Communication in English with Thai gf

[norsurin]

I understand ur problem.I learned to speak thai well.My exwife learned me even her English was wery good.

After she moved to my country she had to take 600 hours to learn my language.I did a mistake and only speak thai to her.Anyway when she meet her thaifriends here they only spoke thai so my language went downhill.

Even at work they only spoke thai.My suggestion is u try to learn more thai even its not easy..it took me years.

When im in Thailand and meet thai friends we only speak thai even many of them speak English well.

 

[geisha]

On 11/27/2024 at 4:09 AM, JimmyTobacco said:

 

Well, isn't that normal? That you think: "omg there she goes with her present tense instead of the past tense again" and get slightly pissed off? I mean I know my gf knows how to use the past tense. She just doesn't.

 

Not very interested tbh in women from my home country.

IMO the problem is you. You don’t come over as a very nice person. If you loved her you would learn patience, and not act like a language examiner .

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, Paiman said:

I have given up on communicating with a Thai gf.

I now keep chickens, they are superior when it comes to having common sense and communication also seems easier.

How's your sex life with them?

[Lacessit]

I mainly talk to my GF in Thai, she uses a mix of Thai and English.

 

If we get hung up on a word, she has a phone translator, I have Google Translate on my laptop.

[1FinickyOne]

42 minutes ago, scorecard said:

 

Seems you are taking it easy and not getting angry etc.

Good attitude.

There are much more important things in life than misconstruing words. I think sometimes people just like to fight to prove the other person wrong - - as if that will give them some future points in the next argument or choice of sofa or something. I think couples fight for "hand" as in having the upper hand. 

 

I am much better in Thai than my wife is at English and many other thing as well, but she is much better than I am at certain things too. She enjoys having power and a 'say so' in things. Why not? I want her to feel good too. Isn't that the general idea? To have a partner who feels good about being a part of the decision making process?  

 

and besides, getting angry is not really cool here, maybe not anywhere?  

[digger70]

Communication in English with Thai gf .

 

You know it sounds that you have a problem.

You just have to be not so  pedantic  and try to understand and just keep  saying.   Please Explain if you don't understand what she means/talks about .

I Know , i have to do that, Lady digger Can be Quit difficult to be understand  She leaves out words and saying wrong  she just thinks that I know what she's saying.

We can sit for a few minutes sometimes to work out What the Fek is going on or what she /me is talking about.

No good to get your Knickers in a knot ,this is Thailand,

Take it easy on yourself and your GF life is short .

[AndreasHG]

On 11/27/2024 at 9:22 AM, JimmyTobacco said:

I find though that as the relationship progresses, we seem to have more and more communication issues.

 

The same happened to me over and over again. Also in my home country, with girls who spoke my native language.

Never understood why...

 

[Presnock]

3 hours ago, wwest5829 said:

Just a note … my wife speaks Thai into Google translate and Google speaks the English translation to me. Might help?

If google translate could put out perfect or close to the original then they would cease to be a need for anyone to study a foreign language.  I have seen some of those "translations and actually laughed though it isn't really funny.  But, to each his own but if one plans on a long time staying in this country then to obtain a better feel for the people one should learn to speak and understand the language well. MHO but who am I?

[Vibora99]

It seems to me that you are fluent in several languages, but you know nothing about women… A) If you believe in the love of a Thai woman, then you are really deluded…

[xtrnuno41]

Stop drinking and listen🤣

[GypsyT]

It's also important to speak American English!

 

It's better. Yankees know how to cut through BS and get to the point without many unnecessary words.

 

Neither they doubt what they say in same sentence!

Like "We should go to swim, shouldn't we? And so on. Why backing off? Or need others help to decide a simple task?

I don't get it.

 

[Bundooman]

On 11/27/2024 at 10:15 AM, JimmyTobacco said:

 

oh get the <deleted> out of here mate

what do you know about our relationship?

you're probably in a bad mood cause you can't even speak with your missus at all

And there you have it folks.

Smokin' Jimmy boy comes on here, slagging off his GF because she doesn't speak perfect English and he can't speak Thai or English very well.

Smoky - your post alone tells us all we need to know about your relationship.

I can imagine her frustration when you correct her for everything. 

The previous poster to whom you are replying to hit it on the head!

She'd be better off without you.

Never mind - you can move on and criticise someone else.......

 

[Bundooman]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

How's your sex life with them?

Kluckin' clucky, I guess.

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

There are much more important things in life than misconstruing words. I think sometimes people just like to fight to prove the other person wrong - - as if that will give them some future points in the next argument or choice of sofa or something. I think couples fight for "hand" as in having the upper hand. 

 

I am much better in Thai than my wife is at English and many other thing as well, but she is much better than I am at certain things too. She enjoys having power and a 'say so' in things. Why not? I want her to feel good too. Isn't that the general idea? To have a partner who feels good about being a part of the decision making process?  

 

and besides, getting angry is not really cool here, maybe not anywhere?  

I am way above my GF in terms of education, math, and mechanical skills.

 

OTOH, she is streets ahead of me in terms of people smarts, and negotiation in the Thai milieu.

 

It's a good mix.

[AlexRich]

On 11/27/2024 at 2:58 AM, JimmyTobacco said:

In the previous relationship, I was just so sick of her English after a while. Every time she said something, I got so pissed off. Another language we both spoke was German: me to a very decent level but not quite like English, her fluently. But I didn't like communicating in German so much.

 

I feel the same thing is happening here. Every time I hear her speak, I get so frustrated already, before she's even completed the sentence.

 

I think it's not a personal thing, as I have the same when I have to speak with random people who have broken English.

 

A few years ago, I also had a Filipina girlfriend who was (of course) fluent in English, and also good with words, and we did not have this same issue. There were plenty of other issues though, which I luckily don't have with my current gf 😄

 

I suspect you are someone who looks for "issues" when there are none?

 

Be a little more patient with your girlfriend and try harder to understand her. From reading your post it is obvious who the problem is - it's you. 

[proton]

It's quite easy

 

Me: what time are we leaving?- her why you want to know?

No really what time?- same time as always

What time is that then- up to me. 

 

Never answers a bloody question.

 

 

[john donson]

thai girls are shallow or only use them to swallow?

 

angrit me good good?

[wwest5829]

On 11/28/2024 at 5:46 PM, Presnock said:

If google translate could put out perfect or close to the original then they would cease to be a need for anyone to study a foreign language.  I have seen some of those "translations and actually laughed though it isn't really funny.  But, to each his own but if one plans on a long time staying in this country then to obtain a better feel for the people one should learn to speak and understand the language well. MHO but who am I?

Agreed. My example was only a suggestion to get a better understanding of what is trying to be communicated. Certainly I agree that there is yet to be a translation program that can take into consideration more than a word to word exchange with any degree of accuracy. Give me a student of the language who also knows the history and culture of the country to do the translation/interpretation.