My Thai wife is ten years older and wealthier, am i the odd one out on here?

[Familyonthemove]

In general Thai ladies look younger than their age compared to us farang guys who look older than we are due to the tough early years in the dark satanic mills back home - so the arrangement makes sense. But the over supply of younger, available women in Thailand puts the OP in a minority.

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[hgv driver]

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[stickylies]

Me 1st on the left, wife 2nd on the right.

nice one. the ingrown toenail index is NIHIL here (on both sides).

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[umbanda]

Age is just a state of mind and pride..and that get better with age. I am 70 and I looks like 50, and I act like a kid sometimes...In my long life I met many women on its 50's a lot more beautiful, sensual, and active than many in its 30s...even here in Thailand...My second wife, an American, was 7 years older than me when we got married. My Thai wife is 47 and she is a lot more beautiful, fit , and active than my daughters, 31 and 37.....

[Bung]

Well, it is easy for a Thai lady to look ten years younger and also easy for a western man to look ten years older than they are so I reckon you two look the same age. it would never raise any eyebrows and women hit their sexual peak in their 30's anyway. I would never be comfortable living of my wife's money though, not saying you are doing that though.

[PattayaPhom]

Most guys here get roped into the "take care" family BS and buy their wife at anything between 10k-30k a month, with a down payment (sin sod) upto 1 Million Baht. Your situation isnt unique allthough not common. Thai ladies like to take care of their men, where do you suppose all the money these guys give to their paid for bride goes...to their real husband or BF. You say "our" children are they yours or are you stepfather. If you met teaching and she is a teacher, I would be curious to how she could support you and kids on a meagre teachers salary, maybe ask yourself is there some other sponsor in the midst

[Tmymaimee]

My wife is 5 years older than me. We are both still young though. Im mid 30s and she's late 30s so 5 years doesn't really mean that much. She is upper management at a large multinational company and makes about the same as me. Having been raised and educated in the UK and Switzerland I doubt she would be considered a "real" thai by most resident TV "expert" lurkers.

If she is really so successful, what is she doing with you? No offence but someone as you describe does not need a farang guy that will make her look like a bargirl in the eyes of most conservative Thais. Its all about appearances here and a white dude with a Thai girl doesn't look normal (unless of course she's a bargirl and then its expected). Not racist, just saying.

[Smurkster]

I have a friend here in Nongbua lamphu. He is 52 and his wife is 62. She met him in the states, moved into his house, got married and then got a job at a casino. When he couldn't find work in the US anymore he came to Thailand to teach English. 3 years later, he hasn't got a pot to piss in can't even afford his daily Pad Ga Pow moo and asks everyone around for money, while his wife makes about $3,000 a month in the states, drives his cars and as I mentioned lives in his house...the icing on the cake, she hasn't sent the guy a single dollar since he has been in Thailand...he keeps telling me "just a few more years, she's gonna collect social security, her pension and come back and live happily ever after with me on the Udon Farm" after hearing from a whole bunch of people that he is really being taken for a ride, I thnk he finally sees the writing on the wall....Oh gotta go, he's knocking at my door for breakfast money!

[Smurkster]

I got lucky with a good family...I paid the Sin Sod and the parents gave it back to me! A great family one in a million never asked me for ANYTHING...but the fact that my wife and I are both 25 years old probably has a lot to do with it

[Morakot]

Unheard of

Well my wifes 7 months older than me, I'm 38 and she's 39, and she saves more than me.

So now you have heard of it Kitsune.

I swear I read somewhere here that Kitsune's husband was nine years younger. Or is it that my narrow view of the life has clouded my memory?

[NoshowJones]

Well you've got quite a catch there, not sure she has (sorry it's another joke), but she actually looks younger than you, if i'm honest i have never met anyone in your situation.

One of my best friends, also a guy that I worked with as a teacher is 35 and hisThai wife is 45, they have two kids together and are very happy, but me? I have never been with a woman older than myself. I had a girlfriend in the UK who was 20 years younger than me, and my Thai wife is also 20 years younger than me.

[Tmymaimee]

I got lucky with a good family...I paid the Sin Sod and the parents gave it back to me! A great family one in a million never asked me for ANYTHING...but the fact that my wife and I are both 25 years old probably has a lot to do with it

Ah…no. Its called normal. Normal Thai families have no need for your money or support. They marry in their mid 20s and have good jobs. You never got lucky at all. You only did what millions of other young adults do every year. Why would they need anything from you anyways? My dad retired as an airline Captain….would he now go around peddling for damn handouts from his children's' spouses now as they seem to relish so much in Issan?

Its only the fact that so many TV posters are retirement age, married to destitute Issan Thais with another's man's spawn and limited education, then they decide to buy the cow and move to the farm. That's not normal; its called perverted and allows older men to hook up with younger girls in a third world country.

Sorry if this hurts the grandpas here but it had to be said. This skewed reality I see everyday is like some sick Twilight Zone episode.

[kevvy]

No matter what your age, you don't need to change the world to find love, sometimes all that has to change is you.

Good luck and I am glad you have happiest in your life .

kevvy

[lukey1979]

No, my wife's wealthier than me too.

I gave her all my money. heh.

[zeichen]

wow you found a woman that is wealthy than a teacher. That is so hard to do. LOL.

There is nothing wrong with loving someone and having a relationship. But bragging about this is ridiculous.

It is not customary in Thailand for woman to marry younger men but it does happen. Nothing to do with foreigners it is Thai custom for women to marry older men.

But as others said, why does it matter? I don't see this as an issue or something to troll and brag about.

Perhaps looking a little more professional and getting rid of the dippy hippy look might aid you in a career.

Personally, I wouldn't brag if my wife earned more than I did. I wouldnt' brag if I made more than her. It really has nothing to do with the relationship at all. You might fall into the hen pecked paradigm though. So grow some balls and be productive. There is no rule that says making money or having a career takes away from family time. I am an earner and still spend 6 hours a day with my daughter.

2 years of marriage and you have kids rather than 1. Seems like you put the cart before the horse. Perhaps you got her pregnant so she wouldn't leave you and find someone better.

She seemed to draw the short straw in the deal, but if she is happy and you are a good husband, who am I to judge. Good luck.

[sirchai]

A few cynical comments above from posters with nothing to add.

Genuine topic of interest, i shall post pics later.

Most on here seem to be older men and much younger wife's.

I've been married to an older Thai woman for two years now, there is a ten year age gap.

Not a big deal for us as she looks mid twenties same as i.

She is also the main earner in our family which is cool because i get to spend more time with our children.

I guess it's all down to chemistry at the end of the day.

Interested to hear others stories.

Here're my 2 genuine baht

<Love is a feeling, you can't buy. Nor is it possible to buy any friends.>

Why is it okay when men marry a girl who could be their daughter? If you genuinely love each other, what's wrong?

But some parts of your story made me think twice. She's the main earner,which enables you to spend more time with the kids?

Sounds like a cheap excuse for not getting your arse up. I don't think she'd have a problem if you'd contribute some more money.

Your, or her kids? As you've been married for only two years. In the end,it's down to the chemistry, but also to selfishness of people.

I'm in my twenties (not really), wife's 66 and I don't know why people are starring at us,(Please see attached photo) when walking through town. She's a devil in bed.....

[sean420]

100% awesome...everyone is happy ...I'm a jelouse ...take good care of her and the family..CHEERS

[Nautilus05]

So your Thai wife, who is a teacher, is the bread winner of the family?

That must suck for you, especially when you go back home for family get togethers. I couldn't even imagine. How do you hold your head up infront of your parents, for example?

"Yeah, my wife from a developing nation works really hard, and takes care of me". That would be a tough one for me to explain.

[Ulysses G.]

Thai women generally look younger than their age, at least until 45 or 50.

I can't agree with this. IMO, most look younger than their age until they reach their mid 30s. After that, they age very quickly.

[piersbeckett]

A personal and, may I say, brave post that begs the question; are the children biologically yours?

If you're paying (time and/or money) for the upbringing of your partner's child/children of another relationship then you're in the same boat as us - hello and welcome.

Narrowing it down, it looks like you're trading relative youth as we're (the older ones) trading relative wealth but even on that score considering your youth it may be that your long-term prospects including inheritance exceed hers and could, therefore benefit her children.

Also, bear in mind that In the real world, in the bars, I remember getting it from the horse's mouth (when I frequented such establishments) that when a young, good-looking farang entered upon the scene some 'girls' would 'go' with him without charging because they fancied him and were sick to death of old, bald, fat tossers.

Having said all of the above; both of you being teachers, it looks to me as if you may have a relationship 'as close as it gets' to 'the real thing' over here.

I hope it goes well for you both and your children.

[rwdrwdrwd]

My wife is 5 years older than me. We are both still young though. Im mid 30s and she's late 30s so 5 years doesn't really mean that much. She is upper management at a large multinational company and makes about the same as me. Having been raised and educated in the UK and Switzerland I doubt she would be considered a "real" thai by most resident TV "expert" lurkers.

If she is really so successful, what is she doing with you? No offence but someone as you describe does not need a farang guy that will make her look like a bargirl in the eyes of most conservative Thais. Its all about appearances here and a white dude with a Thai girl doesn't look normal (unless of course she's a bargirl and then its expected). Not racist, just saying.

Perhaps your assumptions about Thai women, or women in general are wrong. Not all Thai people, especially the modern generation, buy into the 'face' thing with such enthusiasm as previous generations. My wife, for example has said before in regard to a very nasty glance from an older Thai woman that I spotted (I assume directed at our relationship) 'who cares what she thinks, our life not theirs' - basically 'screw her, she should mind her own business, the daft old bat' - which made me very happy. Having been in a relationship in the past with a very traditional, superstitious, face-caring (and ironically entirely untrustworthy and unfaithful) Thai woman, I'm much happier these days.

[krisb]

Unheard of

Well my wifes 7 months older than me, I'm 38 and she's 39, and she saves more than me.

So now you have heard of it Kitsune.

I swear I read somewhere here that Kitsune's husband was nine years younger. Or is it that my narrow view of the life has clouded my memory?

Bet he never wins an argument either

[krisb]

I have heard there is a new market in older western ladies doing trips to Thailand looking for younger men.

Shock horror!....stop the bus Beryl!

[Smurkster]

[Mangkhut]

Why worry if youre the odd one or not?

If youre happy with youre wife, and youre already have children together, and you like to spend time and look after your children more than the average guy, it seems very close to perfect situation for me.

We all know that most farangs in most cases find thai gf, wives younger than themself. Quite many seem to find a spouse a generation or two younger than themself. I reacted negatively upon that in the beginning, but everyone must decide for themself and it must be up to each and everyone of us.....

Dont worry - be happy! :-)

[stickylies]

most look younger than their age until they reach their mid 30s. After that, they age very quickly.

correct, that's when the overkill of palm oil, refined sugar and lack of physical exercise kick in...

[kennypowers]

You might be unique on TV but not in Thailand as a whole. Marrying a woman half your age is not the norm like so many are led to believe when they hang out in circles where western pensioners have married poor, uneducated, divorced/separated women with dependents. Ask your average Thai whether it's common for a Thai man to marry a woman 20-35 years younger and they'll tell you no. The age gap between most Thai couples is no more than 5-10 years. As with any country you get the odd exception, but it's certainly not the norm.

[smotherb]

Unheard of

What a sheltered life you must lead. My second wife was very wealthy and four years older than I. Currently, I know three older wealthy Thai ladies who prefer younger falang men, but they want handsome, educated, and self-sufficient men--which leaves most out of the equation.

[Windy]

You might be unique on TV but not in Thailand as a whole. Marrying a woman half your age is not the norm like so many are led to believe when they hang out in circles where western pensioners have married poor, uneducated, divorced/separated women with dependents. Ask your average Thai whether it's common for a Thai man to marry a woman 20-35 years younger and they'll tell you no. The age gap between most Thai couples is no more than 5-10 years. As with any country you get the odd exception, but it's certainly not the norm.

When they first marry you are probably right about the age difference.

However when Thai men are into their 40's, a lot of them will have a GF or mia noi who is 20 years plus younger than them.

[smotherb]

You will save a fortune on viagra in comparison to other TV members. That is why you are getting all the hostility.

Actually, one could argue precisely the opposite too...

What are you saying? "You will NOT save a fortune on viagra in comparison to other TV members. That is why you are NOT getting all the hostility."