Broke Up With The Bubble Tea Girl… But How Bad Is This Move?

[123Stodg]

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

[Bill97]

Stupid, really stupid.

[Celsius]

6 minutes ago, 123Stodg said:

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

 

Wow.....what a story!

 

And no.... I don't think anyone else has been through anything like this especially in Thailand. 

 

What a story to tell your grandkids, wow

 

Have you heard my story about bumgun? That's another story i like to tell my mates none of them believes such a device exists

[Magictoad]

14 minutes ago, 123Stodg said:

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

Long story short? Not!

[freedomnow]

You met a new g/f younger than you in Bkk that knows your ex, and then....what ?

 

Overthinking....public broadcast of nothingburger news. 

Wimpy little drink place chix are not going to do anything to you.

[lamyai3]

If you started paying 30k a month around the time of your earlier thread, you've still got a week's paid rent before you need to take off on the 22nd. 

 

 

[short-Timer]

15 minutes ago, lamyai3 said:

If you started paying 30k a month around the time of your earlier thread, you've still got a week's paid rent before you need to take off on the 22nd. 

 

 

Your maths is a bit off. We are midway into July now, not June. Check your calendar. His last post was May 26. That's about 50 days ago. Almost 2 months. 
 

But if it was me, I wouldn't care about the money part. If I wanted out of an arrangement then I would just get out. But then again, I would never get into this kind of messy situation to begin with. Dating her friend sounds like an amateur hour move to me. 

[lamyai3]

1 minute ago, short-Timer said:

Your maths is a bit off. We are midway into July now, not June. Check your calendar. His last post was May 26. That's about 50 days ago. Almost 2 months. 

 

That's what I meant, 60k down so far but still a week or so until the rent falls due. 

 

3 minutes ago, short-Timer said:

But then again, I would never get into this kind of messy situation to begin with. 

 

Now we're on the same page 555

[tjintx]

Older friend will want more than 30k a month (more experience, water buffalo more sicker, family more bigger).   My offer still stands, for 20k a month, I'll be your friend.   Please consider.

[short-Timer]

24 minutes ago, tjintx said:

My offer still stands, for 20k a month, I'll be your friend.   Please consider.

You mean like friends with benefits? 

[Fat is a type of crazy]

This guy joined when a whole lot started posting a bit over a year ago. They had numbers in their name. Within 3 days of Socal1990. Most gave up but a few stodgy ones hanging in there. Not sure if for dollars or it's one bored person. 

[fredwiggy]

Never date a friend of an ex lover unless she introduces you thinking you're a better match. In that case you might not be the right man for her, but if she sees you as a good man, she might think her friend would be happy with someone more her type.

[KhaoHom]

7 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

 

Sounds like you've discovered women...at 50 😂

 

[thesetat]

7 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore.

How can there be a spark or interest when she brings giving a salary for her to continue with her? 

7 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all.

If there is any drama, you can be sure it will be kept between your ex and her friend. Personally, i do not see anything wrong with you dating her friend. She may be drawn to you simply because of how your EX talked about you to her. Or perhaps, she also will see you as a walking ATM machine as well. 

One thing is clear, you gave the other girl money because you broke up with her. So you are clearly willing to do it again. Stupid move. 

[JensenZ]

6 hours ago, short-Timer said:

Your maths is a bit off. We are midway into July now, not June. Check your calendar. His last post was May 26. That's about 50 days ago. Almost 2 months. 
 

But if it was me, I wouldn't care about the money part. If I wanted out of an arrangement then I would just get out. But then again, I would never get into this kind of messy situation to begin with. Dating her friend sounds like an amateur hour move to me. 

It's no horror movie. What is the relationship between the 2 girls? "Friend" can have many different meanings and is a term used very loosely in Thailand (the English version of it). My girlfriend calls her new colleague at a new job a "friend" after just a week, simply because they work at the same place and sometimes have lunch together.

 

A lot of these "friends" will backstab each other to get to a foreigner. It's dog-eat-dog, or more aptly, friend-eat-friend, when it comes to nabbing a foreigner. It could have gone the other way just as easily. 

 

I don't know the age difference and didn't read the original story (OP - next time, post a link to your original story), but if there is no money forthcoming in this relationship, it'll end soon enough. Perhaps the first girl is relieved to be done with the OP?

 

 

[ColeBOzbourne]

9 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Long story short,

I saw six more paragraphs after that little porky, so I stopped reading. 

[Cameroni]

Ah, the BTS chat up. So underrated, yet so fertile. For some reason girls love to be chatted when travelling on the BTS. 

[TimBKK]

Nobody cares

[bamnutsak]

Don't give up your day-job writing letters to Penthouse.

 

Maybe spruce up your Mom's basement?

 

[novacova]

9 hours ago, Bill97 said:

Stupid, really stupid.

Well doesn’t that imply some level of intelligence? How about a bucket of rocks.

[JoseThailand]

Better tell us more about your escapades with ladyboys! Your posting history reveals much more interesting details than this made-up crap!

[JoseThailand]

3 hours ago, KhaoHom said:

Sounds like you've discovered women...at 50 😂

 

 

Check out his posts about wild nights with ladyboys

[KannikaP]

10 hours ago, Celsius said:

Wow.....what a story!

What a NON story. OP finds That GF, after a while finshes with her and  starts shagging her mate. So what.

[atpeace]

10 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

You have already done it and telling us all that you are enjoying it.  What is the point of ending it now?  Have fun and deal with the consequences.  You seem the needy type looking for next big thing.  This new relationship is a great fix!  Have fun...

[Negita43]

You should arrange to meet up with Louie or Bob - the mid boggles at what the two or three of you could come up with.

[Will B Good]

4 hours ago, Cameroni said:

Ah, the BTS chat up. So underrated, yet so fertile. For some reason girls love to be chatted when travelling on the BTS. 

 

Won't tell my story here....but, oh boy....yes!!!

 

I only went from Nana to Asoke.....!!!

[Keeps]

14 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

You'll get yours when your ex finds out.

 

That is as sure as the sun coming up in the morning or an Aussie being reported on here tomorrow for misbehaving. We all know it's gonna happen.....

[DaRoadrunner]

You've had your last bubble tea.

[short-Timer]

15 minutes ago, DaRoadrunner said:

You've had your last bubble tea.

Sounds more like things could bubble over.

[short-Timer]

9 hours ago, KhaoHom said:

 

Sounds like you've discovered women...at 50 😂

 

Didn't see anywhere that he states he's 50. Maybe he's 70. Or only 30...