Please help: Scared of wife reaction

[OneMoreFarang]

12 minutes ago, Sheryl said:

Agree, though whether or not to go back to your home country obviously depends on factors like whether you have a job here or other things that tie you to Thailand.

 

You should indeed clear out as soon as you can but wait till she is not there to see it and take everything of value with you. And do not let her know where you have gone, as there will be a severe reaction initially when she sees you have left.

 

If you can't leave (for example, if it is a condo that you own) then consider changing the locks and informing doorman if any not to admit her. Pack up her things and figure out a way to get them to her that does nto entail a face to face meeting.

There is one little problem: If he is married then she has the right to enter any property where he lives.

I heard about a case of a married couple. She smashed their apartment.

He moved out to another place and she found out where he lived.

And somehow she got into "his" new apartment. She had the legal right because she was married with him.

And then she smashed that new apartment - just for the fun of it.

So much about being married.

 

I was told this story by a reliable person and I think it's true. Correct me if I am wrong.

[OneMoreFarang]

22 minutes ago, Sheryl said:

 

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Edited November 30, 2018 by OneMoreFarang

[ehs818]

LEAVE. Accept that you've made a mistake and move on. Get divorced or annul the marriage. You shouldn't have to pay anything. But if you did give the 'sinsot' you might be entitled to a refund. I used to have a wife that was bipolar. Can't put yourself at risk. GO NOW.

[OneMoreFarang]

8 minutes ago, ehs818 said:

LEAVE. Accept that you've made a mistake and move on. Get divorced or annul the marriage. You shouldn't have to pay anything. But if you did give the 'sinsot' you might be entitled to a refund. I used to have a wife that was bipolar. Can't put yourself at risk. GO NOW.

Don't forget to take a video if you tell her you want a divorce and the sinsod back. I am sure thousands of people would love to see that one.

[1337markus]

19 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

They are known to flare up very easily if they feel they have done something wrong. You either get used to it and how you say things or move on.

[dickjones2018]

you are lucky this happens now ...

 

for me it happend after a few years & kids

 

trapped now (cannot live kids with that monster)

 

look up :  toxic narcissist

 

thailand is full of them, also around the world

 

no kids, no house in her name = run

[TobiasML]

You should Analyse your situation calmly and neutral. You mentioned, that you recently only married. Did she behaved similar before? Was there any indication that she is more impulsive? What did you do or say before she went over the top? Do you and speak well enough English or might there be a language barrier, which could agitate the situation if you have any discussion?

DId you know yourself long enough before getting married? If you have no answer to any of these questions, then better to leave and get divorced. If you have find out who and what is the issue and raise it once both of you can think clearly again. 

[cracker1]

Leave town and change your SIM Card !

[helloagain]

19 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

Bangkok, but she lives with me. 

 

Suggest would she like to visit hometown for a week. Move out go phuket or chiang mai or move to philippens where they speak english. Better to leave thailand. 

[cracker1]

Leave town and change your SIM Card !

[champers]

19 hours ago, AlexRich said:

This post feels made up?

Jackanory, mate. Jackanory.

[4MyEgo]

20 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

Seriously "get the fark out of there", that's the most sensible answer your going to get.

 

Back in 1999 my then wife, now X, ripped the cord of the iron that she was ironing the clothes with at the time out of the socket and struck me behind the head with it, as I walked away from her, we were arguing,  I found myself on the ground, dazed and covered in blood, the front of my shirt was red, her standing over me screaming, she then had another go, for my face this time, I blocked it (ouch), then she had another go, I blocked it again, double (ouch), with nothing left to block the next go, I knew I was a gonna, long of the short, I managed to Kung <deleted> her with my leg before the iron came down again and she flew backwards, noting that I know absolutely nothing about Kung <deleted>, and when I stood up, she took off, thankfully, I was seriously scared, sort of like in a dream, sereal, staggering about, like <deleted> just happened to me.

 

She was always violent, throwing ashtrays, slapping me, I forgave her all the time, put it down to her periods, I would have to hold her to the ground until she calmed down, yeh right, as soon as she said she was good and I let her go, she would go me again, not once did I land a hand on her, would have killed her if I did.

 

I will say it one more time, "get the fark out of there" because it will only get worse, it's a mental illness and there ain't nothing you can do to fix it, you sound young enough, plenty of puppaya out there, go for it, I did, happiest bloke alive 12 years on and no comparison to my X, this one is an absolute toothless tiger.

[BoganInParasite]

Her behaviour is immature at best and scary at worst. Pack her belongings and move her out. There is no future in your relationship. Forget about the sin sod, put it down to experience. And cease any activity that may lead to her getting pregnant. Suggest you get a third neutral person to observe the critical moment she realizes she has been discarded. You need to protect yourself from any wild accusation she may throw up as the loss of face you are about to deliver don't come much bigger than this.

[MadMuhammad]

19 hours ago, BestB said:

Did you think once you marry you stop to pay?????

And herein lies the problem, don’t start. 

[Ninni]

RUN.........

[bkkgriz]

21 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

You married a very unstable person. Either get her therapy or get out. There are no other options. What else do you expect to hear from people on a forum? Are you really this naive?

[MaksimMislavsky]

Stay calm, treat her softly, show care. Let her freak about a bit. Watch. Smile.

Don't try to impose "equality-based" Western style relationship.

She will appreciate. She needs your support.

Don't fight, but don't submit, either. Stay soft on outside, firm inside. Smile.

Take her out, pay for everything, buy gifts.
Never spend more than you can afford. Don't argue, don't reason, just don't do it. Smile.
 

[mauGR1]

4 minutes ago, MaksimMislavsky said:

Stay calm, treat her softly, show care. Let her freak about a bit. Watch. Smile.

Don't try to impose "equality-based" Western style relationship.

She will appreciate. She needs your support.

Don't fight, but don't submit, either. Stay soft on outside, firm inside. Smile.

Take her out, pay for everything, buy gifts.
Never spend more than you can afford. Don't argue, don't reason, just don't do it. Smile.
 

Yeah, right, and wear a long kevlar jacket at night

[theprice01]

How long did you know her before getting married?! 

Turn off channel 7 soaps would be my best advice. 

[MaksimMislavsky]

1 minute ago, mauGR1 said:

Yeah, right, and wear a long kevlar jacket at night 

No. Don't be afraid.

 

[marqus12]

She loves you... buy her meat cleaver for Christmas 

[Thingamabob]

Doesn't feel quite right. May I ask how old you are and how well you know Thailand ?

[mauGR1]

10 minutes ago, MaksimMislavsky said:

12 minutes ago, mauGR1 said:

Yeah, right, and wear a long kevlar jacket at night 

No. Don't be afraid.

I am not, but the OP, assuming his story is real, has reasons to be afraid, or, at least quite worried.

[NoshowJones]

22 hours ago, sanemax said:

If you are in Pattaya , give Sharky a call

Send the OP a PM with Sharkeys phone number.????

[chippendale]

22 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

First a question: What attracted you to this type of woman? Why oh why did you marry her ?!?!

 

Leave her today. Delete any trace of yourself. Start a new life and think twice when you meet a new woman.

[crazykopite]

When she is not at home , pack your bags and do a runner that’s got to be better than ending up being bar b q in your local temple.

[Just1Voice]

22 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

Can I please get some sensible answers? 

 

I'm pretty traumatized.

 

 

You want a sensible answer?  RUN, FORREST, RUN!  Joking aside, your marriage is doomed before it's even had a chance to get started.  She sounds like an attention nut, who has to be the center of your every thought, 24/7.  Had a friend who had one like that.  2 months after they married, she tried to shoot him.  Fortunately, he had removed the bullets from the clip the day before.  He walked - or rather ran - away and immediately filed for divorce.  

 

[dotpoom]

23 hours ago, tekashicanada said:

I am wondering on what I need to do.

Really?

[LukKrueng]

well, 1 technic of handling a wife is simply slap her face every evening you come back home. Doesn't matter if you don't know what she did wrong. She'll know

[mauGR1]

2 minutes ago, LukKrueng said:

well, 1 technic of handling a wife is simply slap her face every evening you come back home. Doesn't matter if you don't know what she did wrong. She'll know

That sounds similar to a Chinese proverb, i don't know how it works, i could never do that.