Married men: When did you realize that you had made a terrible mistake?

[Chris Daley]

For me it was when I came home from work.  The boss told me that I will be getting a 6 month contract extension this time and not a full year.  The irony is everyone in the office got the same thing and I am still working at the same school after 3 years.  But my girlfriend went mental.  She started screaming ''If you don't keep this job, we are finished!!  We will separate!  What's wrong with you?  Why don't we just have Thai teachers in Thailand!''  The only person I had opened up to in my life and she is a money hungry tyrant.

 

She realized that she had gone too far and started to act nice again.  I didn't say a word.  Just ''okay.'' 

 

Those words will ring in my ears until the day I die.  I obsess over them.  I ruminate on that moment.  I repeat the words over and over.  I think of her as ''the enemy'' now.  I made AI image of a plaque with the words on it.

 

Inside the ninth circle, Betrayal is the lowest part of hell.  When you are betrayed you have to rebuild yourself.  I was a fool.  I had to restructure my entire life and view of her from now on.

 

I will never trust another human for as long as I live.

 

I still work at the school.  I still get the salary.  I still pay the bills.  It's just something that the boss says.  She even said in a meeting ''So we will be replacing most of you with agency staff... not sure if we can save you all.''  This is just how they speak to you at a Thai school.  But that little moment made the mask slip and reveal her as being full of snakes.

 

How about you?  When did you realize you had made a mistake in getting married?  Or are you one of the lucky ones? 

[novacova]

2 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

How about you?  When did you realize you had made a mistake in getting married?  Or are you one of the lucky ones?

My wife works, has her own business, her own house and car. Never bothered me about finances, she’s a workaholic and gone 10 hours a day, comes home cooks and cleans. Am I lucky? No. I worked hard to find her, tilling through the many desperate women that society has to offer.

Chris, I’d suggest you grab your shid and split ASAP and save whatever sanity you have left.

[brewsterbudgen]

It's only been 10 years for me, and still the best thing I ever did. So, guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

[Ben Zioner]

2 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

For me it was when I came home from work.  The boss told me that I will be getting a 6 month contract extension this time and not a full year.  The irony is everyone in the office got the same thing and I am still working at the same school after 3 years.  But my girlfriend went mental.  She started screaming ''If you don't keep this job, we are finished!!  We will separate!  What's wrong with you?  Why don't we just have Thai teachers in Thailand!''  The only person I had opened up to in my life and she is a money hungry tyrant.

 

She realized that she had gone too far and started to act nice again.  I didn't say a word.  Just ''okay.'' 

 

Those words will ring in my ears until the day I die.  I obsess over them.  I ruminate on that moment.  I repeat the words over and over.  I think of her as ''the enemy'' now.  I made AI image of a plaque with the words on it.

 

Inside the ninth circle, Betrayal is the lowest part of hell.  When you are betrayed you have to rebuild yourself.  I was a fool.  I had to restructure my entire life and view of her from now on.

 

I will never trust another human for as long as I live.

 

I still work at the school.  I still get the salary.  I still pay the bills.  It's just something that the boss says.  She even said in a meeting ''So we will be replacing most of you with agency staff... not sure if we can save you all.''  This is just how they speak to you at a Thai school.  But that little moment made the mask slip and reveal her as being full of snakes.

 

How about you?  When did you realize you had made a mistake in getting married?  Or are you one of the lucky ones? 

To answer your question: never.

 

My first marriage just died of "natural cause" after 33 years.

 

My second [Thai marriage] keeps going after 15 years. My pension of about 300 Kbaht comes into our joint account every month. 

 

Why would anyone marry a Farang teacher employed by a Thai school?

[Ben Zioner]

28 minutes ago, novacova said:

she’s a workaholic and gone 10 hours a day, comes home cooks and cleans. Am I lucky? No.

But a male chauvinist pig.

[Isaan sailor]

No complaints here.

[chickenslegs]

2 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

The only person I had opened up to in my life and she is a money hungry tyrant.

You owe her nothing. Kick her out, or move away. There are plenty of good women out there who would be happy to find a nice guy to take care of them.

[ubonr1971]

Is OP's post AI generated? 

 

For me I think I feel better than when I was a single lone rat, ratting around in life. Having a child is the best. 

[novacova]

1 hour ago, Ben Zioner said:

But a male chauvinist pig.

Really? How’s that? You mean because she has the fortitude and tenacity to be successful and has a high self esteem for her accomplishments and my being greatly proud of her because she’s not a lackey that is dependent on me or her family? If that’s your definition of chauvinistic pig then you’re insulting not only my wife but yourself as well.

[khunJam]

4 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

But my girlfriend went mental.  She started screaming ''If you don't keep this job, we are finished!!  We will separate!  What's wrong with you?  Why don't we just have Thai teachers in Thailand!''  The only person I had opened up to in my life and she is a money hungry tyrant.

Fire your girlfriend and get a new one that has a job. My girlfriend works and she is a real delight in my life always smiling and full of energy even after a long day at work. 

[khunJam]

1 hour ago, Ben Zioner said:

But a male chauvinist pig.

Instead of marrying a bargirl and keeping her chained to the stove. So how is that working out for you?

[khunJam]

2 hours ago, brewsterbudgen said:

It's only been 10 years for me, and still the best thing I ever did. So, guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

There’s a lot of good women in this region of the world. The problem is lonely men that aren’t very good at socializing with women come here looking for a dream and don’t know their way around the block end up real a lemon nightmare relationship 

[youreavinalaff]

11 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

For me it was when I came home from work.  The boss told me that I will be getting a 6 month contract extension this time and not a full year.  The irony is everyone in the office got the same thing and I am still working at the same school after 3 years.  But my girlfriend went mental.  She started screaming ''If you don't keep this job, we are finished!!  We will separate!  What's wrong with you?  Why don't we just have Thai teachers in Thailand!''  The only person I had opened up to in my life and she is a money hungry tyrant.

 

She realized that she had gone too far and started to act nice again.  I didn't say a word.  Just ''okay.'' 

 

Those words will ring in my ears until the day I die.  I obsess over them.  I ruminate on that moment.  I repeat the words over and over.  I think of her as ''the enemy'' now.  I made AI image of a plaque with the words on it.

 

Inside the ninth circle, Betrayal is the lowest part of hell.  When you are betrayed you have to rebuild yourself.  I was a fool.  I had to restructure my entire life and view of her from now on.

 

I will never trust another human for as long as I live.

 

I still work at the school.  I still get the salary.  I still pay the bills.  It's just something that the boss says.  She even said in a meeting ''So we will be replacing most of you with agency staff... not sure if we can save you all.''  This is just how they speak to you at a Thai school.  But that little moment made the mask slip and reveal her as being full of snakes.

 

How about you?  When did you realize you had made a mistake in getting married?  Or are you one of the lucky ones? 

Water under the bridge. You must have seen it flowing passed as you were sitting there.

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

I will never trust another human for as long as I live.

You're taking an overly extreme attitude.

 

But money is generally one of the biggest problems in relationships.

Most women will panic at any financial instability and women generally do not like to downgrade their lives.

 

Just try as much as possible to stabilize your finances.

Then find another gf/wife. 

 

[Bohemianfish]

Good on this end. Hasn’t always been easy as par for the course for most any relationship. Either work through it or move on. Always have hope. 

[kwonitoy]

When approximately 25 various drug police showed up at the house at 8:00 am on July 1 2013 and handcuffed the little hunny bunny and took her to the monkey house.

 

Trying to be a big time ya ba dealer while I was doing FIFO in Australia.

 

Sentenced to life in prison and 2,000,000 baht fine, reduce to 25 years and 1,000,000 baht fine for confessing. (And you will confess)

 

I win the bad wife competition 

 

[Ben Zioner]

9 hours ago, khunJam said:

Instead of marrying a bargirl and keeping her chained to the stove. So how is that working out for you?

You guys are just hopeless, she works 9 hours a day and does the cleaning and cooking.  He is the archetype of a MCP.

[Utalk2mutt]

Sounds to me like she revealed her true colours. What she said is just damn nasty and I can understand fully why it reverberates in your head. I would be out of there if it was me I mean what’s next? Sounds to me like she’s  only committed to you as long as the money keeps coming in. What would happen if you got sick? Would she be there offering you care and support? With that attitude somehow I would doubt it. I’m recently married but together 7.5 years before we got hitched. All is good there’s no real difference to be honest however, who knows what’s around the next corner? I would like to think I have made he right decision and right now there is nothing telling me any different.

[BangkokReady]

15 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

Inside the ninth circle, Betrayal is the lowest part of hell.  When you are betrayed you have to rebuild yourself.  I was a fool.  I had to restructure my entire life and view of her from now on.

 

I will never trust another human for as long as I live.

 

If this is the worst betrayal you experience at the hands of a woman, you should consider yourself extremely lucky.  That's junior level betrayal.

[BangkokReady]

12 hours ago, Ben Zioner said:

Why would anyone marry a Farang teacher employed by a Thai school?

 

There is a huge number of women for whom a foreign teacher's salary is very attractive.

[dayo202]

When her daughter turned 13, thing's went tits up pretty quickly after

 

[OneMoreFarang]

15 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

How about you?  When did you realize you had made a mistake in getting married?  Or are you one of the lucky ones? 

 

When I was young, I read somewhere that they are only two kinds of outcomes of marriages. People who divorce and people who think about divorce but haven't done it yet. My parents never divorced, but they blamed each other how good life could be without the other. 

And then I saw how treacherous and very expensive divorce can be.

And that's when I decided I will never marry. I am living in mostly happy long-term relationship without marriage.

Sometimes I think she is such a nice woman, maybe I should marry her. But then, sometimes she has a bad mood for some time and I am happy that I am not married. I could finish without bad financial consequences. I know this, she knows this, and that's IMHO the best way to keep a nice relationship. 

[Denim]

14 hours ago, brewsterbudgen said:

It's only been 10 years for me, and still the best thing I ever did. So, guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

 

Same here. 24 years married and happier than I was when single.   Had many serious girlfriends and hundreds of one night stands before so I knew what I was saying goodbye to. My wife was well worth searching for. A really good human being without an ounce of malice in her. 

[Will B Good]

With my first wife it was the second night of our honeymoon.

 

I explained I had a week's holiday booked with the lads after we got back (sailing on the Norfolk Broads). She went ballistic??????

 

It was all downhill after that, even though we struggled on to have four kids.

 

[GammaGlobulin]

The year....2013.

That was the year I became a solitary human being.

BEST decision...EVER.

 

Living alone is BEST.

Believe me.

 

(Then, it's OK to have anyone come visit, but ONLY when you feel like it.)

 

[khunJam]

3 hours ago, Ben Zioner said:

You guys are just hopeless, she works 9 hours a day and does the cleaning and cooking.  He is the archetype of a MCP.

Then I guess you prefer an unambitious house ornament to attend to your own needs. Very chauvinistic of you to express your archetype. 

[PJ71]

15 hours ago, Ben Zioner said:

To answer your question: never.

 

My first marriage just died of "natural cause" after 33 years.

 

My second [Thai marriage] keeps going after 15 years. My pension of about 300 Kbaht comes into our joint account every month. 

 

Why would anyone marry a Farang teacher employed by a Thai school?

You have a 300K baht a month pension.....sweet.

 

Is that enough?

[bkk6060]

A save face question people will tell you how great it is.  Marriage is a big mistake for any male who wants to be a real man.  Women have an agenda which is mostly to control a man.  Sadly, weak males fall for it and eventually become a human liter box.

[wombat]

When she (round eye) asked me to marry her.

[jippytum]

18 hours ago, Chris Daley said:

For me it was when I came home from work.  The boss told me that I will be getting a 6 month contract extension this time and not a full year.  The irony is everyone in the office got the same thing and I am still working at the same school after 3 years.  But my girlfriend went mental.  She started screaming ''If you don't keep this job, we are finished!!  We will separate!  What's wrong with you?  Why don't we just have Thai teachers in Thailand!''  The only person I had opened up to in my life and she is a money hungry tyrant.

 

She realized that she had gone too far and started to act nice again.  I didn't say a word.  Just ''okay.'' 

 

Those words will ring in my ears until the day I die.  I obsess over them.  I ruminate on that moment.  I repeat the words over and over.  I think of her as ''the enemy'' now.  I made AI image of a plaque with the words on it.

 

Inside the ninth circle, Betrayal is the lowest part of hell.  When you are betrayed you have to rebuild yourself.  I was a fool.  I had to restructure my entire life and view of her from now on.

 

I will never trust another human for as long as I live.

 

I still work at the school.  I still get the salary.  I still pay the bills.  It's just something that the boss says.  She even said in a meeting ''So we will be replacing most of you with agency staff... not sure if we can save you all.''  This is just how they speak to you at a Thai school.  But that little moment made the mask slip and reveal her as being full of snakes.

 

How about you?  When did you realize you had made a mistake in getting married?  Or are you one of the lucky ones? 

Now you know the score. What are you gooing to do about it?  

Don't be a wimp get rid