12 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Look who's still here. He is seriously creepy. Click on his profile. Read how many posts are about me. The guy needs therapy.

 

I'm sure you guys can iron out your differences at Malcy's Xmas party over a couple of drinks? 

 

The internet is not real life. 

 

2 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

I'm sure you guys can iron out your differences at Malcy's Xmas party over a couple of drinks? 

 

The internet is not real life. 

 

The stalkers won't go. KWs won't show their faces cause then the game is up. 

12 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

The stalkers won't go. KWs won't show their faces cause then the game is up. 

 

Yeah, it's no fun taunting someone online if you know who they are. 

 

6 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

Yeah, it's no fun taunting someone online if you know who they are. 

 

Yeah thats why millions of cowards do it online. The computer protects their fake image. In real life those 3 would be pathetic. 

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

The stalkers won't go. KWs won't show their faces cause then the game is up. 

You’ve been clinging to that imaginary Christmas party like it’s your ticket out of loneliness, hoping it might be the one place you could actually make a real friend. It won’t be. There’s no party, never was, just a throwaway joke that only you managed to take seriously. You’re the only one still going on about it, day after day, like it’s some grand event everyone forgot to invite you to.

 

What’s even sadder is how you spend much of your time lurking through profiles, taking notes on people you never met, keeping tabs on who said what. That’s not social interaction, that’s obsession. Nobody with an actual life would ever bother doing that.

 

And even if the mythical party somehow did exist, nobody with a shred of self-respect would show up. Who’d want to spend an evening surrounded by bitter keyboard warriors who confuse forum drama for human connection? The only ones desperate enough to care are the ones who need it the most, which says everything that needs to be said.

3 hours ago, save the frogs said:

 

I'm sure you guys can iron out your differences at Malcy's Xmas party over a couple of drinks? 

 

The internet is not real life. 

 

 

Perhaps if you found a job ?

Have you thought about getting a job

9 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

I reckon the best drive is Nong Khai to Chiang Khan to Phrae to Pua to Chiang Rai to MHS to Mae Sot to Sukhothai to Udon. Awesome trip. 

We prefer the South; Surat Thani, Phang Nga, Krabi

7 hours ago, short-Timer said:

You’ve been clinging to that imaginary Christmas party like it’s your ticket out of loneliness, hoping it might be the one place you could actually make a real friend. It won’t be. There’s no party, never was, just a throwaway joke that only you managed to take seriously. You’re the only one still going on about it, day after day, like it’s some grand event everyone forgot to invite you to.

 

What’s even sadder is how you spend much of your time lurking through profiles, taking notes on people you never met, keeping tabs on who said what. That’s not social interaction, that’s obsession. Nobody with an actual life would ever bother doing that.

 

And even if the mythical party somehow did exist, nobody with a shred of self-respect would show up. Who’d want to spend an evening surrounded by bitter keyboard warriors who confuse forum drama for human connection? The only ones desperate enough to care are the ones who need it the most, which says everything that needs to be said.

Someone needs a hug......

22 hours ago, FolkGuitar said:

Neither an introvert or an extrovert.
I simply value my 'alone time' over insipid, banal conversations with strangers.  Introduce me to people with something interesting to talk about and I'm happy to join in.

Great post.

I can add a bit more if I may...

On this "Neither an introvert or an extrovert.".  Being one or the other stems mainly from genetics, how our brain works.

 

An "extrovert" is at ease talking with many people at a time. He is comfortable with making mistakes while talking, as he simply learns from those, from the reaction of the listeners. Politicians come from this group.

 

An "introvert" is at ease talking with one or 2 people at a time, as he gets uncomfortable and confused, if he makes a mistake, shown by the reaction of others. But in a group of 10 people for example, he will regain a level of comfort, as he is able to focus on only one or two people from that group. So an introvert is more likely to have this 'fear of public speaking'. 

 

Ways of learning.

Extrovert. Learning while speaking. Like a politician. Does not care a bit about being called names (smile).

And many extroverts might gladly join a protest group, without knowing anything about the subject matter. 

 

Introvert. Tendency, depending on his surrounding, to do his homework, before voicing opinions... Might become an intellectual.. The more an introvert learns, the less this introversion characteristic can become apparent. And given the polarization of ideas in this world, hopefully introverts will be studying subject matters while extroverts are out on the streets. (smile).

 

And these 2 characteristics are compounded by the notion of people being either 'visual', or 'auditive', or 'kinesthetic', which will affect also the way information is processed. But I will not describe these, as off the subject.

 

And on this part of your post: "I simply value my 'alone time'"......

 

I read recently that people, as they age, get a lot more protective of their time, (or should). 

Staying away from small talk.

Concentrating less on family, more on just a few good friends, with whom you share values and thoughts, and ideology perhaps..

 

Indistinguishable from being an 'introvert' for any 'extrovert'.

 

Socioemotional Selectivity Theory: This prominent theory suggests that as people perceive their time horizons as limited (which often occurs with advancing age, though not strictly at age 70), they shift their priorities. They tend to invest less time in future-oriented goals or casual social contacts and more time in emotionally meaningful pursuits and close relationships

I'd rather have a cooler with beer, a joint and a beach chair next to crystal clear water in the warm sand gazing upon the horizon than being around others.

2 hours ago, EVENKEEL said:

Someone needs a hug......

Even the dogs avoid ST.

9 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

 

Perhaps if you found a job ?

Have you thought about getting a job

You need a boyfriend

OMNIVERT

On 11/5/2025 at 10:55 PM, short-Timer said:

You’ve been clinging to that imaginary Christmas party like it’s your ticket out of loneliness

Agreed, strong, strong Johnny No-Mates vibe. 

 

But if it's somehow real, they should give him a little plastic trophy for traveling the farthest.

 

He would really love that. 

 

 

But I'm def an extrovert. In my sales job, I met at least 3 new people a day for 10 years.

 

So at least 10,000 people. I still meet at least a half a dozen new people a week.

 

But I really want an GG update on what's going on at the used bookstore that he loves so much. I wonder what dogeared paperback Tom Clancy he bought.

On 11/7/2025 at 3:58 AM, Prubangboy said:

But I'm def an extrovert. In my sales job, I met at least 3 new people a day for 10 years.

 

So at least 10,000 people. I still meet at least a half a dozen new people a week.

 

But I really want an GG update on what's going on at the used bookstore that he loves so much. I wonder what dogeared paperback Tom Clancy he bought.

I suggest you head out to Canterbury tales yourself to meet academics

I was introvert already before coming to Thailand, but it has definitely gotten much worse. I like to go out to restaurants and shopping in malls, but all the extremely noisy and inconsiderate people makes me soon longing to go home again. Many shopping malls and supermarkets even have speakers always blasting loud advertisings from a person with a shrill voice. People in bar areas tends to become louder and louder the more they drink, so that's a no go for me. 

On 11/4/2025 at 11:41 PM, georgegeorgia said:

I don't care if your a retired  expat in Thailand Vietnam Cambodia or Philippines or even Bali 

 

I want to know since you retired have you become a introvert or extrovert , have you changed ?

 

 

Or are you now an extrovert ,loving being around people , going out to bars ,mixing with crowds ,

 

How do you know your a extrovert 

 

Have you changed since becoming an expat from introvert to extrovert or the other way around ?

 

I'm an introvert , people are just horrible, backstabbers ,gossipers etc I keep to myself away from people even in Pattaya where the only place I went was a bookshop 

Introvert, I've always been to some level and still is, I don't think I have changed much, I love privacy and mainly only like to meet people at home when they are invited. I never seek company outside like visiting pubs for a talk with pals or sharing beer or food – however some (very) attractive ladies have occasionally been excluded from me being an introvert...

On 11/5/2025 at 8:08 PM, short-Timer said:

Well, if you feel like you're truly missing out on the underworld crowd, you could always head out to the bars more often. 😂

I am not an alcoholic witch you appear to be. If you only feel content in a bar you need help.

On 11/5/2025 at 8:28 AM, ColeBOzbourne said:

I believe you are an extrovert online, but an introvert in real life.

I have a feeling that most keyboard warriors are like this. 🤔

12 hours ago, IsaanT said:

I have a feeling that most keyboard warriors are like this. 🤔

Absolutely many are sadly and I say sadly because many of these type of people are basement people or 21sqm flybird condominium people who never leave their room

 

This forum is not only a business but a community support service for such people 

 

 

 

On 11/5/2025 at 6:33 AM, short-Timer said:

Don't come to Thailand Georgina. I'm being serious and not trolling. The ones you describe would be great. But in Thailand you've got far worse. Many foreigners are hustlers, fugitives, fraudsters, burglars, domestic abusers, scammers, thieves, thugs, grifters, drunks, hooligans, murderers, pedos, etc. It's a jungle out there!

Is it possible that you are generalising about Pattaya and Phuket, and thus the people that are attracted to these places?  The contented monogamists on the forum that live away from these sexpat traps might have an alternative viewpoint.