1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

As long as your happy and no regrets

Yes I have lived a wonderful life ,no regrets about anything,

regards worgeordie

On 2/8/2026 at 1:44 PM, Kinnock said:

In another thread about retirement in Thailand I noticed the 'Agree' emojis when I said that with the right woman, Thailand can be a great place to retire.

To balance the negativity in some other threads, and to provide a counterpoint to the P4P threads, I wanted to give some real life examples of my relationship. I'm sure others will have similar experiences and also may want to share.

1. Food:

   Breakfast - cooked breakfast every day when we're at home. She alternates between Khao Tom with fresh veg and her version of a Western cooked breakfast - usually eggs, salad, smoked salmon, cheese, chicken sausages, plus a fresh fruit smoothie.

   When travelling for work (I'm semi retired), she buys fresh fruit and veg and brings muesli so I still have a healthy start to the day.

   When eating out she orders for both us and shows the right combinations of items, dips, sauces to enjoy the Thai food.

   

2. Money

   Yes, she expects me to provide for her in return for years of devoted, caring support, and she has a gold addiction. But the value of the gold I've bought her over the years has skyrocketed, so I see it as her investment for the future (24 year age gap). The house is also in her name for the same reason, but I also have a condo in my name. I trust her absolutely, but wanted something in Thailand my name and it helped when getting PR.

   Also, she helps run our business, so has her own income, although she views that as 'her money' and my money as 'our money'. But it's semantics really, as we're spending our combined income and if she didn't have her own salary from the business I'd just need to give her a larger allowance. The allowance I give her each month goes entirely on the household bills (which she manages) plus groceries etc. She still calls it her 'wife salary' mainly to tease me, but also some things are so ingrained in the culture she sees it as normal.

3. Travel/Leisure

   We both like to travel in Thailand and abroad. I love to show her new international experiences, as I've travelled extensively for work and was getting jaded, but now I see it through her eyes. Her seeing snow for the first time and trying skiing was just magical.

   She's always planning trips in Thailand, and I've seen some amazing sights that I'd never find myself, such as cloud seas and mountain top temples. I used to drive her everywhere, mainly because her driving was terrifying, but after years of 'coaching' (screaming) she now drives like a falang.

   We both like movies, me for watching and her for sleeping.

   

4. Sex

   Still amazing after 16 years. She was a strong 10+ when we met, and being younger than me, she always looks hot to me. And my (admittedly not extensive) experience of Western girls was that they're like those base model cars where half the switches are blanked off as they're not connected, whereas she comes fully connected (I never knew nipple orgasms were a thing!)

Downsides

Few, but there are some.

1. Family

   For our first 10 years together their seething jealousy was a problem. She's the youngest, so they expected her to have less than them, mainly by giving everything to them. But one by one they were so unreasonable she stopped talking to them, which was a relief.

2. Lazada

   Major Lazada addiction. While the total costs are insignificant as it's all cheap stuff, the space taken up in the house and condo is becoming critical. It's 'things for work, things for the house, things for friends, things for me', but we have Grab bikes and Kerry trucks queuing up outside like a BigC warehouse. Although I do like the usb chargeable mini shaver and micro 4WD drift car she bought me last week.

   

3. Silent treatment

   Never lasts too long, I probably deserved it, but it's annoying. And she still feeds me and lets me use her body, so no big deal.

4. She gets tired of speaking English

   My Thai is OK for general communication, but not good enough for serious conversations. She finds it tiring speaking English all the time. My fault, but it's such a tough language to master.

Anyway, enough (more than enough!) about mine, how about yours?

Thanks for letting us know, you are a very virtuous fellow…

On 2/8/2026 at 3:52 PM, Kinnock said:

Yes, there's not a single solution for everyone, and I can see the appeal of getting new models, but for me, the trust and genuine care and affection is of value.

Plus the age gap means she still looks great, but not so much that we'd be embarrassed to be seen together in public.

Mine has put on a little extra 'curves' since we met 16 years ago, but in the right places, so no complaints from me.

Count yourself lucky, in that a 20 year age is enough. The older I get, ironically, the younger the women have to be for me to feel anything. Being in my late sixties, it would mean a Thai woman in her forties. I find very few Thai women in their late thirties attractive.

Obviously, a woman 30 years younger than me, will find me repulsive, too.

So, I either have to let the Baht do the talking or become celibate.

Unfortunately, you can't command yourself to desire something.

55 minutes ago, thecyclist said:

Count yourself lucky, in that a 20 year age is enough. The older I get, ironically, the younger the women have to be for me to feel anything. Being in my late sixties, it would mean a Thai woman in her forties. I find very few Thai women in their late thirties attractive.

Obviously, a woman 30 years younger than me, will find me repulsive, too.

So, I either have to let the Baht do the talking or become celibate.

Unfortunately, you can't command yourself to desire something.

Interesting viewpoint.

I've seen some very attractive Thai women in their 40's (mine included). I know it's subjective, but If they've looked after themselves and stayed active, the right ones can still be a '10' whilst also having the maturity and experience to make them more fascinating than the youngsters.

34 minutes ago, Kinnock said:

Interesting viewpoint.

I've seen some very attractive Thai women in their 40's (mine included). I know it's subjective, but If they've looked after themselves and stayed active, the right ones can still be a '10' whilst also having the maturity and experience to make them more fascinating than the youngsters.

You got so many young girls in you to teach and learn from, and then you just mature together for good and bad. Her getting older, do not mind me for one second. The qualities she got, and how she makes me feel and be, outweighs the physical appearance changes.

It is good to see these short social media reels where they find old cuples and ask them what they appreciate about each other, and what the secret to stay together for so many years, and the love they show for each other. Gives hope for future

About 10 years ago, I woke up to the fact that I was actually very happy indeed in my marriage to Mrs Thailand, and for so many of the reasons that are mentioned in this thread.

Happy not for a specific reason (like she's beautiful, speaks good English, has a superb income etc), but mainly because there was absolutely nothing to quarrel about, nothing ever to stew over.

I once asked her when we were on FaceTime in different countries, "Why do you love me, tirak?"

She immediately replied:

You don't shout;

You take shower every day;

You "lor" (= hansum!!)

You nam jai,

You smile.

(I thought the first two reasons were really a commentary on her ex-husband!)

But in the end it all comes down (as many have said, or implied, here):

"I take care you; you take care me."

30 years separate us.

Things may be different un rural areas and better for sure.

But for sure, in popular tourist beach towns or metros like Bangkok, Hua Hin, Pattaya or Phuket, whenever foreigners see another foreign man with a thai lady, they will, wrongly, tend to assume the lady is on a rent-a-week basis. Sad but that's how the human nature can sometimes wrongfully assume.

26 minutes ago, Leopold Bloom said:

About 10 years ago, I woke up to the fact that I was actually very happy indeed in my marriage to Mrs Thailand, and for so many of the reasons that are mentioned in this thread.

Happy not for a specific reason (like she's beautiful, speaks good English, has a superb income etc), but mainly because there was absolutely nothing to quarrel about, nothing ever to stew over.

I once asked her when we were on FaceTime in different countries, "Why do you love me, tirak?"

She immediately replied:

You don't shout;

You take shower every day;

You "lor" (= hansum!!)

You nam jai,

You smile.

(I thought the first two reasons were really a commentary on her ex-husband!)

But in the end it all comes down (as many have said, or implied, here):

"I take care you; you take care me."

30 years separate us.

Yes - having someone who simply cares for you, in return for being cared for, is a big bonus in life.

I once asked her why she was first interested in me - her answer was "you looked clean"

- Not the most complimentary answer 😅 but she decided on the first day we met at the hotel she was managing, that I was the one.

I have to admit it was several years before I considered our relationship permanent, I just wanted to get her naked.

On 2/8/2026 at 1:44 PM, Kinnock said:

In another thread about retirement in Thailand I noticed the 'Agree' emojis when I said that with the right woman, Thailand can be a great place to retire.

To balance the negativity in some other threads, and to provide a counterpoint to the P4P threads, I wanted to give some real life examples of my relationship. I'm sure others will have similar experiences and also may want to share.

1. Food:

   Breakfast - cooked breakfast every day when we're at home. She alternates between Khao Tom with fresh veg and her version of a Western cooked breakfast - usually eggs, salad, smoked salmon, cheese, chicken sausages, plus a fresh fruit smoothie.

   When travelling for work (I'm semi retired), she buys fresh fruit and veg and brings muesli so I still have a healthy start to the day.

   When eating out she orders for both us and shows the right combinations of items, dips, sauces to enjoy the Thai food.

   

2. Money

   Yes, she expects me to provide for her in return for years of devoted, caring support, and she has a gold addiction. But the value of the gold I've bought her over the years has skyrocketed, so I see it as her investment for the future (24 year age gap). The house is also in her name for the same reason, but I also have a condo in my name. I trust her absolutely, but wanted something in Thailand my name and it helped when getting PR.

   Also, she helps run our business, so has her own income, although she views that as 'her money' and my money as 'our money'. But it's semantics really, as we're spending our combined income and if she didn't have her own salary from the business I'd just need to give her a larger allowance. The allowance I give her each month goes entirely on the household bills (which she manages) plus groceries etc. She still calls it her 'wife salary' mainly to tease me, but also some things are so ingrained in the culture she sees it as normal.

3. Travel/Leisure

   We both like to travel in Thailand and abroad. I love to show her new international experiences, as I've travelled extensively for work and was getting jaded, but now I see it through her eyes. Her seeing snow for the first time and trying skiing was just magical.

   She's always planning trips in Thailand, and I've seen some amazing sights that I'd never find myself, such as cloud seas and mountain top temples. I used to drive her everywhere, mainly because her driving was terrifying, but after years of 'coaching' (screaming) she now drives like a falang.

   We both like movies, me for watching and her for sleeping.

   

4. Sex

   Still amazing after 16 years. She was a strong 10+ when we met, and being younger than me, she always looks hot to me. And my (admittedly not extensive) experience of Western girls was that they're like those base model cars where half the switches are blanked off as they're not connected, whereas she comes fully connected (I never knew nipple orgasms were a thing!)

Downsides

Few, but there are some.

1. Family

   For our first 10 years together their seething jealousy was a problem. She's the youngest, so they expected her to have less than them, mainly by giving everything to them. But one by one they were so unreasonable she stopped talking to them, which was a relief.

2. Lazada

   Major Lazada addiction. While the total costs are insignificant as it's all cheap stuff, the space taken up in the house and condo is becoming critical. It's 'things for work, things for the house, things for friends, things for me', but we have Grab bikes and Kerry trucks queuing up outside like a BigC warehouse. Although I do like the usb chargeable mini shaver and micro 4WD drift car she bought me last week.

   

3. Silent treatment

   Never lasts too long, I probably deserved it, but it's annoying. And she still feeds me and lets me use her body, so no big deal.

4. She gets tired of speaking English

   My Thai is OK for general communication, but not good enough for serious conversations. She finds it tiring speaking English all the time. My fault, but it's such a tough language to master.

Anyway, enough (more than enough!) about mine, how about yours?

Mine is addicted to lazada, bought gold and sold it, then asked me to buy it back and then sold it again, forever buying clothes and has boxes full of clothes that she wears once.

I have donated so many boxes of clothing just to make room from the clutter, couriers arrive daily with junk and she spends hours writing numbers in books trying to work out the next winning lotto,

Also sits close to me if I watch a movie but either sleeps or plays on the phone and does meals just like yours, very similar in many ways, also the youngest and gets pressed by the family.

1 hour ago, kiwikeith said:

forever buying clothes and has boxes full of clothes that she wears once.

I have donated so many boxes of clothing just to make room from the clutter, couriers arrive daily with junk

I think this might be a common problem. Covid didn't help with everybody getting more used to online ordering during that period. The amount of clutter with shoes, handbags and boxes in my place is a concern in our place, but the deliveries keep coming.

On 2/13/2026 at 12:42 PM, khunPer said:

Congratulations OP – thanks for sharing – there seems to be many good success stories about Farang-Thai relationships, but we unfortunately maninkly hear the horror click-bait ones. We should hear/share more of the good ones...👍

However, I have a huge problem with selected a Thai-woman: I don't eat breakfast...🫣

I'm only 6 months into a new relationship, so I'm only just getting to grips with her cooking and eating all the time. I don't eat breakfast either (worst meal of the day), and she struggles to understand that, but she is the most loving and caring woman I've ever been with. We are together 24/7 and genuinely don't like to be apart. She told me when we first met that it is easy to find a good-looking girlfriend in Thailand, but much harder to find a good woman. She's a hairdresser, so I don't need to pay for a haircut now. Me 70, her 47 years old

On 2/13/2026 at 6:52 PM, Kinnock said:

Interesting viewpoint.

I've seen some very attractive Thai women in their 40's (mine included). I know it's subjective, but If they've looked after themselves and stayed active, the right ones can still be a '10' whilst also having the maturity and experience to make them more fascinating than the youngsters.

Not really a viewpoint. Viewpoints are easy to change, you have some control over what you think.

Feelings and desires are little dictators inside of you.

I love vanilla ice-cream, can't stand strawberry ice cream. No effort in the world can switch that around.

10 hours ago, Jaggg88 said:

I'm only 6 months into a new relationship, so I'm only just getting to grips with her cooking and eating all the time. I don't eat breakfast either (worst meal of the day), and she struggles to understand that, but she is the most loving and caring woman I've ever been with. We are together 24/7 and genuinely don't like to be apart. She told me when we first met that it is easy to find a good-looking girlfriend in Thailand, but much harder to find a good woman. She's a hairdresser, so I don't need to pay for a haircut now. Me 70, her 47 years old

Thanks for you reply, and congratulations with your (new) relationship, I wish you both best luck.

My breakfast-remark was both humoristic and true. From my experience it takes a little while before a Thai girlfriend get used to Westerners living a different life-style – many girls are tought from home that a good wife is one that takes good care of her husband – in time a relationship can work very well, even you might still be surprised by being served something extra, like fruit or a little snack, you didn't expect.

A good relationship is a question af balance from both parts – it takes two... – and with also a cultural gap it needs some extra balance. It can work, I've now been together with my lovely Thai girlfriend for almost 23 years, our age gap is 32 years.