Managing forum toxicity and negativity

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, bignok said:

 

The internet is a weird place

It certainly is, when a poster makes two or three word responses to other posters 30 or 40 times on a single thread.

I admire brevity; however, it can be overdone.

[BangkokHank]

7 hours ago, Felton Jarvis said:

I see no "toxicity" or "negativity". All I see are attempts to control the way people think. If you want a true forum, let opinions flow freely. Moderators create toxicity and negativity where it does not exist. A moderated forum is not really a forum but merely a tool for control of the narrative.

I couldn't have said it better myself. The people running this website clearly have a political agenda, and anything that goes against that agenda is suppressed. That is  not a formula for success.

[alex8912]

3 hours ago, TroubleandGrumpy said:

 

I think that a good new development would be that when/if you ignore someone, they cannot see your comments and posts (not just you not seeing theirs). I would rather they no longer see anything of mine, as well as me not seeing anything of theirs.

 

I agree. It is especially true of habitual posters. I have only blocked one poster in over 12 years but he posts so much that I constantly still see his posts when others quote him. He posts non stop every day so why can't I (we) just never see even the " quoted " posts? 

[CharlieH]

George has allowed members to have their say.That does not however extend to being rude or abusive here toward any specific members of the team.

[NorthernRyland]

36 minutes ago, farmerjo said:

I'm from a view from the far right.

The "far right" aka a normal person from 20 years ago.

[Moonlover]

3 hours ago, TroubleandGrumpy said:

If that is the way you feel, then dont read the comments by Expats (mainly) on the website of the largest English publications in Thailand.

I would say that you should just let it go and not seek to get anyone banned - put them on ignore and you wont see their rubbish - you can do that here - not on that place listed above.

So it's asking a bit much is it to suggest that 'the largest English publications in Thailand' be free of the rampant unchecked anti Thai racism that currently pervades it?

Edited November 10, 2023 by Moonlover

[MisterPooFarty]

26 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

George has allowed members to have their say.That does not however extend to being rude or abusive here toward any specific members of the team.

Is calling a clown a clown being abusive? I notice a couple of my posts have "disappeared"

[CharlieH]

4 minutes ago, MisterPooFarty said:

Is calling a clown a clown being abusive? I notice a couple of my posts have "disappeared"

No it's trolling as defined in the forum rules and will see the comment aimed at another member removed.

[MisterPooFarty]

1 minute ago, CharlieH said:

No it's trolling as defined in the forum rules and will see the comment aimed at another member removed.

Thanks for your reply

[Moonlover]

1 hour ago, alex8912 said:

I agree. It is especially true of habitual posters. I have only blocked one poster in over 12 years but he posts so much that I constantly still see his posts when others quote him. He posts non stop every day so why can't I (we) just never see even the " quoted " posts? 

Thanks! My sentiments exactly.

[scubascuba3]

2 hours ago, bignok said:

The mods on the other forum favoured older posters no matter how bad their language was. Joke really. There are 2 guys there I reckon would be the weakest people in real life. Swearing online was there power kick.

If you are talking about Pattaya addicts, sadly most of the mods there were bell ends, power of the mod got the better of them

[Neeranam]

I think having a 'block' feature would help. Like Facebook -  if someone is rude or toxic, you should have the right to block them for ever. 

[Neeranam]

8 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

While I'm not George, obviously, I can answer that. It was regarded as commenting on moderation, which is against the rules, and certain mods seemed to enjoy suspending posters for any reason, or perhaps it was only certain posters that they liked suspending.

Bravo to George and the moderation team; it was getting ridiculous with 2 moderators following/stalking me and removing nearly every post I posted. No one likes being part of a forum where that happens.    

 

[Neeranam]

13 hours ago, bignok said:

1. The ignore button is flawed. If you ignore somebody they shouldnt be able to read your comments. Would stop a lot of the stalking. They had this on another forum.

Hear hear. That would stop the stalking. 

[Morch]

6 minutes ago, Neeranam said:

Hear hear. That would stop the stalking. 

 

I should think that 'stalking' may also apply for putting many (or most) topic participants on 'ignore' then going on posting (or more correctly, flaming) them from behind that 'shield'.

[farmerjo]

Just now, Morch said:

 

I should think that 'stalking' may also apply for putting many (or most) topic participants on 'ignore' then going on posting (or more correctly, flaming) them from behind that 'shield'.

Beware of people who have dogs and cats in their avartar is what i say.

[Morch]

8 minutes ago, farmerjo said:

Beware of people who have dogs and cats in their avartar is what i say.

 

Agree.

[Wobblybob]

13 minutes ago, farmerjo said:

Beware of people who have dogs and cats in their avartar is what i say.

Any thoughts on elephants and kangaroos? 

[farmerjo]

7 minutes ago, Wobblybob said:

Any thoughts on elephants and kangaroos? 

Or you running to the defence of cats and dogs.

[Morch]

8 minutes ago, Wobblybob said:

Any thoughts on elephants and kangaroos? 

 

Or rabbits, never forget the rabbits.

[mark131v]

11 hours ago, Goat said:

Yes, some of them really deserved a good fisting.

 

In many parts of the world fisting is very, very different from a knuckle sandwich I have have certainly never had a fisting how about you?

[Morch]

1 minute ago, mark131v said:

 

In many parts of the world fisting is very, very different from a knuckle sandwich I have have certainly never had a fisting how about you?

 

https://aseannow.com/topic/1311726-managing-forum-toxicity-and-negativity/page/10/#comment-18492284

 

[champers]

Never forget: It is an anonymous internet forum and is not very consequential in the general scheme of things.

I want to be informed and entertained by the forum.

I won't report anyone or put someone on ignore. We all have the right to disagree, hopefully respectfully but if not use irony, sarcasm and humour rather than personal abuse.

I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Personal crrcumstances for some mean that posting is an important part of their daily routine. I respect that aspect even if I feel some of their posting seems OTT to the point of being obsessive.

I regularly give likes to posts I disagree with because; as Pete Doherty sings; "it's all in the delivery".

Keep up the good work, George.

Edited November 10, 2023 by champers

[champers]

4 hours ago, Lacessit said:

It certainly is, when a poster makes two or three word responses to other posters 30 or 40 times on a single thread.

I admire brevity; however, it can be overdone.

OK.

[Puccini]

17 hours ago, KhunLA said:

...Though most are ignored of late, and they seem to get bored if nobody replies to them.  So slowly self correcting...

 

I particularly like the above part about trolls. Replying to a troll post empowers the troll and spurs him to troll even more. In that respect, who replies to a troll post is in a way a troll himself.

[Bkk Brian]

3 hours ago, farmerjo said:

Beware of people who have dogs and cats in their avartar is what i say.

Says a far right farmer who has a kangaroo.....lol

Edited November 10, 2023 by Bkk Brian

[thaibeachlovers]

12 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Show me where I have used abuse and vile language in the post.

I didn't see any of that, but I did see a baiting post.

It's an old tactic- post something personal that however it is answered will make the responder look bad.

 

It's why I don't reply to such posts myself but point out that it's a baiting post.

[amykat]

14 hours ago, Goat said:

There probably a single person more connected than the Goat. i know about your story and who caused it. Very unfair.

 

If there is anything you need to know feel free to ask me.

Are you really VillageFarang??

[thaibeachlovers]

4 hours ago, mark131v said:

 

In many parts of the world fisting is very, very different from a knuckle sandwich I have have certainly never had a fisting how about you?

Perhaps he used it in the normal sense of the word, as it's got to hurt.

One is constantly astounded to the extent fetishists will go to to get off, and one has to wonder what happened to them in their formative years to resort to such strange sexual practices.

[thaibeachlovers]

5 hours ago, Neeranam said:

Bravo to George and the moderation team; it was getting ridiculous with 2 moderators following/stalking me and removing nearly every post I posted. No one likes being part of a forum where that happens.    

 

I feel for you, having been there myself. Fortunately, one of them in my case has departed the forum. I guess I just outlasted him, despite his best attempts to give me enough points.