I have been in relationships before with Thais before so I know what it is all about. Had a thai gf for a year and we do get on well. Well even the most ardent scammer is going to play along. Demands for cash have been slowly increasing  to the point that last month was unreasonable. Now I have been weighing up for while if she is merely a scammer. A week ago I laid it on the line that in July I had a lot of expenses  myself and that I could not give her any cash in July. I just yesterday had to pay 26,000 baht to the Thai accountant for company accounts and tax and currently by bank account stands at £26. I have an Am Ex bill for £600, Barclaycard is not due until the end of the month. Council tax £200, gas and electric £180, vets bill to put the dog down £140. Planned works on the house been put off for 18 months £3200. That is not to say money wont be coming in through out the month to meet my commitments. So having told the gf she can have nothing this month today she wants 13,000 baht to clear her credit card, and it is only the first of the month.

Now she is not stupid, she has a degree in Business Admin, or something similar, so running a budget should not be too difficult for her. So is she a scammer or just plane stupid. Or am I stupid, I think I know the answer to that.

Kick rocks sweetheart......

 

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Sorry for laughing, but all your details put me off! 

 

There is a saying: If ever in doubt, you are sure!

 

 

1 hour ago, Geoff914 said:

 Council tax £200, gas and electric £180, vets bill to put the dog down £140. 

Geoff times are hard ...eat remains of dog !

1 minute ago, Jim Blue said:

Geoff times are hard ...eat remains of dog !

Already buried.

 

Is she a 6 or an 8?

1 hour ago, Geoff914 said:

I have been in relationships before with Thais before so I know what it is all about. Had a thai gf for a year and we do get on well. Well even the most ardent scammer is going to play along. Demands for cash have been slowly increasing  to the point that last month was unreasonable. Now I have been weighing up for while if she is merely a scammer. A week ago I laid it on the line that in July I had a lot of expenses  myself and that I could not give her any cash in July. I just yesterday had to pay 26,000 baht to the Thai accountant for company accounts and tax and currently by bank account stands at £26. I have an Am Ex bill for £600, Barclaycard is not due until the end of the month. Council tax £200, gas and electric £180, vets bill to put the dog down £140. Planned works on the house been put off for 18 months £3200. That is not to say money wont be coming in through out the month to meet my commitments. So having told the gf she can have nothing this month today she wants 13,000 baht to clear her credit card, and it is only the first of the month.

Now she is not stupid, she has a degree in Business Admin, or something similar, so running a budget should not be too difficult for her. So is she a scammer or just plane stupid. Or am I stupid, I think I know the answer to that.

 

It is quite often that Thais have the attention span of a fly, especially if the problemas are not directly their own, or you start coming around with numbers and facts.

 

I do not even mean this derogatory or desparaging, it is just a simple fact of life here.

 

I would simply remind her calmly, what you told her previously. If she is a scammer, she will start a fight, if she is just "confused" and inattentive she will back down.

 

In the end you need to know how much to invest in Thailand -- namely exactly what you can walk away from at any time of your choosing (and this is not just good advice about relationships, but having a business here in general).

What has she asked the cash for and how much?

2 hours ago, Geoff914 said:

Now she is not stupid, she has a degree in Business Admin, or something similar

 

Are you sure she didn’t get her degree in Advanced Fool Detection with a minor in Spotting Walking Wallets?

 

not inevitable at all, i've dated countless thai women, not one wanted money from me. in fact my current gf wants to buy me a condo. i feel the OP hasn't been to thailand, dosen't understand thailand, or is living in a is living in a parallel universe.

 

mate, get out of the bar and discover thailand, it's an amazing place.

8 minutes ago, it is what it is said:

 

not inevitable at all, i've dated countless thai women, not one wanted money from me. in fact my current gf wants to buy me a condo. i feel the OP hasn't been to thailand, dosen't understand thailand, or is living in a is living in a parallel universe.

 

mate, get out of the bar and discover thailand, it's an amazing place.

Bs

14 minutes ago, it is what it is said:

 

not inevitable at all, i've dated countless thai women, not one wanted money from me. in fact my current gf wants to buy me a condo. i feel the OP hasn't been to thailand, dosen't understand thailand, or is living in a is living in a parallel universe.

 

mate, get out of the bar and discover thailand, it's an amazing place.

Does your “gf” have a penis?

"Time to RUN"    

 

As you mention Council Tax etc in the OP, I assume you're in the UK and the 'girlfriend' is in Thailand?

 

So this is an on-line relationship?

 

You're probably one of several sponsors, so your current cash flow issues are just a minor inconvenience for her.

 

A real, exclusive girlfriend would already know your financial situation and would not ask for money, at least until you had some spare cash.

 

 

45 minutes ago, proton said:

What has she asked the cash for and how much?

I am not going to quote actual figures. Dec Jan and March I was in Thailand so was paying as I went along, no real figure to go on. So use April as the baseline. The baseline is a bit high I think but not unreasonable and May was actually slightly less but in June she asked for an additional £538!!!!!!!!

2 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

I am not going to quote actual figures. Dec Jan and March I was in Thailand so was paying as I went along, no real figure to go on. So use April as the baseline. The baseline is a bit high I think but not unreasonable and May was actually slightly less but in June she asked for an additional £538!!!!!!!!

 

I assume she understands the word no! 

4 minutes ago, Kinnock said:

As you mention Council Tax etc in the OP, I assume you're in the UK and the 'girlfriend' is in Thailand?

 

So this is an on-line relationship?

 

You're probably one of several sponsors, so your current cash flow issues are just a minor inconvenience for her.

 

A real, exclusive girlfriend would already know your financial situation and would not ask for money, at least until you had some spare cash.

 

 

Not online. I met her in June 2024 and I left Thailand in August. so spent several weeks together. Returned in early December and left early April. Other sponsors, yes I am aware bar girls have multiple sponsors. She is not a bar girl.

1 minute ago, proton said:

 

I assume she understands the word no! 

No, I don't think that she does understand no. Up until last month things were reasonable but given how much extra she asked for in June then I have put a stop.

6 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

Not online. I met her in June 2024 and I left Thailand in August. so spent several weeks together. Returned in early December and left early April. Other sponsors, yes I am aware bar girls have multiple sponsors. She is not a bar girl.

LOL you have to be an absolute idiot to even post this if you are not a troll, this is the type of girls i banged for the past 5-8 years after getting bored of classic bargirls, girls who met 5-10 idiots paying them monthly for a stint here to then go back and work. 

 

Maybe i banged yours too, thanks for that freebie. Did you get her a condo and brand new bike too?

You're not married so move on. It doesn't sound like she's bringing anything to the table. If you really like her then tell her she has to start spending within her means. If she can't handle that then she's not mature enough to have a relationship with in my opinion.

18 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

I am not going to quote actual figures. Dec Jan and March I was in Thailand so was paying as I went along, no real figure to go on. So use April as the baseline. The baseline is a bit high I think but not unreasonable and May was actually slightly less but in June she asked for an additional £538!!!!!!!!

Why ask strangers? Your life dude. 

23 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

Not online. I met her in June 2024 and I left Thailand in August. so spent several weeks together. Returned in early December and left early April. Other sponsors, yes I am aware bar girls have multiple sponsors. She is not a bar girl.

I think the term 'bar girl' is a spectrum rather than a single type of person.  Sounds to me like she's not that different to a classical bar girl in her financial expectations.

 

A real partner would know your current financial situation and not ask for money.

 

Long distance relationships are challenging with a trusted partner, and near impossible with someone you need to keep in their place.

18 minutes ago, ChaiyaTH said:

LOL you have to be an absolute idiot to even post this if you are not a troll, this is the type of girls i banged for the past 5-8 years after getting bored of classic bargirls, girls who met 5-10 idiots paying them monthly for a stint here to then go back and work. 

 

Maybe i banged yours too, thanks for that freebie. Did you get her a condo and brand new bike too?

Thanks for that enlightening reply. Why would she want a new bike, she has a car, and a house. May be you bought her the house.

35 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

Not online. I met her in June 2024

Did you first meet her in the evening at a venue with some party atmosphere to it and which serves alcohol?

Just now, short-Timer said:

Did you first meet her in the evening at a venue with some atmosphere which serves alcohol?

No

27 minutes ago, alien365 said:

You're not married so move on. It doesn't sound like she's bringing anything to the table. If you really like her then tell her she has to start spending within her means. If she can't handle that then she's not mature enough to have a relationship with in my opinion.

She sounds like a good gold digger with a few hooks into guys. This guy has no idea whether he loves her or not. If he doesn't know a woman after 2 weeks I wonder what the hell he learnt being with her. Did he meet the parents? Did he study her body language and meet her friends? Seems clueless or trolling. 

 

 

10 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

No

Then perhaps her Thai boyfriend has expensive taste. 

3 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

She sounds like a good gold digger with a few hooks into guys. This guy has no idea whether he loves her or not. If he doesn't know a woman after 2 weeks I wonder what the hell he learnt being with her. Did he meet the parents? Did he study her body language and meet her friends? Seems clueless or trolling. 

 

 

Yes yes and yes.

2 minutes ago, short-Timer said:

Then perhaps her Thai boyfriend has expensive taste. 

You lost me on that one.

 

3 minutes ago, Geoff914 said:

Yes yes and yes.

And your gut says what? Gold digger or not?