Giving the lonely false hope

[georgegeorgia]

I just watched a YouTube video of a Pattaya YouTuber ( from UK)  who is telling guys that are by themselves in their own country to retire early and move to Pattaya 

 

Then I read the sad comments on his YouTube ,some guys are saying they can't wait to move to Pattaya so they won't be lonely anymore , they're stuck in the UK by jobs etc 

 

One guy wrote ( Harold) (which I cried after reading ) is that he was a 60yo man who lives by himself with no family from Cardiff in the UK and he works Monday to Friday ,comes home at night to a empty house, cooks his dinner watches TV  and repeats it the next day 

Weekends he is lonely 

 

He says he can't wait to retire and move to Pattaya so he "doesn't feel lonely"anymore !!!

 

He will sell his house in Cardiff ,give up his government job early so he can move to Pattaya 

 

Now guys please ...we know in reality the YouTuber is lying , move to Pattaya and You won't be lonely....really ?

 

The reality is...

..the lonely guys move from the UK or Australia or wherever to Thailand and move into a 21sqm studio by themselves they work out all the "company" costs money ,no real friends, it all costs money and after a certain amount of time ...1 year? 2 years? work out the "lonilesness" is still ther

 

They find no friends in Pattaya ,they become lonely ,they then have regrets and after 1 year there back in the UK or Australia right 

Right !

Yes 

Thank me ....

I know ..I have studied this

[scubascuba3]

Maybe true for the guys who just drink and go to bars etc most days or just spend too much living the dream that ends as a nightmare 

[save the frogs]

if it's false hope, then why do so many foreigners stay in pattaya for so long?

 

 

[georgegeorgia]

Just now, save the frogs said:

if it's false hope, then why do so many foreigners stay in pattaya for so long?

 

 

Trying to find the "dream" 

So when they sell up in Cardiff or wherever they are moving to the "dream" as the YouTuber tells them

 

But are they ?

 

 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Trying to find the "dream" 

So when they sell up in Cardiff or wherever they are moving to the "dream" as the YouTuber tells them

 

But are they ?

 

 

 

not the ideal retirement lifestyle for me personally. 

 

[Enoon]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

I just watched a YouTube video of a Pattaya YouTuber ( from UK)  who is telling guys that are by themselves in their own country to retire early and move to Pattaya 

 

Then I read the sad comments on his YouTube ,some guys are saying they can't wait to move to Pattaya so they won't be lonely anymore , they're stuck in the UK by jobs etc 

 

One guy wrote ( Harold) (which I cried after reading ) is that he was a 60yo man who lives by himself with no family from Cardiff in the UK and he works Monday to Friday ,comes home at night to a empty house, cooks his dinner watches TV  and repeats it the next day 

Weekends he is lonely 

 

He says he can't wait to retire and move to Pattaya so he "doesn't feel lonely"anymore !!!

 

He will sell his house in Cardiff ,give up his government job early so he can move to Pattaya 

 

Now guys please ...we know in reality the YouTuber is lying , move to Pattaya and You won't be lonely....really ?

 

The reality is...

..the lonely guys move from the UK or Australia or wherever to Thailand and move into a 21sqm studio by themselves they work out all the "company" costs money ,no real friends, it all costs money and after a certain amount of time ...1 year? 2 years? work out the "lonilesness" is still ther

 

They find no friends in Pattaya ,they become lonely ,they then have regrets and after 1 year there back in the UK or Australia right 

Right !

Yes 

Thank me ....

I know ..I have studied this

 

As you are almost certainly the loneliest man contributing to AN, and a regular visitor to Pattaya, I'm sure you know, with unmatched precision and insight, exactly what you are talking about.

 

 

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

I just watched a YouTube video of a Pattaya YouTuber ( from UK)  who is telling guys that are by themselves in their own country to retire early and move to Pattaya 

 

Then I read the sad comments on his YouTube ,some guys are saying they can't wait to move to Pattaya so they won't be lonely anymore , they're stuck in the UK by jobs etc 

 

One guy wrote ( Harold) (which I cried after reading ) is that he was a 60yo man who lives by himself with no family from Cardiff in the UK and he works Monday to Friday ,comes home at night to a empty house, cooks his dinner watches TV  and repeats it the next day 

Weekends he is lonely 

 

He says he can't wait to retire and move to Pattaya so he "doesn't feel lonely"anymore !!!

 

He will sell his house in Cardiff ,give up his government job early so he can move to Pattaya 

 

Now guys please ...we know in reality the YouTuber is lying , move to Pattaya and You won't be lonely....really ?

 

The reality is...

..the lonely guys move from the UK or Australia or wherever to Thailand and move into a 21sqm studio by themselves they work out all the "company" costs money ,no real friends, it all costs money and after a certain amount of time ...1 year? 2 years? work out the "lonilesness" is still ther

 

They find no friends in Pattaya ,they become lonely ,they then have regrets and after 1 year there back in the UK or Australia right 

Right !

Yes 

Thank me ....

I know ..I have studied this

Don't know, it certainly worked for me,

I've had very pleasant female company for the past 16 years, rarely slept alone, and made several very good friends with whom I travelled all over SEA. During that time I've acquired a wife, a house and two great kids.

 

Currently sitting in my living room typing on my tablet, wife at her desk perusing lottery numbers, teen boy lying on the floor playing on his smartphone.

 

I see no reason other pensioners shouldn't find that lifestyle, if that's what they want.

[Harrisfan]

2 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

I just watched a YouTube video of a Pattaya YouTuber ( from UK)  who is telling guys that are by themselves in their own country to retire early and move to Pattaya 

 

Then I read the sad comments on his YouTube ,some guys are saying they can't wait to move to Pattaya so they won't be lonely anymore , they're stuck in the UK by jobs etc 

 

One guy wrote ( Harold) (which I cried after reading ) is that he was a 60yo man who lives by himself with no family from Cardiff in the UK and he works Monday to Friday ,comes home at night to a empty house, cooks his dinner watches TV  and repeats it the next day 

Weekends he is lonely 

 

He says he can't wait to retire and move to Pattaya so he "doesn't feel lonely"anymore !!!

 

He will sell his house in Cardiff ,give up his government job early so he can move to Pattaya 

 

Now guys please ...we know in reality the YouTuber is lying , move to Pattaya and You won't be lonely....really ?

 

The reality is...

..the lonely guys move from the UK or Australia or wherever to Thailand and move into a 21sqm studio by themselves they work out all the "company" costs money ,no real friends, it all costs money and after a certain amount of time ...1 year? 2 years? work out the "lonilesness" is still ther

 

They find no friends in Pattaya ,they become lonely ,they then have regrets and after 1 year there back in the UK or Australia right 

Right !

Yes 

Thank me ....

I know ..I have studied this

Thailand has 78 provinces. Shut up about Pattaya perhaps.

[NorthernRyland]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Don't know, it certainly worked for me,

I've had very pleasant female company for the past 16 years, rarely slept alone, and made several very good friends with whom I travelled all over SEA. During that time I've acquired a wife, a house and two great kids.

 

 

you got out of Pattaya and made a real life (or where never there in the first place). Not everyone can pull that off though.

[Lemsta69]

47 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Thailand has 78 provinces. Shut up about Pattaya perhaps.

 

I've been to quite a few of those 78 (Google says 76) provinces and all of them were dull compared to Pattaya. I guess they floated your boat, after all you think that 20 baht noodles are tastier than prime rib, don't you Sparky? 🤣

[Cameroni]

 

I've seen the most repulsive fat hairy manpigs with slim young girls on their arms in Pattaya. It' can't be that hard to meet women there.

[simon43]

Not being lonely in Pattaya does not necessarily mean having a Thai GF/BF/wife/partner etc.  I'm happily single and when I'm at my condo in Jomtien, I pop over the hill on the baht bus to go shopping, meet some friends, enjoy a meal etc.  If I were so-inclined, I could join the expat club, play golf, do team sports etc etc.

 

The big mistake (IMHO), is that guys seem to assume that when in Thailand you must find a Thai GF etc.  Why??  At my age, no Thai woman will be interested in me other than for my money, so why waste my precious time seeking one out? 

 

There are plenty of social activities in Pattaya that do not involve having a Thai partner - I heartily encourage these 'lonely' men to quit the UK and find a social life in Thailand...

 

 

[persimmon]

Once the house is sold , and most of the money spent , they probably can`t get back on the housing ladder in the UK  , so maybe don`t want to go back and face life in a cheap rental property .

[Rimmer]

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[soi3eddie]

4 hours ago, simon43 said:

There are plenty of social activities in Pattaya that do not involve having a Thai partner - I heartily encourage these 'lonely' men to quit the UK and find a social life in Thailand...

 

There are plenty of social activities in Cardiff too. The guy mentioned in the OP has all weekend to get out and meet people. I'd suggest that if he can't do that in Cardiff, he's not going to do it anywhere. Some people just don't get on with others for various reasons. Could be attitudes, expectations, fitness levels, education, worldly experiences to name just a few. I have a neighbour near me in London, nice, friendly and generous guy (70yrs) but so opinionated in the extreme I try to avoid him. He lives alone in a studio flat, he's got money but few friends (rarely sees or speaks to his elderly mother and his brother). He doesn't say he's lonely, but once in conversation with him, it's difficult to get away as I can tell he wants someone to talk too. 

 

[Dan O]

7 hours ago, Enoon said:

 

As you are almost certainly the loneliest man contributing to AN, and a regular visitor to Pattaya, I'm sure you know, with unmatched precision and insight, exactly what you are talking about.

 

 

Now, Now, you are questioning the intelligence of a man that picked fights with monkeys in Lop Buri and was then insulted that the police wouldn't go and apprehend them and press charges!

[nick supreme]

5 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

I've seen the most repulsive fat hairy manpigs with slim young girls on their arms in Pattaya. It' can't be that hard to meet women there.

All it takes is $$&&&&

[lamyai3]

9 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

One guy wrote ( Harold) (which I cried after reading ) is that he was a 60yo man who lives by himself with no family from Cardiff in the UK and he works Monday to Friday ,comes home at night to a empty house, cooks his dinner watches TV  and repeats it the next day 

Weekends he is lonely 

 

Thought you were maybe talking about Harold who married porn star Nong Nat for a moment there... 

[scubascuba3]

9 hours ago, save the frogs said:

if it's false hope, then why do so many foreigners stay in pattaya for so long?

 

 

People do come and go so you don't notice the leavers

[SAFETY FIRST]

10 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

which I cried after reading

ManUp dude 😎

[gargamon]

10 hours ago, save the frogs said:

if it's false hope, then why do so many foreigners stay in pattaya for so long?

 

 

A lot of them are “all in“ and don't have the financial resources to make a move.

[TedG]

11 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

 

 

One guy wrote ( Harold) (which I cried after reading ) is that he was a 60yo man who lives by himself with no family from Cardiff in the UK and he works Monday to Friday ,comes home at night to a empty house, cooks his dinner watches TV  and repeats it the next day 

Weekends he is lonely 

 

if you lack hobbies at home nothing will change in Thialand. 

[Harrisfan]

Enjoy

 

[georgegeorgia]

10 hours ago, simon43 said:

Not being lonely in Pattaya does not necessarily mean having a Thai GF/BF/wife/partner etc.  I'm happily single and when I'm at my condo in Jomtien, I pop over the hill on the baht bus to go shopping, meet some friends, enjoy a meal etc.  If I were so-inclined, I could join the expat club, play golf, do team sports etc etc.

 

The big mistake (IMHO), is that guys seem to assume that when in Thailand you must find a Thai GF etc.  Why??  At my age, no Thai woman will be interested in me other than for my money, so why waste my precious time seeking one out? 

 

There are plenty of social activities in Pattaya that do not involve having a Thai partner - I heartily encourage these 'lonely' men to quit the UK and find a social life in Thailand...

 

 

The YouTuber in question is more or less correct ...when he said "you guys in the cold UK move to Pattaya,you"ll never be lonely "

The only thing is ...you need to have the $$$ to go to bars every night

[KhunLA]

Nothing changed for me, so easy adjustment.  Usually alone, (not lonely) especially last 5 years in USA, as away from hometown area (Philly metro).  Had a couple friends in those last few years in USA (Memphis metro).

 

Did shift hobbies, considerably.  Upgraded photography to fancy camera & wildlife, vs simple holiday snaps, mostly underwater.   Stopped scuba diving, as main  O&A hobby, after a few dives here in TH, as just not interesting, compared to past experience.

 

Sex, drugs & RR is now down to just sex, after first 5 ish years of weekly, then monthly alcohol warrior, to now nothing.    

 

Museums, the art, concerts & plays are fairly none existent or repetitively boring here, TH.

 

Never had a problem meeting & hooking up with like minded folks, at any age, and wouldn't be different now if single.  Living the relationship dream now, and was living the single dream here in TH, in between marriages.  All good.

 

Something the internet has done, is drive introverts deeper into being alone, as can entertain themselves a bit more at home with internet, porn, games.   Don't even have to go out to eat or shop, just order food and all one's needs, as so many delivery options now.

 

Almost sad, IF, wasn't voluntary.   LIVE WITH ONE'S CHOICES  

 

ME ... roll with it ... BE HAPPY

 

 

Introverts and miserable lot ... get out there and don't bring your problems with you ... 😎

 

 

[FolkGuitar]

Loneliness is not a UK problem. It's a personal one.

If you're lonely in Cardiff, you'll be lonely anywhere you go.

It's up to you to go out and make friends. It's really not that hard to do.

 

'The Zen you find on the top of the mountain is the Zen you brought up with you.'

[georgegeorgia]

9 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Museums, the art, concerts & plays are fairly none existent or repetitively boring here, TH.

Isn't Bangkok the place to retire if your into that ?

[save the frogs]

13 hours ago, gargamon said:

A lot of them are “all in“ and don't have the financial resources to make a move.

Yes, but it's better than what he describes in the OP: Coming home to an empty house, being alone on weekends.

It's way easier to socialize in pattaya. for a coupla beers, someone will keep you company. 

 

[ColeBOzbourne]

After reading the OP, I had to sit down and cry for a while. Now I have things to do, but I'll have more free time around 7:00 this evening. I made myself a note so I won't forget to sit down and cry a little more. 

[georgegeorgia]

1 minute ago, save the frogs said:

Yes, but it's better than what he describes in the OP: Coming home to an empty house, being alone on weekends.

It's way easier to socialize in pattaya. for a coupla beers, someone will keep you company. 

 

And yes someone like Harold a 60yo man who lives alone in Cardiff (apparently this place is in Wales for anyone that doesnt know up near England) but that's another story, could we get back on topic please !!!!!