I'm in a toxic situation...

[susanlea]

6 minutes ago, Hummin said:

It can happen to the best, Im sure you have done your share of mistakes coming out as you do here. 

Tell us your story. It sounds like you have some failed marriage stories you need to get off your chest. Come on spit it out. You will feel better.

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, susanlea said:

So all these stories are real in your opinion? 

Read first and second page again 

 

Just now, susanlea said:

Tell us your story. It sounds like you have some failed marriage stories you need to get off your chest. Come on spit it out. You will feel better.

 

I can't see I have any reason to do so? I'm happy with my life before and now, and look bright at the future. I do not hate anyone or regret anything, and I do not think anyone hate me either in real life. Even I manage to trigger some poor fellas here

 

Can't say that about everyone here. 

 

 

[susanlea]

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Read first and second page again 

 

 

I can't see I have any reason to do so? I'm happy with my life before and now, and look bright at the future. I do not hate anyone or regret anything, and I do not think anyone hate me either in real life. Even I manage to trigger some poor fellas here

 

Can't say that about everyone here. 

 

 

You must be a buddhist then.

[susanlea]

On 6/16/2024 at 5:16 PM, Hummin said:

And giving a confused emotion to this post, just shows how spineless some men in this fora is! 

 

Cowards is the word

Yet you suggested the story might not be real. So it is cowardly to run away from a pretend daughter in a fake story? You must be a troll.

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, susanlea said:

Yet you suggested the story might not be real. So it is cowardly to run away from a pretend daughter in a fake story? You must be a troll.

Im starting to feel sorry for you now! 

[susanlea]

Just now, Hummin said:

Im starting to feel sorry for you now! 

Nobody cares what you think. You live in Isaan.

[Hummin]

3 minutes ago, susanlea said:

Nobody cares what you think. You live in Isaan.

Well thats a new one 😄

 

Im at work and make money now, what is your excuse? Tomorow off and holiday

[susanlea]

6 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Well thats a new one 😄

 

Im at work and make money now, what is your excuse? Tomorow off and holiday

Isaan must be really exciting. Somtam and Krapow Moo. 

[Hummin]

3 minutes ago, susanlea said:

Isaan must be really exciting. Somtam and Krapow Moo. 

you should start a thread so we can continue the pissing contest there, this is far  off topic. 

[fredwiggy]

On 6/16/2024 at 2:16 PM, bob smith said:

...Thai men know all about ditching their kids!

 

bob.

True, and what you see daily on the news is the endgame from those absent fathers.

[save the frogs]

8 hours ago, susanlea said:

I wouldnt marry into a creepy family to start with. 

whats your relationship history? you havent said much about it. 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 6/16/2024 at 4:52 PM, HenryRoths said:

Hi everyone,

I’ve been living in northern Thailand for twelve years and married to my Thai wife for seven. We’ve had our ups and downs, but recently things have become unbearable for me, and I am trying to figure out how to move forward. In the perfect situation, I would like to go back to my own country in Europe, but it's not so simple. I'll explain. 

Firstly, the financial strain induced from her family is becoming overwhelming. Not just the actual money, but the emotional burden too. Her family constantly asks for money, and recently it began taking a toll on my savings. Her father has a serious gambling problem is what I believe is the underlying issue, and I’ve bailed him out more times than I can count, but the excuse is always that he needs money to help keep his commercial truck repair business afloat. It’s reached a point where I feel like I’m also enabling this hidden gambling problem of his.

On top of that, and I know that people will find this shocking, but I’ve started to suspect that my wife’s “brother” might actually be her boyfriend. He’s always around, and they seem overly familiar with each other in ways that make me uncomfortable. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but she gets defensive and angry and accuses me of not trusting her or her family. 

I was told secretly once many years ago by an uncle of hers in the family that her mother had various boyfriends when she was younger, but also already married to my wife's father at that time. Some even suspect some of her older siblings might have a different father because they are much darker skinned than my wife and the 3 other younger siblings. So maybe my wife is no different than her own mother in that sense in terms of infidelity when already married. Apples don't fall too far from the tree, right?

We also have a three-year-old daughter together, and that’s what makes this situation even harder. I’m considering ending the relationship because I can’t continue living like this, but I’m deeply worried about my daughter. I don’t want her to grow up without her father around, and I fear what kind of environment she’ll be raised in if I leave. Even though I would be sending financial support for my daughter after any separation, I don't trust the family values my daughter might grow up with from always being surrounded by my wife's family. 

I would really like to be able to take my daughter and go back to Europe. That would be the best case scenario. I still have a house there and she would get a good education. I’ve thought about trying to get custody, but I know that’s incredibly difficult for a man here in Thailand, especially for a foreigner. I want to do what’s best for my daughter, but I’m stuck between staying in a toxic relationship or leaving and potentially losing my daughter.

Has anyone been through something similar here in Thailand? 

Thanks. 

You have no hope of winning. Move far away and do not tell them where you are.

Arrange to have your daughters expenses taken care of without being there.

Don't do it again with a new woman.