1 hour ago, MalcolmB said:

 what specific personality traits are needed for a man to have a successful relationship

The ability to listen to rules . 

Breaking rules can often lead to negative consequences, such as punishments or penalties.

 

Good service, no customer selection, no rushing.
Have a shared mood, feel like a girlfriend, I'll definitely love it.
White skin, "big breasted figure", good at building mood.
Good at going up, not selfish, feel like a girlfriend, no rushing.
Have a shared mood, no throwing, no screaming, do as I please.

❌No ass, no pearl implants, no raw❌

🍒 Pocket money🍒
 

2 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Some of the views here I find astounding, the assumptions and labels applied. When you meet a female, no matter what location or setting, you have absolutely no idea if she's been ridden like Seattle Sue or has a low body count. You just can't possibly know. 

Yet, because they are in " a bar" they must be the former!  - Absurd attitude.

True, many are nymphos, hiding a mental illness. Some women have just a couple men in a lifetime, especially if they were married young, and some have sex with different men every week for years.  A bargirl could be there for a day and had no customers yet,  a week and had 20, or years and had hundreds, or anywhere in between, depending on what she looks like and how alluring she can be. 

I find it interesting that of all the guys that I know that have gotten together with bar girls, only one freely admits it. When someone asks where did you meet your wife, he says oh she was working in a bar and I picked her up and fell in love with her. I really admire him for that. 

 

I know other guys that make up all kinds of stories about the university degrees and all kinds of crazy fake background, but you can smell nonsense when you hear it 

I know guys who have met bar girls, or massage gals, and ended up having long term relationships with them, that were good for both of them. A prostitute is not necessarily a prostitute. We have to define that, and there are an infinite number of variation of that definition. If someone is fortunate enough to rescue a good gal from a massage shop or a bar, within the first few months of her working there, it is quite possible she is still normal, and emotionally healthy. The trick is determining how long she has been at it. That can be difficult, as they all have a story.

 

So, how many? Many of us think there is a sort of sliding scale of psychological damage.

 

In my opinion, up to 150 men (some experience), no big deal. Most men like to argue that their gal has only been with a few guys. Yeah, right. Most American women have likely been with 20-200 guys. Despite the answers they give to those taking surveys! 

 

150-500 men (BAB - been around the block), she is experienced, but will likely be fine, if she has a good heart, and a strong mind.

 

500-1000 men (AVEG - a very experienced gal) is approaching the point where there very well might be some long term psychological damage.

 

1000-2000 men (ASP - a serious pro), and there is likely to be long term bitterness towards men.

 

2000-6000 men (ATW - around the world) and over, and there is little chance of being able to engage emotionally in a healthy manner, ever again. And there could be physical issues too. There are likely exceptions. But not many.

 

19 minutes ago, newbee2022 said:

so, 50% are bar goers and drunkards or similar. 

Sure, they got what they deserve. If you like to get married to a prostitute, its ok for me.

I am just choking and vomiting

That's what happens when you take it up the bum. 🙂

1 minute ago, carlyai said:

That's what happens when you take it up the bum. 🙂

 

I ask them to stop at the second knuckle.

11 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

The ability to listen to rules . 

 

Good at going up,

 

 

Good at going up ?

WoW, not another bar girl thread from Malcolm, surely........🙄

 

Still not found a soulmate in one yet then, Malcolm.........😥

 

Perhaps you should try the 7/11 route like another on here, eh...................

4 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

 

Good at going up ?

I reckon it's a bad translation....... cowgirl. 

 

Woman on top is any sex position in which the woman is on top of her sexual partner during sexual activity. The position most commonly associated with the woman on top is often called the cowgirl

21 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

she's been ridden like Seattle Sue

You got her phone number?

Just now, MalcolmB said:

You got her phone number?

Shes in a massage shop in Phetchabun mate.😀

6 minutes ago, transam said:

WoW, not another bar girl thread from Malcolm, surely........🙄

 

Still not found a soulmate in one yet then, Malcolm.........😥

 

Perhaps you should try the 7/11 route like another on here, eh...................

Degenerates are never looking for a soulmate

Just now, angryguy said:

Degenerates are never looking for a soulmate

I guess you are right......

6 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I know guys who have met bar girls, or massage gals, and ended up having long term relationships with them, that were good for both of them. A prostitute is not necessarily a prostitute. We have to define that, and there are an infinite number of variation of that definition. If someone is fortunate enough to rescue a good gal from a massage shop or a bar, within the first few months of her working there, it is quite possible she is still normal, and emotionally healthy. The trick is determining how long she has been at it. That can be difficult, as they all have a story.

 

So, how many? Many of us think there is a sort of sliding scale of psychological damage.

 

In my opinion, up to 150 men (some experience), no big deal. Most men like to argue that their gal has only been with a few guys. Yeah, right. Most American women have likely been with 20-200 guys. Despite the answers they give to those taking surveys! 

 

150-500 men (BAB - been around the block), she is experienced, but will likely be fine, if she has a good heart, and a strong mind.

 

500-1000 men (AVEG - a very experienced gal) is approaching the point where there very well might be some long term psychological damage.

 

1000-2000 men (ASP - a serious pro), and there is likely to be long term bitterness towards men.

 

2000-6000 men (ATW - around the world) and over, and there is little chance of being able to engage emotionally in a healthy manner, ever again. And there could be physical issues too. There are likely exceptions. But not many.

 

According to all the studies, books and articles I've read by psychologists , psychiatrists and counselors, which has been hundreds, who have interviewed and treated woman and couples, the average amount of men women have had, outside of prostitution, is 7.

 

Surveys can be truthful, especially seeing they're anonymous, but people who help women in relationships have women there for a reason.

 

Anything more than 15 men for a 40 year old woman is promiscuous, all depending on age and if there were marriages. This comes from polls from women and men. Any woman having 50 or more men is very damaged goods, and will have a hard if not impossible time trying to maintain a normal relationship with any man, no matter how good he is. 

10 minutes ago, transam said:

WoW, not another bar girl thread from Malcolm, surely........🙄

Still not found a soulmate in one yet then, Malcolm.........😥

 

Perhaps you should try the 7/11 route like another on here, eh...................

Not yet.

i am booking tickets for Petchabun.

4 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Any woman having 50 or more men is very damaged goods,

That is an average month for many Pattaya Bar girls.

Just now, MalcolmB said:

That is an average month for many Pattaya Bar girls.

You would know...........

22 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I know guys who have met bar girls, or massage gals, and ended up having long term relationships with them, that were good for both of them. A prostitute is not necessarily a prostitute. We have to define that, and there are an infinite number of variation of that definition. If someone is fortunate enough to rescue a good gal from a massage shop or a bar, within the first few months of her working there, it is quite possible she is still normal, and emotionally healthy. The trick is determining how long she has been at it. That can be difficult, as they all have a story.

 

So, how many? Many of us think there is a sort of sliding scale of psychological damage.

 

In my opinion, up to 150 men (some experience), no big deal. Most men like to argue that their gal has only been with a few guys. Yeah, right. Most American women have likely been with 20-200 guys. Despite the answers they give to those taking surveys! 

 

150-500 men (BAB - been around the block), she is experienced, but will likely be fine, if she has a good heart, and a strong mind.

 

500-1000 men (AVEG - a very experienced gal) is approaching the point where there very well might be some long term psychological damage.

 

1000-2000 men (ASP - a serious pro), and there is likely to be long term bitterness towards men.

 

2000-6000 men (ATW - around the world) and over, and there is little chance of being able to engage emotionally in a healthy manner, ever again. And there could be physical issues too. There are likely exceptions. But not many.

 

Thanks for that detailed in-depth report.

But the OP is about the traits men need if they are to have a successful relationship with these women, not about the women.

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

That is an average month for many Pattaya Bar girls.

 

Do you apply the same logic to men? If a guy has had more than 50, is he damaged? or is he a lucky git, 

 

Big spender mindset and being a rock n rolla.

You have to have the ability to pick diamonds.

 

To have the savoir faire of seeing the quality woman.

 

This only comes with experience.

 

If you are blessed with this ability you could pick a newcomer who made a mistake and is not a whore  with gusto, someone capable of loyalty. But generally speaking most women are about survival, so they'll only be loyal for as long as you can provide her with a good life anyway. 

 

Don't expect much. But at the same time be extremely selective.

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

You have to have the ability to pick diamonds.

 

To have the savoir faire of seeing the quality woman.

 

This only comes with experience.

 

If you are blessed with this ability you could pick a newcomer who made a mistake and is not a whore  with gusto, someone capable of loyalty. But generally speaking most women are about survival, so they'll only be loyal for as long as you can provide her with a good life anyway. 

 

Don't expect much. But at the same time be extremely selective.

You just described the person who falls for the long game girls perfectly lol, thinking to actually have an edge and find the good one lol

Just now, ChaiyaTH said:

You just described the person who falls for the long game girls perfectly lol, thinking to actually have an edge and find the good one lol

 

There are good women everywhere. 

 

In the slums. 

 

In the Bars.

 

In the nightclubs.

 

In the  apps.

 

You just have to have the knowledge about what "good" is with a woman.

 

Unfortunately, too many men do fall for the theatrics of women, we all have. It behooves us to use our head and stomp on our heart, which is easily seduced by the theatrics of women.

Just now, MalcolmB said:

He is what is known amongst the women groups as a “stud”.

 

Unless you are referring to homosexual men, which in that case he would be damaged.

A busted sphincter is irreparable. And can cause problems in later life.

You would know about that kind of thing, eh...............

4 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

 

Do you apply the same logic to men? If a guy has had more than 50, is he damaged? or is he a lucky git, 

 

All depends on the women he chose, if he was looking for a relationship with one and didn't choose wisely many times, had many but didn't find one who was in sync with his future plans, or hers, or is just a user who went from one to the next only looking for sex. 

6 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

 

Do you apply the same logic to men? If a guy has had more than 50, is he damaged? or is he a lucky git, 

 

I believe it has the same effect on both, it leaves you incapable of having a real relationship 

6 minutes ago, ChaiyaTH said:

You just described the person who falls for the long game girls perfectly lol, thinking to actually have an edge and find the good one lol

Mine is going for the real long game, perhaps 20 years if thats what it takes

Ones I know are total Simps she controls everything. 

1 hour ago, Ralf001 said:

that would be your personal trait.. what about the lady ?

 

Are you one of those mugs who married a bar girl then?

1 hour ago, CharlieH said:

if she's been ridden like Seattle Sue

 

51 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

You got her phone number?

You don't even know your own mum's phone number? That's very poor form Malky boy.