Thai girlfriend of my age/earning power pressuring me to be financially supported

[NanLaew]

22 hours ago, poanoi said:

yeah, its a reoccurring mantra bitching for money,

you can always switch to a western girl,

or ditch woman altogether

If not already done, someone will come along and suggest that the OP gets a dog instead.

[Nanaplaza666]

Seems like when you are going to have to pay for everything, she will see that as normal and will not even apriciate it . I think its best to find one that apriciates what you give her, and its not thai i think all nationalities will cost money , the important thing is that they wont see it as normal, but apriciate it and see how hard we also have to work for it , it still doesn't come falling from the sky.

[simon43]

Call her bluff.  Tell her that since she's working, you intend to give up your job and live off her.... see what her reaction is ????

 

Or better still, don't waste your energy.  Just kick her into touch.  She's made it quite clear what her intentions are - now you have to make your future intentions clear, and they don't involve her....

[kannot]

Cant decide whose  more  stupid you or  her  but as  shes  chasing  the  money  ill  guess u, mainly for posting this dross

Edited October 13, 2018 by kannot

[poanoi]

3 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

If not already done, someone will come along and suggest that the OP gets a dog instead.

i found a much better thing:

buy europa universails 4 strategy game and theres no going back to thai woman

[seajae]

mate, I share all expenses with my wife, she has insisted on it since we met, if your girlfriend wants you to support her fully then you are in for a rocky relationship. It takes 2 to tango, the way I look at it if you have to pay for everything you re buying yourself a full time hooker, if money is more important than love then its not a marriage or a partnership, you may as well be single and hit a brothel when you want a bit. Sounds more like she is in this for herself and simply wants what she can get, think long and hard before you really commit long term, if you have no problems picking up women then look elsewhere for a genuine woman as she is obviously not genuine at all

Edited October 13, 2018 by seajae

[sead]

Yes. If she looks as you tell us then she sure can find a provider so why shouldnt she. The norm in Thailand if she stayed with a Thai boyfriend would be they share but now you aint Thai are you? I would seriously leave that girl asap because if this issue bothers you now then it will bother you always.

[DieterWiehe]

[DieterWiehe]

22 hours ago, mauGR1 said:

If you need ask on an internet forum what anonymous people think about your relationship, perhaps you know already the answer.

yes she would like to be the Mama watching soap operas and do nothing

[DieterWiehe]

9 minutes ago, seajae said:

mate, I share all expenses with my wife, she has insisted on it since we met, if your girlfriend wants you to support her fully then you are in for a rocky relationship. It takes 2 to tango, the way I look at it if you have to pay for everything you re buying yourself a full time hooker, if money is more important than love then its not a marriage or a partnership, you may as well be single and hit a brothel when you want a bit. Sounds more like she is in this for herself and simply wants what she can get, think long and hard before you really commit long term, if you have no problems picking up women then look elsewhere for a genuine woman as she is obviously not genuine at all

who buys a Cow you better just buy the milk and butter

[thecyclist]

More the norm of the Thailand of decades ago. While the norm might have shifted towards more equality in a relationship, the old mindset of I am the woman/I am giving him my body and should therefore in some way be  compensated for my sacrifices is still present in many Thai women especially when it comes to going with Farang. 

Refuse to oblige, if she really loves you, she will stay. 

At your age you can still find a girlfriend with  less exploitative intentions. 

 

[smotherb]

Not sure of your backgrounds, only of mine. I am a 73 year old American; my mother worked full-time all her life. I have been married to an America, a Vietnamese and a Filipina, All three worked all through our marriages; not because they had to, but because they wanted to. 

 

I would not want a woman who expected me to support her, her family, her buffalo or her "brother."

 

My son is married to a Thai; she works full-time. When they married, he was an NES teacher and she made more money than he. He paid no sin sot and her parents do not expect him to support them.

[smotherb]

3 hours ago, tagalong said:

Why buy a book, when u can stay in the library...A lot cheaper..

Or, you could enjoy the wonders of Kindle-sex.

[totally thaied up]

My whole wife's family works. Her mother is in her 60's and does an 8 hour day. My wife works seven days a week unless we have something to do. Her brother also works seven days a week. 

 

I could not be with someone that did not want to or did not feel the need or want to work. It would be different if we had children but we don't. 

 

In the OP's case, plenty of decent women around. If she just wants to live off you, go look elsewhere. Unless you really love the girl, I will tell you marriage and the such gets very old, very quickly unless you both have a lot in common. Without having that lot in common, your eyes will stray because there is just too much choice here if your not rock solid from the beginning. 

 

I don't know how many girlfriends I went through until I met my wife but I can tell you, a lot wanted to live off me.

[xerostar]

I've heard Thai women using the term "Nanjing Rd" as a synonym for reaching that level of financial support. 

"Not willing to share in expenses" looks like a big red flag to me.

[cookieqw]

run forrest run 

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, sead said:

The norm in Thailand if she stayed with a Thai boyfriend would be they share but now you aint Thai are you?

Dunno about that, most of the middle-class Thai guys I meet seem to hand their wage packet over to the misses unopened.

Then she gives him a couple of hundred baht for a night out for being a good boy.

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, thecyclist said:

At your age you can still find a girlfriend with  less exploitative intentions. 

When I was 17 I managed that a couple of times (maybe three).

After 20 I paid, all the time, for everything.

 

I was once having a serious talk with a fat ugly Thai lady about this very subject and she said, "But you are always with beautiful young Thai ladies, and they have many choices, if you were my man I would share everything"

........... Sorry girl, I'd rather pay for a product worth having ............

Edited October 13, 2018 by BritManToo

[dotpoom]

On 10/12/2018 at 7:03 PM, andux said:

I'd understand the situation if there were certain disparities (in either income, age or attractiveness), 

What has attractiveness got to do with anything...I see you mentioned it two times?

[totally thaied up]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

I was once having a serious talk with a fat ugly Thai lady about this very subject and she said, "But you are always with beautiful young Thai ladies, and they have many choices, if you were my man I would share everything"

........... Sorry girl, I'd rather pay for a product worth having ............

I am with a 32-year-old fat Thai. She shares everything. She will do anything to please me. To me, that is a product worth having and to date, has been the only Thai girl I have been with that has paid her way.

 

We are all very different. I have been with my share of Thai pretties here and looks just in my books are far behind in points for a decent mind/heart

[Deli]

Didn't read all 6 pages of comments, too much for me.

Mine tried the same. I explained to her that this won't happen and she understood an accepted. Still sometimes some very odd demands for little money, like 1000 Baht for the beauty parlor, though she has millions of her money in the bank. If it makes her happy, so what. But absolutely no big figures at all, though.

[andux]

9 minutes ago, dotpoom said:

What has attractiveness got to do with anything...I see you mentioned it two times?

Attractiveness is an asset that allows a person to find sexual mates. The more good-looking a person is, the more options the person will have. 

 

When there's a disparity in attractiveness between two people that are in a relationship, it has to be compensated with something else, usually money. That's why usually the ugly girls (with few available options) pay their way, and the pretty ones (with options all around) can afford to sit around doing nothing.

 

This is just a general rule, there are exceptions. I've always dated pretty girls and never paid a penny to keep them around (I mean, in the sense of financial support, I don't go to the movies/dinner and make a scene when the bill comes), but this is my first Thai girlfriend, and also the first time I talk about marriage/kids with someone. That's why the situation, and her recent attempts to convert me into a financial provider, got me a bit confused, and came here for some advice from more experienced people.

 

 

[The Theory]

“there are approximately 15 million girls in Thailand waiting to take her place.“ 

 

but the problem remains with every single one of them. ????????????????

[BritManToo]

27 minutes ago, totally thaied up said:

I am with a 32-year-old fat Thai. She shares everything. She will do anything to please me.

At 32 she's a bit past her sell-by date, if she were 20 it would cost you $$$$$$$$s.

Whenever I meet a single woman in her 30s, I always think to myself "What's wrong with her?"

Edited October 13, 2018 by BritManToo

[cardinalblue]

If you are so attractive to the opposite sex, then find a girl who wants to split costs equally...

[bwpage3]

What is your idea of a solid income and assets at your age?

[The Theory]

16 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

At 32 she's a bit past her sell-by date, if she were 20 it would cost you $$$$$$$$s.

Whenever I meet a single woman in her 30s, I always think to myself "What's wrong with them?"

And in 40s still the same❗️

 

About 10 years ago I met a Thai man in 60s I believe. He was selling Buddha amulets on side street close to McCormick. He told me that he had been working in Texas for ten years, but long time ago when he was young. 

He gave me a piece of advice: never trust Thai women. ????????

Edited October 13, 2018 by The Theory

[BTB1977]

Run, she should never become your wife. She wants a sugar daddy. She thinks she won the lottory. 

[bwpage3]

You will probably learn the hard way that you are not as attractive as money.

 

If you were that attractive she would be throwing all her money at you, to keep you and show off.  However, she isn't.

 

I bet she would dump you and your attractiveness for someone with huge bank, that gave her anything and let her stay home.

 

In Thailand, money beats attractiveness hands down. 

[marqus12]

There is a high probability that she will change your life into a nightmare!