SexLess relationship

[connda]

32 minutes ago, Krataiboy said:

According to sex "guru" Bettina Arndt, who used to run Forum magazine, most men eventually end up "negotiating" sex with a reluctant spouse to whom it has become a boring and unfulfilling routine.

Unless you live in Thailand, then you may find most men negotiating sex with a mia noi, or a gik, or simply negotiating a price with a mama-san at the local ap ob nuat shower massage for a 90 minute interlude.  Thai women who don't want sex also know this, and the more progressive of this group simply allow their man to indulge as it keeps the guys from pestering them for unwanted sex.  Prostitution keeps the rooster happy and the hen undisturbed.  

[shy coconut]

On 5/5/2019 at 4:27 AM, BritManToo said:

You're right at 60+, I can't find any 20 year old back home that would marry me.

(I did get a few 'dates' though)

A lot more expensive back in blighty though.

[federico]

On 5/5/2019 at 5:51 AM, Lacessit said:

I was married and in a sexless relationship for about a decade. Slow learner, should have baled out long before

A relationship where your GF/partner/wife is happy to have sex with you any time either she or you are horny is way better.

I could have written this ! 11 years with my farang wife and sexual life close to nothingness. I remember thinking she's the kind of woman who deserves to be cheat on.

My thai lady is 9 years younger than me and always happy to make love though i feel a bit tired now that i get older and cannot have sex as much as i wish....

[connda]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

I've been in a sexless relationship for 7 days now, probably the longest time I've been without sex in Thailand for ten years. Another 7 days before the nurses remove the 'impediments' .....................

"Look Honey.  I buy vibrating face massager in Chiang Mai Night Bazaar.  Make for fun time - roll in clover jing jing!"  

"So sorry for Mr. BritManToo.  Doctor say laxative no work.  Specialist come next week to remove 'impediments'. 

Just funning ya bloke! 

[connda]

1 hour ago, totally thaied up said:

Hope you get better soon. I went six weeks after my gall bladder hemorrhaged and had surgery. It sucked being in bed for so long.

Dang!!! What position were you in when your gall bladder hemorrhaged? 

[spidermike007]

Fascinating topic. From what I hear, a lot of women over 35, who have had children, have little to no interest in sex. And that is fine, as long as you are on the same page. She does want to satisfy you? Then she has to understand that you are going to go elsewhere for the satisfaction, if that is important to you. No big deal. Just reality. Alot of very good relationships are based on a whole lot of other qualities, and for many, after ten or twenty years together, sex is just not a big deal anymore. All kinds of possibilities here. 

 

As long as she is very kind hearted, alot of fun to be around, funny, smart, attractive, and always has your back, it is all good.

Edited May 6, 2019 by spidermike007

[BritManToo]

Just now, spidermike007 said:

Fascinating topic. From what I hear, a lot of women over 35, who have had children, have little to no interest in sex. And that is fine, as long as you are on the same page. She does want to satisfy you? Then she has to understand that you are going to go elsewhere for the satisfaction, if that is important to you. No big deal. Just reality. Alot of very good relationships are based on a whole lot of other qualities, and for many, after ten or twenty years together, sex is just not a big deal anymore. All kinds of possibilities here. 

Not if I'm paying for everything and giving her money.

Unless she gets a job and starts contributing 50%, then she can stay

[marcusarelus]

8 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

Fascinating topic. From what I hear, a lot of women over 35, who have had children, have little to no interest in sex. And that is fine, as long as you are on the same page. She does want to satisfy you? Then she has to understand that you are going to go elsewhere for the satisfaction, if that is important to you. No big deal. Just reality. Alot of very good relationships are based on a whole lot of other qualities, and for many, after ten or twenty years together, sex is just not a big deal anymore. All kinds of possibilities here. 

 

As long as she is very kind hearted, alot of fun to be around, funny, smart, attractive, and always has your back, it is all good.

I had sex with a 70 year old hooker I knew from my Army days here.  It was her idea.  I'd think all women are special and have individual appetites.  She also liked to conduct women like an orchestra.  Unusual experience. 

Edited May 6, 2019 by marcusarelus

[lanng khao]

My Mrs told me having a small penis would never be a problem for us having a good sex life, I said I know, just wish you didn't have one..

[StevieAus]

2 hours ago, shy coconut said:

A lot more expensive back in blighty though.

And as in Aus probably more expensive when they leave you.

[StevieAus]

20 minutes ago, lanng khao said:

My Mrs told me having a small penis would never be a problem for us having a good sex life, I said I know, just wish you didn't have one..

I award you the joke of the day award made me laugh !

[khunPer]

On 5/5/2019 at 4:56 AM, SoonOh said:

Are you in a SexLess Relationship?

That must be why God, or some other divine being, invented the "mia noi" and countless "gigs", so couples can stay together...

 

More seriously, a relationship can be – or often is – much more than sex. So if you can find a satisfactory solution, the "sexless" relationship might not be that huge a problem. I have several married friends from my home country in sexless relationships, that let their wives do girl-trips with their female friends – presume shopping (men don't like to hang around, and women don't like to have their men hanging around), and talking (yapping a lot, too much) – whilst the men in return are allowed outings to Thailand (or similar destinations); you know, the boring fishing trips that women don't undestand. I'm however quite sure that their wives have an idea about how "boring" their fishing trips might be, even unspeakable, and silently accepts it, as it might save many a marriage.

 

Mia noi and gigs are great inventions, the latter also for mutual fun in a not so sexless relationship...????

 

On the other hand, if one only need a friend, one can buy a dog, or just let one of the 7-Eleven-dogs follow one home.

 

Perhaps both dog(s), partner, and gig(s), are not a bad combination...????

[StevieAus]

3 hours ago, Pilotman said:

thanks goodness for that, we don't have to worry about future generations of murderous megalomaniacs. we have enough around already. 

I seem to recall hearing an old English army song about Hitler being missing part of his “ tackle” although I always understood missing one wasn’t a problem, maybe it was in his case !

[jvs]

11 hours ago, quandow said:

You're completely missing the point. Money has nothing to do with it.  I can't stand spending TIME with someone I can't have a conversation with above the level of a 6 year old. I rent or prefer self abuse rather than trade my life for shackling myself to someone I don't much like, REGARDLESS of how attractive she may be.

How is your Thai?

[khunPer]

1 hour ago, marcusarelus said:

I had sex with a 70 year old hooker I knew from my Army days here.  It was her idea.  I'd think all women are special and have individual appetites.  She also liked to conduct women like an orchestra.  Unusual experience. 

Some times I miss a "wow"-????-emoji as Like-button.

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, Pilotman said:

That's really sad. that some men are unable to do even the basics for themselves.  I have the Military to thank  for taking a young boy and showing me how to look after myself and be independent, for which I am always grateful. 

I can cook, clean, iron, wash clothes and sew without any form of military training. Some of us can work independence out by ourselves.

[Lacessit]

2 hours ago, connda said:

When you are young, if you aren't being led around by your genitals you probably missing out on a lot of fun;

When you are old, if you are still being led around by your genitals you probably missing out on a lot of life.  

Can't say I agree. I consider myself lucky to still be at it now, and I had a lot of lost time to make up.

Then there's the thought my next one may be my last, which keeps me interested in stretch targets.

[killerbeez]

4 hours ago, connda said:

When you are old, if you are still being led around by your genitals you probably missing out on a lot of life.  

I'm missing out on a lot of life... a burden that I shall bear with joy.

[Dek Somboon]

Say, does anybody have experience with swinging in a sexless marriage? (more overt as opposed to a covert mia noi or gik)

 

Affection, soulmates, togetherness, etc. are all very nice and everything. I know this may sound awkward to some, but to me marriage is like getting your favorite food dish (somtam for example) every...single...day for the rest of

your life - for breakfast, lunch and dinner...???????????????? Isn’t it therefore NORMAL that on average 40% of women and 60% of men end up cheating on their spouse, with such an institution so unfit for our fast-paced world?!

 

And of course it doesn’t help when every time I see my hottie sister-in-law, I feel like nailing her...

 

 

Edited May 6, 2019 by Dek Somboon

[BritManToo]

8 minutes ago, Dek Somboon said:

but to me marriage is like getting your favorite food dish (somtam for example) every...single...day for the rest of

your life

For me marriage was more like getting my favourite food once a month for the rest of my life.

And being on a vegan diet for every other meal.

Edited May 6, 2019 by BritManToo

[Lacessit]

16 minutes ago, Dek Somboon said:

Say, does anybody have experience with swinging in a sexless marriage? (more overt as opposed to a covert mia noi or gik)

 

Affection, soulmates, togetherness, etc. are all very nice and everything. I know this may sound awkward to some, but to me marriage is like getting your favorite food dish (somtam for example) every...single...day for the rest of

your life - for breakfast, lunch and dinner...???????????????? Isn’t it therefore NORMAL that on average 40% of women and 60% of men end up cheating on their spouse, with such an institution so unfit for our fast-paced world?!

 

And of course it doesn’t help when every time I see my hottie sister-in-law, I feel like nailing her...

 

 

I know how you feel. When my GF's daughter turns up at the house in short shorts and a tight t-shirt, I have to battle to prevent my tongue from hanging out.

[Pilotman]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I can cook, clean, iron, wash clothes and sew without any form of military training. Some of us can work independence out by ourselves.

yes, but apparently a lot can't. 

[wolf81]

Not sexless, but it averages to about once a week, usually in the weekends.

 

The amount is sex is a bit low mainly due to my working pattern and due to having a daughter. I work for a US company, so often I work late in order for me to be able to call them and discuss work.

 

Also ever since we've had our daughter it became harder to find the right moment for sex.

[OneEyedPie]

I'm sure there's many sexless relationships / marriages but I personally don't read too much into it. 

 

Who are we to judge what constitutes a happy marriage.  The meeting of minds, companionship, love, devotion, care, friendship will always outlast sex.  

 

 

Edited May 6, 2019 by OneEyedPie

[nervona81732]

Becausde it's me that can't function not my wife. Gotta take a pill to get a woody.  Get the woody. Won't shoot. Won't keep trying to please me at my wife's expense. Because she is my best friend and the only onde out of six that has put up with this PTSD wretch. Not for $ but out of respect for my well intentions and because she is a down to earth ISSAN LADY. And heavey on the LADY. 

She's got my thumbs up +++++++++++.

Bring it on TVF and stick it. 

[Skallywag]

I have a SexLess relationship with my dog.  Love and dependency keep us together.

 

Edited May 6, 2019 by Skallywag

[remorhaz]

If you want to turn your relationship into a sexless relationship it's easy - get married!  Once you are locked down there is no point for her to sleep with you anymore.  She gets lifetime access to your money and you get... to pay her... a lot more than if she was just hired help.  Don't do it men - not worth it.  

[cromwellontoast]

I have been addicted to sex for years. My urges seem to be strongest when my anxiety is at it's highest. I am now married but occasionally still seek excitement from elsewhere, usually when I am felling depressed. 

Edited May 6, 2019 by cromwellontoast

[OneEyedPie]

1 minute ago, cromwellontoast said:

I have been addicted to sex for years. My urges seem to be highest when my anxiety is at it's worst. I am now married but occasionally still seek excitement from elsewhere, usually when I am felling depressed. 

Are you sure of this correlation?  Sounds a load of nonsense to me.

[BobbyL]

20 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

Does she have an older sister?

No, only child unfortunately.