Lucky old you in Thailand with a young wife

[Iknow]

In life there are few free lunches just remember “you can take the girl out of the bar, not the bar out of the girl !”

[malthebluff]

This seems to paint all thai girls and old men with the same brush and not all are the same.

Me age 62 my wife of 3 years age 24 very well educated and has a good teaching job and I dont have savings or big pensions never built a house or sent any money to her before we married  . Now we are a team and pay things together and save for what we need with big items with more of her money supporting me. We pay everything together including my Visa. 

Thailand is all about saving  face and having a farang bf or husband gives thai more face so I would say to the old men looking for a young gf or wife is to use the saving face to their advantage tell the girls the truth from the start dont big yourself up to be a rich farang spending money like your on holiday. Stay away from picking girls up from tourist areas they are there to earn money Love does exist if you look for it 

[Lucky Bones]

4 hours ago, Silencer said:

A lot written here is true (I resemble several of the things mentioned by OP), with exceptions aplenty. Mine is 25 years younger, high school drop-out, beauty from the north that worked in a bar 3 weeks (where I met her). She converted to Christianity before I met her (which is only mentioned because she believes lying, no matter how small of a lie, is a terrible sin), had a kid just a year before I met her, and we have been together 4 years now. We will be building a large house soon for the three of us. I did the design, planning, picked the company to build, had the drawings made and permit in hand. I was planning on paying for the house (with a good chunk of my savings) but the business I helped her start last year resulted in her making over 7M baht recently. She said she will pay for the house (about 6.5M) and we can use my money for traveling around the world occasionally, maybe a new car. I also get a decent pension so I will always have my own money no matter what happens in my life. Your mileage may differ, but there are good ones out there that love to cook, clean, great in bed, don't take advantage of you, don't lie and cheat, and do everything happily for you which just makes it delight (or at least much easier) to do everything for them (and their future). I could care less what anyone thinks of our relationship. Maybe I was lucky, I knew there was a chance of making a wrong choice and I knew I could make a life of renting a girl each week/month/year but that is not what I wanted. The unexpected new kid in my life was not in my plans but she is wonderful and now learning English well and likely keeps me young as well.  Many fail, many do not. Choose wisely. 

Is that you Bob?

[jerrymahoney]

15 minutes ago, stoner said:

married for 15 years now thanks. mine is different. 

different than what?

[stoner]

1 minute ago, jerrymahoney said:

different than what?

oh boy. 

[richard_smith237]

5 minutes ago, malthebluff said:

This seems to paint all thai girls and old men with the same brush and not all are the same.

Me age 62 my wife of 3 years age 24 very well educated and has a good teaching job and I dont have savings or big pensions never built a house or sent any money to her before we married  .

How many children does she have ?

 

 

5 minutes ago, malthebluff said:

Now we are a team and pay things together and save for what we need with big items with more of her money supporting me. We pay everything together including my Visa. 

 

5 minutes ago, malthebluff said:

Thailand is all about saving  face and having a farang bf or husband gives thai more face

This is only true in the poorer demographic who have found a Westerner as a means of security. 

 

Those from higher socio-economic backgrounds don’t see having a foreigner as a better option or to save face, in fact the opposite may be true.  

 

 

5 minutes ago, malthebluff said:

so I would say to the old men looking for a young gf or wife is to use the saving face to their advantage tell the girls the truth from the start dont big yourself up to be a rich farang spending money like your on holiday.

A valid point - but is a girl in her 20’s really attracted to a guy in his 60’s - or is security the primary drive ? - no criticism of that, just so long as guys aren’t pulling the wool over their own eyes and getting giddy with the misguided belief that they have ‘game’.

 

5 minutes ago, malthebluff said:

Stay away from picking girls up from tourist areas they are there to earn money Love does exist if you look for it 

Agreed....  but that same caution would hold true in any relationship where there is economic disparity. 

[jerrymahoney]

16 minutes ago, stoner said:

oh boy. 

So you are the exception as not delusional?

[Lucky Bones]

24 minutes ago, malthebluff said:

This seems to paint all thai girls and old men with the same brush and not all are the same.

Me age 62 my wife of 3 years age 24 very well educated and has a good teaching job and I dont have savings or big pensions never built a house or sent any money to her before we married  . Now we are a team and pay things together and save for what we need with big items with more of her money supporting me. We pay everything together including my Visa. 

Thailand is all about saving  face and having a farang bf or husband gives thai more face so I would say to the old men looking for a young gf or wife is to use the saving face to their advantage tell the girls the truth from the start dont big yourself up to be a rich farang spending money like your on holiday. Stay away from picking girls up from tourist areas they are there to earn money Love does exist if you look for it 

A team?

You, her and her brother?

[Rmac442]

"where did u find her .." the clue using the number 59 !!

[malthebluff]

15 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

How many children does she have ?

 

 

 

This is only true in the poorer demographic who have found a Westerner as a means of security. 

 

Those from higher socio-economic backgrounds don’t see having a foreigner as a better option or to save face, in fact the opposite may be true.  

 

 

A valid point - but is a girl in her 20’s really attracted to a guy in his 60’s - or is security the primary drive ? - no criticism of that, just so long as guys aren’t pulling the wool over their own eyes and getting giddy with the misguided belief that they have ‘game’.

 

Agreed....  but that same caution would hold true in any relationship where there is economic disparity. 

No children, and family are poor but have never asked for anything from me even when we go to visit they pay for everything. They live in small village where my wife didnt have friends to grow up with so immersed herself in books and educating herself as went to normal government school. We met at a language school me learning thai her learning  English when she was age 17 and where just friends for couple of years before we started a relationship after 3 years we married no dowry no big thai wedding just a few friends and family. Now she is a language teacher english franch and german works in private school and also teaches online so gets paid ok now and keeps my Visa money topped up in My bank. But before she started work we never had money and really struggled with me having to keep flying back to the uk she has no intention of leaving Thailand and also couldnt fly back with me due to university and then work.

I consider myself one of the lucky ones yes I've done all the bar scene but that was over 29 years ago and men are slow to grow up and settle down.

Now living in Phuket dog cat wife and really looked after and I know for sure that she will continue to take care if me. Yes she saves money for herself for when I'm gone and yes she plans to one buy a house but it is her money not mine. I'm not on a pension yet at age 62 only small private and the uk law has changed theres no widow pension anymore for thai.

So maybe I am one of the few who can say with truth that I'm happy here

[VBF]

6 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I remember one day when I was in Soi 4 on the way to NANA. A girl and her (I guess) customer walked in my direction. She was in front of him and smiled at me and she had that: sorry I am busy right now but I can see you later look.

He, walking behind her, had that: Look at what I got, you will never have a girl like that look.

 

Obviously there is not a small part of my imagination in that interpretation. But after a while we have an idea how the girls look like who just have a customer but like to let you know that they will be back for you. ???? 

Great post. A friend of mine used to say "You don't lose the girl, you just lose your place in the queue"

[Misab]

9 hours ago, gt162 said:

No money, no honey and no everything.

goes the other way too, no honey, no money

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, Neeranam said:

I'm amazed at the number of guys that think their Thai wife wouldn't mind them getting hand jobs by massage ladies or shagging prostitutes. 

What was that motto again: Don't ask, don't tell.

[BonMot]

7 hours ago, malibukid said:

all women are for sale if you want to invest both the time and the money

Everyone is for sale. FTFY.

[VBF]

5 hours ago, Thujone said:

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And as for family gatherings, he should be prepared to be ostracised.

Even people in his original country who have seen the P4P situation in Thailand may display a totally different attitude to Bob when amongst their original community.

I would suggest that these people are just hypocrites  whose opinions are scarcely worth bothering about, even if they are "family".

[BonMot]

4 minutes ago, VBF said:

Great post. A friend of mine used to say "You don't lose the girl, you just lose your place in the queue"

That was my old saying!

 

You don't lose the girl just your place in line.

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, dallen52 said:

Bottom line is.

Get your kit off and stand in front of the mirror. 

Then ask yourself what your 25 year old sees in you?

Let's say you are 60 and you have a 60 year old wife. Do you think she gets horny when she looks at you?

People of all ages and body types and even people with disabilities love each other.

Many of us like to look at sexy young bodies. But that doesn't mean it's impossible to love a person with not such a young and sexy body.

[khunPer]

The cover-photo seems like instant love at first sight, she still has the number from the go-go bar around her neck...????

[ThailandRyan]

4 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

What was that motto again: Don't ask, don't tell.

Better one that can be used here is "What Happens in Vegas stays in Vegas"  Just substitute Thailand for Vegas, until your girl grabs your phone and looks through your Line, WhatsApp, or IG....lol

[BonMot]

6 minutes ago, VBF said:

I would suggest that these people are just hypocrites  whose opinions are scarcely worth bothering about, even if they are "family".

The nice thing about being HERE is that you as a couple can live in your own bubble. Who cares about those stupid (fat, jealous, depressed people) *at home* think?!

 

You've become an adult when you live by your own rules and under your own terms.

Edited August 16, 2022 by BonMot

[ThailandRyan]

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Let's say you are 60 and you have a 60 year old wife. Do you think she gets horny when she looks at you?

People of all ages and body types and even people with disabilities love each other.

Many of us like to look at sexy young bodies. But that doesn't mean it's impossible to love a person with not such a young and sexy body.

Mine likes that I am like a hairy teddy bear.........

[malthebluff]

32 minutes ago, Lucky Bones said:

A team?

You, her and her brother?

Sounds like your another who been stung and out witted by a thai girl. No brother she us an only child and family have never asked for anything from me in the 7 years I've known them.

67 million people in thailand 52% of them female but if you stay in pattaya/ patong or any tourist bar scene  then you dont know Thailand and sat listening to bar flys will never give you a true insight to make a true comment 

[BonMot]

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Let's say you are 60 and you have a 60 year old wife. Do you think she gets horny when she looks at you?

People of all ages and body types and even people with disabilities love each other.

Many of us like to look at sexy young bodies. But that doesn't mean it's impossible to love a person with not such a young and sexy body.

With women looks are only one factor. With men it's largely everything.

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, ebean001 said:

i suggest you stop thinking of sex, etc. young woman probably not suited to be a good wife but can be. my point is being young is not the selling point for me. there are 24 hours in the day. what are you doing for 23 hours of it. give me a happy lady who i can make even happier. good enough for me. yes, her appearance must be acceptable but age is not the most key factor. 

Apart from young girls being more likely to be pretty and cute and sexy they have one unbeatable advantage: They don't have years of baggage.

When I met my gf she had no previous relationship. Her older sister brought her into the nightlife and soon after that I took her out of the nightlife again. Good for me, good for her. Win/win.

[malibukid]

16 minutes ago, BonMot said:

Everyone is for sale. FTFY.

the planet is for sale.  sad

[D M G]

4 hours ago, Doctor Tom said:

I have two g/fs, one in my main house, one in my condo down the road, one is 47 years old, an ex factory manager, one is 37 and a nurse.  They know each other, but at a distance.  Why are they with me, an older man; security, companionship, a good life style, friendship, a future that is financially secure for them, and, dare I say it, mutual regard, respect and love.  I had the same with my late ex wife and i was the only breadwinner in that life.  With my two g/fs, I am not the sole bread winner,  but I am a major provider.  So, what am I getting at here.  That there is little to chose between relationships here or in the West.   Is age irrelevant; no, but its not the major driver in many if not most longer term relationships between a young Thai and an older farang.  

????

[redsongthaew]

11 hours ago, amykat said:

Nice photo …do all Thai girls walk around with a number stuck to their chest like this one  …#59, so you farang men won’t have to worry what her name is??  Or is that in case you forget which one is your wife?

 

That's his 59th girlfriend this month.

[off road pat]

10 hours ago, gt162 said:

No money, no honey and no everything.

Hm,..If you have no money? it's good to be a hansom Farang !

[ChrisKC]

For the man:  What makes the heart grow fonder?  Pussee!

 

For the woman: What makes the heart grow fonder? His money!

 

I am talking Thailand and a generalisation of serious age gaps between partners

 

In this generalisation, there is the scenario that both know what the other wants and is happy with the arrangement of mutual benefit. Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't.

 

Another scenario is where the man will suspect that she only wants the money but - but he goes for it anyway.

 

And yet another scenario in which the naivety of a man will allow himself to believe there is real love between them; sooner or later ending in (his) tears!

 

In most cases the woman loses little and he might lose everything, including her!

Yes, there some success stories!

 

Of the four aces in the pack, she holds at least three!

[radiochaser]

I married a Thai woman in Thailand in 1990 or 1991.

 

About 2 years later in the U.S. she told me she only wanted that green card and was going to leave me when she got it.

 

Here it is 2022, she has a Restaraunt and earns a lot more money than I do!

 

Now she gives me money each month and I am still waiting for her to leave me!