Life is hard.

[Skeptic7]

On 8/2/2019 at 11:29 AM, PatOngo said:

Life's a bitch, then you die!

Or... 

 

Life's a Bitch and then you Thai! ????

[murraynz]

On 8/2/2019 at 2:24 PM, worgeordie said:

Not another doom and gloom,feel sorry for me post,

we need cheering up,not more bad news.life is what

you make it.

regards Worgeordie

some people have physical disabilities, but generally--'life is what you make it'

[Suradit69]

On August 2, 2019 at 11:24 AM, worgeordie said:

Not another doom and gloom,feel sorry for me post,

we need cheering up,not more bad news.life is what

you make it.

regards Worgeordie

Pretty sure he's mocking the doom and gloomers , intentionally or not is hard to say.

 

Unlike most D&Gs, he doesn't blame Thailand and Thais for all his woe.  He actually seems to accept responsibility or assigns it to some mystical forces.

[totally thaied up]

33 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

I got a good psychiatrist 30 years ago who helped me stop drinking

It costs between 300-700 a hour here for a psychiatrist. I see one once a week for 30 minutes. If you go through the public system and prepare to wait, it will be cheaper. You have zero wait times in general going private and if you are needing help, I have found most psychiatrists here see a lot of people with alcohol and drug problems, so they can help a lot. If you are in Chiang Mai, I can advise Dr Kittiwan.  

[NightSky]

Are you that guy who just got arrested for disturbing the piece whilst yielding a machete and then with a jet ski..?

 

If not a troll, stick it out the skies will turn blue at some point.

[Krataiboy]

On 8/2/2019 at 12:13 PM, poohy said:

At least you are looking on the bright side of things!

For pity's sake nobody tell him about the Climate Crisis!

[Number 6]

My sister was in a similar state. Here's my advice:

 

Whatever you are doing - do the exact opposite.

 

Guarantee your life will be 50% better in a year.

[Alainpm]

I suspect that's a fake    

Edited August 3, 2019 by Alainpm

[geoffbezoz]

8 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

I left Pattaya for now.

 

i noticed its mostly lower class thais who battle substance abuse and also alcoholism, The middle class with whom i am now associating might have one beer at night but lead too busy life's, they cannot afford to fall victim to the bottle unlike many of the isaan folk in Pattaya who prefer a lay back lifestyle which opens doors for self medication / Abuse/ heavy alcoholism.

I think with that rant you have proved what I suspected about you.

[rwill]

One of the main tenants of buddhism, "Life is suffering"

[upu2]

Sounds like much of your depression you have brought on yourself. It happens I know but in order to get a more positive attitude you need to accept what the problem is and then what steps no matter how hard you need to take. Cut the drink it certainly wont help you then you will see the world in a totally different light.

[geoffbezoz]

4 minutes ago, rwill said:

One of the main tenants of buddhism, "Life is suffering"

Very true and a lot of the Buddhist monks in this story truly suffer. A life of "suffering" in this league would surely be welcomed by many. 

 

http://factsanddetails.com/southeast-asia/Thailand/sub5_8b/entry-6454.html

[Gandtee]

I have read your story and you have my heartfelt sympathy. Now sod off and leave me alone.

[Speedhump]

On 8/2/2019 at 11:53 AM, Matzzon said:

The situation you seem to find yourself in, actually sound very hard. it also sounds very serious. All these problems, and you seem to be aware of them. The first question will be, why in the world you have not been seeking professional help? There is nothing to be ashamed of with that. Many people need to talk to a professional about their problems to sort them out.
 

You say that you are only 33, and single due to that you cannot find a girlfriend or afford one. Looks to me that you have tried to move to Thailand before you sorted out your life. That´s not a possibility. Even if the money is there, that is not going to make you happy.

The two core problems in this problem seems to be a lack of self confidence as well as a major drinking problem. These two things work very well together, due to that they both speed up the process to reach rock bottom. Your self confidence is telling you to drink to be able to better relate to friends, girls and life. Your confidence is fooling you and leading you on a disaterous path in life. On the other hand, your drinking problem continues to lower your self confidence, due to that everytime the great feeling diappears the real life seems to be harder and harder to cope with.

Is there any underlying problems with economy too? I know some people have money, and get in problem with life anyway. Some try to do more than they can and get in problem and depression out of the inpossibility to achive their goals and dreams. Are you also having problems with your possibilities to stay regarding to anxiety over getting your visas?

I am not any kind of professional in any of these matters, just trying to use common sense. I can not help you with what professional can. what I can do, is to be someone you can talk too. If you feel better talking about this through private messages that´s ok by me. I am sure there must be some chances for a 33 year old guy, that just having a bad streak in life.

Good answer. I can't believe all the 'drunken barstool expat' answers making fun. The guy sounds near suicidal and all he gets is abuse, even from veteran forum posters. Christ, if you have nothing to add other than twisting the knife, why not ignore and just stffu? I guess just happy to see someone more disillusioned than themselves and their sad little lives. 

Edited August 3, 2019 by Speedhump
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[ndreamer]

2 minutes ago, Speedhump said:

Good answer. I can't believe all the 'drunken barstool expat' answers making fun. 

Social anxiety debilitating.  I had it since I was a teenager, when I hit 30 with no girl friend, no friends it hit me.

When you have social anxiety you get this fear just being around people, talking is near on impossible. 

 

It took me a year of medication and therapy to begin getting over it. It's now been 7 years since when I first seen the doctor. 

 

My advice is go see the australian doctor, medicare will pay for the shrink and medication if you choose to go that path. 

 

Join a gym, or some sort of social club as soon as possible. Getting off your phone and/or computer is a huge help, don't drink..

 

[rumak]

On 8/2/2019 at 11:31 AM, BritManToo said:

Took me 60 years to get to this state.

Congratulations you've done it in half the time I did.

haha   I was going to suggest the OP contact you for professional assistance.    

Now I don't have to

[kevin612]

Go back to work if you have financial issue

[rumak]

2 hours ago, Skeptic7 said:

Or... 

 

Life's a Bitch and then you Thai! ????

Life's a bitch and then you marry a Thai ?

Life's a bitch and then some go marry one

Life's a bitch..........  could be a thread in itself

 

[watcharacters]

 

Simple put an existentialist  English instructor I once had said "If you're not happy today, you won't be happy tomorrow".

 

Also thanks to the OP for the post as I believe many on TVF love to read and hear about the misery of others so they forget about their own.

 

[Irishrogue]

On ‎8‎/‎2‎/‎2019 at 11:29 AM, PatOngo said:

Life's a bitch, then you die!

Life's a bitch you marry one and then you die.

[Too young to be old]

Thanks for that. It makes me feel even better as I have none of your problems.

[wgdanson]

17 hours ago, White Christmas13 said:

on the 25th floor would be ideal

No no no. On the 19th floor so you do not exceed the speed limit of 120 kph.

[tandor]

On 8/2/2019 at 11:24 AM, worgeordie said:

Not another doom and gloom,feel sorry for me post,

we need cheering up,not more bad news.life is what

you make it.

regards Worgeordie

..maybe a FundMe.

[White Christmas13]

7 minutes ago, wgdanson said:

No no no. On the 19th floor so you do not exceed the speed limit of 120 kph.

Well have you tried it ?

[BritManToo]

32 minutes ago, rumak said:

Life's a bitch and then you marry a Thai ?

Life's a bitch and then some go marry one

Life's a bitch..........  could be a thread in itself

 

I've always been very happy with the Thai women that passed through my bedroom.

I knew their price and was happy to pay it, really no complaints at all.

 

The Brit schoolteacher I previously married, an entirely different and more painful experience.

(Not to mention expensive)

Edited August 3, 2019 by BritManToo

[spidermike007]

You need to look deep within, and start doing some major work on yourself. Just sitting around and observing, and moaning about your sad state of affairs, and your lack of capacity, is going to only cause your hole to get deeper. Life is not easy for anyone. Money does not make you happy. It only helps you to address your problems more effectively. I know an awful lot of wealthy people who are miserable. I do agree financial struggles are miserable. But, you probably have the power and the will to change that. 

 

Do something. Act like a man.

Re-invent yourself. Be creative.

Show some initiative.

 

We get what we reap. I do not believe fortune is an accident. Neither do I believe misery is an accident. Take some control of your life. 

Edited August 3, 2019 by spidermike007

[CharlieH]

Reported Trolling comment removed.

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, spidermike007 said:

We get what we reap. I do not believe fortune is an accident. Neither do I believe misery is an accident. 

There's a lot of 3rd world citizens who would disagree with that.

[sunnyboy2018]

10 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

I left Pattaya for now.

 

i noticed its mostly lower class thais who battle substance abuse and also alcoholism, The middle class with whom i am now associating might have one beer at night but lead too busy life's, they cannot afford to fall victim to the bottle unlike many of the isaan folk in Pattaya who prefer a lay back lifestyle which opens doors for self medication / Abuse/ heavy alcoholism.

What a croc from a time waster. This looks like a troll thread from a very inadequate individual. 

[Isaanbiker]

39 minutes ago, watcharacters said:

 

Simple put an existentialist  English instructor I once had said "If you're not happy today, you won't be happy tomorrow".

 

Also thanks to the OP for the post as I believe many on TVF love to read and hear about the misery of others so they forget about their own.

 

But they still have to see their ugly faces in a mirror day by day......