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Been seeing this girl for a little while now. Met her online a couple months back, not through a dating app, but through one of those language exchange sites. She works at a small shop in a mall somewhere around the Siam area. We usually hang out at my place three or four times a week.

 

The other night, we went out for dinner, me, her, a friend of mine, and his girlfriend. He’s been with his girl a few years, but he still plays the field now and then. Anyway, after dinner, he calls me up and tells me he’s seen my girlfriend standing on the street in Soi Nana at night a few times, talking to guys. I asked how sure he was, and he said he actually spoke to her briefly once and recognised her voice when we were all out together. She clearly didn’t remember him though, because she acted totally normal the whole night.

 

Now I don’t know what to do. Do I confront her? Or just quietly end things? The situation is actually pretty good. She doesn’t ask for much. I pay for meals here and there, and occasionally help with a small bill or something she needs. But I’m not really up for dating someone who might be working part-time in that scene.

 

Just trying to figure out the best move here.

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    Seems to be a bit of a run on 'cuck' stories at the moment. Maybe you could get together with the 'bubble tea' poster and compare notes.   My personal opinion, pay her what you think sh

  • Amazing how quick people jump to conclusions, she could've been on that soi for any number of reasons but you jump straight to that conclusion. If your happy with her, it's not serious, why would

  • Until you put a ring on her finger you have no say how she makes a living. If this kind of job bothers you, then maybe you're not cut out to live in Thailand.

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Seems to be a bit of a run on 'cuck' stories at the moment.

Maybe you could get together with the 'bubble tea' poster and compare notes.

 

My personal opinion, pay her what you think she's worth for the time she spends with you, and don't worry about what she does or with whom she does when she's 'off duty'.

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5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Seems to be a bit of a run on 'cuck' stories at the moment.

Maybe you could get together with the 'bubble tea' poster and compare notes.

 

My personal opinion, pay her what you think she's worth for the time she spends with you, and don't worry about what she does or with whom she does when she's 'off duty'.


Well, at least bob is back now. Sure to be lots more cucking coming soon, but not of the female variety. 

9 minutes ago, JK-Trilly said:

Been seeing this girl for a little while now. Met her online a couple months back, not through a dating app, but through one of those language exchange sites. She works at a small shop in a mall somewhere around the Siam area. We usually hang out at my place three or four times a week.

 

The other night, we went out for dinner, me, her, a friend of mine, and his girlfriend. He’s been with his girl a few years, but he still plays the field now and then. Anyway, after dinner, he calls me up and tells me he’s seen my girlfriend standing on the street in Soi Nana at night a few times, talking to guys. I asked how sure he was, and he said he actually spoke to her briefly once and recognised her voice when we were all out together. She clearly didn’t remember him though, because she acted totally normal the whole night.

 

Now I don’t know what to do. Do I confront her? Or just quietly end things? The situation is actually pretty good. She doesn’t ask for much. I pay for meals here and there, and occasionally help with a small bill or something she needs. But I’m not really up for dating someone who might be working part-time in that scene.

 

Just trying to figure out the best move here.


obviously you guys do not have a deal being bf gf, so use condom, and until you guys finds out what next step is, you guys are free to do what you want. 
 

I couldn’t, I’m rather in a relationship or not, and if in relationships we are transparent to each other

8 minutes ago, Hummin said:

obviously you guys do not have a deal being bf gf, so use condom, and until you guys finds out what next step is, you guys are free to do what you want. 
 

I couldn’t, I’m rather in a relationship or not, and if in relationships we are transparent to each other

You're transparent to him/her ..................

15 minutes ago, JK-Trilly said:

But I’m not really up for dating someone who might be working part-time in that scene.


How can you even be sure she isn't working in that scene full time? Have you ever visited her at the shop she works to confirm she has a real day job? 

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Amazing how quick people jump to conclusions, she could've been on that soi for any number of reasons but you jump straight to that conclusion.

If your happy with her, it's not serious, why would you expect exclusivity. As has been said, what she does is not really your business, Any more than just like your "friend" played away occasionally., no difference. 

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35 minutes ago, JK-Trilly said:

not through a dating app, but through one of those language exchange sites.

 

Those are dating apps.

 

Until you put a ring on her finger you have no say how she makes a living. If this kind of job bothers you, then maybe you're not cut out to live in Thailand.

I always marvel at guys who think it's OK to bang everything in sight, then demand a GF be dedicated to them only. It's a double standard.

 

IMO the OP should just use condoms, and enjoy. She actually sounds like a keeper if she does not ask for much.

41 minutes ago, Hummin said:


obviously you guys do not have a deal being bf gf, so use condom, and until you guys finds out what next step is, you guys are free to do what you want. 
 

I couldn’t, I’m rather in a relationship or not, and if in relationships we are transparent to each other

"we are transparent to each other"

 

As far as you know.

 

34 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Amazing how quick people jump to conclusions, she could've been on that soi for any number of reasons but you jump straight to that conclusion.

If your happy with her, it's not serious, why would you expect exclusivity. As has been said, what she does is not really your business, Any more than just like your "friend" played away occasionally., no difference. 

Until she gets pregnant.

16 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I always marvel at guys who think it's OK to bang everything in sight, then demand a GF be dedicated to them only. It's a double standard.

Not really. 
men don’t get pregnant.

if a woman gets pregnant she knows 100% it is hers.

 

I recommend dumping her. Plenty of other decent women in Bangkok.

 

10 minutes ago, cdemundo said:

"we are transparent to each other"

 

As far as you know.

 

If I didn’t believe we were, I wouldn’t be with her, simple as that. If she is tricking me, she does a hell of a job making my life comfortable without worries. 
 

 

1 hour ago, JK-Trilly said:

But I’m not really up for dating someone who might be working part-time in that scene.

doesn't that answer your question?? -

 

You might want to ask if she has a twin sister first.

24 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

She actually sounds like a keeper if she does not ask for much.

High standards indeed... 

12 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

Just trying to figure out the best move here.

 

I suggest you take BritMan's advice from the STD thread.

Bang a lot of chicks without condoms. 

YOLO, mate. 

 

I think its obvious by now with so many similar threads that the OP is not real.

 

That said, if he is, he is a complete loser with all the cliched questions he asks, and I'm surprised he actually made it on a plane alone and got all the way to Thailand, unless his mum accompanied him of course..

1 hour ago, JK-Trilly said:

Been seeing this girl for a little while now

Oh Goodie, another Dear Abby posting 😂

5 hours ago, Trippy said:

Until you put a ring on her finger you have no say how she makes a living. If this kind of job bothers you, then maybe you're not cut out to live in Thailand.

Or he could find another woman that isn't a street walker, as there are millions in Thailand. To the OP, if this bothers you, you know the answer. if you don't mind dating a part timer, then that's your answer.

Just let it go but consider dropping your 

'friend' for being a snitch and a trouble maker.

 

If you're up for just being friends and lovers and willing to ignore the fact that she is sleeping around and doing other guys, then it's all good.

 

If you think that it's something more than you need to cut her loose, it's really that simple. She is what she is. At least now you know. 

Don't know about the OP (bob), but friends w/bennies are great.  Had a few when in USA.

 

Two life long, and great when not in a relationship.  Weren't professionals, as possibly implied in OP, but just as promiscuous as myself.

 

Enjoy relationships, obviously, as been in 6 live in relationship, but also enjoyed being single.

You're with a part time prostitute. Look at the brightside at least youre not paying full price. 

22 hours ago, CharlieH said:

she could've been on that soi for any number of reasons

lol

40 minutes ago, PJ71 said:

lol

 

And not just once but multiple times hahaha. Total coincidence. 

On 5/23/2025 at 8:13 AM, JK-Trilly said:

Been seeing this girl for a little while now. Met her online a couple months back, not through a dating app, but through one of those language exchange sites. She works at a small shop in a mall somewhere around the Siam area. We usually hang out at my place three or four times a week.

 

The other night, we went out for dinner, me, her, a friend of mine, and his girlfriend. He’s been with his girl a few years, but he still plays the field now and then. Anyway, after dinner, he calls me up and tells me he’s seen my girlfriend standing on the street in Soi Nana at night a few times, talking to guys. I asked how sure he was, and he said he actually spoke to her briefly once and recognised her voice when we were all out together. She clearly didn’t remember him though, because she acted totally normal the whole night.

 

Now I don’t know what to do. Do I confront her? Or just quietly end things? The situation is actually pretty good. She doesn’t ask for much. I pay for meals here and there, and occasionally help with a small bill or something she needs. But I’m not really up for dating someone who might be working part-time in that scene.

 

Just trying to figure out the best move here.

 

To me it is simple. Some night, when she is not with you take your friend out for a beer.  Pop into one of the bars but do not sit on the rail.

 

When he sees her, check and see if it is the same girl. If it is, then next time you meet, ask her. Tell her you are not mad; you just want to know.  

 

OH YEAH AND IF YOU ARENT START INVESTING IN LATEX

 

 

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