What would you do? Is this normal in Thai culture? My girl working late and comes home like 8 pm - 10 pm almost every day. She works like 14 hours per day. ANd if I say i want to spend more time with her, she wants to break up with me because that is her lifestyle. I complain that many times she stays out after work with her friends for dinner and i stay in quarantine usa city on skype waiting for her to come home.

 

She want to break up because that is her lifestyle and she does not want to change it.....

What would you do? Is this THai thinking or is it just her?  So she wakes up like 6 am and comes home usually 10 pm evening....and when she comes home we skype while she sleeps cause she is too tired to talk to me. 

Am I selfish? Or what? She said she will break up with me like I think 50 times......

I would end it, you are not a priority

19 minutes ago, farik said:

She want to break up because that is her lifestyle and she does not want to change it.....

Sounds like you already know the answer.

45 minutes ago, farik said:

and when she comes home we skype while she sleeps cause she is too tired to talk to me

I take my hat off to her if she can chat whilst unconscious !

48 minutes ago, farik said:

when she comes home we skype while she sleeps cause she is too tired to talk to me. 

No see any love story here. 

Anytime a person in a relationship put his/her needs and wants above the other and disregards relationship decorum, time to let go, as this person is selfish, and selfishness leads to other disagreeable and uncomfortable situations, just walk away...

If she is back home every night at 10 then that is one positive sign i.e. her phones not off all night. It is common for Thai people to work long hours.

It does sound like she's not that into you, or maybe you are different i.e. she is a lot younger, or maybe the poor girl is trying to make a living, and having a bit of a relax after work, and you should let her do her thing.

 

Are you sending her money? If yes how much.  If you are supporting her a lot then definitely stop and see what happens.  The fact is if she is going out a lot she is likely to be having fun with other guys. 

If she wants to live that life and you don't like it  then separate. Save your dollars.

 

so you think talking with you on an app is a better life then real life ?

try RL for yourself while you are over there,

and if you can find any takers, <deleted> someone too

Surprised a nik like 'scammed' would get reeled in.

ain't going to change.

Do not make some person your priority, if to them you are only an option.

Move on, develop emotional intelligence.

How long has this person been your girlfriend?

Has it only been an online relationship?

 

Is she worth the money you send every month?

2 hours ago, farik said:

She said she will break up with me like I think 50 times......

She would only need to say it once to me, Hasta lavista baby!

just keep up the transfers and she will love you long time na.

Marry her

Actions speak louder than words..If someone wants something bad enough they will find a way

 

I used to date a thai gal in Cm, we got along fine but she was a tour guide, so always in BKK-China and India

 

I never saw here so we split up...no bad feelings...family and the support will always come first, and you after..

 

As the old sayng If you love something set it free--if it comes back there is your answer....cut her loose....

1 hour ago, farik said:

Is this normal in Thai culture? My girl working late and comes home like 8 pm - 10 pm almost every day.

My Thai Friend and his wife work until 9:00pm or later most days except holidays .  

1 hour ago, farik said:

ANd if I say i want to spend more time with her, she wants to break up with me because that is her lifestyle.

If you chose HER the way she was to be your girlfriend then why are you asking her to be someone else?   Find someone else instead of forcing her to live a lie

 

 

1 hour ago, farik said:

Am I selfish? Or what? She said she will break up with me like I think 50 times......

Yes , and she has a good reason to break up with you...She's not a going to pretend to be something she is not .  Sounds like my kind of girl.  What's her name  ?...Where does she live ?

Be honest,  at least she's telling you the truth.

If you're sending her money just to be with you, then she's not your girlfriend, she's your employee .....

 

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Here's the words from a famous song that just about sums it up.

Why in the world would anybody put chains on me?
I've paid my dues to make it
Everybody wants me to be
What they want me to be
I'm not happy when I try to fake it.

 

 

5 minutes ago, mr mr said:

just keep up the transfers and she will love you long time na.

the buffalo nods its head in agreement  (winks)

Sounds like you need to give her more space to live her life , stop bothering her so much .

Also , increase your monthly payments, you are obviously not giving her enough to live her “ lifestyle “.

 

Follow my guidance and you will not go far wrong, it helped me in my marriages, all seven of them .

Just send her more money and she will love you again - at least for a day or two.

I think she love you too mut! She work hard so when you come Thailand you not have to spend all your money on her because she will be rich and pay for you! Don't be selfish or she breakup wit you and find new man, OK!

A picture of GF required to make a calculated decision.

End it.

Plenty more fish in the bar.

When are blokes going to realise they do not own their partner?  They are not a commodity to be bartered and traded.

The woman has her life, accept that, communicate , if you cannot come to an acceptable agreement, then separate. They had a life before you, accept that.

You are quarantined elsewhere, lonely and bored, depending on someone else filling the emotional void, grow a life and face reality

I never send her any money, not needed, we were separated because of covid, I had to split home......she is super rich so no buffalos in play.....

What worries me is that she wants to break up after every little argument. We cant have arguments at all.........It worries me that she says she loves me but then says she will break up every time and I have to cry and beg to reconsider.....that is my <deleted> life now....

so I know breakup wil come sooner or later or I will have to bow down and become a woman in this relationship not upsetting her ever.....

last argument was like I waited for her to come home like 3 hours, she was in the mall with her girl friend and when she comes home I was <deleted> she will not even talk to me for more then 10 minutes and go to sleep. Why she not come home and spend time with me on skype cause I am lonely in <deleted> lockdown. Seems like she spends more time with her girlfriends then me.

We both discussed we don't have a lot in common, but isn't that normal....even every relationship....girls are different than guys from my opinion...

the question is are most of thai girls like that? Or she does not love me? We were in love so much before, I thought we will get married and now I upset her so much, it is hard for me to hold back and not react too....I still love her and she says she loves me too....I dont think she cheats on me, or maybe I am a fool......seems like she is the first girlfriend I can trust she will not <deleted> around, she does not drink too and smoke

2 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

I take my hat off to her if she can chat whilst unconscious !

That's normal in Thailand, they do it all day long.  LOL

1 minute ago, quake said:

That's normal in Thailand, they do it all day long.  LOL

meaning she sleeps while skype is on....so she thinks we are in same room, got it bud?

Get smart,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,dump her. Move on with your life.

She is super rich? She probably thinks like a HiSo, most have the brains of a gnat. Self-obsessed.

Dump her, get a village girl instead. They will happily look after your every need, as long as the ATM is open.

 

Ok, thats enough of that. OP you had the same answer many times over.

 

Time to stop this merry go round.

 

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