Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, Hummin said:

Oh my,,,,

and another oh my my.

 

[ChaiyaTH]

On 10/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research.

If you done your research you would also know that it obviously doesn't work if you start doing that when it is too late already. People also always overestimate the short term results over mid- and long terms.

 

I mean, if you lived careless for the first 50 years, you really expect significant changes within a year?

 

When it is too late already, there are no real natural solutions, you just buy viagra. Exists for a reason.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/31/2024 at 9:55 AM, RSD1 said:

Suffice to say, any girl 20-30 (or more) years younger than their sponsor husband is faking lots of things. 

Some things can't be faked. Try learning stuff.

 

If a guy can't get his partner off he isn't doing it right. Don't blame age- it's a chemical reaction to stimulus, end of.

[ChaiyaTH]

2 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Some things can't be faked. Try learning stuff.

 

If a guy can't get his partner off he isn't doing it right. Don't blame age- it's a chemical reaction to stimulus, end of.

BS plenty of people who can't keep it hard even they were turned on and want to do it, at those ages. You would be surprised how many guys have that issue as just very few publicly admit it.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/31/2024 at 7:02 AM, save the frogs said:

or she could be faking an orgasm because she knows the next paycheck is just around the corner.

 

Any man that can be fooled by a fake one needs to find out a few things. A fake is nothing like a real one.

[georgegeorgia]

On 10/31/2024 at 12:09 AM, Patong2021 said:

Pleasingly plump, Rubenesque men then. They have manboobs. Remember what Cornorshop used to say? Everyone needs a bosom for a pillow.

And not everyone needs a bottom 

[thaibeachlovers]

1 minute ago, ChaiyaTH said:

BS plenty of people who can't keep it hard even they were turned on and want to do it, at those ages. You would be surprised how many guys have that issue as just very few publicly admit it.

Getting a woman off isn't about being hard. Read some books about how to do it properly, look at porn for handy hints, just stop blaming erectile dysfunction for failure to please.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/31/2024 at 5:58 AM, habuspasha said:

Thanks, Dad.  I've only be doing this for 70 years--to better and better  reviews.  Enough time to learn that "typically" and"Generally" don't count.

Well said. Some people are just not inclined to put in the effort to learn how to do it properly, and prefer to blame something other than their lack of competence for their failure to please. Don't even need a hard on to get her off. Women's erogenous zones are not like men's- contained in one tiny area- they have more than two.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/30/2024 at 10:17 PM, RSD1 said:

So your saying she doesn't mind if you push her stool in?

That's a very bizarre thing to say.

 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/30/2024 at 10:00 PM, Hummin said:

In my younger days 5 times a day was not a problem, but now 5 times a week is satisfying, and very rear two times a day, and even less 3 times in a day which depends more on my wife, than me. 

Took me a minute or two to understand that rear is not the word you intended to use.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/30/2024 at 9:56 PM, Hummin said:

That means you didn't get much in your younger days 😉

Certainly applied to me. When I discovered LOS it was like being in a sweet shop for the first time in my life. Women and song as often as I could manage it while still having to work. I once flew from Saudi just for 3 days in Nana.

Those decades in LOS may have made me poorer, but if I could go back the only thing I'd change would be going more often for longer.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/30/2024 at 10:34 PM, Hummin said:

If you haven't seen each other for a week or two, or no regular gf, it is different, but when you are together every day, there is no urge to do two times a day, unless you get a quicky, and there is no effort to satisfy her, which takes some effort and time. 

Speak for yourself.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/30/2024 at 7:50 PM, RSD1 said:

Insulting, pathetic, and useless. 

But entirely expected.

[NowNow]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Women disagree with you. Both mine decided that they could cut me off that sort of thing and I'd still be an ATM. They were wrong.

 

Your women.... Ironic, since you are here giving advice on how to satisfy women. Too many doing most of their thinking with their little head.

[georgegeorgia]

27 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Your women.... Ironic, since you are here giving advice on how to satisfy women. Too many doing most of their thinking with their little head.

You have two then 😳

[WDSmart]

Oh, when I started to read this, I thought you would talk about real problems like memory, mental acuity, and balance, but I assume what you're talking about is getting an erection. I quit reading as soon as I figured that out. What a waste of space! 

[georgegeorgia]

2 minutes ago, WDSmart said:

Oh, when I started to read this, I thought you would talk about real problems like memory, mental acuity, and balance, but I assume what you're talking about is getting an erection. I quit reading as soon as I figured that out. What a waste of space! 

Unfortunately this is not the forum to have intelligent analytical conversation 

It has many low class people from around the World 

Old criminals,old louts and hoodlums etc 

You only have to look at the sight of some of these old people,tatts ,hard faces etc 

[NanLaew]

On 10/29/2024 at 10:14 PM, MalcolmB said:

On 10/29/2024 at 10:11 PM, FriscoKid said:

Is that working well for you?

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

Try a fat man then.

[NanLaew]

17 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Unfortunately this is not the forum to have intelligent analytical conversation 

It has many low class people from around the World 

Old criminals,old louts and hoodlums etc 

You only have to look at the sight of some of these old people,tatts ,hard faces etc 

 

Yes, even a short street watch from a bar stool on Soi Buakhao reveals loads of this sort of human detritus.

[Will B Good]

18 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Unfortunately this is not the forum to have intelligent analytical conversation 

It has many low class people from around the World 

Old criminals,old louts and hoodlums etc 

You only have to look at the sight of some of these old people,tatts ,hard faces etc 

 

An extract for your book......"How to Make Friends and Influence People"......?

[georgegeorgia]

1 minute ago, NanLaew said:

 

Yes, even a short street watch from a bar stool on Soi Buakhao reveals loads of this sort of human detritus.

Oh please ,there's no need for that description

[lamyai3]

On 10/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me.

If you don't fancy the pills you could perhaps try switching to a Non ED visa?

[georgegeorgia]

1 minute ago, Will B Good said:

 

An extract for your book......"How to Make Friends and Influence People"......?

Would you like to be friends with some of old ex criminals now with old weathered tattoos living in low class Jomtien on their old age pension 

[NowNow]

6 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

An extract for your book......"How to Make Friends and Influence People"......?

 

Do you want to be friends with the described?

[Will B Good]

10 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Would you like to be friends with some of old ex criminals now with old weathered tattoos living in low class Jomtien on their old age pension 

 

I am one....!!!

[Will B Good]

5 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

Do you want to be friends with the described?

 

Now what is called?....let me think......don't rush me...oh I remember....it's called a joke

[NowNow]

4 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

Now what is called?....let me think......don't rush me...oh I remember....it's called a joke

 

I replied with a smile on my face 😊

[Will B Good]

3 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

I replied with a smile on my face 😊

 

 

That is so sweet....thanks....have a nice day.

[JensenZ]

On 10/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

I would suggest your problems are caused by the following:

 

1. Lack of sleep. You need an erection for around 4 hours every night to keep the penile tissue healthy. The blood flows only when it is erect. I'm 65 and my erectile function declined significantly in the last few years due to lack of sleep.

 

2. Low testosterone. I suggest you look into TRT to normalize your testosterone levels.

 

3. Performance anxiety. This is a huge problem to circumvent. You need a very patient partner who turns you on. If you don't know the girl, you're likely to worry too much about your inability to perform.

 

4. Start a low daily dose of Tadalafil. 2.5 or 5mg per day. Forget all the stories about these drugs being dangerous. All I get is a bit of heartburn if I take it on an empty stomach.  I use 5mg per day and take 10mg an hour before action.

 

My 26-year-old girlfriend is more than satisfied with my performance.

[Hummin]

3 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

That's not normal, especially as you are sometimes "interested".

 

However, take advantage of it. You'll be wealthier if you never have the urge again, as long as you don't keep supporting a woman without any benefits.

I'd have been better off if I'd lost "interest" at 20.

Thats not my post you qouted 😁