I just left my girlfriend and escaped because she did not give me free time

[Jan0]

I feel bad, but she was restricting me from having free time

 

Where ever I go she holds my hand or grabs my arm and locks it with her and allways go when ever I walk out

 

I have seen pinays hijack pinoys life and foreigners as well(I have seen Americans move baby prams of pinays), so I decided not to let that happen to me because I really dont want to have a baby as I would have no life and no money and no proper job(I have a new job aroud 4 times a year or more)

 

I just left the aircon on and packed my important stuff and left the apartment while she was sleeping

 

She is sending me messages asking me where I am, but if I go back to her then it would be harder for me to escape as she would just refuse to sleep and just keep her eyes on me all the time

 

I feel happy I escaped but also feel bad, because she is sending messages asking where I am,

 

but Idk what to tell her???

 

And I dont think I want to go back to her either and get restuck with super glue this time and end up like the other westerners moving a baby pram

 

What should I tell her???

 

 

 

 

 

 

[BritManToo]

 

Don't tell her anything, don't read her messages, block her phone number.

When it's over best to end all communications.

[Lacessit]

Quite obvious your GF is extremely controlling, stick with BMT's advice.

[simon43]

Tell her that you have fallen for a handsome guy and find gay sex much more enjoyable.....

[2 is 1]

When you pull off plaster, do you want do it slowly or quick!? Only ex i keep in touch is my son's mother and whitout boy i never even <deleted> same direction where she is!

[vinci]

be a man and tell her you want to break up, things are not working out and wish her the best.

[Hummin]

Christ sake, how old are you? 

 

Call her and tell her it is over! 

 

Some of the topics here is deleted construction and click baits, but I know this happens irl. Some people should never be allowed a passport!

[Denim]

The problem is all inside your head", she said to me
"The answer is easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover"
She said, "It's really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
But I'll repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover"

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Ooh, slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

She said, "It grieves me so to see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again"
I said, "I appreciate that and would you please explain
About the fifty ways?"
She said, "Why don't we both just sleep on it tonight?
And I believe in the morning you'll begin to see the light"
And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Oh, you hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

[Iamfalang]

leave her messages every 11 hours with a small heart.   Then every 39 hours, and after 11 years you can stop.

 

go back to her!!!  she is the one!!!  pure love, impossible to find.  

 

you posted because you love her so much.   free time?  who needs it?  love is all you need.

 

escaped?  your heart can never escape, and now you are breaking hers.   OMG.    why?  why?

 

run to her......

[Hummin]

I needed a break from all the love to, but now 6 years later my best gf ever! Never regret I changed my mind, and invited her back.
  I did not just run away without any explanation, just told her I needed  a little bit time for myself. Now Im used to it, and she is used to my little tripscfor myself and come back happy after missing her. 

Edited May 16, 2022 by Hummin

[pomchop]

at least have the courtesy to tell her you are finished and have moved on...otherwise she may report you as missing and next thing you know the cops are looking for you....send the one message and be clear she will not hear from you again...

[ChrisP24]

Breaking up by text is poor form, but "just disapearing" seems even worse.  At this juncture probably the best thing you can do is to give her some short communicatio that gives her closure so you can both move on.   You'll know what form of communication is best, if you just don't want confrontaton or drama you could at least hand-write a letter and slide it under the door, but whatever you do you should do it ASAP, today if possible to spare her any more anguish.   And if she knows where you work, it might be time now to make one of your 4x per year job jumps. 

 

Not sure if telling her why will do any good, other than simply you are not ready for kids and family anytime soon so it is best for you both to give her the freedom to find someone who is. 

 

BTW down the road if you ever do get to a place where you want a child and are ready for the responsibility, pushing a baby pram and contemplating all of the adventures that are ahead for you and your child to experience together is one of the true joys in life.   But it is not for eveyone.   I was happy single and childless for many years.  But at 23 the idea freaked me out too, no way could I have been a good parent then and I'm super-glad I waited.

Edited May 16, 2022 by ChrisP24

[twix38]

Don't be a <deleted>!

 

At least let her know!!!!

[twix38]

One day someone you care about will just disappear into radio silence and leave you frantic and perplexed. Hopefully.

 

Either lay down your minimum rules and return. Or if it is over then have the common Curtosy not to be such a cad and coward.

Edited May 16, 2022 by twix38

[mvdf]

10 hours ago, Jan0 said:

I just left the aircon on and packed my important stuff and left the apartment while she was sleeping

 

Coward!

[jossthaifarang]

You have to at least let her know it's over and why it's over. Really!

[gargamon]

So you only last 3 months before you leave, or are fired from your job?

 

You want some free time with your companion not around? What exactly do you want to do in this free time? Drink? Drugs? Other women?

 

How much  money did you leave her? How many month's rent did you prepay?

 

Sounds to me like you aren't a good catch anyway. She is lucky to be rid of you.

[CharlieH]

Tell her ! Atleast let her know you havnt been in an accident or something. Just one call or mgs, "its over goodbye" then ditch that sim card and get another.

[thailand49]

As clinking as she is she worries send her a SMS. telling her you are OK and safe " that it isn't her but you "  wish her well take care bye. ????

[crazykopite]

Are you for real ! or is this just a wind up because your bored. ,

[4MyEgo]

12 hours ago, Jan0 said:

I feel bad, but she was restricting me from having free time

I feel for you, however, have you discussed with her how you feel, if you haven't, then all you have to do is tell her how you feel, however I take it you have and that is why your here.

 

Short and sweet don't go back, otherwise you will soon find out what that saying; a dog doesn't change its spots is all about.

 

Note: Not everyone is suited to each other, and that's ok, this is why people split, or stay in relationships and are unhappy, life is short, so put it down to you being love struck and not paying attention to what you really need, i.e. free time, without it, all men are history in my opinion.

 

Sounds to me like you can't breath, been there, done that, and I learned that if I ever encountered a female in my life who was jealous, needy or controlling, it was over before it even started, it only takes once for me.

 

Unfortunately a lot of guys fall for this trap many times over because of the woman's insecurity, and aren't man enough to man up and say, oi, this isn't going to work out, like I said before, been there, done that once, naturally you will either get a hostile response, tantrums, something thrown at you or physically abused, and even words to the effect, I will kill myself because you no love me.

 

If any of the above rings bells......

 

 

 

[brianthainess]

Tell her sorry love it just couldn't work out between us I need free time, and I'm moving to Thailand as I want to be the millionth tourist and get a gift basket.

[Thaijack2014]

10 hours ago, Denim said:

The problem is all inside your head", she said to me
"The answer is easy if you take it logically
I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover"
She said, "It's really not my habit to intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning won't be lost or misconstrued
But I'll repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover"

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Ooh, slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

She said, "It grieves me so to see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do to make you smile again"
I said, "I appreciate that and would you please explain
About the fifty ways?"
She said, "Why don't we both just sleep on it tonight?
And I believe in the morning you'll begin to see the light"
And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Oh, you hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
You just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

Great song!

[bbbbooboo]

Hmmm…. Congradulations

[PJ71]

13 hours ago, simon43 said:

Tell her that you have fallen for a handsome guy and find gay sex much more enjoyable.....

IS that what happened to you? lol.

[Tarteso]

Why you left the air con on?

[ThailandRyan]

8 hours ago, ChrisP24 said:

Breaking up by text is poor form, but "just disapearing" seems even worse.  At this juncture probably the best thing you can do is to give her some short communicatio that gives her closure so you can both move on.   You'll know what form of communication is best, if you just don't want confrontaton or drama you could at least hand-write a letter and slide it under the door, but whatever you do you should do it ASAP, today if possible to spare her any more anguish.   And if she knows where you work, it might be time now to make one of your 4x per year job jumps. 

 

Not sure if telling her why will do any good, other than simply you are not ready for kids and family anytime soon so it is best for you both to give her the freedom to find someone who is. 

 

BTW down the road if you ever do get to a place where you want a child and are ready for the responsibility, pushing a baby pram and contemplating all of the adventures that are ahead for you and your child to experience together is one of the true joys in life.   But it is not for eveyone.   I was happy single and childless for many years.  But at 23 the idea freaked me out too, no way could I have been a good parent then and I'm super-glad I waited.

He risks being murdered by a family member for leaving her in the lurch without any money to pay the bills he has created.  He needs to man up, pay the bills for the condo/house/apartment, the power bills etc, and then give her some cash to move back home with.  Her parents will be upset, but in the end he will be free.  Filipino women are no different from Thai's, they expect the world when they bag a foreigner.....

[Gracas]

 Give your apartment key to a friend or someone else,  maybe they will appreciate her a bit more.

[1FinickyOne]

43 minutes ago, Tarteso said:

Why you left the air con on?

A funny detail to show how considerate he is?? I hope he left her money for the bill... 

[ifmu]

tell her you made a mistake,  you did not think this through and now you regret leaving her in a lurch  .. you are sorry to hurt her, you regret everything you did   

in short man up and admit you were not thinking of her feelings at all