Genuine friendships in Thailand.

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, nobodysfriend said:

do not get involved in something that will bring trouble to you ...

No women, booze or drugs then?

Sounds a bit dull.

[nobodysfriend]

8 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

No women, booze or drugs then?

Sounds a bit dull.

You like to suffer ...?

Some women will make you suffer while others don't .

Some partying is fun if no aggression around ...

Some drugs , like ganja , are very good , but you need to learn about how much of it is good for you ...

BTW , the best way to lose a friend and get yourself into trouble is lending money ...

Edited April 21, 2020 by nobodysfriend

[Yinn]

32 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

What makes you so sure I cannot speak Thai, Yinn?

 

I sure. 

 

The guys who who can speak/read thai on TVF have positive attitude. And thai friends. 

 

If i wrong I will donation 2000 Thai charity you like.

[WineOh]

4 minutes ago, Yinn said:

I sure. 

 

The guys who who can speak/read thai on TVF have positive attitude. And thai friends. 

 

If i wrong I will donation 2000 Thai charity you like.

You will be eating your words soon enough darling.

 

donate the money to me. 

 

would you like my prompt pay now ????

Edited April 21, 2020 by Liverpoolfan

[Yinn]

6 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

You will be eating your words soon enough darling.

 

donate the money to me. 

 

would you like my prompt pay now ????

Ok, send me op with in Thai script. I will answer, and ask you question. You must answer immediately.

 

If I believe, (maybe use a thai person cheat writing) I will then call you, ask more questions. If you can answer I pay 2000 to charity, like I say, not YOU.

 

i will post receipt/transfer photo here.

[nobodysfriend]

I'm out now , but just one more thing : Generalizations are never good , ( all thai , all farang , they are all the same ... ) , No , they are not .

Good people and bad people , stupid and intelligent are everywhere , Never all are the same , pretending so is just stupid as it shows a limited mind ...

If you want to find a good friend , find somebody who shares your interests ... may be become a member of a club or an organization ...

Good Luck ...

[WineOh]

7 minutes ago, Yinn said:

 

 I will then call you, ask more questions. If you can answer I pay 2000 to charity, like I say, not YOU.

What makes you think I would give you my phone number?

 

unless you want to watch a movie with me when all this coronavirus is over ? ????

 

we can go for dinner first if you like.

you pay with 2000 ok for you?

up to you

my friend. 

Edited April 21, 2020 by Liverpoolfan

[Logosone]

Yinn is right, we need to learn Thai and have a positive attitude.

 

Having said that, on the general issue of friendship, I once had a German gardener.

 

He lived in the same village all his life, for 70 years. I asked him, because all my life I had to travel the world and wanted to know, "do you still have the same friends you had when you were younger".

 

He replied "Oh no, they all moved away". 

 

Friendship can not be forced. Like love. You may find it or you may not. When you do, it may not last a long time anyway.

 

Best not to force that issue.

[RedPill]

Logo ... are you back from a TVF holiday? You've been so quite recently ...

 

[Dene16]

23 hours ago, EricTh said:

the chances of Thai girl marrying a much older men for love and not money is near zero.

Do you take pleasure in crushing the hopes and dreams of these forum patrons

Anyway mines different.

[NightSky]

Find a wife you enjoy company with, love and trust - not easy but possible!

 

She should become your best friend and life partner - if not then you gotta look in a mirror and ask yourself why not! 

[transam]

1 hour ago, Liverpoolfan said:

What makes you so sure I cannot speak Thai, Yinn?

 

not very wise to rush to conclusions when you dont even know me ????

That wouldn't fit in with ....... "agenda".....????

[roaming2019]

A genuine friendship happens if it ever happens . you dont go out look for it .  You are lucky if you have one if not just think you gotta bad day 

[transam]

1 minute ago, NightSky said:

Find a wife you enjoy company with, love and trust - not easy but possible!

 

She should become your best friend and life partner - if not then you gotta look in a mirror and ask yourself why not! 

Have you ever been married.......?  ????

 

[NightSky]

13 minutes ago, transam said:

Have you ever been married.......?  ????

 

yes for many years. I would rather spend time with my wife than anyone else any day of the week (90% of the time)

 

If you cant think the same way you obviously had a bad experience.

 

 

Edited April 21, 2020 by NightSky

[Yinn]

45 minutes ago, Liverpoolfan said:

What makes you think I would give you my phone number?

 

unless you want to watch a movie with me when all this coronavirus is over ? ????

 

we can go for dinner first if you like.

you pay with 2000 ok for you?

up to you

my friend. 

Hmmm. 

No PM. I waited. NOTHING.

You can not speak thai. Sure. 

 

 

[Saltire]

I have only one person here on ignore, so why is it I still see their nonsense when someone quotes them? 

 

 

[Cake Monster]

Always stay true to yourself.

Sooner or later so called " Friends " will let you down. Usually, when, as a so called " friend ", you need them most.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/20/2020 at 9:46 AM, Liverpoolfan said:

I took a trial at a gym in a very reputable 5 star hotel a few months back.

Never had I seen such a miserable looking bunch of expats in all my life. 

That's probably because they're on steroids.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/20/2020 at 9:28 AM, CharlieH said:

The word is "superficial", true friends in life are a rarity, aquaintances are many but usually fleeting.

Most will only stick around if you are "of use" in some way.

 

 

Yes, like being a drinking buddy.

[rumak]

1 hour ago, transam said:

1 hour ago, Yinn said:

 

i give example of @villagefarang 

i am thai, I more interest be freind someone like that, be interesting, than the  guy lazy to learn Thai, say every Thai should learn English and complain. Is true.

 

He not want to listen. up to him.

The thread is not about a guy with no friends..Read the title again.......????

hahaha     i didn't know that you knew that.   

 

 

 

[DavisH]

On 4/20/2020 at 9:25 AM, Ventenio said:

Let me give you a few examples of how NOT to make friends when you WANT friends.

 

1.  insult them 

2.  insult their country (a big one)

3.  insult Thailand

4.  complain about life

5.  share too much too soon

6.  have very strong opinions, matter-of-fact

 

i've met sooo many losers who are desperate for friends but immediately disrespect everyone.  luckily it happens soon into the relationship.  

 

of course, IF they insult (xxx) after you insult (xxx) then you are both losers and will be good friends.  lol.  coming to Thailand to be negative is very funny to me, but i avoid these people.  

 

 

Add conspiracy theorists to the list. The "everyone is out to get me", "everyone is watching me", "it's all a coverup" brigade...Got no time for them. 

[rumak]

9 minutes ago, DavisH said:

Add conspiracy theorists to the list. The "everyone is out to get me", "everyone is watching me", "it's all a coverup" brigade...Got no time for them. 

Be sure to wear your  " i believe in Who"   T shirt when you go out.

I will wear my tin foil hat.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTcRRaXV-fg&list=RDkTcRRaXV-fg&start_radio=1&t=42

 

Edited April 21, 2020 by rumak

[grobec]

Meet new friends

one good way is community volunteer participation.

in Udon Thani , for example, the Tourist Police volunteers get to meet Thai and Farangs from many countries and personal situations. Also keep up to date about local issues. The common denominator is a desire to contribute to the community.

we are all 5555 “special” in our own ways but a common cause cuts through most BS.

i am a volunteer so if you are interested in more info please pvt message me

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[Max69xl]

On 4/20/2020 at 9:24 AM, Liverpoolfan said:

Indeed i was mate, but covid put a stop to all that ????

 

booze and women are fine, but for me not the absolute be all and end all in life.

 

Maybe you should move somewhere else in Thailand? 

[transam]

1 hour ago, NightSky said:

yes for many years. I would rather spend time with my wife than anyone else any day of the week (90% of the time)

 

If you cant think the same way you obviously had a bad experience.

 

 

Yes I did, was with my ex wife for 23 years, we were two peas in a pod for 21 of those, then, BANG, she decided to do something different. After that shock I decided to do something different too and ended up in LOS.

So pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease don't go down the 'everything is perfect route' because for many it doesn't turn out that way.

 

I have now been married to my Thai wife for near 14 years, we get on well, but you never know...????  

[rickudon]

Well, my experience was very different to Liverpoolfan's ...

 

I met an expat on my second day in Thailand, who is still a friend. I have i would say 7 good expat friends, who i speak to regularly and see sometimes (obviously not so easy now). Have a few other lesser friends who i see sometimes, but rarely deliberately meet. None of these is an alcoholic or serial womaniser, most have been married to Thais for many years. I never met any of them first time in bars - that's probably why they are friends........ most of them have some interest in common with me (e.g. fishing, bridge, gardening). They come from 4 different nationalities. All of us bar one are retired.

 

I do not know how old Liverpoolfan is, or where he lives in Thailand, but i very much doubt that we have much in common. Which probably explains the sort of people he meets. Yes, i have met my share of criminals and alcoholics here, but their lifestyles are different to mine.

 

I am married with a daughter here, and mainly socialise with my Thai family. I do not have any Thai friends outside of family. I do regret not being able to communicate better in Thai, but i have always found languages a problem, and being older with some hearing issues have struggled with the tones, and written Thai is hard because of the script (I have been told i am probably slightly dyslexic).

[BritManToo]

Just now, rickudon said:

I met an expat on my second day in Thailand, who is still a friend. I have i would say 7 good expat friends, who i speak to regularly and see sometimes (obviously not so easy now). Have a few other lesser friends who i see sometimes,

I distrust people who claim 'many friends'.

I always had trouble maintaining 3, not enough time in the days for them all.

 

[rickudon]

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I distrust people who claim 'many friends'.

I always had trouble maintaining 3, not enough time in the days for them all.

 

Well, most of my 7 friends i have known for at least 8 years. In the UK, never had that many since University, usually only 0 to 2. I do not need to see my friends every day, once a week is sufficient. I was quite used to being alone in the UK, so nice to have a choice who i call up now!

Bars, alcohol are not of interest to me, except when socialising with friends.

[BritManToo]

Just now, rickudon said:

I do not need to see my friends every day, once a week is sufficient.

These aren't friends.

Friends are people you want to see for hours every day.

It's fairly common in these times of superficial relationships to confuse friends with acquaintances.