and equally contribute to the household?

 

Or she just plays on the phone ogling and chatting with real Thai men while you are not watching?

 

If she doesn't work, then why not?

 

 

 

 

yeah.

 

she cooks and cleans too..

 

winner winner chicken dinner!

 

bob.

24/7 ... taking care of the house, garden, dog & myself 

 

No, she doesn't work, as I asked her not to.    I couldn't be in a relationship with her if she worked,   I'm not going to sit around 8-12 hrs  day by myself in my retirement.  Or go O&A without adult companionship, during 3 months of school breaks with daughter, when playing single parent days past.

 

She has contributed as much, possibly more financially, through her savvy investing (RE) and negotiating with home builders, 2X, than it would have been possible for me to do on my own.

 

Add a bit of long game thinking on my part (Solar & EVs) and we have our living expense down around the ฿15k a month mark.  Making a huge difference in our savings & buying power, since I'm on a retirement visa, and don't use an agent for the financials.   Do the math, we have a lot of pocket money.

 

Without her, my monthly budget would be in the ฿70-100k a month ballpark, for the same lifestyle.  Best part, we actually like each other ... OK ... she tolerates me 

40 minutes ago, Celsius said:

If she doesn't work, then why not?

Neither of us work, I have enough money already.

Obviously the poor guys will need their partners to work.

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Neither of us work, I have enough money already.

Obviously the poor guys will need their partners to work.

 

 

Sometimes partners want to work even though there is no financial need to do so.

9 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Neither of us work, I have enough money already.

Obviously the poor guys will need their partners to work.

 

Isn't your budget in Thailand like 15,000 baht a month?

26 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Neither of us work, I have enough money already.

Obviously the poor guys will need their partners to work.

Thing is many don't want to drag them around 24/7

44 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

Sometimes partners want to work even though there is no financial need to do so.

Or, smart enough not to burn their bridges, as having doubt the relationship is gong to last.  Or, realize if & when partner craps out, they'll have nothing to fall back on.  Providing their own financial security it all goes bad.   May just love what they are doing, work wise.

 

Generalizing and not directed to H&S.

27 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Thing is many don't want to drag them around 24/7

You're really talking about the women some buy here,that they aren't proud being with, don't want to be seen with around their friends, or secretly despise even though they get pleasure from them, for a price. A good woman a good man wants around as much as possible. If she wants to work, that's her prerogative, and he waits home for her. This is why having a woman closer to your age is better. Most younger ones work, or want to, even if they are getting money from a foreigner, of course subtracting the greedy or lazy., who lie around all day on their phones waiting for the next withdrawal.

39 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Thing is many don't want to drag them around 24/7

I don't drag mine around at all, once a month to Makro is our only 'outside the home' joint activity. She has her friends and hobbies, I have my friends and hobbies.

My gf does the cooking and cleaning and all that.

It has to be done, and I don't want to do it. The alternative would be to hire a maid.

 

My gf does not have much formal education. She would only be able to get a job which is not well paid, or a job in the night life industry.

She and I don't work that she works at night. And there is no point that she works in a minimum wage job so that we can use the money to pay for a maid.

 

When I met her and we got together, it was perfectly clear that this would be the scenario. I like it, she likes it, all is fine.

1 hour ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

Sometimes partners want to work even though there is no financial need to do so.

That´s my experience. I asked my wife to stay home, as the financials are far enough without her working. However, after 11 years with being home and taking care of children she wanted to work with something. So, I opened a small local shop for her. She seems to be happy with that. Something, that in return also makes me happy.

1 hour ago, hotandsticky said:

Sometimes partners want to work even though there is no financial need to do so.

 

Do they want to work? Or do they want to get away from "home" or him?

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Do they want to work? Or do they want to get away from "home" or him?

 

You people want to be with your teerak 24/7.....even spending time together at 7/11?

 

Jeez, and I thought I was needy....

1 minute ago, Celsius said:

You people want to be with your teerak 24/7.....even spending time together at 7/11?

 

Jeez, and I thought I was needy....

I work at home and outside of home.

She is most of the time at home, or maybe she visits her family up country for a few days.

Most of the time we are together, and we like to be together. 

Of course she works, has three businesses and maintains a healthy self esteem and well rounded social life just as the rest of her family. Never had a thing for lazy lackies.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Neither of us work, I have enough money already.

Obviously the poor guys will need their partners to work.

My wife runs a couple of businesses and I work, we want to make enough, so our kids never have to worry about money and don't have to look for the cheapest baked beans or worry about the price of eggs.  

1 hour ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

Sometimes partners want to work even though there is no financial need to do so.

mine doesn't need to work but she does some side work to keep her busy, or she would get depressed

2 hours ago, Celsius said:

Does your wife/partner work? 

Mine is a skilled worker.

 

She was studying to be a doctor, Phd but I asked her to stop, spending too much time away from home, too many hours at university. 🧑‍🎓

 

Now she just does nursing duties. 

 

 

 

31 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Do they want to work? Or do they want to get away from "home" or him?

 

 

They want to work......full stop.

 

For whatever reasons................career, self respect, independent income, own time and space - who cares, it is what they choose.

1 hour ago, hotandsticky said:

 

 

Sometimes partners want to work even though there is no financial need to do so.

Well said its not even for the money, some have a work ethic and just don't want to be home all day, they like to socialize with their 'own' kind.

Yes. Large/st media company in Thailand. Production side. Easy job, 25k pm plus great benefits. She had the position before I met her and it doesn't seem right to take her away from it to do nothing. That's just ridiculous. Decent jobs for Thai are so hard to find. It also provides me with an out if she were to ask for money for her parents which she does not or at least very rarely.

 

I retired mid 40s. Part of that deal with the devil was to never get married which I had already sworn off decades before. It was also part of the early retirement plan. So, she needs to work for her spending money and retirement for now.

 

In about 5 or 7 years she will age out of her job (at 55). I should have the finances more in order. She'll get 15k spending pm from me after she stops working - I pay all expenses now. We will make all those longer and more expensive trips that could never fit into our work schedules.

Wife is absolutely lovely to be around. Everyone that meets her loves her. No issues with prolonged time together. Even after 15 years. I'm the weak link.

 

I'm just trying to figure out what is a target amount of money that I should feel comfortable with leaving her up on my death. I'm not sure I can get there but I will try. I'm not going to sacrifice my or our life style in the extreme in order to take care of a woman I met when I was 50 and she was 32 - after I'm dead. Discussing this with friends half of them think that it's pretty much her responsibility almost entirely and she should be happy with anything I can give her. I feel more bound to her than that.

55 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

don't drag mine around at all, once a month to Makro

My wife sometimes want's to come with me to Makro, I dissuade her not to, that way I save a few thousand baht................. 

My wife worked various jobs, Fish Market in Bangkok, clothing factory, whilst would like her to have a part time job not a bar, hotel, restaurant etc,she said there isn’t any part time jobs 3/4 hours a day.

I mentioned shop work but she said they only want younger staff she is 46 years old, I can’t complain as she cooks, cleans looks after the house and our son. She gets up at 6 o’clock during the week never complains. Her worst habit is if we are going away anywhere she wants to be setting of hours before we actually need to.

My wife opened her shop before we were married, and just living together, she did this while I was away back 'home' for 3 months, she is now paying off some land she is buying from her ex FL, that did annoy me but her reasoning was that she didn't know if I would marry her or not. She still keeps the house clean, etc. but somedays works 12 hrs.

I don't mind as I enjoy my own company. 

Yes, doesn't need to but wants to.

I remember in the playground it was “ my dad is better than your dad “, some on here have only evolved as far as “ my wife is better than your wife “ 🤦‍♂️

Yes, on both counts.

Mostly went dutch.

 

Masters grad, smart as hell academically.

Had her 11th anniversary with company last month, career with a civil engineering business, good employer, work environment and colleagues. No thoughts of stopping work.

 

Daughter #2 started at uni this year studying civil engineering, and longer term there's possibility of internship and employment there.

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Neither of us work, I have enough money already.

Obviously the poor guys will need their partners to work.

That's such BS. Some of us have partners/wives who are professionals. It's not about money.

And those who brag about money, usually are broke....