Bar Girl invites me to go on holiday with her, is this a scam?

[Bonobojt]

I received a message from a women on an online dating website and after texting with her on Line I learn she is a bar girl in Bangkok, she told me she found out her boyfriend cheated on her so she ran away and became a bar girl, she's only been doing it for 4 weeks,  she told me she is going to phuket in 2 months for holiday and has invited me, now I know the rule, never get emotionally involved with a bar girl, but I know I would never do anything stupid like give her money or marry her, we are just friends. But I'm worried she could be scamming me, I don't know, what do you guys think? She's sent me nude photos but she says I'm just friend and not her type so no sex most likely, seems to good to be true maybe? 

[scubascuba3]

She sounds ideal, suggest a monthly sponsoring deal like the rest

[mogandave]

Why would you want to go to Phuket with a woman that is not going to have sex with you?

 

I would tell her I was interested in going, but only if we were going to have sex.

 

 

[Air Smiles]

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but she says I'm just friend and not her type so no sex most likely, seems to good to be true maybe? 

 

No sex is too good to be true?

[faraday]

[473geo]

Yes go for it, any girl who sends nude photos can't be all bad, obviously of generous disposition.

[thaibeachlovers]

Nude photos but no sex, and presumably you will be sharing a room.

[brewsterbudgen]

How could it be a scam? You haven't given her any money! As she's a working bargirl expect to pay her for her time but that's hardly a scam.

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[Bonobojt]

She could steal something, try and get my bank card detailts, I don't know but I just know you shouldn't trust bar girls 100% 

 

Yeah well when she messaged me she said she may like me, but she told me she likes guys with tattoos and big muscles, which I don't have, and she said she doesn't have sex with guys easy outside of work and doesn't bang guys not her type, she also have 2 kids

 

Yeah I don't want to be some loser in the friend zone watching her flirt with other guys, probably not worth going if I'm getting no sex. Sounds harsh as we are friends but that's the reality of life. 

[faraday]

How old are you?

[pgrahmm]

She's booking out her pay2play planner/organizer....

Much more lucrative & fun than hanging around the bar scene....

If she plans right it's a constant luxurious holiday for her....

And yes, part of the scam is the baited sex lure....

Edited February 11, 2018 by pgrahmm

[Air Smiles]

On arrival you should have at least 5 girls lined up like air traffic control, allow time between dates for days of endless sex.

[brewsterbudgen]

Just re-read the OP. Why would you even contemplate this if no sex is involved and you hardly know her?

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[473geo]

14 minutes ago, Bonobojt said:

Yeah I don't want to be some loser in the friend zone watching her flirt with other guys, probably not worth going if I'm getting no sex. Sounds harsh as we are friends but that's the reality of life. 

I think you have worked it out...more fun to be had with a new friend, you need to making the moves and having fun, she will put potential 'girlfriends' on the back foot and cramp your style.

[Berkshire]

47 minutes ago, Bonobojt said:

She could steal something, try and get my bank card detailts, I don't know but I just know you shouldn't trust bar girls 100% 

 

Yeah well when she messaged me she said she may like me, but she told me she likes guys with tattoos and big muscles, which I don't have, and she said she doesn't have sex with guys easy outside of work and doesn't bang guys not her type, she also have 2 kids

 

Yeah I don't want to be some loser in the friend zone watching her flirt with other guys, probably not worth going if I'm getting no sex. Sounds harsh as we are friends but that's the reality of life. 

At least see the obvious that you two are not "friends." 

[theguyfromanotherforum]

I thought I read everything on Thai Visa

[pgrahmm]

6 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

I thought I read everything on Thai Visa

She's lining them up before they even leave their own country....Cutting out the middleman & competition while baiting the hook with nude pics & vague semi-acceptance promises.....

 

Smart gal - what could possibly go wrong on the OP's side of it?

[sanemax]

She sounds quite a nice type, not the typical bargirl who just wants your money, she sounds like the decent type, her Thai husband was probably a drunken playboy who used to beat her up and she escaped and just worked in a bar for a few weeks . 

  Didnt she mention that she just worked there as the cashier ?

As she not interested in a sexual relationship, you are going to have to get to know her first, take her out for meals, buy her presents , the good old fashioned courtship.

  You may eventually fall in love with her and she may fall in love with you and then you can get married and live happily ever after .

  You can then live in marital bliss, knowing that your Thai Wife is different to all the others

[chickenslegs]

I think this is just another Bonobojt fantasy - like all his others.

Harmless enough though.

 

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Edited February 11, 2018 by chickenslegs

[sharktooth]

If she starts nicking perfume you’ll know you’ve found your soul mate.

[Darcula]

13 hours ago, Bonobojt said:

her boyfriend cheated on her so she ran away and became a bar girl

 

That'll teach him.

[Colabamumbai]

11 hours ago, Air Smiles said:

On arrival you should have at least 5 girls lined up like air traffic control, allow time between dates for days of endless sex.

I had 11 lined up on arrival, one stayed nights for a month, she worked days. The others a waste of phone calls.

 

[cardinalblue]

I can't believe you are serious or just a pencil with the tip broke off?

 

you pay for her holiday, no sex, send you nude photos, worked bar only 4 weeks. Works bar b/c broke up with BF....

 

you sound like her ideal road kill...go for it....

 

 

 

 

[cardinalblue]

I can't believe you are serious or just a pencil with the tip broke off?

 

you pay for her holiday, no sex, send you nude photos, worked bar only 4 weeks. Works bar b/c broke up with BF....

 

you sound like her ideal road kill...go for it....

 

 

 

 

[ostyan]

she told me she found out her boyfriend cheated on her so she ran away and became a bar girl, she's only been doing it for 4 weeks,

sounds like a heartbreaking fairy tale

[steven100]

yeah ....  go for it.  What could possibly go wrong. 

[fdbob]

One born everyday 

[JRinPDX]

11 hours ago, pgrahmm said:

She's booking out her pay2play planner/organizer....

Much more lucrative & fun than hanging around the bar scene....

If she plans right it's a constant luxurious holiday for her....

And yes, part of the scam is the baited sex lure....

Exactly... shifting to an  'escort' business model.  Safer, more fun for all, more profitable. 

[jacko45k]

13 hours ago, mogandave said:

Why would you want to go to Phuket with a woman that is not going to have sex with you?

 

I would tell her I was interested in going, but only if we were going to have sex.

 

 

Why would you believe that after she has sent him nude pics?

You are as daft a he is!

[BobbyL]

Sounds like the worst holiday ever.