I’m from Canada and I’ve been in Thailand for about five months now. As I continue to immerse myself in the Bangkok way of life, I’ve also been contemplating dipping my toes into the dating scene here after recently breaking up with a long-time girlfriend from back home.

However, I must admit, I feel a bit out of my depth. While I’ve heard countless stories about the charm and allure of Thai women, I’ve also heard about the complexities and nuances involved in cross-cultural relationships. One concern that weighs a bit on my mind is the stereotype about Thai women and their financial aspirations. I want to ensure that any potential relationship I engage in is built on mutual respect and understanding, rather than purely on materialism or expectations.

 

Another aspect that I’ve heard a lot about is the importance of family in Thai culture. While I deeply respect these values, I can’t help but feel a bit intimidated by the prospect of meeting a partner’s family early on in a relationship. How can I navigate this aspect with grace and sincerity, while also ensuring that I’m setting the right tone for the future?

Additionally, I’m keen to learn more about the language to help form a relationship. While I’ve been making efforts to learn Thai, and can speak a bit, I wonder how crucial fluency is going to be in building a meaningful relationship.

 

Well, I may have already some general stereotypes and misconceptions about dating from others in Thailand, so I’m eager to gain a more nuanced understanding now. I do want to approach this with an open mind though as I have a genuine desire to connect with a woman in the right way.

 

I truly appreciate any wisdom, long term experiences, or advice you can share or offer.

How old are you? what age you looking for?

Well, one thing I havent experienced in Thailand is romantic girls. Yes, some girls can play along, but really ? Thai girls romantic? I maybe have different view on what is romantic, but, a Thai girl who loves to walk, talk, candles, wine, cheese, fine dining flirting, ? I had my moments with Thai girls, but, well, to be true they are more straight forward than  western girls, who you have to take time to know, date, play the game, and convince. At least how it was when I was younger. Maybe not like this anymore anywhere

 

 

5 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Well, one thing I havent experienced in Thailand is romantic girls. Yes, some girls can play along, but really ? Thai girls romantic? I maybe have different view on what is romantic, but, a Thai girl who loves to walk, talk, candles, wine, cheese, fine dining flirting, ? I had my moments with Thai girls, but, well, to be true they are more straight forward than  western girls, who you have to take time to know, date, play the game, and convince. At least how it was when I was younger. Maybe not like this anymore anywhere

 

I have a feeling that the OP meant "a Thai romantic partner".

4 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

 

I have a feeling that the OP meant "a Thai romantic partner".

Most likely, still be in a thai relationship is different, and expecting to know everythign and learn anything by the members here experiences their manual? I doubt it, it have to be experienced first hand, make mistakes, try again, if not the first and best manage to grap him straight away, but learning he have been here for a long time already, he might not dare to try yet afraid of failing

anyway, this is most likely a created thread for more clicks and replies. A perfect click bait

So OP, what have you been doing for the past 5 months in BKK?

 

 

My advice would be to skip the foreplay.
 

It just confuses them.

'The idea of 'romance' can come in many different forms.  It can be an intellectual bonding for example ( very hard to find in another culture), It may just be a generally caring attitude by a partner.  In my own case, with my long term GF, its her respect and her gratitude for the relationship and what it means to her, outside of her own culture.  She is loving, very tactile and none confrontational. not judgmental, loyal and not overly possessive.  If that's romance then I have it.  

34 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Well, one thing I havent experienced in Thailand is romantic girls. Yes, some girls can play along, but really ? Thai girls romantic? I maybe have different view on what is romantic, but, a Thai girl who loves to walk, talk, candles, wine, cheese, fine dining flirting, ? I had my moments with Thai girls, but, well, to be true they are more straight forward than  western girls, who you have to take time to know, date, play the game, and convince. At least how it was when I was younger. Maybe not like this anymore anywhere

 

 

and that makes 2 .... 555

If your dating skills are as versatile as that snorefest of the OP then I think you should just stick to Western women. 

 

 

 

 

18 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

My advice would be to skip the foreplay.
 

It just confuses them.

been there done that... general confusion and keep asking same question ..."" what u doing"" why u do that""me no like that"" 555

2 hours ago, Terrance8812 said:

I truly appreciate any wisdom, long term experiences, or advice you can share or offer

Don’t come here looking for relationship advice 

36 minutes ago, Hummin said:

anyway, this is most likely a created thread for more clicks and replies. A perfect click bait

 

non convicted felon thread though. a relief. its getting a little weird. 

don't show her any canadian money for starters. 

What do you bring to the table?

 

You want a fairly westernized Thai woman -family on the light side, upper middle class at least so finances are less of an issue.

 

A lot of Western and Asian men want that kind of partner. Their numbers will be few and the competition will be stiff. They'll most likely be found in Bangkok.

 

One reason why many guys here end up with sweet, traditional farm girls is because their numbers are greater and the competition for them is much lower.

 

Such women would possibly come to you via introductions from other likewise Thai people or from an ongoing connection like going to college, attending a church, or doing volunteer work. They will be scarce on Tinder.

 

 

Just do something - whatever you think is ok.

You will make mistakes. We all made mistakes, many of them.

 

So just make sure that you don't promise the first girl that you will marry her.

Tell her you are lost and want to learn about life in Thailand.

After a while you will learn, and then some more, and some more.

Take your time, don't marry in the first couple of years, and make sure you don't produce children. Something like "don't worry, I take the pill" is not good enough. 

It is extreme unlikely that the first one is the right one. You still have to learn. 

They are all looking for ATMs, that reminded me of years ago in a Nana hotel a falang had left a pile of leaflets advising foreigners that the girls only want ATMs, i was shocked guys still don't know that

3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

They are all looking for ATMs, that reminded me of years ago in a Nana hotel a falang had left a pile of leaflets advising foreigners that the girls only want ATMs, i was shocked guys still don't know that

Not all looking for ATM,s my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar.

13 minutes ago, still kicking said:

Not all looking for ATM,s my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar.

 

Doesn't it have something to do with the fact that she left you and is living separately? 🤔

7 hours ago, still kicking said:

Not all looking for ATM,s my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar.

but you bought and paid for a house in Thailand? you own a house in Australia? any age gap? She's just playing the long game, most do

In my personal experience and I dated professional Thai women and I mean by that is like lawyers or doctors and I have dated to working girl and I’ve also dated girl for just a regular job. I find all of them. Is one if you take them to a really nice expensive restaurant or you just take them and buy them some street food to them it’s all the same. They’re interested in security. They are looking for the good life. They believe that foreigners in general will have more money to spend into spend on them for a better life. And the first meeting, they usually tell you their whole life story they think they can gain by having a relationship with you. That’s how it is TIT.

13 hours ago, novacova said:

Don’t come here looking for relationship advice 

 

15 hours ago, Terrance8812 said:

I want to ensure that any potential relationship I engage in is built on mutual respect and understanding,

 

You think too mutt ... test out a few , but don't expect too much ...

Most of them are taught , and know how to catch a farang .

Good luck .

just read the title ... you're DOOMED if you're looking for romance

 

relationships are only about romance the first date. 

 

after that point forward, it's a battlefield. 

 

 

9 hours ago, still kicking said:

my Thai wife of 21 years never ask me for a Dollar.

 

9 hours ago, AnotherOneHere said:

Doesn't it have something to do with the fact that she left you and is living separately? 🤔

Most likely he’s been giving her ฿ because she can’t spend dollars at the local market 

Don't go looking for love. Just enjoy your life.

13 hours ago, Mavideol said:

and that makes 2 .... 555

And 3

…so you post on a forum full of old mongers asking about love and romance?

 

good luck with that.. just let me grab the 🍿

 

 

bob.

16 hours ago, Terrance8812 said:

I’m from Canada and I’ve been in Thailand for about five months now. As I continue to immerse myself in the Bangkok way of life, I’ve also been contemplating dipping my toes into the dating scene here after recently breaking up with a long-time girlfriend from back home.

However, I must admit, I feel a bit out of my depth. While I’ve heard countless stories about the charm and allure of Thai women, I’ve also heard about the complexities and nuances involved in cross-cultural relationships. One concern that weighs a bit on my mind is the stereotype about Thai women and their financial aspirations. I want to ensure that any potential relationship I engage in is built on mutual respect and understanding, rather than purely on materialism or expectations.

 

Another aspect that I’ve heard a lot about is the importance of family in Thai culture. While I deeply respect these values, I can’t help but feel a bit intimidated by the prospect of meeting a partner’s family early on in a relationship. How can I navigate this aspect with grace and sincerity, while also ensuring that I’m setting the right tone for the future?

Additionally, I’m keen to learn more about the language to help form a relationship. While I’ve been making efforts to learn Thai, and can speak a bit, I wonder how crucial fluency is going to be in building a meaningful relationship.

 

Well, I may have already some general stereotypes and misconceptions about dating from others in Thailand, so I’m eager to gain a more nuanced understanding now. I do want to approach this with an open mind though as I have a genuine desire to connect with a woman in the right way.

 

I truly appreciate any wisdom, long term experiences, or advice you can share or offer.

OP you like complicating things don't you?