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Do expats in Thailand see relationships differently over time?

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Just now, fredwiggy said:

One, I never freak out. that's you assumption leaking out. Two, I'm not paying but helping my girlfriend, something a man does. Three, I've had children with a few women and had custody of all of them, as I will this one, and their state of mental fitness is why.

Yes, I've posted this before, but some very strange members have took this information and turned it around to make themselves feel better, likely because they (you) don't know how to treat women well and then brag about having them pay for you, all the while remembering you said you've been with one for 11 years, so why are you still dating others and making them pay for meals?

I think we've all seen and heard examples of bar girls suggesting that you are 'helping' each other. You using the word 'help' doesn't change the fact that you are giving money to a woman who does not even live with you.

You will eventually have to accept that people will, including your partners and potential partners, perceive events differently from the way that you do. Being abusive and insulting towards them will only hasten the demise of any possible relationship. Labelling them as morons or mentally ill won't change that simple fact.

Using your logic, if I was unable to treat women well, then why do they stick with me without the need to give them money? Why are they happy to share everything they have with me?

Perhaps my behaviour is far more acceptable than for which you are willing to give me credit. I'm sure that you have noted that not once, in the past, let's say 50 exchanges between us, have I felt the need to be abusive towards you. But in every single one of your posts, you have demonstrated a lack of control.

"Making them pay for meals"? Pray tell me, how does a man make a woman pay for his meal? Does it not occur to you that they might choose to do so for themselves?

Your mind is not open to anything other than what you choose to believe. So you are destined to behave in exactly the same way, over and over again. No ability to adapt. No amount of reading is going to change that. You have to change you. Again...this applies to everyone.

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1 hour ago, save the frogs said:

Because you weren't paying attention to her feelings.

You gotta read body language, pay attention to subtle clues, try to read her mind even.

More likely she was rewriting history in her mind.

Women lie, all the time, about everything.

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

I lived there 62 years, and know what's around. I spent much of my time in gyms, and see those who exercise, which has the body staying fit much longer, especially if you have healthy eating habits. My last ex was in her late 40's, and was fine, as well as many others I dated.

Clearly she wasn't fine, and neither were your previous choices.

Everyone can make a mistake, making the same mistake three times, not so much.

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:
8 minutes ago, atpeace said:

Good luck but it does seem delusional to me that you think you can land a woman 15-20 years younger than you that is a 9+. It happens in the movies if that counts :) It also happens if you hve sick money which you definately don not. Hot women aren't looking for men that have a past litterred with divorces and little money and are decdes older.

OK, we disagree. Good luck and hope you have a good life. America is a great place to enjoy the outdoors which you enjoy and you are still fit enough to get out there and fish or whatever.

Just now, IsmeUno said:

You will eventually have to accept that people will, including your partners and potential partners, perceive events differently from the way that you do and being abusive and insulting towards them will only hasten the demise of any possible relationship. Labelling them as morons or mentally ill won't change that simple fact.

Using your logic, if I was unable to treat women well, then why do they stick with me without the need to give them money? Why are they happy to share everything they have with me?

Perhaps my behaviour is far more acceptable than for which you are willing to give me credit. I'm sure that you have noted that not once, in the past, let's say 50 exchanges between us, have I felt the need to be abusive towards you. But in every single one of your posts, you have demonstrated a lack of control.

"Making them pay for meals"? Pray tell me, how does a man make a woman pay for his meal? Does it not occur to you that they might choose to do so for themselves?

Your mind is not open to anything other than what you choose to believe. So you are destined to behave in exactly the same way, over and over again. No ability to adapt. No amount of reading is going to change that. You have to change you. Again...this applies to everyone.

If you behave with them like you do here, they'll never stay long unless they're there for the money you supposedly never give them, which is BS anyway. It's YOU that thinks I've been abusive towards anyone when I haven't. I already said i have always treated women well. That you don't believe it means nothing, as you again, were not there. Whatever you've said about your women can also be treated the same way as you assume about me, so think about that.

You constantly keep saying I'm raging, out of control, or hysterical, when I'm just sitting here typing, calling you out on your wild assumptions and exaggerations, and laughing. Try acting like an adult for a change and stop attacking people that have always proven you wrong, as it's very obvious to even the casual listener here.

By the way, you have been abusive in most of or exchanges, which is why I feel the need to call you out, and point you out to others, as you grossly exaggerate the truths you're told, and assumptions are your way of life.

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Clearly she wasn't fine, and neither were your previous choices.

Everyone can make a mistake, making the same mistake three times, not so much.

Clearly you haven't seen her, so you can't comment. Looks aren't everything, which is why I left them and took the kids.

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

More likely she was rewriting history in her mind.

Women lie, all the time, about everything.

Yes, in Thailand they surely do a lot of the time, as it's a national pastime here, but in the west, I've been around thousands of women, and most of them weren't liars by character.Liars always get busted eventually. Of course many lie, as do many men, but thinking they all lie has you on guard all the time, and that's not a way to live.

Just now, fredwiggy said:

If you behave with them like you do here, they'll never stay long unless they're there for the money you supposedly never give them, which is BS anyway. It's YOU that thinks I've been abusive towards anyone when I haven't. I already said i have always treated women well. That you don't believe it means nothing, as you again, were not there. Whatever you've said about your women can also be treated the same way as you assume about me, so think about that.

You constantly keep saying I'm raging, out of control, or hysterical, when I'm just sitting here typing, calling you out on your wild assumptions and exaggerations, and laughing. try acting like an adult for a change and stop attacking people that have always proven you wrong, as it's very obvious to even the casual listener here.

But they are staying, so obviously it's your perception that is wrong.

Conversely, in your case, they all seem to have been "mentally ill" or "having different life plans".

This is what you have written, time and time again.

But here I am, with women who share all their worldly goods with me and there you are. Reality, as in actually happening...and fantasy...what you hope to achieve in some distant future.

What have you proven wrong? Nothing. Again, just more fantasy and delusion. That's what I perceive from you. I accept that I could be wrong. But the sheer weight of evidence is against you.

5 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Clearly you haven't seen her, so you can't comment. Looks aren't everything, which is why I left them and took the kids.

How many times did you have to make that same mistake in order to learn from it?

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

More likely she was rewriting history in her mind.

Women lie, all the time, about everything.

People can lie about everything. Do you think women lie more than men? I have definately had relationships with women that lie often and with others that almost never lie. What I have noticed over the years is there is very little lieing in good relationships and loads of lieing in bad ones. Yah- duh :)

Just now, atpeace said:

People can lie about everything. Do you think women lie more than men? I have definately had relationships with women that lie often and with others that almost never lie. What I have noticed over the years is there is very little lieing in good relationships and loads of lieing in bad ones. Yah- duh :)

I think the issue with some people, is that they convince themselves of the lie...

1 minute ago, IsmeUno said:

But they are staying, so obviously it's your perception that is wrong.

Conversely, in your case, they all seem to have been "mentally ill" or "having different life plans".

This is what you have written, time and time again.

But here I am, with women who share all their worldly goods with me and there you are. Reality, as in actually happening...and fantasy...what you hope to achieve in some distant future.

What have you proven wrong? Nothing. Again, just more fantasy and delusion. That's what I perceive from you. I accept that I could be wrong. But the sheer weight of evidence is against you.

1 minute ago, IsmeUno said:

I've actually proven you wrong every time. You brag and are a cheapskate. No one believes all your women are always paying your way. You're a bullsh**ter who's trying to pull the wool over men from their 50's to 80's+ here. Give it a rest. You assume you know about my life and what I've done, and turn around what I do say , likely from an inferiority complex. You'll never accept you're wrong, and you're always wrong. Keep your fantasy to yourself, as you aren't impressing anyone here. There is no "evidence" against me. Just your insane thought processes.

6 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

How many times did you have to make that same mistake in order to learn from it?

How many times must you assume things before you realize it's a character flaw?

1 minute ago, IsmeUno said:

I think the issue with some people, is that they convince themselves of the lie...

Yep but he isn't lieing. He truly believes what he writes which isn't all bad :)

Just now, fredwiggy said:

I've actually proven you wrong every time. You brag and are a cheapskate. No one believes all your women are always paying your way. You're a bullsh**ter who's trying to pull the wool over men from their 50's to 80's+ here. Give it a rest. You assume you know about my life and what I've done, and turn around what I do say , likely from an inferiority complex. You'll never accept you're wrong, and you're always wrong. Keep your fantasy to yourself, as you aren't impressing anyone here. There is no "evidence" against me. Just your insane thought processes.

Have you proven me wrong in this thread?

Bragging? I just tell the truth. Nowhere have I claimed that anyone pays my way. i have stated that they pay their own way and we share.

Your ranting becomes increasingly unhinged with time. That goes a long way in demonstrating that perhaps not all the blame lies with the women in your life.

If you like, I can ask my girl to reply to you and tell you what she thinks about your behaviour. You'll be able to tell that the writing style is different. Women aren't as impressed with you, as you appear to be impressed with yourself.

4 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

How many times must you assume things before you realize it's a character flaw?

That's okay, I'm sure that I have character flaws. After all...to err is human.

How about yourself? Do you accept that your character flaws might have a detrimental effect on your relationships?

30 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

By the way, you have been abusive in most of or exchanges,

Please indicate which posts you perceive me being abusive. I'm willing to learn about exactly what you perceive to be abusive.

10 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Have you proven me wrong in this thread?

Bragging? I just tell the truth. Nowhere have I claimed that anyone pays my way. i have stated that they pay their own way and we share.

Your ranting becomes increasingly unhinged with time. That goes a long way in demonstrating that perhaps not all the blame lies with the women in your life.

If you like, I can ask my girl to reply to you and tell you what she thinks about your behaviour. You'll be able to tell that the writing style is different. Women aren't as impressed with you, as you appear to be impressed with yourself.

I think you actually forget much of what you write. Unhinged? Yet another assumption as I've always told the truth here, and calling you out in your lies and assumptions is hardly unhinged behavior, although with a limited vocabulary and a deflecting attitude, maybe that's all you can come up with. You obviously aren't intelligent enough to understand when you've been busted, and all along too. In this and all your other personalities here.

I do hope your girlfriend reads what you write here, as a normal girl would soon run for the hills, seeing how a true sociopath acts outside of the dating scene. Did you tell her you're still dating other women, and having them pay your way, after being with her 11 years? I'm thinking not.

4 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Please indicate which posts you perceive me being abusive. I'm willing to learn about exactly what you perceive to be abusive.

Almost every post, and of course you won't see this, as a person who has NPD always blames others and deflects when called out.

43 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

More likely she was rewriting history in her mind.

Women lie, all the time, about everything.

You need to learn the Vulcan Mind Meld and do it on these broads to see what they're really thinking.

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56 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Shes beautiful and over 50. Look at any woman over 50 and then you'll know. Asian woman look good longer than many other nationalities, but quickly lose it after 50. More western women exercise and eat healthier than Thais. You don't compare young to old. You look at what they'll look like after 30, 40 and 50.

About 45% of Thais are overweight or obese. In America, it's 70%.

Another poster was right, you need new glasses.

18 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

That's okay, I'm sure that I have character flaws. After all...to err is human.

How about yourself? Do you accept that your character flaws might have a detrimental effect on your relationships?

I have always been good to women, right from the start. That you can't believe this obviously shows you can't fathom anyone else treating women well. I've pointed out exactly what you are since day one, and of course you'll never admit this, as your character never does.

Just now, Lacessit said:

About 45% of Thais are overweight or obese. In America, it's 70%.

Another poster was right, you need new glasses.

Where did i say a percentage was overweight? I've been in the fitness business in one way or another for 50 years, so I'm very aware how many are overweight or obese. I lived in the states 62 years, and did have my eyes open all that time. Many Thai women get old fast after 50, but many stay slim all their lives, especially the farmers.

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Where did i say a percentage was overweight? I've been in the fitness business in one way or another for 50 years, so I'm very aware how many are overweight or obese. I lived in the states 62 years, and did have my eyes open all that time. Many Thai women get old fast after 50, but many stay slim all their lives, especially the farmers.

You didn't, you just shifted the goalposts. You are stating an opinion based on observation of a small cohort of women in gyms. I am posting readily verifiable facts on a complete population.

Ever heard of representative sampling?

23 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

You need to learn the Vulcan Mind Meld and do it on these broads to see what they're really thinking.

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I don't actually care what they're really thinking.

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51 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

I think we've all seen and heard examples of bar girls suggesting that you are 'helping' each other. You using the word 'help' doesn't change the fact that you are giving money to a woman who does not even live with you.

You will eventually have to accept that people will, including your partners and potential partners, perceive events differently from the way that you do. Being abusive and insulting towards them will only hasten the demise of any possible relationship. Labelling them as morons or mentally ill won't change that simple fact.

Using your logic, if I was unable to treat women well, then why do they stick with me without the need to give them money? Why are they happy to share everything they have with me?

Perhaps my behaviour is far more acceptable than for which you are willing to give me credit. I'm sure that you have noted that not once, in the past, let's say 50 exchanges between us, have I felt the need to be abusive towards you. But in every single one of your posts, you have demonstrated a lack of control.

"Making them pay for meals"? Pray tell me, how does a man make a woman pay for his meal? Does it not occur to you that they might choose to do so for themselves?

Your mind is not open to anything other than what you choose to believe. So you are destined to behave in exactly the same way, over and over again. No ability to adapt. No amount of reading is going to change that. You have to change you. Again...this applies to everyone.

You’re talking about women in the plural, but how long do they actually stay with you? Do you get tired of them, or do they eventually realize you’re not bringing anything meaningful to the table?

It sounds more like you’re exploiting women who, culturally, may be raised to depend on a strong man. You seem stuck in the same pattern. No matter what alias you use, you bring this up in every thread about relationships.

Maybe it’s time to reinvent yourself. You’re not married. You only have a girlfriend, and at this stage she may not expect much from you yet. But can you step up when it really matters?

Can you become a responsible man and a real future partner for a woman?

3 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

You didn't, you just shifted the goalposts. You are stating an opinion based on observation of a small cohort of women in gyms. I am posting readily verifiable facts on a complete population.

Ever heard of representative sampling?

The women in the gyms weren't the only ones I observed in 50 years. i did go outside once in awhile. I know full well how many people are overweight, as again, being in the fitness business, you tend to read a lot about all aspects of lifestyles, diets and exercise habits. What was the opinion i stated? I said that picture I posted was of a beautiful woman over 50, and it's true.

22 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Where did i say a percentage was overweight? I've been in the fitness business in one way or another for 50 years, so I'm very aware how many are overweight or obese. I lived in the states 62 years, and did have my eyes open all that time. Many Thai women get old fast after 50, but many stay slim all their lives, especially the farmers.

But you never found a woman that actually wanted you.

Same as most other posters on this forum (including me).

55 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I've actually proven you wrong every time. You brag and are a cheapskate. No one believes all your women are always paying your way. You're a bullsh**ter who's trying to pull the wool over men from their 50's to 80's+ here. Give it a rest. You assume you know about my life and what I've done, and turn around what I do say , likely from an inferiority complex. You'll never accept you're wrong, and you're always wrong. Keep your fantasy to yourself, as you aren't impressing anyone here. There is no "evidence" against me. Just your insane thought processes.

You've told us all, many times, about your life and what you've done.

And it's always turned out to be an epic fail, even with God's help.

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

But you never found a woman that actually wanted you.

Same as most other posters on this forum (including me).

Al of the women I've been with wanted me. Many we both ended the relationship because our future plans were not the same, and some it didn't quite fit besides the physical, so it stopped, mostly by me as i didn't like the idea of hurting a woman, and keeping some on a string for sex has never been my way. That I haven't found one that thinks the same and wants the same future, along with being honest and trustworthy, and attractive, has been my problem.

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