Always take your time, if it's good it's only going to get better, if there are problems they're going to manifest themselves over time, so it's our responsibility to push back on the demands until we really get to know them and determine that they're worthy of our devotion.

 

When I say take your time I'm talking one year, two years, three years, most foreigners are too emotionally vulnerable to do something like that but those are the ones who get burned, so don't complain about the consequences if you won't take the time to get to know her and her family first. 

 

She is usually going to want to push the timetable and her agenda. We have to push back. And if she is in a big hurry, just walk away. Very little family assistance for the first year or two, is my advice. 

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

Sounds like bs

 

5 cars pal. 

57 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

That's very perspicacious of you, it's quite so. I had two lawyer colleagues, they both married guys who made nothing or much less than them. Great blokes, but of course kept men really in real life, not that you'd notice, they' still acted like men in a social setting. However, I always thought, I could not live with myself, if I knew the other half was making way more than me.

 

It's true, I do get a bit of pleasure out of paying for her needs now and then. It does stroke the ego, no doubt about it.

 

But it's really necessity, I can live without it, but if you want to date 18 to 25 year old girls, they're all penniless. If you date 40 or 50 year old gals, okay they'll have busineses. I tried it recently, a 35 year old pharmacist. Never again.  I can't deal with women over 30. It's a real pain in the neck.

By the time you reach the age of 70, be sure no 30 year old women will look at you anymore. Not Thai or otherwise, unless you have big money. Have you big money? If not, prepare for lonlyness in old age, wishing a 35 year old nurse would come along, wiping your ass.

 

Unless you have Big Money, aging is horrible. To age without a certain degree of "financial security" is the worst stage of human existance.

 

Of personal interest: While awaiting the "right female" (chasing butterfly's and snakes in the djungle), has it ever occurred to you, that you have missed the most liberal interactions that ever happened between males and females, concentrated in a small coastal town called Pattaya?

 

Never to be repeated in this form and shape again. No regrets?

13 minutes ago, swissie said:

Of personal interest: While awaiting the "right female" (chasing butterfly's and snakes in the djungle), has it ever occurred to you, that you have missed the most liberal interactions that ever happened between males and females, concentrated in a small coastal town called Pattaya?

 

Never to be repeated in this form and shape again. No regrets?

 

Not really. I've lived a life of sexual bliss for 20 years and have tasted that cup to the very end. I've been to Pattaya and most of the whores there look rough af. For whores you're just a number, another client who'll pay them, so they have no motiviation to really participate in sex the way a woman would who truly wants to  make you happy. It's like night and day. Usually, anyway, I'm sure there are freaks who love it who become professionals, but they'll be rare. I'm glad Pattaya exists, don't get me wrong, we need places like this and of course "liberal interactions" are very laudable. I just never saw anything I liked in Pattaya.  

If she or someone in her family get sick they pay only 30 baht using the goldcard the government give them.

If she say that she will go back working in the bar if u not give more money..send her the money for a busticket and block her.

6 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Not really. I've lived a life of sexual bliss for 20 years and have tasted that cup to the very end. I've been to Pattaya and most of the whores there look rough af. For whores you're just a number, another client who'll pay them, so they have no motiviation to really participate in sex the way a woman would who truly wants to  make you happy. It's like night and day. Usually, anyway, I'm sure there are freaks who love it who become professionals, but they'll be rare. I'm glad Pattaya exists, don't get me wrong, we need places like this and of course "liberal interactions" are very laudable. I just never saw anything I liked in Pattaya.  

Seems you have no problem making them whores, by using them for awhile, and then send them away. Classy, 

3 hours ago, camper star said:

It started off like meeting the end of the rainbow, which we all we can't do.

My question is, how do I handle the subject when financial help for the family is needed.

 

try with a man?

14 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Not really. I've lived a life of sexual bliss for 20 years and have tasted that cup to the very end. I've been to Pattaya and most of the whores there look rough af. For whores you're just a number, another client who'll pay them, so they have no motiviation to really participate in sex the way a woman would who truly wants to  make you happy. It's like night and day. Usually, anyway, I'm sure there are freaks who love it who become professionals, but they'll be rare. I'm glad Pattaya exists, don't get me wrong, we need places like this and of course "liberal interactions" are very laudable. I just never saw anything I liked in Pattaya.  

Thanks for explanation. I understand. There was a time, Pattaya was my center of the universe. Until I met my Thai wife, 22 years ago.

Such circumstances are rather rare. I am grateful, as my Farang friends were far less fortunate as I was.

26 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Seems you have no problem making them whores, by using them for awhile, and then send them away. Classy, 

 

Well, you can't buy the first cat in the bag, you have to test drive.

It won't happen if you are much older. If of similar age you have a chance, look for someone with a good job, not online.

 

My lawyer friend supports 6 of her family

6 hours ago, camper star said:

meeting a lady that doesn't need your money

OK, we know her needs. 

Now let's look at your needs, SEX!!!!!! 

 

You want sex, she wants money. 

 

What don't you understand?

 

You may not like giving her money, she may not like a fat, smelly bald guy inside her. 

 

 

7 hours ago, it is what it is said:

 

20 odd years here, never, ever had a thai woman who wanted money, same as when i dated back home. current gf has five cars, seven houses and condos and runs, at the last count - it's hard to keep up, seven or eight businesses.

 

i honestly have no idea why guys here pay for women, can only surmise it must be because they want to - makes them feel powerful/stokes their ego, or because they're mugs. the honest truth is you don't have to pay a penny if you don't want to. as the locals say, up to you.

Ok, Bob. 

10 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

My friend gave 200,000. Only had sex 12 times.

Apparently, infatuated gay men can be like that........

11 hours ago, Sierra Tango said:

Get a bloody job and stop wasting time posting inane shizen on this forum Bob/Giovani/ Lewi who ever the fark you are, Just go away.

You left out Susan.

11 minutes ago, simon43 said:

Apparently, infatuated gay men can be like that........

Why would a gay man do that?

11 hours ago, camper star said:

My question is, how do I handle the subject when financial help for the family is needed.

Simple, a common word…NO

11 hours ago, camper star said:

meeting a lady that doesn't need your money

It works here just the same as anywhere else in the world, find someone who is educated and works. Unless of course you prefer women who lack ambition and self esteem.

11 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

How do u create these?

this must be a post from an imposter... the real @Harrisfan seems to have absolutely no interest in learning anything.

Years ago I met a 'specialised' nurse in Bangkok who was originally from Rayong. She was really into me. We often went out for dinner together. She insisted on paying her share every time. She had bought her own condo & had a nice car. Sadly for me she just felt like a good friend. Typical. 

Not like the ex girlfriend from Surin whose family wanted to see how much they could get out of me. Relationship didn't last long. Typical. 

2 minutes ago, garygooner said:

Sadly for me she just felt like a good friend.

 

Maybe she thought you can't offer her a much better lifestyle, as she was already doing quite well, so she didn't fall in love with you for that reason?

1 hour ago, gamb00ler said:

this must be a post from an imposter... the real @Harrisfan seems to have absolutely no interest in learning anything.

Learn from you 

23 hours ago, it is what it is said:

current gf has five cars, seven houses and condos and runs, at the last count - it's hard to keep up, seven or eight businesses.

more cars, houses and businesses than trump and elon musk combined.

 

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29 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Maybe she thought you can't offer her a much better lifestyle, as she was already doing quite well, so she didn't fall in love with you for that reason?

I think you're confused. 

She was really into me, but I couldn't love her. 

6 minutes ago, garygooner said:

She was really into me

 

I doubt it. 

 

If she was really into you, it wouldn't have felt like she was "just a friend".

11 hours ago, Hummin said:

You are the cheap one aint you, tsj

So you give money to women for nothing?

They do exist you know, right where the Abominable Snowman and sasquatch are.

13 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

How do u create these?

First, you need to be elected POTUS.

 

Hope this helps.

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

So you give money to women for nothing?

Christ sake, Im married, I got  maid, locer, chef and cleaner and a 24/7 friend. 

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

Christ sake, Im married, I got  maid, locer, chef and cleaner and a 24/7 friend. 

Pretend wife

28 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Pretend wife

Whatever your illusion is, it yours only. It is a bless or curse, your choice, your life

 

Good luck