I live with my Thai gf in Thailand, and I wouldn't think about moving with her to anywhere outside of Thailand. I am sure she wouldn't like it.

 

But it seems many Thai girls are looking for a husband from a country far away and then they follow him to that country and then they somehow find out that it's not party every day. Her husband works and is tired in the evening. They don't go out every day, and there are even husbands who want that their Thai wife works...

 

How many girls think twice before they decide to go to another country? Do they have any idea what to expect? Do they do some research like watching videos about their new home for hours? Or maybe talk to other people online?

 

A niece of my gf moved with her new husband to Germany, a guy who she obviously doesn't love, and a baby. Now she is on holiday in Thailand and now she told her father she doesn't like it in Germany, she wants to come back to Thailand...

 

For me this is not surprising at all. And I think if she would have thought about it for an hour or more than she should have realized she won't like it before she moved to there.

How many girls think twice before they go? And how many stay there? And how many are happy far away from Thailand?

What is your experience?

3 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

For me this is not surprising at all. And I think if she would have thought about it for an hour or more than she should have realized she won't like it before she moved to there.

How many girls think twice before they go? And how many stay there? And how many are happy far away from Thailand?

What is your experience?

My experience is that few women (of any nationality) consider their future, or the consequences of their actions.

 

If I were a woman, I certainly wouldn't have divorced Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates or Johnny Depp, but women are driven by their immediate feelings, not by any logic.

The biggest chock for some princesses is if they have to work, learn routines, keep the routines, share bills and living costs, pay taxes and get out of bed and go to work even it is raining and snowing outside. 
 

The biggest shock for most, is to find out their husband is not rich!
 

My experience Thai girls is happier in Thailand than anywhere else, but all depending on social life and status. 
 

One girl I know well from before found a loving husband, big land, wealthy, loves her son and give him the best support in life, but she do not love him, still she is happy because he is a good man. 

Typically, women who move abroad are over 40, and at the end of their bargirl career. Yeah, I know some younger ladies who emigrated, but typically with husbands closer to their age.

 

The older ladies who emigrate have kids who are self sufficient, whereas younger ladies have to deal with maintaining their kids when they are abroad. 
 

One lady I know married a Farang, but is very hesitant to leave her Thai boyfriend behind. So, she invents excuses not to move, and insists on returning to Thailand every few months when she does move.

A lot of this would depend on the education an attitudes of the lady in question and how well they’d integrate in our home nations. 

 

Some are destined to struggle, some are going to fit in well - I suspect the issue is extremely individual, but the most common success factor is how ’tight’ the couple are in the first place - if the relationship is one of genuine affection and mutual respect any issues will be vastly minimised. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

18 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

Typically, women who move abroad are over 40, and at the end of their bargirl career. Yeah, I know some younger ladies who emigrated, but typically with husbands closer to their age.

 

The older ladies who emigrate have kids who are self sufficient, whereas younger ladies have to deal with maintaining their kids when they are abroad. 
 

One lady I know married a Farang, but is very hesitant to leave her Thai boyfriend behind. So, she invents excuses not to move, and insists on returning to Thailand every few months when she does move.

In fact your experience and what you believe. 

I have mentioned before the girl I married was 21 when I met her. She liked Australia from the start and never talked of wanting to go home. She actually arrived in Australia at the time the tsunami hit on Boxing Day. Alot of her friends who lived in Phuket all went off to their home towns so she didn't feel left out being alone in Australia. She met Thai people here. She had mixed feelings about much of her family so that wasn't an issue.

I moved from close to the city and I got a house because she wanted to live in a more rural setting and said she loved gardening - picked up a spade once I think. She started a business. She got that Australia has much better pay, conditions, loves the food at the supermarket, can get all her thai food, loves the clean streets with wide footpaths and parks, finds the winters cold but doesn't miss the heat. She is now working as a tradesperson which is funny. 

Separated in 2010 but pre nup meant it wasn't nasty. Talked to her tonight - has no interest in even holidays in Thailand - goes to Bali. 

The OP's question is impossible to answer, since there are so many variables.

 

My wife grew up in Chicago as a teenager with her aunt and uncle after her parents died, then moved after college to Singapore, where we met.

 

So, after we moved to Thailand, 10 years later we decided to move back to the US it was easy.

 

Now the US has the largest Thai diaspora, sorry Brits you're not it, so Thai's can always find friends.

 

My wife was happy, as a professional woman she could restart her career in the US which had pretty much stalled in Thailand.

 

With our Thai friends here, don't really see any of them that anxious to return to Thailand.

 

An interesting point, for everyone who has experienced the horrors of trying to get a tourist visa for a Thai woman. With the exception of my wife and one other in our group all of them came overstayed tourist visa's, then ended up marrying an American man to get a green card.

 

Thats why it's so hard!

12 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

The OP's question is impossible to answer, since there are so many variables.

Thanks for your contribution.

It's like a question: What is your favorite country?

There is no one and only answer. There are ideas and impressions from many people.

And sometimes there are lots of the same impressions and then it becomes kind of a rule - with exceptions.

On 11/18/2022 at 11:16 PM, richard_smith237 said:

A lot of this would depend on the education an attitudes of the lady in question and how well they’d integrate in our home nations. 

 

Some are destined to struggle, some are going to fit in well - I suspect the issue is extremely individual, but the most common success factor is how ’tight’ the couple are in the first place - if the relationship is one of genuine affection and mutual respect any issues will be vastly minimised. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You are correct.

 

And lets not kid ourselves a lot of Thai/Farang marriages are between couples of vastly different ages, thats a money/power dynamic and while affection 'may' be involved, real love, well thats probably questionable.

 

I often wonder what the 20 something woman who travels to Farangland with the 50/60 something thinks when suddenly there are guys her age who actually have money more or the same as her 50/60 something!

 

All fraught with disaster.

 

Just glad Mrs G is an old fart like me

8 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

Just glad Mrs G is an old fart like me

I'm just glad Mrs BM2 is young and beautiful unlike me.

As for her meeting guys her own age in the UK with more than a pension, she'll never get the chance.

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I'm just glad Mrs BM2 is young and beautiful unlike me.

As for her meeting guys her own age in the UK with more than a pension, she'll never get the chance.

Then keep that girl well away from Mythical Magical Farangland lol