Another one bites the dust (me)

[Pravda]

I am a guy who always harps about his marriage being so perfect and always bashes on posters marrying bargirls.

 

Not to worry, I am being kicked out today.

 

I have been married for 4 years and the marriage has been peaceful, yet tense.

 

Wife: Career woman, owns house, good salary, easily irritable, always moody, obviously not happy that I am a cheap charlie by not giving her a monthly salary.

 

Me: Read a lot about Thailand before moving in, married carefully, ignore all the whinging and complaining from dear Wife.... that was until yesterday when I opened my mouth and finally told her off.

 

Big mistake. Her words:

 

"No future with you" "4 years wasted", need to get my life back", "want divorce" etc..... 24 hours before seems happy, hug, hug, chatty laughing.......

 

Normally I would ignore it and let it pass and as a last resort would contact one of her good friends who would sweet talk her, but I think this time she is serious.

 

I'll be out of the Thailand by the end of the month as my visa is expiring. Probably live the rest of my days in old people's home or if I get the guts wait until I am 60 and come back when I save more than million bucks in which case I will become a laughing stock of new generation younger guys who are dating successful career women instead of banging whores.

 

 

BTW, the post is 100% serious. The only thing I am still debating is if I should just leave the country without saying anything and see if she perhaps changes her mind. I doubt it.

 

 

 

 

[Odysseus123]

Interesting post and best of luck for whatever you decide to do.

[ezzra]

Sigh.. marrying a Thai is a crapshoot game in the best of times, they're simply wired differently to us non Thai and that gap CAN NEVER be bridged no matter how hard you try, what to do now? bide your time, see what changes the winds will bring, all in all, better now than later...

[mauGR1]

Don't worry, take it easy, you'll be fine.

[Pravda]

I was expecting to be ridiculed by now, but hey I'll take the good wishes.

 

I am actually in a very bad mood today. Haven't slept all night. This is one way of venting.

[freedomnow]

Sounds like its not salvageable...mis-matched....get the divorce  tied up before you go ?

[giddyup]

12 minutes ago, ezzra said:

Sigh.. marrying a Thai is a crapshoot game in the best of times, they're simply wired differently to us non Thai and that gap CAN NEVER be bridged no matter how hard you try, what to do now? bide your time, see what changes the winds will bring, all in all, better now than later...

Yeah, marrying your own kind, ie another falang, is guaranteed success. Not.

[BritManToo]

40 minutes ago, Pravda said:

I am a guy who always harps about his marriage being so perfect and always bashes on posters marrying bargirls.

Bad luck, pointless staying with a woman once she's told you to go, there's no way back from that request IMHO.

All women really are like that .... AWALT.

 

Personal question, feel free to ignore, how frequent was the sex?

1x week, 1x month ........... just a little survey on the value of BGs Vs virgins.

[Orton Rd]

Lucky bugger, wish mine would give me the sack. Seriously it's mostly about money they see and hear what other wives are getting and whatever their income think why not me. Good luck mate, you will be well out of it and by the sound of it no kids which is a plus.

Of course she may have forgotten all about it, been on her period, you never know.

[DepDavid]

I think no need to leave. Give it a bit of time do some simple traveling and see how you feel about it later. Don’t make those big decisions in a hurry. Best of luck either way an let us know how it turns out.


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[marcusarelus]

I'd go back through your posts and see if they identified a man who really disliked all things Thai and the answer might be there. 

[soalbundy]

Just now, Pravda said:

I was expecting to be ridiculed by now, but hey I'll take the good wishes.

 

I am actually in a very bad mood today. Haven't slept all night. This is one way of venting.

They say a lot when the day is long, only about 5% is meant seriously. Just leave it alone and do nothing, see what happens, probably nothing. When arguing with a Thai never get personal with "home truths" it doesn't go down well and is regarded as insulting.

[Puchaiyank]

I've never married in Thailand...have avoided countless divorces...????

[villagefarang]

43 minutes ago, Pravda said:

"No future with you" "4 years wasted", need to get my life back"

I think she has a very valid point.  Do her a favor and let her get on with her life.

[Orton Rd]

1 minute ago, soalbundy said:

They say a lot when the day is long, only about 5% is meant seriously. Just leave it alone and do nothing, see what happens, probably nothing. When arguing with a Thai never get personal with "home truths" it doesn't go down well and is regarded as insulting.

Never offer an opinion either or you will be accused of 'attacking' her

[Pravda]

3 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

I'd go back through your posts and see if they identified a man who really disliked all things Thai and the answer might be there. 

 

There is forum and then there is how I try to present myself socially and in front of the family.

 

I put my best Thai smile and claim it's the most marvelous place on the planet and I will sure miss it.

[RotBenz8888]

54 minutes ago, Pravda said:

Wife: Career woman, owns house, good salary, easily irritable, always moody, obviously not happy that I am a cheap charlie by not giving her a monthly salary.

Why did you pic her i the first place? I get hyperthyroid only by reading "career woman".

[Odysseus123]

10 minutes ago, Orton Rd said:

Lucky bugger, wish mine would give me the sack. Seriously it's mostly about money they see and hear what other wives are getting and whatever their income think why not me. Good luck mate, you will be well out of it and by the sound of it no kids which is a plus.

Very true.

"Line" is their ally..and your bitterest enemy.

Did I ever tell you the one about the Dutch guy who asked me about the pro's and con's of marrying a Thai?

I made him swear an oath on his grandmother's grave that our conversation would be private..

The following morning 739 Thai women wanted my guts for garters.????

[jvs]

Qp you say the marriage has been tense,get out.How could you ever be happy that way?

 

 

[CharlieH]

Ist - ask her is that what she wants, as you need to make plans. - see what the response is.

 

Then, if it is, just move somewhere else, dont tell her where,, wait awhile, then either leave or replace her, plenty more fish in the sea, thats probably true moreso here than anywhere.

[BritManToo]

4 minutes ago, jvs said:

Qp you say the marriage has been tense,get out.How could you ever be happy that way?

Patient: Doctor, doctor, sometimes I think I'm a wigwam and sometime I think I'm a big top.

Doctor: I know exactly what your problem is, you're two tents. 

[Lacessit]

The OP is well out of it. Nothing worse than a complaining, whingeing woman. Be grateful it's only been 4 years of YOUR life wasted.

The worst thing the OP could do now is try to patch things up.

[holy cow cm]

Thai women are always very irritable. Women don't like men talking as they think the foreign men are acting like women (them). Can come to the point where they think you are not Thai enough for them and that is what they want, and then because they think you are not, their heritage and nationalism kicks in rearing its ugly head that you know nothing. 

[marcusarelus]

17 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

There is forum and then there is how I try to present myself socially and in front of the family.

 

I put my best Thai smile and claim it's the most marvelous place on the planet and I will sure miss it.

My wife always knows when I'm lying.  You might have the one whom god did not give this talent.  I don't know. 

[xylophone]

1 hour ago, Pravda said:

Wife: Career woman, owns house, good salary, easily irritable, always moody, obviously not happy that I am a cheap charlie by not giving her a monthly salary.

 

Me: Read a lot about Thailand before moving in, married carefully, ignore all the whinging and complaining from dear Wife.... that was until yesterday when I opened my mouth and finally told her off.

 

Big mistake. Her words:

 

"No future with you" "4 years wasted", need to get my life back", "want divorce" etc..... 24 hours before seems happy, hug, hug, chatty laughing.......

IMO the above clip highlights the key elements, and I don't think this relationship has much of a future based on what you said!

 

Being a Cheap Charlie is frowned upon here by many Thai women, especially if they have friends who are receiving a "salary" from their husbands, furthermore she is a career woman and you could well be considered a few rungs down the ladder in her mind, because you are not supporting her, or pursuing a successful career?

 

She sees no future in the relationship, and I don't really know that living in a "tense" relationship is good for the mind and soul, let alone the body.

 

Perhaps moving on is going to be best for both and why not just sample what's available for a period of time to see how things turn out – – give yourself breathing space and look at life in Thailand from another perspective

[Pravda]

1 minute ago, xylophone said:

Perhaps moving on is going to be best for both and why not just sample what's available for a period of time to see how things turn out – – give yourself breathing space and look at life in Thailand from another perspective

 

I probably would.... if my visa wasn't expiring in a week.

 

Great timing!

[Gecko123]

Sorry to hear that, Pravda. Not sure if the feeling was mutual, but I kind of liked you.

[CharlieH]

2 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

I probably would.... if my visa wasn't expiring in a week.

 

Great timing!

Get the visa done, she cant do it (divorce) on her own no matter what she wants.

 

[Pravda]

3 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Get the visa done, she cant do it (divorce) on her own no matter what she wants.

 

 

She won't sign the papers.

 

I mean she won't sign the copies. id card, marriage cert......

[Andrew Dwyer]

Strong words indeed !! but sometimes things are said in anger but not really heartfelt, only the OP knows if it is irreparable.

Who knows what tomorrow might bring, maybe she’s gonna be all huggy and chatty ? If not, then time to make your move, move out for a few days and check into a resort/ hotel to plan your escape.

 

My ex wife used to fall out with her sisters ( she was one of five ) and take it out on me by making shit up and looking for an argument, it all got tiresome and in the end I left , never regretted it and now happier than ever.

 

Do you want to try and save the marriage or will you be happier out of it ?

Is it a complete disaster or a fortuitous way to start a new life.

 

Only you know.

 

Good luck either way .