot better afterwards baking one inside a unit that still qualifies as a sport model rather than a worn out old sedan with flat tires. 
 

[Prubangboy]

If I have to pay them, I can't get hard. If I could, it would be a major life enhancement, but alas, I cannot.

 

An old hag who's into me could work. I need the into me-factor.

 

Otherwise, I may as well just do myself. At least, I'm into me.

[hotandsticky]

24 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

If I have to pay them, I can't get hard. If I could, it would be a major life enhancement, but alas, I cannot.

 

An old hag who's into me could work. I need the into me-factor.

 

Otherwise, I may as well just do myself. At least, I'm into me.

 

 

Have you tried putting a bag over your head.

[RSD1]

19 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

If I have to pay them, I can't get hard. If I could, it would be a major life enhancement, but alas, I cannot.

 

An old hag who's into me could work. I need the into me-factor.

 

Otherwise, I may as well just do myself. At least, I'm into me.

At 72 finding a younger woman that is "into you" could pose challenges. I think it's better to accept that than to continue spinning your wheels. Sadly, I think women in their 50s and 60s are often probably looking for men younger than their own age too. So I think it comes down to accepting what is possible. You could probably take a pill and then pay for one and that might work better. Less grief too for sure when you rent. 
 

 

[Prubangboy]

12 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

Have you tried putting a bag over your head.

No, but I have contemplated painting my nails and pretending it's a woman doing the tug.

[Prubangboy]

5 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Sadly, I think women in their 50s and 60s are often probably looking for men younger than their own age too.  
 

 

Not that many. Menopause cancels a lot of dance tickets. It aint the Men buying XXXL "It's Wine O'Clock" tee shirts. Who can blame them for checking out after their hormones do?

 

Good looking, educated/interesting, sexual older women do not hit the Red Pill "Wall" nearly so hard. Really, hardly at all.

 

As for the hags dating younger, they have the same into-them lacking that I face.

 

Hopefully, I will find a hot one who's desperate. Otherwise, I have my esoteric interests to fill my time.

[GammaGlobulin]

On 12/6/2024 at 7:15 AM, sungod said:

AI is a wonderful hing when it comes to constructing long open ended questions......

 

Can't be too difficult....really....I think.

 

[hotandsticky]

16 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

No, but I have contemplated painting my nails and pretending it's a woman doing the tug.

 

 

LOL.

 

Try using your left hand  -  they say it's like being jerked off by your sister!

[SAFETY FIRST]

On 12/6/2024 at 5:06 AM, SoCal1990 said:

Do Expats in Thailand Often Trade Western Wives for Younger Thai Women? 

Got rid of my western wife long before arriving in Thailand