When you're old & lonely

[georgegeorgia]

Before you read the post I want to inform everyone that tommrrw is Are you ok Day 

 

A day you should ask others if they are ok 

 

Are you ok ? Ask on "ARE YOU OK DAY 

 

 

 

Well I was on WhatsApp last night to a business owner in Pattaya.

 

He mentioned to me "Old Reg" from Australia ???? is going back ,you may see him.

 

Old Reg I thought .oh yes the old guy 72yo from the North Coast of Australia,met him in Pattaya my last trip 

 

Had been living in Thailand for 3 years on his aged pension.

Miserable old guy who sat all day in a bookshop or a bar and brought his own teabag !!!!

 

Lived down at jomtien in his own owned apartment that he had proudly boasted he bought for 800k during the pandemic

 

Well, I said , probably going back because of not having money !

 

No ! No ! The business owner told me in WhatsApp, it's not the money ,he has enough......he is " old & lonely !!! 

 

He came here to Pattaya he says and now is depressed , sits in his apartment all-day he can't meet a proper partner to love in Pattaya and he misses his weekly Bingo in Australia and his Lawn bowls 

 

He is old & lonely !

 

Your joking ! I exclaimed

Your joking !

 

No ,said the business owner ,you can't imagine how many old guys I meet who come here full of beans only to get Lonilessness and go back !!!

 

" I told him to go back ,said the business owner ," at least there he had friends & family and his bingo !!! And his lawn bowls !

 

Here he sits in a bar or bookshop all day ,he can't meet a real lady in Pattaya they all want to be paid

 

" he just sat here all-day " said the business owner who had a bookshop cafe  talking to everyone & anyone then went back to jomtien condo  and cried 

Everyday was the same for him 

 

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He then goes on to tell me how old  Reg invited a middle-aged  lady he met at a laundry shop  to dinner one night ,no sex apparently,

 

Oh she's the one said Old Reg 

 

the next day at the cafe she embarrassed him by saying out loud " You not pay me for last night !!! You not pay me !!! 

 

Like she apparently wanted to be paid to go to dinner with him and she wasn't a working girl ,

 

So apparently so many Reg's ,it's fun for awhile isn't it ,moving to Thailand particularly Pattaya,then you find out there is no real friends,no family , No real love 

 

And in Reg's case no real social life 

[scubascuba3]

Guys usually realise it's all based on money and just pay them a monthly wage, simple

[georgegeorgia]

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Guys usually realise it's all based on money and just pay them a monthly wage, simple

So some expats pay to be loved and have someone care for them?

[scubascuba3]

4 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

So some expats pay to be loved and have someone care for them?

of course, most of them, the girlfriend otherwise known as employee follows them around

[whereyougo]

The old you not pay me cliche. She wouldn't have left the room untill she was paid. Stop the BS please 

Edited September 13, 2023 by whereyougo

[georgegeorgia]

Sorry it should be 

 

R U ok ? Day 

 

There is website for those interested.

 

Unfortunately there seems to be no real help for expats in Thailand suffering from depression and why so many a year jump to their deaths sadly 

[georgegeorgia]

23 minutes ago, whereyougo said:

The old you not pay me cliche. She wouldn't have left the room untill she was paid. Stop the BS please 

I just want to know ......

R U ok ? 

[CanadaSam]

"Old Reg" simply didn't play his cards right.

 

He should have gotten on a dating website like ThaiFriendly, put in a reasonable age for his search, and he would have met plenty of older women who also want company, and of-course, if a little financial stability is available, why not? 

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

So apparently so many Reg's ,it's fun for awhile isn't it ,moving to Thailand particularly Pattaya,then you find out there is no real friends,no family , No real love 

Don't think there's much real love for old men anywhere. Your family will only hang around in the expectation of inheriting.

 

Even pets only 'love' you because you feed them.

 

Best to accept life how it is than imagine it will be better elsewhere.

[georgegeorgia]

Can I just repeat that tommrrw is 

 

R U ok ? Day 

 

Please guys if your at traffic lights on your motorcycle particularly in Pattaya ask the next guy next to you  R U OK ? 

[transam]

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Don't think there's much real love for old men anywhere. Your family will only hang around in the expectation of inheriting.

 

Even pets only 'love' you because you feed them.

 

Best to accept life how it is than imagine it will be better elsewhere.

Reads like you have had a really sad family upbringing and life............????

[BritManToo]

2 minutes ago, transam said:

Reads like you have had a really sad family upbringing and life............????

Some people are delusional about their lives, some people accept reality and make the best of it.

 

Only YOU can choose to be happy or SAD, not other people.

Edited September 13, 2023 by BritManToo

[transam]

Just now, BritManToo said:

Some people are delusional about their lives, some people accept reality and make the best of it.

Seems I am right, and probably why you ended up in LOS, eh..............????

[Lacessit]

I can't do much about being old, except try to maintain quality of life via diet and exercise.

I am happy with my own company, so I don't feel lonely.

IMO loneliness is a choice, unless one is a total misanthropist there will always be people with similar interests to talk to.

[Celsius]

Why did this loser move to Pattaya?

[OneMoreFarang]

I started living in Thailand when I was still relatively young. And I always worked in Thailand. I visited many clients and obviously there are some people who become friends over the years. Same with co-workers.

I think school and work are the main areas where we make friends. Mayb also hobbies.

Any retired person who comes to Thailand and does not know anybody has a harder time to meet (possible later) friends. And if they are introverted, then it's even more difficult.

Obviously, it's nice to live in a nice country with nice weather and pretty girls. But without friends that is a lot harder.

I wouldn't recommend to anybody to move after retirement to a country far away with different language, culture, etc. Retirement age is not the perfect time to start all over - at least that's what I think. 

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

R U ok ? Day 

 

There is website for those interested.

 

Unfortunately there seems to be no real help for expats in Thailand suffering from depression and why so many a year jump to their deaths sadly 

Apart from children who followed their parents, is there anybody farang who lives in Thailand who didn't choose to live here? We all have choices. If people realize that Thailand is not a good place for them, then maybe they should go back home. Obviously that is more difficult if you told everybody home how stupid they are not to move. But then, at the end I think it's better to realize the truth and move back compared to pretending all is fine. 

[moogradod]

May I suggest a very easy receipe ? Just be friendly all the time and show a compassionate mind. Help where you can.

 

You will be surprized how much more you will get in return and sadness should be gone soon.

[OneMoreFarang]

41 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Can I just repeat that tommrrw is 

 

R U ok ? Day 

 

Please guys if your at traffic lights on your motorcycle particularly in Pattaya ask the next guy next to you  R U OK ? 

And what if the next guy tells you he is not ok. No money, no honey, no future. And then? 

[georgegeorgia]

Even if you are in a car or motorbike tomorrow don't forget to shout out to the next car or passersby "R U OK ?

[georgegeorgia]

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

And what if the next guy tells you he is not ok. No money, no honey, no future. And then? 

Im not exactly sure , there is a website, you can go thru the steps 

www ruook.org.au

Edited September 13, 2023 by georgegeorgia

[OneMoreFarang]

29 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I can't do much about being old, except try to maintain quality of life via diet and exercise.

I avoid exercise and any diet. Ice cream every day is the much better choice! 

[NextG]

43 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Don't think there's much real love for old men anywhere. Your family will only hang around in the expectation of inheriting.

 

Even pets only 'love' you because you feed them.

 

Best to accept life how it is than imagine it will be better elsewhere.

That’s not the full story with ‘pets’. Animals can love you if you are kind to them, even without feeding them. 
This isn’t just a theory. I’ve experienced this over many years. Even the animals I do feed are usually more interested in wallowing in the attention. Food is secondary, believe it or not. 

[OneMoreFarang]

1 minute ago, georgegeorgia said:

Im not exactly sure , there is a website, you can go thru the steps 

Don't forget to give the guy in the car next to you the URL. That will cheer him up...  

[georgegeorgia]

www ruok.org.au

[georgegeorgia]

2 minutes ago, NextG said:

That’s not the full story with ‘pets’. Animals can love you if you are kind to them, even without feeding them. 
This isn’t just a theory. I’ve experienced this over many years. Even the animals I do feed are usually more interested in wallowing in the attention. Food is secondary, believe it or not. 

Strangely you say that ,more & more expats I meet have dogs particularly over the dark side that live by themselves 

[NextG]

34 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I can't do much about being old, except try to maintain quality of life via diet and exercise.

I am happy with my own company, so I don't feel lonely.

IMO loneliness is a choice, unless one is a total misanthropist there will always be people with similar interests to talk to.

Is there such word as misanthropist? ????

[NextG]

3 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Strangely you say that ,more & more expats I meet have dogs particularly over the dark side that live by themselves 

Why strange? It’s normal for people who have settled in one place. 

[scubascuba3]

4 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Strangely you say that ,more & more expats I meet have dogs particularly over the dark side that live by themselves 

People who prefer dogs or cats over humans should be avoided at all costs

[oxo1947]

Getting to the more important part of the post......

How much does he want for the condo he paid 800K for...............

 

 

 

 

Just joking my Pattaya days finished nearly 20 years ago.

We are having a 1 day-R U Ok day...think about it , Thai's say this everyday they meet someone.

Edited September 13, 2023 by oxo1947