End of life regret?

[Social Media]

 

 

If you knew your time was coming, what would your be ?

 

[chalawaan]

Newsflash.

All our time is coming. 

No regrets.

My poor choices are my responsibility.

My good luck has nothing to do with my abilities, which are wholly unremarkable.

I'd just say one thing as a parting thought:

Do

Not

Procrastinate.

 

[KannikaP]

Now back in 1974 in Sundsvall, Sweden, there was this lovely..............ahhh well.

 

And in 1972 I could have bought a Fender VI bass from Eric Haydock for £170...the one he had used in the Hollies. I didn't!

[Tom H]

Arrange that your love ones get your money before you die.

 

Donate something to charities.

If you love cats, donate to sn organisation. Do domething good and you feel happy????

[jaideedave]

8 minutes ago, Tom H said:

Arrange that your love ones get your money before you die.

 

Donate something to charities.

If you love cats, donate to sn organisation. Do domething good and you feel happy????

Giving while living is a mantra I've used.I've donated to my wife's sister and husband to get them started on building a new house.It's now complete.They were living in a hovel.They thank me these days while i'm still around.I get a lot of satisfaction from that.My wife and her single sister are well taken car of.Not rich but own 2 houses and some bullion.I won't need it where I'm going.555

[Gaccha]

What isn't mentioned here but which relates specifically to people with regrets on their deathbeds:

 

What is quite fascinating but is something the dying will only quietly mention to academic researchers is the distancing from the loved ones in the final days.

 

Despite the impression that the "Disney death", where a huge family surrounds the dying person, and they go gently into the night, it turns out that is not what the dying person is thinking.

 

In fact, they are preparing for the next journey. Wherever they are going it is not with their family or close ones. They are preparing in their head to distance themselves from their family. You are their past.

 

The family being around the bed with them is quite awkward for them. This is obviously such a taboo that even close to death they will not mention it. But could be reassuring to any members who have no family with them now.

Edited April 16, 2023 by Gaccha

[LaosLover]

When I was young, I had a chance to have sex with a name actress (in a Spielberg film), but my friend was much more into her so I stepped aside -and then he blew it.

 

So that.

 

Also: Not catching Miles Davis live, even though he was fairly terrible by the time I got around to knowing who he was.

[OneMoreFarang]

That reminds me of a preamble in a novel - sorry, I don't remember the title.

It said something similar to this: You can't make love with all women in the world. But at least you should try.

[scorecard]

2 hours ago, jaideedave said:

Giving while living is a mantra I've used.I've donated to my wife's sister and husband to get them started on building a new house.It's now complete.They were living in a hovel.They thank me these days while i'm still around.I get a lot of satisfaction from that.My wife and her single sister are well taken car of.Not rich but own 2 houses and some bullion.I won't need it where I'm going.555

I'm elderley but in good health.

I have one son (born in Thailand), he's married has 3 kids.

Good pensions income.

Thai will already in place - my son. No need for will in my birth country

As far as possible my son already owns everything.

All bank accounts in joint names with son, only need one signature. Son has the pin numbers.

Only debt I will have on departure is one credit card in my name but I make a payment quickly (same day or next day) equal to anything bought on the card, so balance owing is always very small and for very limited time.

All funeral details already well explained and documented - main theme: funeral to cost as little as possible, to ensure all funds are kept for grandchildrens education. 

 

No regrets about anything - so far so good.

Edited April 16, 2023 by scorecard

[bkk6060]

Jeez, sure seems stupid of a person to say or think they actually have no regrets.  Of course,  we all have regrets in you tried to actually live a life, had life experiences.  It is perfectly normal to have regrets.  

Edited April 16, 2023 by bkk6060

[worgeordie]

End of life regret ........I would regret dying , as I am sure I would still

have things I would want to do , lot of morbid stuff on Aseannow ,

lately , about death , ill health , it's becoming depressing , and I

don't get depressed .... ???? smiling face with smiling eyes , that's better.

 

regards worgeordie  not ready to go yet.

[rumak]

nope

 

 

Edited April 16, 2023 by rumak

[nigelforbes]

I have two:

 

1) Instead of staying to see Stones in the Park I left and went to work for a 3 pm shift.

 

2) Instead of going down to see Bruce Springsteen in Miami I stayed at work in Lauderdale all afternoon, pumping gas for two bucks an hour.

 

How stupid humans can be at times.

[proton]

I'd regret all the time and money I spent travelling to Thailand at the expense of other destinations

[VocalNeal]

If I have any regrets I am still trying to think of one memorable enough to mention. ????

[Mac Mickmanus]

15 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

If I have any regrets I am still trying to think of one memorable enough to mention. ????

Did you do what you had to do ?

Did you see it through without exemption ?

 

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, bkk6060 said:

Jeez, sure seems stupid of a person to say or think they actually have no regrets.  Of course,  we all have regrets in you tried to actually live a life, had life experiences.  It is perfectly normal to have regrets.  

If you feel you are at a sweet spot in life right now, why ruin the good feeling by regretting something you can not change? 

 

All my good and bad deeds leads up today, no regrets.

 

Be thankful for what you have, and make sure to make it last

[dingdongrb]

1 hour ago, nigelforbes said:

I have two:

 

1) Instead of staying to see Stones in the Park I left and went to work for a 3 pm shift.

 

2) Instead of going down to see Bruce Springsteen in Miami I stayed at work in Lauderdale all afternoon, pumping gas for two bucks an hour.

 

How stupid humans can be at times.

Wow, you had a great job, I pumped gas (& diesel) for $1.15 an hour..... all while going to college full time! Yepper, worked 48 hrs. a week and went to school full time. Hardly any time to sleep or study.

 

....and while staying at my brother's in Ft. Lauderdale we went to Miami a few times. Didn't see Springsteen but we did hit some of the fancy clubs and of course South Beach to see all those lovely breasts!!!

 

NOTE: I did see Springsteen back in the late 80s at 'Big Mac' (Denver). The ticket was a birthday gift from an old girlfriend. Good concert but not my favorite one.

[roo860]

12 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Did you do what you had to do ?

Did you see it through without exemption ?

 

Sid did, best version ever! RIP.

[talahtnut]

I regret many things...so what, thats life.

I'm having pockets stiched into my shrould.

[Denim]

Too many and I haven't got all night to list them.   Although it does seem a lot of them involve women.

 

Not many people have done less work than me so OK on that one.  

[GammaGlobulin]

I should have come to Thailand sooner.

I should have spent half of every year in Thailand, and the other half of every year in China/Taiwan/Kyoto/Hong Kong.

This way, I would not have any regrets.

I also regret not having spent an additional 10 years at university.

Those good years, when one is young enough to study hard cannot be recouped later in life.

What is the purpose of life, anyway, if it is not the pursuit of knowledge?

Or, maybe some are just not curious enough?

Curiosity is the only real spice of life.

Show me someone without a basketful of curiosity, and you will have found a dullard.

Curiosity about reality is not something that one can enhance through hard work.

More is the pity that curiosity cannot be learned.

Because, we do know, for example, that there is an inverse correlation between much of schooling and the sense of curiosity.

One should, however, never be curious about what is beyond the grave, unless one is not a scientist.

We also should not be too curious about crop circles, unless we understand that they are not created by ETs.

I regret that I will never have the opportunity to visit Mars, most likely.

The great potential regret that I might have suffered did not happen.  The Webb Telescope is now fully deployed, and did not blow up during launch. It seems to be performing flawlessly.  At the very least, I have lived long enough to see the Webb in operation.  Such a magnificent achievement.

 

So...I am lucky.

I do not have as many regrets as I would have thought.

ChokDee

Edited April 16, 2023 by GammaGlobulin

[bignok]

Your dreams should always be bigger than your memories.

 

(Otherwise you are living in the past ie not living)

[bignok]

3 hours ago, proton said:

I'd regret all the time and money I spent travelling to Thailand at the expense of other destinations

Make a list and go to these places in the next 2 years.

[steven100]

4 hours ago, proton said:

I'd regret all the time and money I spent travelling to Thailand at the expense of other destinations

totally agree ... to think one wasted their time and money to entertain thiefs and cheats.

[bignok]

1 minute ago, steven100 said:

totally agree ... to think one wasted their time and money to entertain thiefs and cheats.

What is stopping you going to other countries now? Buy a ticket and go.

[steven100]

4 minutes ago, bignok said:

What is stopping you going to other countries now? Buy a ticket and go.

revenge is a dish best served cold

[Lee65]

I regret reading this thread

[save the frogs]

did someone mention concerts?

what a waste of money. i'm never going to see another concert.

it's just an ego thing ... people can brag that they saw Elvis in 1942 ... who cares? his music is still available online. 

we watch movies at home, so music at home is good enough. 

 

Edited April 16, 2023 by save the frogs

[bignok]

2 minutes ago, steven100 said:

revenge is a dish best served cold

Revenge on what? Regretting past spending doesn't make your life better. Maybe these other 5 or 10 places you want to visit will be no good. Only way to find out is to go. Book a ticket tomorrow and go next month.