Terrance8812 Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 I’m from Canada and I’ve been in Thailand for about five months now. As I continue to immerse myself in the Bangkok way of life, I’ve also been contemplating dipping my toes into the dating scene here after recently breaking up with a long-time girlfriend from back home. However, I must admit, I feel a bit out of my depth. While I’ve heard countless stories about the charm and allure of Thai women, I’ve also heard about the complexities and nuances involved in cross-cultural relationships. One concern that weighs a bit on my mind is the stereotype about Thai women and their financial aspirations. I want to ensure that any potential relationship I engage in is built on mutual respect and understanding, rather than purely on materialism or expectations. Another aspect that I’ve heard a lot about is the importance of family in Thai culture. While I deeply respect these values, I can’t help but feel a bit intimidated by the prospect of meeting a partner’s family early on in a relationship. How can I navigate this aspect with grace and sincerity, while also ensuring that I’m setting the right tone for the future? Additionally, I’m keen to learn more about the language to help form a relationship. While I’ve been making efforts to learn Thai, and can speak a bit, I wonder how crucial fluency is going to be in building a meaningful relationship. Well, I may have already some general stereotypes and misconceptions about dating from others in Thailand, so I’m eager to gain a more nuanced understanding now. I do want to approach this with an open mind though as I have a genuine desire to connect with a woman in the right way. I truly appreciate any wisdom, long term experiences, or advice you can share or offer. 3 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubascuba3 Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 How old are you? what age you looking for? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sticky Rice Balls Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 tape a 1000 bt bill to your forehead and walk outside...easy peasy 1 6 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Hummin Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 (edited) Well, one thing I havent experienced in Thailand is romantic girls. Yes, some girls can play along, but really ? Thai girls romantic? I maybe have different view on what is romantic, but, a Thai girl who loves to walk, talk, candles, wine, cheese, fine dining flirting, ? I had my moments with Thai girls, but, well, to be true they are more straight forward than western girls, who you have to take time to know, date, play the game, and convince. At least how it was when I was younger. Maybe not like this anymore anywhere Edited June 11 by Hummin 1 2 1 1 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BangkokReady Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 5 minutes ago, Hummin said: Well, one thing I havent experienced in Thailand is romantic girls. Yes, some girls can play along, but really ? Thai girls romantic? I maybe have different view on what is romantic, but, a Thai girl who loves to walk, talk, candles, wine, cheese, fine dining flirting, ? I had my moments with Thai girls, but, well, to be true they are more straight forward than western girls, who you have to take time to know, date, play the game, and convince. At least how it was when I was younger. Maybe not like this anymore anywhere I have a feeling that the OP meant "a Thai romantic partner". 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hummin Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 4 minutes ago, BangkokReady said: I have a feeling that the OP meant "a Thai romantic partner". Most likely, still be in a thai relationship is different, and expecting to know everythign and learn anything by the members here experiences their manual? I doubt it, it have to be experienced first hand, make mistakes, try again, if not the first and best manage to grap him straight away, but learning he have been here for a long time already, he might not dare to try yet afraid of failing 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Hummin Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 anyway, this is most likely a created thread for more clicks and replies. A perfect click bait 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G_Money Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 So OP, what have you been doing for the past 5 months in BKK? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MalcolmB Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 My advice would be to skip the foreplay. It just confuses them. 9 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Doctor Tom Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 'The idea of 'romance' can come in many different forms. It can be an intellectual bonding for example ( very hard to find in another culture), It may just be a generally caring attitude by a partner. In my own case, with my long term GF, its her respect and her gratitude for the relationship and what it means to her, outside of her own culture. She is loving, very tactile and none confrontational. not judgmental, loyal and not overly possessive. If that's romance then I have it. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mavideol Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 34 minutes ago, Hummin said: Well, one thing I havent experienced in Thailand is romantic girls. Yes, some girls can play along, but really ? Thai girls romantic? I maybe have different view on what is romantic, but, a Thai girl who loves to walk, talk, candles, wine, cheese, fine dining flirting, ? I had my moments with Thai girls, but, well, to be true they are more straight forward than western girls, who you have to take time to know, date, play the game, and convince. At least how it was when I was younger. Maybe not like this anymore anywhere and that makes 2 .... 555 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Celsius Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 If your dating skills are as versatile as that snorefest of the OP then I think you should just stick to Western women. 1 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mavideol Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 18 minutes ago, MalcolmB said: My advice would be to skip the foreplay. It just confuses them. been there done that... general confusion and keep asking same question ..."" what u doing"" why u do that""me no like that"" 555 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post novacova Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 2 hours ago, Terrance8812 said: I truly appreciate any wisdom, long term experiences, or advice you can share or offer Don’t come here looking for relationship advice 2 2 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stoner Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 36 minutes ago, Hummin said: anyway, this is most likely a created thread for more clicks and replies. A perfect click bait non convicted felon thread though. a relief. its getting a little weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stoner Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 don't show her any canadian money for starters. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Prubangboy Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 What do you bring to the table? You want a fairly westernized Thai woman -family on the light side, upper middle class at least so finances are less of an issue. A lot of Western and Asian men want that kind of partner. Their numbers will be few and the competition will be stiff. They'll most likely be found in Bangkok. One reason why many guys here end up with sweet, traditional farm girls is because their numbers are greater and the competition for them is much lower. Such women would possibly come to you via introductions from other likewise Thai people or from an ongoing connection like going to college, attending a church, or doing volunteer work. They will be scarce on Tinder. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post OneMoreFarang Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 Just do something - whatever you think is ok. You will make mistakes. We all made mistakes, many of them. So just make sure that you don't promise the first girl that you will marry her. Tell her you are lost and want to learn about life in Thailand. After a while you will learn, and then some more, and some more. Take your time, don't marry in the first couple of years, and make sure you don't produce children. Something like "don't worry, I take the pill" is not good enough. It is extreme unlikely that the first one is the right one. You still have to learn. 3 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post scubascuba3 Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 They are all looking for ATMs, that reminded me of years ago in a Nana hotel a falang had left a pile of leaflets advising foreigners that the girls only want ATMs, i was shocked guys still don't know that 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post still kicking Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said: They are all looking for ATMs, that reminded me of years ago in a Nana hotel a falang had left a pile of leaflets advising foreigners that the girls only want ATMs, i was shocked guys still don't know that Not all looking for ATM,s my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar. 1 1 1 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AnotherOneHere Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 13 minutes ago, still kicking said: Not all looking for ATM,s my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar. Doesn't it have something to do with the fact that she left you and is living separately? 🤔 1 1 8 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post scubascuba3 Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 7 hours ago, still kicking said: Not all looking for ATM,s my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar. but you bought and paid for a house in Thailand? you own a house in Australia? any age gap? She's just playing the long game, most do 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TheFishman1 Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 In my personal experience and I dated professional Thai women and I mean by that is like lawyers or doctors and I have dated to working girl and I’ve also dated girl for just a regular job. I find all of them. Is one if you take them to a really nice expensive restaurant or you just take them and buy them some street food to them it’s all the same. They’re interested in security. They are looking for the good life. They believe that foreigners in general will have more money to spend into spend on them for a better life. And the first meeting, they usually tell you their whole life story they think they can gain by having a relationship with you. That’s how it is TIT. 2 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 2baht Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 13 hours ago, novacova said: Don’t come here looking for relationship advice 1 1 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobodysfriend Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 15 hours ago, Terrance8812 said: I want to ensure that any potential relationship I engage in is built on mutual respect and understanding, You think too mutt ... test out a few , but don't expect too much ... Most of them are taught , and know how to catch a farang . Good luck . 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
save the frogs Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 just read the title ... you're DOOMED if you're looking for romance relationships are only about romance the first date. after that point forward, it's a battlefield. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post novacova Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 9 hours ago, still kicking said: my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar. 9 hours ago, AnotherOneHere said: Doesn't it have something to do with the fact that she left you and is living separately? 🤔 Most likely he’s been giving her ฿ because she can’t spend dollars at the local market 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post susanlea Posted June 11 Popular Post Share Posted June 11 Don't go looking for love. Just enjoy your life. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
actonion Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 13 hours ago, Mavideol said: and that makes 2 .... 555 And 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bob smith Posted June 12 Share Posted June 12 (edited) …so you post on a forum full of old mongers asking about love and romance? good luck with that.. just let me grab the 🍿 bob. Edited June 12 by bob smith 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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