October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post 11 hours ago, Hummin said: I do share the same thoughts, spineless activity I get plenty of thumbs down. Who cares? Start your own Youtube channel. You will get a bunch of thumbs down and you will also have to deal with people attacking what you say in the comments section. Obviously, you wouldn't last very long if you react negatively every time someone criticizes you. Nothing spineless about it. And anyway, when I criticize you with a response, you don't like it either. So it has nothing to do with the thumbs down being spineless. It has to do with you expect people to agree with and like everything you say. It's a feature on many social media sites. It's a "vote". What's the difference people coming on here and hating on Trump? That's ok, but when people hate on you it's not ok? It's all good in 'da hood.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post Well, it depends with a complicated topic like this. There is reasonable assistance and there are lies in order to rob people. We have all heard the nonsense requests with no evidence, and they are promptly rejected by the sane or experienced. Once you have been here for a fair while you get a nose for the BS and you can spot it (even if you never quite get used to the tsunami of lies you generally encounter). If you are just asked for money and it goes into some black hole/the ether and is never mentioned again, with no thanks, or respect etc., then you can sense it and dismiss it... best thing to do is to cultivate a culture or image appearance of not really having any money other than for the essentials, and being able and strong enough to say "I haven't got it" etc., regardless of the truth. Trouble is, many foreigners can't help but big-themselves-up to appeal to their vanity and vainglory... bad idea. However, on the flipside, say helping a nephew or niece etc. with school fees or some such endeavor is a worthy thing to do, just have to go along to the school and pay yourself, as transfering funds and expecting people to do what they tell you they will do is for the noobs and a fool's errand. Although, all this is a personal call about you as an individual regarding what is okay within your financial parameters... and helping people to build a future where they don't need help is a reasonable thing to do, whether it's making your wife financially independent through a small business or some kid in the family getting an education so their future is better. I guess you just need to have reasonable judgement and experience... a girlfriend you have had for less than a year or two starts pressuring you for money often for the family is clearly BS, but a wife of 10 or more years that wants to start a business or help educate a family member is a different matter.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 2 hours ago, Kinnock said: We tried for a while, but stopped as it created too many issues. My Missus is the youngest in a large family, and we helped with small amounts to tide them over until pay day or to clear debts to reduce the crazy interest rates charged by the local loan sharks. My wife managed the larger amounts as interest free loans, and they all repaid on time. But it was never enough. The elder family members felt they had a right to be in a better position in life than their youngest sibling, so they expected her to give them everything to preserve their privileged position as the elders. So helping them out with a few thousand baht, or even refinancing loans was not enough and it created intense resentment. One by one the jealous rage from family members forced my wife to stop all contact, which saved us money and hassle. We still helped to support her Mother until she passed, but that's all. My wife helps to run our business, so has her own money, and several of the younger generation works in our business part time, so they can earn extra money, but no more 'free money' to the family. When one Marry’s into a SE Asian family, they have to understand before hand that they are marrying the family as well. But, what you have done is create something the family can work in and earn their own money, making them self sufficient - thats the ticket in any successful marraige. Good for you.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post I am very proud to support a young lady i have known for almost 15 years. In UNI now working on her masters in robotics/computer programming. Nearly always top of the class and has won a lot of first prizes building robots and writing code. She is my hero and when ever she needs/wants money for a new project i always support her. Is there a better way to spend my money? I find being able to help someones dream come true makes me feel happy for her.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post 18 hours ago, Harrisfan said: Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? Nope.....they know I'm from Yorkshire.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post 1 hour ago, Harrisfan said: Who gave the emojis? You seem to be asking yourself as you are responding to yourself! Don't you know/realize why you get so many deservedly negative emojis/comments?
October 1, 2025Oct 1 1 hour ago, save the frogs said: I get plenty of thumbs down. Who cares? Start your own Youtube channel. You will get a bunch of thumbs down and you will also have to deal with people attacking what you say in the comments section. Obviously, you wouldn't last very long if you react negatively every time someone criticizes you. Nothing spineless about it. And anyway, when I criticize you with a response, you don't like it either. So it has nothing to do with the thumbs down being spineless. It has to do with you expect people to agree with and like everything you say. It's a feature on many social media sites. It's a "vote". What's the difference people coming on here and hating on Trump? That's ok, but when people hate on you it's not ok? It's all good in 'da hood. Calm down, it is those who only manage to stalk and give a thumbs down no matter what you post! Criticism I have no problem with, and do reply to you when you criticize me, and not just give you a simple thumbs down.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 11 hours ago, Hummin said: Calm down, it is those who only manage to stalk and give a thumbs down no matter what you post! Criticism I have no problem with, and do reply to you when you criticize me, and not just give you a simple thumbs down. You need to calm down too. There's idiots on here. It's the way it is. You say it in a tweet, it's a cop out.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 21 minutes ago, save the frogs said: You need to calm down too. There's idiots on here. It's the way it is. You say it in a tweet, it's a cop out. Im as calm as I can 😄 have a nice day, enjoy Taylor Swift, she have a good fan base here at the forum btw.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 The ones I share a bloodline with, never. The parasitic losers I married into know better.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 No, when first meeting present wife, they all have more money & assets than me. First Thai wife, they got the message fast, don't bother. Might have contributed to very short marriage. I learned how to say 'NO' over 50 yrs ago
October 1, 2025Oct 1 8 hours ago, actonion said: No chance, And never Buy /Rent a House with more then 2 Bedrooms, other wise unlimited Family arrive for an extended Holiday, especially at Songkran, Second bedroom no Air Con too Present house has 1 bedroom, since kid went away to Uni before built. Previous 2 houses had 2 bedrooms.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post 8 hours ago, actonion said: No chance, And never Buy /Rent a House with more then 2 Bedrooms, other wise unlimited Family arrive for an extended Holiday, especially at Songkran, Second bedroom no Air Con too Oh dear!! Wife has just built a "guest house" in the back garden........😮
October 1, 2025Oct 1 11 hours ago, KhunLA said: First Thai wife, they got the message fast, don't bother. Might have contributed to very short marriage. Exactly. If you keep saying no, the family might talk the wife into ending it behind your back.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 17 minutes ago, Will B Good said: Oh dear!! Wife has just built a "guest house" in the back garden........😮 That's a good thing, or? All I can say, know your wife family before you marry. Took me 3 years before investing in my wife, and 7 years before I married her, so hopefully I do.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Popular Post 20 hours ago, Harrisfan said: Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? No. I do it quite voluntarily as it's the right thing to do. Better than being a stingy miser.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 On 9/30/2025 at 10:37 AM, Harrisfan said: Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? I just watched this recently. This guy is avoiding marriage in Thailand. The main reason is too many financial demands from the extended family.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 Author 1 hour ago, save the frogs said: I just watched this recently. This guy is avoiding marriage in Thailand. The main reason is too many financial demands from the extended family. Parasites
October 1, 2025Oct 1 16 hours ago, Mason45 said: He has a wife, his own house and a 3 yo son and a very good job, there's not many young people like him in Thailand. There are many young Thai people, probably hundreds of thousands, maybe millions, with a wife, child, house and a good job, he is nothing unusual.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 15 hours ago, bunnydrops said: I know a guy who, after getting a divorce from his wife, had her parents come to his door wanting to know when they would be getting their monthly check. Yeah, 'course you do.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 At some point you will have to support the monthly installments of the bike payments of the hidden brother of the lady you cater to...and of course pay for those never ending holes in the roof, the bad crops, the sick mother and so on...well if buying Love makes some westerners happy, let them...their money after all.
October 1, 2025Oct 1 8 hours ago, Harrisfan said: Who gave the emojis? Perhaps they thought that your question was ridiculous and personal but why do you care?
October 2, 2025Oct 2 15 hours ago, connda said: No. I do it quite voluntarily as it's the right thing to do. Better than being a stingy miser. I am much older than my Thai wife. My finances are such that I have a current income pegged to the 65K+ retirement extension. So what I can give to my wife currently is certain. What is NOT certain currently is what my wife would receive upon my demise.
October 2, 2025Oct 2 On 10/1/2025 at 6:05 PM, Hummin said: That's a good thing, or? All I can say, know your wife family before you marry. Took me 3 years before investing in my wife, and 7 years before I married her, so hopefully I do. Married after three days together....that was 20 years ago. Never invested anything in SWMBO other than day to day food and travel.
October 2, 2025Oct 2 On 9/30/2025 at 9:37 PM, Harrisfan said: Do you get asked to support the extended family or know of people who do? Ok, let's start with how much are you getting fleeced for every month and then we can go from there?
October 2, 2025Oct 2 On 10/1/2025 at 4:25 AM, jvs said: I am very proud to support a young lady i have known for almost 15 years. In UNI now working on her masters in robotics/computer programming. Nearly always top of the class and has won a lot of first prizes building robots and writing code. She is my hero and when ever she needs/wants money for a new project i always support her. Is there a better way to spend my money? I find being able to help someones dream come true makes me feel happy for her. Did you meet her in high school or is she a university student pushing 40? Masters in computers and robotics, but no job yet after 15 years. Something to be proud of 😆
October 2, 2025Oct 2 On 10/1/2025 at 12:57 AM, Hummin said: We support each other 😉 They work for us and when we are not there they live on our farm and make sure everything stays the same as we where there. They would be taking more than they are giving back , guaranteed
October 2, 2025Oct 2 26 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said: They would be taking more than they are giving back , guaranteed Good observation from Pattaya 👏 or most likely down under replying at this time of the clock
October 2, 2025Oct 2 58 minutes ago, Hummin said: Good observation from Pattaya 👏 or most likely down under replying at this time of the clock Oh it hit a nerve darl did it You been used abused and they took more ,that's because your a trusting kind guy who gets walked over Obviously your not Israeli, oh don't be racist !
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