21 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

Cosy Bar in Pattaya 15 years ago

What was she doing there?

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

What was she doing there?

 

Cleaner.

On 8/29/2025 at 7:00 PM, GinBoy2 said:

20/30 something with a 50/60+ something, that's a financial transaction

 

Even so, where does the bar girl experience come in?

 

Our age gap is 28, but she was never a girl in the industry mentioned. And this is Pattaya. Surely I'm not the only one. 

 

Don't assume a thing, before you actually know. We are all different. There are ladies to be found everywhere, most of them outside of the bar industry. 

 

Tattoos, plenty of them or huge ones, make me suspicious though. I'll admit that.

On 9/1/2025 at 2:49 PM, ChaiyaTH said:

Virtually 65% of girls nowadays has tattoos.

How do you back up that claim?

Not my experience at all.

 

Are you talking about Pattaya soi 6? There are other streets in Thailand, just saying.

I met my Thai wife many years ago when she was a graduate student studying in my home country.  

On 9/1/2025 at 8:42 AM, MalcolmB said:

Well a recent poll here showed that roughly half of members did in fact meet their wife or girlfriend either in a bar, gogo, massage shop or on online so it is only natural that people will assume that.

Online? Seriously? That is not the same industry at all. It's the opposite, and the other half of this poll.

On 9/2/2025 at 4:23 AM, GinBoy2 said:

It's back to my previous post, the 60 yo hasn't met his 20yo tillack at work, or at a coffee shop, so we really are down to the bar thing

No, we are not. 28 years age gap here, none of us have never even been near a bar.

 

And all the people dating and finding their teerak online? How on earth do you know which background they have?

There is no love in thailand only money. so yeah most likley a prostitute would guess 95% are.

 

if he is broke , she is gone.  love between a farang and a thai , i really have to laugh,

 

thai rak thai

1 hour ago, MRMOUSE said:

Trump lover would be deal killer

I would have changed her mind in a heartbeat 😎

1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

What was she doing there?

What girls working in bars normally do.

On 8/30/2025 at 7:01 AM, baansgr said:

Oh no, I don't care either...good luck to any guy that hooks up with a Thai wife, I wish them all the happiness be it a bar girl or uni lecturer...but just understand, which ever it is, they are basically with you for one reason and are frowned upon by other Thais

What an absolute load of cobblers. My Mrs is well respected by all.

Of course she, or any other wife in most of the world, are with a man who can support them emotionally and financially.

1 hour ago, thaibreaker said:

Even so, where does the bar girl experience come in?

 

Our age gap is 28, but she was never a girl in the industry mentioned. And this is Pattaya. Surely I'm not the only one. 

 

Don't assume a thing, before you actually know. We are all different. There are ladies to be found everywhere, most of them outside of the bar industry. 

 

Tattoos, plenty of them or huge ones, make me suspicious though. I'll admit that.

My step daughter at 25 has the most horrendous tattoos, back & front, but has never been in a bar, let alone worked in one.

1 minute ago, KannikaP said:

but has never been in a bar, let alone worked in one.

How could you possibly know ? 

Just have add my 2 cents. I met my wife of 44 years of marrage in the USA. She was there visting her friend and we started to dating early June. After 3 months we were married. I was in the US Air Force and just after we were married I received orders to Germany. Married in late Aug left the US early Dec. I am 4 months older the her, I'm now 82 and she will 82 in Oct. Served 30+ years in the Air Forse  moved too Bangkok June 1991 and retired here 1 Sept 1991.  Work at the US Embasy 15 years and retired in 2008. No tattoos on either of us. We have one daughter she was raised in Bangkok went to US for collage. Has earned a PHd and visits us about three times a year.

19 minutes ago, johng said:

How could you possibly know ? 

Because she has lived with me since 2009, since she was 10.

OK, she may have had the odd drink now & then with her boyfriend, but hates the taste and smell of alcohol.

40 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

What girls working in bars normally do.

 

36 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

My Mrs is well respected by all.

Really?

30 minutes ago, johng said:

How could you possibly know ? 

 

Exactly.

 

Girl I was with, got up...... said she had to go, pulled an apron from her bag and slipped it on .

 

I asked what are doing?........My dad is picks me every night, I told him I work as waitress.

 

9 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

 

Really?

Sorry, I should qualify that by saying all who know her.

Do you think that she or I care about what nasty members on AN say, especially ones with ridiculous avatars.

2 minutes ago, KannikaP said:

Sorry, I should qualify that by saying all who know her.

Do you think that she or I care about what nasty members on AN say, especially ones with ridiculous avatars.

I would have believed you if you had of said she is liked by all.

 

But respected by all as a bargirl, I am not saying that you don’t believe that yourself, but it is a very big call.

On 8/29/2025 at 11:51 PM, still kicking said:

50-plus years age difference

Whatever floats your boat.  But November/February romances aren't my thing. But relationships boil down to the two people engaged in the relationship.  Well, unless you're going for a pure P4P transaction.  

1 hour ago, KannikaP said:

My step daughter at 25 has the most horrendous tattoos, back & front, but has never been in a bar, let alone worked in one.

Good. There are exceptions of course. It's just getting my suspicions when I see a girl with them, that's all.

1 hour ago, KannikaP said:

My step daughter at 25 has the most horrendous tattoos, back & front, but has never been in a bar, let alone worked in one.

What does her dad think of all the tattoos?

Does she have a job?

On 8/29/2025 at 5:36 PM, Nick Carter icp said:

You can usually immediately tell :

The woman has tattoos . 

Died hair .

Her speaking English ability revolves round bar topics .

She suggests having a beer at 4 PM

Has a filthy laugh when saying "I go with you *filthy laught*............to the shops"

Thinks the woman across the road is taking yaba 

Has three different coloured kids 

Goes to sleep wearing make-up

I guess I'm safe. My wife (soon to be X) has none of those traits.  I thought she was one smart cookie, but then she married me...  🤣

47 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I would have believed you if you had of said she is liked by all.

 

But respected by all as a bargirl, I am not saying that you don’t believe that yourself, but it is a very big call.

It is over 15 years since she worked in the bar where I met her.

So you prefer that I had said liked as opposed to respected. 

You talk an absolute load of rubbish.

19 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

What does her dad think of all the tattoos?

Does she have a job?

Her father is no longer in her life, I have taken that role.

She works in a private bank in the city.

58 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

Exactly.

 

Girl I was with, got up...... said she had to go, pulled an apron from her bag and slipped it on .

 

I asked what are doing?........My dad is picks me every night, I told him I work as waitress.

 

 

    That's the usual excuse when they politely want to leave .

"I've finished my ladies drink, you've had  grope "

Time to go 

1 hour ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

    That's the usual excuse when they politely want to leave .

"I've finished my ladies drink, you've had  grope "

Time to go 

 

Bit extreme carrying an apron....plus we'd been in bed for the previous four hours.

5 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

Bit extreme carrying an apron....plus we'd been in bed for the previous four hours.

 

   I don't believe you .

You were sat in  bar with her 

Tattoos and wear sun glasses when it isn't sunny. would make me wonder.

I worked my way through the first dozen friends i have in Udon, and none of them have partners with Bar girl traits as mentioned in this thread. All bar one have been with our partners for over 10 years (some more than 20). Typical age gap about 20 years. I think most found their partners online, back in the days when dating sites were not overrun by pay for play girls, all the girls were 30 plus I think when they met. Mine was at a restaurant next to a pond i was fishing, her late 30's.

 

Obviously support was the number one criteria - both ways.

On 8/29/2025 at 4:06 PM, Nick Carter icp said:

You can usually immediately tell :

The woman has tattoos . 

Died hair .

Her speaking English ability revolves round bar topics .

She suggests having a beer at 4 PM

Has a filthy laugh when saying "I go with you *filthy laught*............to the shops"

Thinks the woman across the road is taking yaba 

Has three different coloured kids 

Goes to sleep wearing make-up

Mine’s same same but different!