She has started asking for money

[NorthernRyland]

52 minutes ago, short-Timer said:

There is absolutely nothing wrong with whatever amount of money she asks for.
 

She is just being good at her job, which is to extract as much money as possible from foreign men in exchange for the occasional use of her three inches of real estate. 

 

I actually agree with this.

 

The game she's playing is: If I put out can I seduce the guy and get some money or do I get pumped and dumped? It can go either way.

[Cameroni]

19 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

most women will want property as a sign of commitment. its a sign that the man will stick around for the long haul. 

 

the word whore gets used a lot. actually, some of these girls are struggling to support a child without a father and do want to stay with one man who will support them. one girl had expectations of commitment from a foreign guy, but she found him cheating. this side of the story doesn't get mentioned on here. and they don't all have a bunch of guys they're getting money from. only some of them do that. 

 

 

Yes, that's true. Not all women have a multitude of sponsors. But even if she does not, it does not mean she will not cheat behind your back. Particularly if you do not offer her a financial reward. Even if you give her a comfortable life, women have a treasure chest mentality, they want to fill that chest with gold. For them.

 

As you VERY, VERY, VERY correctly state, most women want to buy a house. I have lost count of the amount of women who wanted to buy a house. Literally all of them.

 

If you don't do that, even  if you give them a comfortable life, she will be unhappy. She wants that treasure chest filled. She is thinking about the future, her family, her child, etc etc. So, the smart move is to not buy the house for a loooong time. Cause once you do, what can you offer her then?

[Boulderman]

Dude dont give her any money. You barely know this chick. Move on buddy, plenty of other fish in the sea.

[kevin612]

Just want your money, don’t send it. Unless you and she live together.

[RetiredNavy71]

On 3/11/2025 at 8:56 AM, Cameroni said:

 

THIS is a red flag? The fact she is a bar prostitujte was A OK though?

That ship has sailed my friend.  If it were me I wouldn't pursue it any further and part on good terms 

[Phil1964]

Simple. Bin her off.

She only sees you as a walking ATM.

Drop her quick, walk away and look for a better more suited partner to be your girl.

 

[Toby1947]

Take steps to stop it, fooking big uns in the opposite direction. 🤣😅🤣

[olongapo]

You did notjust meet a Thai girl, you met a prostitute.

[HK MacPhooey]

On 3/12/2025 at 12:42 AM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Is it really free because my dad (a farang) who lives in Thailand has to have medical insurance and pay for medical bills. 

Why would an insurance scheme designed for Thai people cater for farangs and even if it did it would be the most basic medical care - most Thais also have their own medical insurance so they can access the private system...

[Andycoops]

Just wait for the vet bills to come in for the sick buffalo, 555

[AustinRacing]

You say your dad lives in Udon. I’m sure he’ll advise you on how to handle this. The fact that you’re asking questions is a good sign. 

[FritsSikkink]

On 3/11/2025 at 11:42 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Is it really free because my dad (a farang) who lives in Thailand has to have medical insurance and pay for medical bills. 

Read the comment properly, Free for THAI people.

[black tabby12345]

When romance/friendship is over, soliciting starts.

Pretty common phenomenon in SE Asia.

Also often  between Old(er)  Foreign Man and local woman(younger or Lot Younger than the man)...

[bbbbooboo]

hmm… ask for money = goodbye. This is the golden rule for bar girls. Dont ever veer from it

 

[erectem]

On 3/11/2025 at 9:26 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

So enjoy!!

[erectem]

4 hours ago, Phil1964 said:

Simple. Bin her off.

She only sees you as a walking ATM.

Drop her quick, walk away and look for a better more suited partner to be your girl.

 

At a different bar!

[BusyB]

On 3/12/2025 at 12:20 AM, steven100 said:

was there any sick buffalo involved   ?   

 

Aah the good ol' days. Sick buffalos are so much more romantic. They conjure up bucolic village scenes of the family wiping it down with damp straw to cool it by gaslight, with a small fire of buffalo turds smoking in the corner to fend off the mozzies. The stricken family looking on like the adoration of the maji, mama moaning, monks chanting .... 

[jingjai9]

Just chalk it up to experience and you will be better prepared for the next time. 

[Brick Top]

On 3/11/2025 at 11:08 PM, proton said:

Medical expenses is the new buffalo sick, most medical treatment is free for Thai's under the 30 baht scheme. If asked offer to pay the Hospital direct!

That's exactly what I was just gong to write  

[ifmu]

On 3/11/2025 at 9:26 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

because him and others have seen this over and over and over and we can not believe how gullible  americans can be ............. oh wait half of us went maga  ...

[ChaiyaTH]

They are also good in creating costs aka the uncle has free hospital care and can take a 1 hour bus for 40 baht with 1 relate BUT they decide to go with the diesel slurping pickup truck as well as 7 people, who all then not work too, and need to eat, making the entire ordeal now cost 2000 baht.

 

Even most of those costs would not be direct costs, it is missed income, and this always snowballs over to then have shortages later on again. It is a never-ending cycle due to having a traditional family structure with helping out while most abuse that in the modern world.

[Robin]

So, she is asking for money;  What did you expect?  A girl who speaks English, working in a bar is almost certainly some kind of amateur prostitute,  If you are happy with you relationship with her and consider you are getting "value for money" from whatever she does with you, hen as it is your money, no reason not to pay up..The fact that you are asking this question here suggests that you have doubts about her intentions.  Up to you to make up your own mind and spend your money as you want.

Only people on this forum who have never given any money to a bar girl have the right to  object to your behaviour.

[JackGats]

Tell her you'll give her money when you meet again and in exchange for the same services. In that way you get off the hook and don't really lose her unless she wants to.

[freedomnow]

On 3/11/2025 at 4:42 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Is it really free because my dad (a farang) who lives in Thailand has to have medical insurance and pay for medical bills. 

Is he THAI ? Did not think so. Therefore your reply to that comment is irrelevent since it pertainted to free medical help for THAIS.

[brianburi]

17 minutes ago, freedomnow said:

Is he THAI ? Did not think so. Therefore your reply to that comment is irrelevent since it pertainted to free medical help for THAIS.

He never mentioned his Dad received free medical treatment. 
Invest in a dictionary too…….

[Dan747]

RUN MEME; 

 

[sambum]

On 3/11/2025 at 8:49 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

 

How about the buffalo? Is that OK?

[BexMan]

Not very Suttle asking outright for the 8k. She could have just mentioned her Mothers expenses and left it to your conscience. 

I would jog on, plenty more fish in the sea.

[it is what it is]

 

recently found out the GF has been offered 13 million baht for some land, add that to all the property and investments she has and i'd guess her assets are currently worth over £1m GBP, and that doesn't take into account the value of her various businesses. so no, she doesn't ask me for money 🤣

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, it is what it is said:

 

recently found out the GF has been offered 13 million baht for some land, add that to all the property and investments she has and i'd guess her assets are currently worth over £1m GBP, and that doesn't take into account the value of her various businesses. so no, she doesn't ask me for money 🤣

you're one of the smart farangs in the minority.

you date up the social ladder, not down the social ladder like most of us.