To quote UK manosphere culture, 'incel' (involuntary celibate) probably doesn't exist in Thailand.

I moved here because of a thai woman I met in London, and stay here  because of the laidback life.

On 7/10/2025 at 4:02 PM, Schoggibueb said:

Don't forget please, there are also foreign men who move to Thailand with their foreign woman.

 

Next to me I know 3 other couples.

 

It seems strange to me that everybody thinks men come down here to get a thai women...

No reply, mistake.

YES!!!!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

On 7/10/2025 at 4:19 PM, novacova said:

Travel magazine?

I read it on Aseannow 🤣

On 7/10/2025 at 10:34 AM, SoCal1990 said:

Is it true that foreign men often move to Thailand because they “can’t get women” in their own countries? Whether it’s due to age, appearance, income, personality, or just bad luck, it seems some might come here to reset that playing field.

 

If that’s the case, one might view these men as taking advantage of economic inequality or social dynamics. Others might say it’s a win-win, two adults finding mutual benefit in a relationship.

 

And then there’s the question no one really asks out loud: even if they could date back home in the West, would they even want to? Or do many men now simply prefer being with an Asian partner and living in Asia instead?

It is true. However, it's in many cases a win-win situation, where the Thai women both get a kind caring husband and a willing provider.

 

My home country Denmark, have made a couple of documentaries abot this, one serie a few years ago, and a recent one starting last year called "Mændenes paradis" (Men's paradise) and this year's three additions have just been released last week. If interested – it is mainly spoken Danish language – then there is a link here...

https://www.dr.dk/drtv/serie/maendenes-paradis_461630

 

Often it is a combination of both finding a woman, life-style and economy that draws Western men to Thailand; however, some have plenty of money and can afford to offer the lady a luxury life-style.

 

If you only wish a spouse, you might also marry her and bring her to your home country, which in many cases is possible. That is quite common in Denmark, mainly with women from the Philippines, number two in the chart is women from Thailand..

 

And me – if anybody should be interested – I moved to "all year summer" with women as an extra benefit. I had plenty of single mums around 40 at home interested in me, but I was looking for finding one young enogh that could give me an heir that I by that time never had time to get, while having a smaller business to care for so it could survive. And as I also likes Southeast Asian women, so that was an extra plus. So when 56 I sold the production part of my business and my property, and moved to a tropical island with "all year summer and barefet Xmas" – women was an extra benefit – and I also got my heir...

I came here for the ladies stimulating conversation.

Yes.

Many are losers, leftovers, outcasts, kicked out of a marriage, dreamers, sex- and drug addicts, pussy grabbers, pedophiles. 🤢

On 7/10/2025 at 4:36 PM, Quentin Zen said:

Not sure.   Some want to cheat on their wives.  Some want to cheat on their gf's.  Some want the ladyboy.  Some want no commitment at all.  Some are obese.  Some are very old.   Some are not hansum.  Some are dying.  Some are criminals.  Some come to lose their V.  Some come to party and whatever.  Some like to pay.  

 

The sexpat of course is here for the sex, but then they better have a solid ATM for the long haul.  

 

A group of women paid for me to come and stay in Thailand.  I'm just a gigolo, and everywhere I go..........

 

Anyone can get women with money.  Anyone.   So they must have no money back home.  

Anyone can get women with money. Now, I would love to hear the female point of view on this statement. 

On 7/10/2025 at 3:34 PM, SoCal1990 said:

Is it true that foreign men often move to Thailand because they “can’t get women” in their own countries?

What does it feel like to be a cliche? 

On 7/10/2025 at 5:51 PM, transam said:

Not necessarily, he could be as hansum as me..............🤩

OMG!!! Are you going to show us your back again? Anything but that Tranny Sam.... 

On 7/11/2025 at 1:03 PM, BritManToo said:

The answer is  ......... welfare .........

Our western governments pay women not to have sex or serious long term relationships with us.

 

There's nothing more to it.

If the Thai government paid welfare to their single moms, we wouldn't be getting sex here either.

Oh wow, totally mind blowing stuff. Silly me, thinking welfare was actually a safety net meant to help people in tough financial situations from falling through the cracks and not knowing it's really some secret plot to control women’s desire to have sex. Turns out welfare is actually just an evil masterplan to prevent men from getting laid. I guess I have been totally living in the dark my entire life. How could I be so naïve? The notion that women would naturally want to have sex is completely ludicrous. Thank you for opening my eyes, truly enlightening, mate.

I am an octogenarian, fit, active and sexually active.  I look forward to my visits to Thailand to have time with young attractive women. I know I am paying for it and I am please with  the results. Realistically, what can I get back in my own country?   A , 70 to 80 year old woman on a walker complaining about all her ailments.  They would not draw blood to my manhood.  In  Thailand, I negotiate a price, no commitment, move onto the next. I Holiday in Thailand, twice a year, sometimes three times a year. 

I came to Thailand to get away from toxic western women... Got a great job and stayed for seven years.

 

Finally after all my shenanigans, I met my lovely wife... We moved to Australia for  work, and now together 14 years and going great... Will retire back to Thailand in less than 5 years now.

 

I can't imagine how my life would be if I hadn't made that move, but I doubt it would be satisfactory!

Wise men settle in a country where two conditions are met: thet can get laid (ableit at a price) and they don't pay taxes.

44 minutes ago, Jack Hammer said:

They would not draw blood to my manhood.

oh geez... really? who talks like this? 

1 hour ago, Jack Hammer said:

I am an octogenarian, fit, active and sexually active.  I look forward to my visits to Thailand to have time with young attractive women. I know I am paying for it and I am please with  the results. Realistically, what can I get back in my own country?   A , 70 to 80 year old woman on a walker complaining about all her ailments.  They would not draw blood to my manhood.  In  Thailand, I negotiate a price, no commitment, move onto the next. I Holiday in Thailand, twice a year, sometimes three times a year. 

Keep it up!!!

1 hour ago, 1FinickyOne said:

oh geez... really? who talks like this? 

He is being both polite and funnily descriptive IMO!

On 7/10/2025 at 4:16 PM, BangkokHank said:

I came to Thailand for a great job 30 years ago. When the job ended, I stayed, mostly for the women, but also for the relatively low-cost, comfortable lifestyle. I am able to get a lot of bang for my buck here, in both senses of the word.

Bangkok banging you say. Sounds like you've made a smooth transition.

48 minutes ago, DezLez said:

Keep it up!!!

Probably not much of an issue. They've got pills for that now. 

Women weren't a problem at home, I lived in a downtown artists loft in one of the three major US cities. I had a decent career.  Left corporate life and came here because I wanted to start over without so many defaults and givens.  Sold off all the things I couldn't bring.  Moved 240 lbs (110kg) of stuff (3 suitcases and 2 boxes) and started over with everything.

 

I never imagined my life bigger or more exciting than what I had in my last years in the US.  I was bored and really just craved adventure somewhere as far away as I could go.

 

Also, The US is a hostile place to live.  Plain and simple.  It's nice to be able to selectively tune out BS here and just mind my business without someone assuming I'm some sort of polarizing adjective.

The quality of women I could get in the USA was horrifying. I would rather be celibate for life than sleep with any of the slappers that were available to me.

1 hour ago, DezLez said:

He is being both polite and funnily descriptive IMO!

I'm going to go with braggadocio swollen ego [I'm getting some] as one of his compadres from this forum.... 

 

I mean really, is there anyone who can't get laid in Thailand if they are willing to pay? And the girls can be so cute and so funny... 

18 minutes ago, happydreamer said:

Women weren't a problem at home, I lived in a downtown artists loft in one of the three major US cities. I had a decent career.  Left corporate life and came here because I wanted to start over without so many defaults and givens.  Sold off all the things I couldn't bring.  Moved 240 lbs (110kg) of stuff (3 suitcases and 2 boxes) and started over with everything.

 

I never imagined my life bigger or more exciting than what I had in my last years in the US.  I was bored and really just craved adventure somewhere as far away as I could go.

 

Also, The US is a hostile place to live.  Plain and simple.  It's nice to be able to selectively tune out BS here and just mind my business without someone assuming I'm some sort of polarizing adjective.

Soho? Tribeca? 

 

i was first here as a RTW backpacker in 1974  -  retired here over 25 years ago... haven't been back since 2012  - - It is part of me... 

13 minutes ago, 1FinickyOne said:

Soho? Tribeca? 

 

i was first here as a RTW backpacker in 1974  -  retired here over 25 years ago... haven't been back since 2012  - - It is part of me... 

The other New York 🙂

I used to envy your type before I was that type.  Was always inspiring to me to just pick up and leave.  I used to follow a photographer who did it.

Left in 2016, I was back in 2021 with my new wife and it was a bit of a culture shock.  People ask me all the time if I'm ever coming back.  Highly unlikely

 

2 hours ago, happydreamer said:

The other New York 🙂

I used to envy your type before I was that type.  Was always inspiring to me to just pick up and leave.  I used to follow a photographer who did it.

Left in 2016, I was back in 2021 with my new wife and it was a bit of a culture shock.  People ask me all the time if I'm ever coming back.  Highly unlikely

 

the only time I have been back since late 90s was to visit my parents - they passed on in 2012 and I have not been back since. I cannot imagine any reason to go back and I don't miss the plane rides. Flash floods in NYC today... I don't miss much or often - American Chinese food, Rays Pizza, a good deli roast beef sandwich.... 

2 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

the only time I have been back since late 90s was to visit my parents - they passed on in 2012 and I have not been back since. I cannot imagine any reason to go back and I don't miss the plane rides. Flash floods in NYC today... I don't miss much or often - American Chinese food, Rays Pizza, a good deli roast beef sandwich.... 

I totally understand.  I think what made it easy for me was that my parents were gone by the time I was 33 (2008).  

I miss pizza, hot dogs, and Italian beefs with red sauce, giardinera and mozz...

I get all my sports through apps but I do miss going to games.

5 hours ago, happydreamer said:

I totally understand.  I think what made it easy for me was that my parents were gone by the time I was 33 (2008).  

I miss pizza, hot dogs, and Italian beefs with red sauce, giardinera and mozz...

I get all my sports through apps but I do miss going to games.

I had actually stopped following sports entirely - and the last few years I have the MLB and NFL gamepass - - these games are wonderful for sleep... I sometimes wait up for a 1 a.m. game to start and then fall asleep during the first inning... I can't remember the last game that I was at... I had actually relocated to Central Pa. many years back... lived with the Amish in Lancaster County for a couple of years then moved out into the woods near State College... 

I came here because I was busy traveling the world and it was just the next stop. But i didn't go any further, purely because of the women throwing themselves at me (I was 24 and handsome back then!). 

On 7/10/2025 at 3:34 PM, SoCal1990 said:

Is it true that foreign men often move to Thailand because they “can’t get women” in their own countries? Whether it’s due to age, appearance, income, personality, or just bad luck.

You need to include the amount of time and effort to find a life long partner.  A game that has major flaws. Scheduling, location. Looking at internet/online dating sites some people are better at looking outwardly attractive and selling their worth to a potential partner.

 

My view is some Thai Women value certain qualities More stability, quality of life, monogamy, Not violent partner, Enough money to Not be in debt, working excessively and struggling to have a living wage.

 

 

You need to understand the brain, psychology and why you are looking for one, or few simple definitive answers.

According to Chat gpt4
"The human brain is wired to seek certainty and closure, a phenomenon known as the "need for cognitive closure." This psychological drive pushes us to resolve ambiguity and arrive at a single, definite answer, reducing anxiety and mental effort. It helps us make decisions efficiently, but can also lead to oversimplification or premature conclusions."

 

Additionally some Thai partners are more accepting of different outwardly appearances. In other cultures looks, body shape, hair may be higher ranked for accepting a partner.

 

Your question was like asking who has the best Pizza? Highly subjective.

 

Lastly you missed one important aspect Most people want/need someone to share their life with.  The may value abilities and qualities like someone to talk, someone to advise them on local cultural, beliefs, and processes for how things work.  Someone who shares similar qualities, morals, and values.  [You missed the aspect that None of us were able to choose how we look, what skills and abilities we would possess and excel at and our personalities, and how our attempts at communicating with others appears according to social norms (tact, use of words, beliefs, how we interpret another's acceptance, support and understanding)]