How are you with people?

[ivor bigun]

as i get older i find that i cant be bothered to go toclubs and bars etc ,i dont mind company ,but am happy just being with family ,or even on my own with the tv ,mind you most of my life has always been in a houseful of people .

[Wagga]

3 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

The thing is how do you know when its a problem?

my current girlfriend 34yo filipino here in australia purposely took me out last night around 11pm here in sydney to get me used to it,because she says when i retire to Asia wherever that may be then we will encounter large crowds.

 

The people i saw though were mostly teenagers shouting out,being loud etc,there was no threats etc just loud screaming girls etc walking between nightcllubs

 

But i had to keep moving her out of the way,Chinatown in Sydney was very busy last night,people walking towards you with phones stuck to their ears not moving etc ,I know i have to get used to people because we are travelling this year but i may have to see a psychologist 

"See a psychologist".  Excellent idea because..... YOU have a problem sunshine.

[jvs]

3 hours ago, Sparktrader said:

I like beer and sex. Thats it.

Sorry to kick in an open door but,

If you do not like people, what is the sex like?

Or maybe you are just a loner lol.

 

[Sparktrader]

5 minutes ago, jvs said:

Sorry to kick in an open door but,

If you do not like people, what is the sex like?

Or maybe you are just a loner lol.

 

I do it when they r sleeping

[zzaa09]

Dominate misanthropy might rule the day. 

[NoshowJones]

I love to have an interesting conversation with people, but any sign of a drinking problem, then I'm off.

[KannikaP]

28 minutes ago, possum1931 said:

I love to have an interesting conversation with people, but any sign of a drinking problem, then I'm off.

An interesting conversation for one person could be absolute rubbish for another.

And do not let them know that you have a drinking problem... LOL 555

[BritManToo]

On 3/12/2022 at 2:42 PM, georgegeorgia said:

because she says when i retire to Asia wherever that may be then we will encounter large crowds.

And that will just be her extended family all living with you, while you get to pay for everyone.

[stereolab]

I am also hyper-vigilant whilst out and about, hate being around people, hate being touched. Never go to  Bars or clubs,  been dry for 33 years now. I do not have any friends, never needed them. Keep myself very busy and active mainly in our extensive fields and gardens.

[BritManToo]

On 3/12/2022 at 3:19 PM, Sparktrader said:

I like beer and sex. Thats it.

Wot, no drugs?

[Gottfrid]

Everywhere I go, I am just a BSOB.

[tonray]

On 3/12/2022 at 2:45 PM, Whale said:

and especially if they congregate.

Then they start talking about religion, politics and oil prices....almost a certaintly we'll end up in a tussle

[toofarnorth]

If I pop out for a coffee I am quite happy to sit on my own and talk to no one.  I am not one who can chat to everone they meet. An Aussie I know does just that , I pay for my coffee and leave , he chats about anything but admits he should get out more.

[toofarnorth]

32 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

An interesting conversation for one person could be absolute rubbish for another.

And do not let them know that you have a drinking problem... LOL 555

You reminded me of a mates wedding in the '70s. I was best man , when my turn came I stood up and said " My names Phil and I'm an alcoholic , oops wrong place ".  The Groom thought it hilarious .

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, toofarnorth said:

If I pop out for a coffee I am quite happy to sit on my own and talk to no one.  

I did this too .........

then realised I might as well sit at home drinking my coffee and save 45bht/cup.

same for beer, much cheaper to drink it at home (alone).

[toofarnorth]

7 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I did this too .........

then realised I might as well sit at home drinking my coffee and save 45bht/cup.

same for beer, much cheaper to drink it at home (alone).

Ah , but it is more then that , I go for a 16k ride to this place and a lovely twisty road it is too. Even if the place is closed i have still had a nice ride out.

[zyphodb]

On 3/12/2022 at 2:56 PM, spidermike007 said:

Don't like crowds anymore. Used to love them when I was younger. However, I like people. I tend to show most people a degree of respect. 

 

However, I tend not to suffer fools, and can be very direct, when it is called for. People find it very hard to take me for a ride. I have learned. Trust has to be earned. I am far less tolerant of fools, than I used to be. 

 

And I have also learned that those who have alot to say, and talk alot, usually do not have alot of substance.

 

"In shallow men the fish of little thoughts cause much commotion. In oceanic minds the whales of inspiration make hardly a ruffle.“

 

 

Better put than I could Mike, I'm much the same...

[pgrahmm]

I'm affable & completely competent in my ability to engage in light conversation..... I can go full on cocktail party mode...I just prefer/choose not to.... Brevity is just fine for me....

 

That's on the farang side of things....

 

According to my wife I give too much of an answer/explanation when asked a question.... She's usually looking for a quick yes or no response......

[Screaming]

The older I get the less I need people or tolerate them.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 3/12/2022 at 8:56 PM, spidermike007 said:

Don't like crowds anymore. Used to love them when I was younger. However, I like people. I tend to show most people a degree of respect. 

 

However, I tend not to suffer fools, and can be very direct, when it is called for. People find it very hard to take me for a ride. I have learned. Trust has to be earned. I am far less tolerant of fools, than I used to be. 

 

And I have also learned that those who have alot to say, and talk alot, usually do not have alot of substance.

 

"In shallow men the fish of little thoughts cause much commotion. In oceanic minds the whales of inspiration make hardly a ruffle.“

 

 

I've never liked crowds, but enjoyed small groups of convivial people.

 

However, I've never found others to be as truly friends as in books/ movies.

I know very few people that are still hanging out with the same people as 20 years ago, and I keep in touch with very few of my friends from even 10 or 15 years ago.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 3/12/2022 at 8:32 PM, georgegeorgia said:

My late  dad was opposite,he was so popular at work he was the union rep and safety rep etc,he could walk into any room full of strangers and 10 minutes later have friends.

I doubt they were "friends". Did they invite him around for Christmas dinner?

We all make acquaintances in our life, but I'm sure we'd not take a bullet for them.

[LaosLover]

My mouth was always my fortune. But my fortune has been made and my mouth is therefore obsolete.

 

When you get older, people across all age spectrums def want to hear from you less. A lot less.

 

It's very freeing. No need to perform; they'd really rather you just fade into the wallpaper.

 

Future you-interest continues its steep wane, and that goes double in a foreign country where they already could give two you-know-whats about you.

 

[StreetCowboy]

15 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I doubt they were "friends". Did they invite him around for Christmas dinner?

We all make acquaintances in our life, but I'm sure we'd not take a bullet for them.

Drifters don't have friends.

Friends are not people who would take a bullet for you.  Friends are people for whom you would take a bullet.  No-one would ask their friends to take a bullet.

[Sparktrader]

Take a bullet for a friend? Yeah no thanks. Thats balony. Maybe loan them $100 or a ride to airport. Bullet no.

[Sparktrader]

3 hours ago, LaosLover said:

My mouth was always my fortune. But my fortune has been made and my mouth is therefore obsolete.

 

When you get older, people across all age spectrums def want to hear from you less. A lot less.

 

It's very freeing. No need to perform; they'd really rather you just fade into the wallpaper.

 

Future you-interest continues its steep wane, and that goes double in a foreign country where they already could give two you-know-whats about you.

 

What did u do with your mouth? Porn films?

[StreetCowboy]

10 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

What did u do with your mouth? Porn films?

Persuade aspiring actresses

[StreetCowboy]

13 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

Take a bullet for a friend? Yeah no thanks. Thats balony. Maybe loan them $100 or a ride to airport. Bullet no.

Acquaintances.  Hitch-hikers; mendicants

[Sparktrader]

29 minutes ago, StreetCowboy said:

Acquaintances.  Hitch-hikers; mendicants

I dont believe anyone who says they take a bullet. What nonsense.

[StreetCowboy]

50 minutes ago, Sparktrader said:

I dont believe anyone who says they take a bullet. What nonsense.

Back in the day, I had a fairly close friend - we'd drunk together since High School.  
We were out in the town, and we were in a 'night club', and we got into a not-good-natured bit of discussion with some lads.

I went off to the washroom, before the trouble started, and as I was coming out, three of them piled in. As I left, the door handle to the washroom came away in my hand, and I went over to one of the bouncers to pass it on to him and give a brief explanation.  I then returned to our table, and as I arrived, my buddy stood up to ask what had happened, and somebody lamped him.

The other parties were ejected by the bouncers, we left shortly after, and I believe they were subsequently arrested for assaulting an innocent bystander on the way home, for which I feel guilty.

Anyway, you don't stand up to take a bullet, you stand up for your friend. 

How you do that may vary.

 

Back in the day, we'd been out, and an acquaintance was suffering the thirst of drink.  We'd ended up in a late opening basement on an understreet, and the first inkling of trouble was seeing A being assisted towards the door by the bouncers.   
"I'll help him home" I said; the bouncer was not immediately conciliatory.  I took over the job of pushing A out the door.
A (over my shoulder, to bouncer):"See if I was sober, I could take you"
I ducked out of the way, the bouncer head-butted A, the second bouncer drew the first bouncer away and pushed A out into the street,
I got out into the road, and the second bouncer was giving him a resounding kicking in the middle of the street.
"I think he's had enough now, thank you very much, let me take him home"
"Aye, well effin this and effin that"

"Yes, no problem.  We won't; thank you"

I suppose life was different, back in the day. 


 

[GammaGlobulin]

On 3/12/2022 at 2:37 PM, CharlieH said:

Similar, don't like crowded places at all, can't wait to get out of there. As I got older I like people less and less and generally avoid them where possible.

 

Never been one for bars clubs etc in later life, don't drink so no appeal.

 

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

 

Great book

 

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8520610-quiet

 

I can only assume that you have already read this book.