I Love to Touch You When We Walk: But,..."OK in Thailand"?

[richard_smith237]

1 hour ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

Quite rare, actually, on campus.

If you doubt this, then just walk on campus and count 1000 couples walking together, and then report how many were holding hands, arms, or whatever.

I know the answer, because I have already collected this data.

And, my data supports my conclusion.

 

 

Walking around the malls in Bangkok, I'd say - 1 in 20 to 1 in 10 couples, holding hands or the wife (or GF) holding the husbands (or BF's) arm...    Thats probably a similar number to the UK...   and doesn't really highlight a significant social difference from that specific perspective....

 

 

[GinBoy2]

I've been with MrsG for decades.

 

Of course we hold hands at times, but it's generally in intimate situations, and no I don't mean sex.

 

But we're not teenagers and walking in the street, I'd say she'll hold my arm, which is sweet and an appropriate show of affection for folks of our age 

[rabang]

My Thai exes were both much more willing to show affection in public than I have ever been. At least they didn't hold back at all.

[spidermike007]

5 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

So it had to be learned and did not come naturally as part of living in this society.

I agree with you.

 

Correct. As you know most Thais are incredibly self conscious and scared of what others think. Some of it has to do with just a very tribal mentality some of it has to do with a lack of self-esteem. 

 

If you're lucky you get a good one who's open to change and Improvement. If you are incredibly fortunate you get one who is the same lovely woman from one day to the next. She has a smile on her face when she wakes up in the morning. Never experienced that in the states. Some Thais manifest that unbearable lightness of being, that is so delightful to be around. I cannot really get enough of that spirit, and feel so blessed to be around that, and to have found such a well adjusted and delightful creature.

[spidermike007]

5 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

What would make a woman worthy of your devotion? Apart from PDAs  I mean.

That's quite a loaded question and it would probably take about 2 days to answer it properly, but I think it's safe to say that we're all looking for specific qualities, somebody who has your back, somebody who is devoted, kind, loving, affectionate, honest, caring, has a great sense of humor and a playful spirit, and a lot of fun to be around. The list goes on and on. Mine came from a very good family, really solid people, and she's just a very kind, decent human being.

 

I realize I got lucky but for those of us with self-esteem we owe it to ourselves to spend the time and display the patience required to find one who is truly worthy of our devotion, don't you agree?

[GammaGlobulin]

4 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

So with literally every single response tell you you how mistaken you are... 

 

... You don't believe anyone and will only accept your erroneous impression if you see it with your own eyes...

 

I'm not even sure you'd believe your own eyes at this stage... 

 

Seeing is believing.

I have not seen it yet around here.

 

Of course, when a couple ride on a motorbike, then it is possible to touch.

Still, most girls don't hold on tightly or romantically enough.

 

[it is what it is]

 

does the OP actually live in thailand? indeed, has he ever visited the place? if he does, or has, he clearly failed to grasp even the most basic behavior of people here.

 

such cultural ignorance often comes from those spending all their time in bars, then spouting about a thailand they have never experienced, usually in a negative way.

[KhunLA]

6 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

So then.

You sometimes wear shorts in public?

And, do you flaunt your knobby knees at the young girls, too?

 

Yea, most of the time, I'm walking around in short pants, since comfy.   Usually just me and the dog knocking around,  few people about.   If going shopping or out to eat, then long pants.   

 

Never wear t-shirts any more, or when I was younger.   Always a button down collar shirt, parents rules and stuck.   Had a short t-shirt phase.

 

I don't have knobby knees, and the young girls still smile at me 😉

[rough diamond]

6 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

Quite rare, actually, on campus.

If you doubt this, then just walk on campus and count 1000 couples walking together, and then report how many were holding hands, arms, or whatever.

I know the answer, because I have already collected this data.

And, my data supports my conclusion.

 

So you have spent time on campus conducting a "study" and collecting "data" on how many couples there were on campus and how many were holding hands etc.  Do the management of the campus know that they have a potential pervert on campus?

Did you also conduct the same sort of "studies" in other areas of CM and the rest of Thailand?

 

Please do not bother to publish your so called "data" as so called "proof" of your warped so called mind.

[bkk6060]

Not really sure about this just about every Thai girl I date has no issues with affection in public.  In fact, many times they initiate it.

[Cameroni]

3 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

That's quite a loaded question and it would probably take about 2 days to answer it properly, but I think it's safe to say that we're all looking for specific qualities, somebody who has your back, somebody who is devoted, kind, loving, affectionate, honest, caring, has a great sense of humor and a playful spirit, and a lot of fun to be around. The list goes on and on. Mine came from a very good family, really solid people, and she's just a very kind, decent human being.

 

I realize I got lucky but for those of us with self-esteem we owe it to ourselves to spend the time and display the patience required to find one who is truly worthy of our devotion, don't you agree?

 

I absolutely agree, and as you say, it is a long and complicated list of qualities that is particular and very individual, what one person finds important another may not. I was just wondering if there are common threads, qualities that all men seek, and I think there are. The things you mentioned like devotion, ie loyalty, kindness, affectionate nature, caring, fun an humour, I would say these are universal.

[spidermike007]

When I grew up if you liked guys you were either gay or bisexual. Now?

 

The US and the UK are by far the most tolerant countries in the world when it comes to the whole trans, non-binary, amorosexual, decide whatever you want today, if it fits mentality. No other countries are as loose, driftless, and as silly as the US, and the UK. 

 

When a woman devotes her entire youth to a sport, and becomes one of the best in that particular area, and then a man comes along who decides to identify as a woman, and steals all the awards, all the victories, and all the accolades, something is not right in society. Something is broken, society has become morally bankrupt, and there has to be a pause, there has to be an interruption of the nonsense.

 

No woman would survive more than 30 minutes in the NFL. Women will not participate in men's sports because they won't be able to handle the physical endurance required, nor the brutality, nor the talent level. A woman ranked #5 on the WTA could not beat a #758 man on the ATP as John McEnroe so truthfully stated.

 

Hopefully all this craziness will pass and we'll return to some form of normalcy and indecency. 

[kingstonkid]

On 4/24/2025 at 7:14 AM, GammaGlobulin said:

Dear Folks,

 

When truly in love, most people love to touch when they walk.

 

In fact, when in love, how can any couple help from touching….

When they walk?

 

Normally, you might wish to touch when you walk.

 

However, in Thailand, touching while walking is not acceptable.

 

We know why, of course.

 

And so, the question is:

 

Do you abide by local social norms?

 

And, do you avoid touching when you walk?

 

(Personally speaking….Yes.  I do avoid touching when I walk. I try to fit in here, and I accept social norms.)

 

Or, as the old song goes:

 

 

Would you love to touch Roxanne when you walk?

Assuming there actually WERE a Roxanne in Thailand?

 

Maybe it is OK in some tourist areas to touch when walking.

But, I think it might NOT be OK in other areas of Thailand.

 

Sometimes, I feel like squeezing, pinching, even goosing,...and not just touching.

But, I never do.

Not even playfully.

 

However…

Do you?

 

Best regards,

Gamma

 

Note: Roxanne will ALWAYS be my friend….forever.....

 

 

 

 

I think your no touching premise is dated 

 

Holding hands has been okay and is very prevalent in Thai society. Also being close together.  Arm around waist seems to be catching on

 

 

For me holding hands is constant as I am touchy feely 

 

 

[Grumpy one]

My wife keeps a firm grip on my arm when we go out.

Not sure if she thinks I may go arse up on the road, or get up to no good  

[JensenZ]

17 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

If you see a couple touching while walking, then you are not looking at a Thai couple.

Could be Chinese young people, or some very OLD Farang dude with his significant other from Pattaya.

 

Do you come from another planet? Thai woman love to hold their partners' hands IF they like them. If you have problems with females holding your hand in public, you're the problem.

 

Age difference—no problems. I'm 65, and my 26-year-old girlfriend always wanted to hold my hand. My current 33-year-old girlfriend won't go anywhere without holding my hand. Many casual dates also loved to hold hands.

 

Just use the test. Let her initiate hand-holding. If she doesn't want to touch you or hold your hand, then you're with the wrong lady.

 

I'm always in major tourist locations. I can't speak for what happens in a small rural town, aka Nakonsanowhere.

[GammaGlobulin]

3 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Always a button down collar shirt,

 

This is the very least we can do.

Not only for Thailand, but for ourselves, as well.

Hate that muscle shirt crowd, with a passion...!!!

[GammaGlobulin]

5 hours ago, it is what it is said:

 

does the OP actually live in thailand? indeed, has he ever visited the place? if he does, or has, he clearly failed to grasp even the most basic behavior of people here.

 

such cultural ignorance often comes from those spending all their time in bars, then spouting about a thailand they have never experienced, usually in a negative way.

 

1971 was the year of my first arrival in Thailand.

More water buffalo back then, for sure.

Plenty of touching going on between USA military personnel.

 

[jippytum]

i love to see aging beer bellied Foreigners  holding hands with their younger Escort on the way to th ATM. 

 

[dinsdale]

On 4/24/2025 at 7:14 AM, GammaGlobulin said:

However, in Thailand, touching while walking is not acceptable.

Rubbish. Although in the past this was the case times have changed.

[rwill]

A few decades ago you would see men walking with arms around each other.  Same with women.  But it was very rare to see a man and woman touching while walking.  It had nothing to do with sexuality.

 

But that has changed in recent times.  Much more common now to see couples walking around holding each other than to see a group of friends walking around embraced.

[GammaGlobulin]

26 minutes ago, rwill said:

A few decades ago you would see men walking with arms around each other.  Same with women.  But it was very rare to see a man and woman touching while walking.  It had nothing to do with sexuality.

 

But that has changed in recent times.  Much more common now to see couples walking around holding each other than to see a group of friends walking around embraced.

 

This is why I never go to BKK.

I yearn for the  good old days.

 

This is why I DO live in CM.

Here in CM, the youth/adults have not yet been so corrupted by the West.

Here, we still retain Thai culture and traditional, long-tested norms of behavior in public.

 

Even these days, women here do NOT act like western women, or some BKK women, for that matter.

 

And, this is a good thing. We do not need the loose morals that began in BKK and Pattaya soon after the influx of the GIs, and, more recently,

The tourists.

 

Also, Social Media is negatively impacting public displays of affection by causing Thai people to become westernized when there is absolutely...

No reason for this.

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

1 hour ago, jippytum said:

i love to see aging beer bellied Foreigners  holding hands with their younger Escort on the way to th ATM. 

 

 

YES....

 

THIS one thing, I DO VERY MUCH LOVE to watch.

 

Such charming couples, one and all.

 

 

[1FinickyOne]

when I see farang guys walking around being overly - that is the key word here - overly - overly affectionate with a young Thai cutie - it always makes me think of a dog peeing to mark its turf... 

[Dexxter]

My Thai wife will often walk just behind me in public and put her hand on my shoulder to keep close especially in crowded areas. She will never hold hands while walking because it seems to be a taboo for her. At home we are touching almost all the time. When we sit on the sofa watching TV or playing around on our phones she will always drape her legs over my lap and snuggle close. I like her doing that.

[GammaGlobulin]

27 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

when I see farang guys walking around being overly - that is the key word here - overly - overly affectionate with a young Thai cutie - it always makes me think of a dog peeing to mark its turf... 

 

So true!!!

 

Or, some old fat farang giving a young Thai woman a hickey, sucking like an old vampire, just to let others know what he's done.

 

No class, whatsoever, and so very JUVENILE...

 

[GammaGlobulin]

1 minute ago, Dexxter said:

My Thai wife will often walk just behind me in public and put her hand on my shoulder to keep close especially in crowded areas.

 

Yes.

THIS is the Thai way.

And, it's GREAT.

 

You are a lucky person.

[JensenZ]

2 hours ago, rwill said:

A few decades ago you would see men walking with arms around each other.  Same with women.  But it was very rare to see a man and woman touching while walking.  It had nothing to do with sexuality.

 

But that has changed in recent times.  Much more common now to see couples walking around holding each other than to see a group of friends walking around embraced.

A few decades ago? Really? I've been here for 2 decades, and nothing has changed. Holding hands is as normal and acceptable today as it was 2 decades ago. Maybe you've been here for over a century. I have no idea how people behaved back then LOL

 

 

[JensenZ]

2 hours ago, GammaGlobulin said:

 

YES....

 

THIS one thing, I DO VERY MUCH LOVE to watch.

 

Such charming couples, one and all.

 

 

 

So you sit around ATMs watching foreigners withdrawing money for their girlfriends. This is something you love to do. This is aberrant behaviour. It's a good thing you're far away in CM. Please stay there.

[1FinickyOne]

1 hour ago, Dexxter said:

My Thai wife will often walk just behind me in public

One very smart Thai lady told me that a Thai lady walks behind her man only to keep him in line... [with a stick]