Would you ever marry a bar girl? If so, why?

[JBChiangRai]

ChatGPT> What do you want me to do?

Bob Smith> Write topics to troll AseanNow

[BritManToo]

9 minutes ago, Celsius said:

It still requires paying taxes, no?

Doubt any retirees qualify.

Only if you're a foreign man.

[BangkokReady]

18 minutes ago, bbko said:

More mindless drivel, where's that ignore button?

You can't "ignore" posts...

[bignok]

38 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

Status.  Put others down to lift yourself up.

Which shows insecurities

[Lacessit]

7 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

You can't "ignore" posts...

If you ignore a poster, none of their past or future posts are displayed to you. Unless they are quoted by another poster.

[bignok]

26 minutes ago, bob smith said:

is that because he told the truth? A lot of people dont like to hear that apparently..

I read his site. Looked like made up trash

[Reginald Prewster]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

I just dont get it.

 

There are OTHER girls in Thailand that are fit for marriage that happen to not work in a bar.

Good one, and there are many but they are more challenging and not bought.

 

I actually came 2002 to Thailand to overcome my divorcement with my German ex wife..

So what's more suitable that taking the BBTB (Bums Bomber To Bangkok)

 

But then I met my love (now wife)

 

....she sold Pa Tong Go from her little street chart.

I saw he the first time and it made *BANG* 

 

But from one moment to the other Bar girls were no fun anymore, they just were a big lie and a pussy to poke beside they pretend to feel with you and what you go through after divorcement..

 

The Pa Tong Go girl was customer orientated, as frequent customer I got always a cookie more and the soi milk dip for free every other day..  

That was it, she kept distance and beside the friendly smile she gave all customers there was nothing.

I felt I had no chance but didn't give up..

Then after about 4 month she gave me fired chicken she made herself because I cannot live on cookies alone she said.

That was the break through... 

 

First candle light dinner:

She popped up with her three sisters and a boyfriend of one of the sisters.. (FUXX !! plan spoiled) 

But the sisters demanded her to sit beside me.. (at least something, so I could feed her)

 

First Visit to Granny and Father:

She educated me well.

Impressing me that a gift (Ka-shinng) is tradition but do not overdo it.

Father will go drinking and having an accident and Granny will start digging for more.

(500 For Father 200 for Granny whould be double what a Thai boy would give)  

 

Engagement after 3 years:

BUT Granny as eldest need to give her goodwill.

The Granddaughter was 35 years old, hence for free,

Granny 20% eye sight said.

He is quite tough, I thought 3 years ago already, he doesn't make it to the next year because he looks so sick, very pale that lad... 

 

1 year engaged and I was still pale I asked for marriage. Who had last word? Off course Granny:

Dowry: Upto lung (me) because she is the oldest of the sisters (36), no Thai would have her...

I called out 100.000 Baht.

Granny obiously shocked said "For 100k I could have the youngest sister"

I also shocked said: "No way, I love the oldest"

The entire Family laughed and said "he must be more blind than Granny"

 

BUT we were both born in the year of the Tiger (1962/1974) so Granny decided, the last word has the Village monk..

"OUUUHOOOOIII! Tough Constellation, 2 Tigers. Wait 7 Years with the marriage"

 

2012 we got finally married, poor Granny didn't see it, father blew the 100 k in Laod Khao, Fighting Chickens and at least new windows in the house...

I moved to Isaan and run a Parmaculture Farm with my wife and some long year Thai Friends have a relaxed life and doing my chores like I did as I grew up in Germany.... 

The only difference is that I am now happy married and we have a strong family bond.... 

 

Now you can imagine why people marry Bar Ladies... 

Paperwork 2 weeks done and they can start building a house in Isaan, buy a car, buy Gold and laces...

And 3 years later she is back to work and @bob smith has a new topic for the crowd...  

[bignok]

10 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

You can't "ignore" posts...

Ive got 18 on ignore. Saves reading the political/cc trash.

 

But you can open up individual posts if want.

[owl sees all]

My girl was a bad-un when I met her. I transformed her into a nice lady. Took ages. Now she has turned bad again.

 

But!! The rain is here and if I don't whistle too loudly, I'll get another cup of rosy; without salt hopefully.

 

And most importantly; the footy has started up again.

 

Life is grand!

[BangkokReady]

3 minutes ago, bignok said:

Which shows insecurities

Sure.  Like with the football hooligans discussed in another thread, people who feel their status is low, sometimes do things to try make them feel higher status.

 

Status appears to actually be a major cause of most violence and hostility, IMO.  There's a great book by Alain de Botton called "Status Anxiety".  Worth a read.

[brewsterbudgen]

If you meet someone and fall in love, why does the job she was doing at the time matter?  

 

 

[Lacessit]

The only reason I don't marry my GF is Centrelink in Australia would start paying me a married couple's pension, about 5000 baht/month less. As she is not an Australian citizen, she gets nothing.

I explained these facts to her when she proposed to me, and she accepted my reasons. A practical woman.

[Isaan sailor]

Many years ago, the great Brooklyn comedian, Rodney Dangerfield said it best (and I must paraphrase):  “Have you ever seen an attractive young lady with an elderly, overweight guy—who had no money?”

And then he came back with:  “Have you ever seen a handsome young man with a short, fat, older, poor woman?”

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

do you call buying all the girls at your table lady drinks entertainment??

That depends. Most of the time I am happy with one of them.

But sometimes the choice is difficult, and it happened that I bought 4 girls at the same time drinks. It was a lot of fun. But to stay with the theme of this thread, I didn't marry them - not even one of them. 

[2baht]

1 hour ago, Dan O said:

Didn't you find yourself caught  short of cash from that girl in Ko Chang a while back ?

Was that Mrs Smith??? ????

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, pomchop said:

Take a good look around someday at the wives/husbands of a lot of western farangs....why would you marry someone who weighs two times you...why would you marry someone who nags you night and day?  Why would you marry someone who when it goes pear shaped takes half or more of everything you own.....it is not just thailand were some strange choices are made...in fact with many bar girls unless you are braindead you have a pretty good idea of what you are getting often moreso than with a western gal.

And with the bar girls it's likely that you have sex. A lot of it, and just the way you like it (otherwise you would have chosen another one). 

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

mrs smith has never asked me for a single penny. in fact, quite the oposite, she pays 80% of the time we go out..

 

Amazing what you can find when you open your eyes a bit, isnt it? ???? 

The question is obviously: Why does she do that?

Are you the best she could get, and she doesn't want to lose you?

In that case I better don't want to imagine what kind of wife you have.

 

[bignok]

30 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

Sure.  Like with the football hooligans discussed in another thread, people who feel their status is low, sometimes do things to try make them feel higher status.

 

Status appears to actually be a major cause of most violence and hostility, IMO.  There's a great book by Alain de Botton called "Status Anxiety".  Worth a read.

Ok thanks. I will look for it.

 

Tall poppy syndrome

Low poppy syndrome

[OneMoreFarang]

2 hours ago, bob smith said:

i just dont see the appeal of marrying a girl who works in a bar.

most are uneducated parasites.

 

sorry, nothing even remotely attractive to me about that!

Considering that you say "nothing even remotely attractive to me about that" you spend a lot of time and thought about those girls.

Is it possible that you don't tell us the truth in at least half your posts?

[actonion]

Why not Marry / live with a Bar lady,  in my 21 years in Thailand i have had  3 long term relationships, Two of them were  University/ Office/ Bank   workers, and one was a Bar lady, the Bar lady was the only one who didnt  reguarly ask for money   like the other  two did,  the Bar lady did'nt screw around  like one of the others did, so i see nothing wrong with a  lady  who works  in a Bar..

 

[Danderman123]

12 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

And with the bar girls it's likely that you have sex. A lot of it, and just the way you like it (otherwise you would have chosen another one). 

Ha!

 

Once they have you trapped, then the excuses not to have sex flow.

 

I guess you think bargirls are in it for sex.

[bignok]

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

2 weeks in my case.

I was thinking I needed a new VISA, regular sex and a womb to gestate my baby in.

 

No mention of love, it was a purely expedient decision. And it's worked out far better than any previous choices I made for love.

After 1 week you should know if there is a future or not I believe. I knew after 5 days.

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, KhunLA said:

1 hour ago, bbko said:

More mindless drivel, where's that ignore button?

On my list a long time ago

I ignored a couple of people. But I still read some of Bob's comments.

He is so funny. Not the way he intends to be, but likely he will never realize that little detail. 

[owl sees all]

6 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

Once they have you trapped, then the excuses not to have sex flow.

 

I guess you think bargirls are in it for sex.

The wife timed us making love yesterday afternoon. Later, I asked her how long.

"Two hours, fifty-five minutes, seven seconds." She said. "Wow!" I replied. "Nearly three hours! Super-stud!!"

 

"Owl! That time included our pre-sex financial negotiations and your sleep afterwards.

 

[bob smith]

23 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Are you the best she could get, and she doesn't want to lose you?

just as a stopped clock gives the correct time twice a day...

[OneMoreFarang]

14 minutes ago, Danderman123 said:

Ha!

 

Once they have you trapped, then the excuses not to have sex flow.

 

I guess you think bargirls are in it for sex.

I think most bargirls realize that sex is important for many men. If they provide that service often enough and good enough, then their husbands are more likely happy and relaxed.

If the wife doesn't provide sex, then the guy gets it somewhere else.

 

That reminds me of two girls talking in a movie (I forgot which movie). One girl says she doesn't want to take it in her mouth. The other girl explains to her: There will be a girl who gives him a BJ. It's up to you if you do it or he goes somewhere else.

[LaosLover]

3 hours ago, bob smith said:

 a butlins cabaret singer!

This joke indicates that you are so old that it's really only a theoretical proposition at best.

 

Full disclosure: I went to Butlins to see The Battle of the Meatloaf Tribute Bands.

[Danderman123]

10 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I think most bargirls realize that sex is important for many men. If they provide that service often enough and good enough, then their husbands are more likely happy and relaxed.

If the wife doesn't provide sex, then the guy gets it somewhere else.

 

That reminds me of two girls talking in a movie (I forgot which movie). One girl says she doesn't want to take it in her mouth. The other girl explains to her: There will be a girl who gives him a BJ. It's up to you if you do it or he goes somewhere else.

My point is that once a bargirl has her Farang sign paper in the Amphur, she often will cease having sex, even if she knows he will go elsewhere.

 

And yes, if it becomes publicly known that the husband is getting laid elsewhere, the drama ensues. She doesn't care that he is getting laid by another lady, she cares if her friends know.

[Danderman123]

31 minutes ago, bignok said:

After 1 week you should know if there is a future or not I believe. I knew after 5 days.

The Darkside in Pattaya is filled with bars that cater to Farangs who didn't know after 5 days.

 

So, customers are typically Farangs with older Thai wives who don't have sex with them anymore. The Farangs hit the local bar to hook up with a younger bargirl, and the wives have free time on their hands. They can go to the temple, or visit their former Thai boyfriend.

[BritManToo]

57 minutes ago, Isaan sailor said:

And then he came back with:  “Have you ever seen a handsome young man with a short, fat, older, poor woman?”

I've encountered many fit young decent looking tourist white guys dragging pigs from their homelands around with them.