She has started asking for money

[Magpiefan1892]

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

[Cameroni]

6 minutes ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

 

THIS is a red flag? The fact she is a bar prostitujte was A OK though?

[Sandboxer]

Birth of a moneypig. Always entertaining!

[Magpiefan1892]

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

[johng]

34 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

 

Don't send any money  she will soon stop messaging..and if she doesn't well

then maybe you got a keeper.

[riclag]

52 minutes ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

The sign of danger

 

 

[metisdead]

Removed a post (and responses) that claimed others were paid to post. If you have any actual evidence please forward it to support. If it's just a lame debating tactic, further references like that may find you without posting rights. 

 

Moving to the Community Pub forum. 

[it is what it is]

 

she's a prostitute, you really don't understand the business model?! if you plan on staying in thailand i suggest you educate yourself, and fast.

[BangkokReady]

This is how they operate.  They try to get as many "sponsors" as they can.  It's just to extract as much money from foreigner men as they can.  It's unlikely that her mother is sick.  She probably doesn't even like you.

 

Say no and she'll probably disappear anyway.

[NorthernRyland]

Any women from any walk of life that is grabbing for money is vulgar and repulsive in my eyes. PUMP AND DUMP BRO!!

[NorthernRyland]

1 hour ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

 

You're new here so you don't know but this most cynical expat community in all of Thailand.

 

Check out this guys channel. Filled with stories from people just like yourself. Could be helpful.

 

https://www.youtube.com/@thaitalkwithdan

 

[save the frogs]

Just now, BangkokReady said:

Say no and she'll probably disappear anyway.

and then what?

every relationship has some financial aspect to it.

maybe OP can try to marry up if he doesn't want to open his wallet for a woman?

like find a lawyer who has her own mercedes? good gig if you can get it. 

 

[BangkokReady]

12 minutes ago, NorthernRyland said:

most cynical expat community in all of Thailand

 

Some say the most realistic expat community in all of Thailand.

[BangkokReady]

7 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

and then what?

 

 

 

[NorthernRyland]

7 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

 

Some say the most realistic expat community in all of Thailand.

one and the same. 😂

[Gottfrid]

1 hour ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

Yeah, I don´t know why people have to troll like that. However, after reading the OP, I can see that you have your feet on the ground, and are totally aware of things. I would recommend that you don´t send any money, and see if she want´s to continue the chat relation. My thought are that she will just cut you off. Sounds too much like a scam, that the bar girls are very good at.

However, if she still talk to you everyday and all seems to be good, then you might get a little more involved next time. Not saying you should pay a lot of money, but if you want to keep a bar girl as your girlfriend, it will at least cost you 10k baht per month, and that will be cheap. That´s the point where you have to decide what you think is ok. I can just say, I wouldn´t do it. Far too risky.

[tubby johnson]

You're her new pig. She's fattening you for the slaughter.

 

Run piggy run!

[proton]

Medical expenses is the new buffalo sick, most medical treatment is free for Thai's under the 30 baht scheme. If asked offer to pay the Hospital direct!

[Magpiefan1892]

32 minutes ago, proton said:

Medical expenses is the new buffalo sick, most medical treatment is free for Thai's under the 30 baht scheme. If asked offer to pay the Hospital direct!

Is it really free because my dad (a farang) who lives in Thailand has to have medical insurance and pay for medical bills. 

[spidermike007]

Just block her account. You don't owe her anything. Asking for money is part of her job. 

 

You had a fun night together. That is all it was. Keeping in touch with her was a mistake. I get that you are lonely, but she is very unlikely to be relationship material. Cut her loose. Pay tribute to our gender. 

[ChaiyaTH]

They basically just do a chatter job by just copy pasting random things to all guys in their current list. They not really read or care what you write them except for just giving you a short reply to make you feel good. Then once you are warmed up as a lead, and it is also known you are no longer there and a real tourists, they will go for the exit scam which always is medical bills, funeral, a friend they share the room with cheated her etc etc.

 

This is essentially how they spend their day aside from sleeping and eating. Actual customer interactions are not that much until a sucker arrives.

 

Also it can often even be partly or entirely true but this still has zero to do with the guy or that it suddenly would rely on his donations. Just play it along and (pretend to) be broke, and see if she will keep talking to you as much. But even if you just send 50 euro a month that's a subscription.

 

There is always a wedding, funeral or buffalo sick in each village almost every week. If it is not general drama with loan sharks, debts or medical. And most times all these costs actually go to alcohol for those events lol, you essentially pay for a party you are not attending. Coffins are cheap.

[Cameroni]

4 hours ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

 

I understand. Gather round me son. Let's talk. I can see you are in pain, dazed, confused and in need of guidance.

 

See, there are two kinds of women.  Firstly, there are those women who want to use you for money fast, ie in the short term. Secondly, there are those women who want to use you for money slow, ie for the long term. Now, your first encounter with a Thai girl was with a girl we would technically call a cheap whore, ie one of the women in the first category. How can you tell? Well, apart from the fact she worked as a prostitute in a bar, she tried to hit you up for money in the short order after a short period of time. This the typical modus operandi of the whore.

 

But actually this is not the most dangerous kind of woman. You could have been really unlucky and chanced upon a woman who is much smarter. A woman who wants to use you for money slow, ie for the long term. She would make you fall in love, profess her devotion and love of course, whilst hiding she is dating other guys, much like the whore in the first category.  Now this woman in the second category, she is more cunning. She will not ask for money for a loooong time. Instead she will eventually say for example how badly the family business is doing. Or that her sister does not have money to go to school. But only after trapping you in a relationship for long enough that she feels she can sink her fangs into your wallet eventually. And she will. You will cave, because you think she is not a whore, she is a good woman, she just needs money. However, she is a woman, so all she wants is your resources. Not your looks. Not your body. Not your heart. Not even your love. She wants your resources.

 

Always remember this son.

 

And go with God.

[norsurin]

One of my mistress asked me for 300 baht for gasoline.I gave her that after she called on a video call and i saw she was at a gas station.Normally never ask anything from me when im abroad.What I pay her for a night is higher of course.And dinner and some drinks too.She only stay for a night sometimes because she have to go home to her husband whos an old foreigner that have problem with his tool.I stay in sukumvit quiet far up...she lives in nonthaburi and another in lopburi.They arrive by taximeter that i pay when taxi arrive and pay their return taxi too of course.Nothing serious..pure fun.Their both in middle fourties and that's what i prefer.

[gargamon]

Oh, joy. Another bot.

[bkk6060]

If she is popular she will have many guys on her Social media account.  Many girls then will "send to all" hoping to get a few guys to bite and send them money.  So, a lot of times it is not even a personal message to you.  I would send her nothing and stop contact with her.  If you go back to Phuket, there is a good chance she will seem happy to see you again.

[SAFETY FIRST]

8 hours ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht

Send her the money, her mother is in hospital. 

 

Why don't you ask some of the members here to chip in and help, they're always attacking me for my comments, I bet we have a few here who would like to help. 😂

 

Come on loud mouths, chip in, you know who you are. 

 

[motdaeng]

7 hours ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

 I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

 

trolling ...  going to a bar every evening also your first time doing that after visiting thailand a few times already? 

[HappyExpat57]

11 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

If she is popular she will have many guys on her Social media account.  Many girls then will "send to all" hoping to get a few guys to bite and send them money.  So, a lot of times it is not even a personal message to you.  I would send her nothing and stop contact with her.  If you go back to Phuket, there is a good chance she will seem happy to see you again.

My idiot son, living in Washington State, was sending money to a bar girl in Pattaya who he had never even met IRL. When I heard that, I actually took a trip to the bar (she WAS cute) and asked her if she knew this guy with my son's name. Of COURSE she replied, "Huh?" He stopped sending money, but that's just one of thousands or maybe even millions around the globe. 

 

P. T. Barnum's "There's a sucker born every minute" comes to mind.

[thesetat]

8 hours ago, johng said:

 

Don't send any money  she will soon stop messaging..and if she doesn't well

then maybe you got a keeper.

doubtful

[steven100]

9 hours ago, Magpiefan1892 said:

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

was there any sick buffalo involved   ?