11 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

As far as I'm concerned the added values are I give her money and home

Personally if married I would call that a base line not added value ????

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Bad luck, pointless staying with a woman once she's told you to go, there's no way back from that request IMHO.

All women really are like that .... AWALT.

 

Personal question, feel free to ignore, how frequent was the sex?

1x week, 1x month ........... just a little survey on the value of BGs Vs virgins.

MGTOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

6 hours ago, ezzra said:

Sigh.. marrying a Thai is a crapshoot game in the best of times, they're simply wired differently to us non Thai and that gap CAN NEVER be bridged no matter how hard you try, what to do now? bide your time, see what changes the winds will bring, all in all, better now than later...

i never get involved emotionally with a Thai woman.  it's just not the same.  they do not appreciate or reciprocate on the same level of meaning.  lots of Thai woman just a friends. if you are the sensitive type best stay away.  we in the West tend to ware our hearts on our sleeves, here it's a very stoic culture.  not my thing.

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Bad luck, pointless staying with a woman once she's told you to go, there's no way back from that request IMHO.

All women really are like that .... AWALT.

 

Personal question, feel free to ignore, how frequent was the sex?

1x week, 1x month ........... just a little survey on the value of BGs Vs virgins.

In a survey of Thai women, I find it more revealing to ask BJ or no BJ. My own personal survey shows, Non bargirls = no BJ. Bargirls = BJ.

I'm certain that you won't leave. Didn't she come back with red roses and went down her knees, just to please? 

 

           If not, have a great life without her. There are plenty of other moms who have nice daughters who are single ( minded). 

No monthly salary eh? Then what exactly did you bring to the marriage table besides your ding-a-ling ?

3 hours ago, rumak said:

I really don't know what ALL Thai women are like.  I've lived with a few and also a Filipino and they all had some good points and some differences.   The one thing NONE of them had was a bitchy or disrespectful attitude .   The thing I learned more and more was to stop thinking how can I make them happy.  It definitely became who is going to appreciate me and try to keep me happy !   The "wise ones" here will say you have to do this and you have to do that and you can't expect them to blah blah blah.

BS !     DISCLAIMER:  I am assuming that all you guys are nice and caring people  ????  .  If so, try to pick wisely if you're thinking long term.   And ultimately I always side with those on here that ask why would anyone stay with someone once it goes downhill.   

good advice!!!  Dam right!!!  

7 hours ago, BritManToo said:

 

Personal question, feel free to ignore, how frequent was the sex?

1x week, 1x month ........... just a little survey on the value of BGs Vs virgins.

 

    Do  you  mean the OP.  or his ex. answers may vary.

     She  has  given you the marching orders mate,   i expect the same soon.

      The house i am paying for is nearly finished .  Plan B ? .

                BG = BJ . i like it . 555

    

 

1 hour ago, Pravda said:

 

I agree.

 

And I paid for every outing and Vacation (which was at least once a month in a 4-5 star hotel).

 

I asked numerous times what does she want and if she wants money how much, but I was always met with silence. I guess I was supposed to be a gentleman and guess her thoughts. There has always been a lack of communication from day one, but I put up with it.

 

When I met her she kept harping on and on about how she doesn't need a man in her life because she has a job, house and her parents are doing fine, blah, blah.... like she didn't want me from day one ???? Her mom though kept asking her when are we going to get married, so 2 years later we did. Village wedding, all taken care of by her parents. I just had to buy some gold, but I received the equal amount back in chains. She was not stingy with money in the beginning, but like my previous Thai gf I think she got influenced by her facebook friends playing hiso.

 

I am considering going a few months to Philippines now to clear my head.

 

I am even considering getting a TEFL job tbh, just to get out and do something.

 

 

 

 

Philippines will definitely won't hurt.  Just try not to repeat the pattern.  Women there are kinder, sweeter, not wild like thai.  Much more respectful and courteous.  You will always be part of the conversation, not marginalized like smelly trash in Thailand.  No matter how well versed you are or not in the language, they will show respect and appreciation.

3 minutes ago, mike787 said:

Philippines will definitely won't hurt.  Just try not to repeat the pattern.  Women there are kinder, sweeter, not wild like thai.  Much more respectful and courteous.  You will always be part of the conversation, not marginalized like smelly trash in Thailand.  No matter how well versed you are or not in the language, they will show respect and appreciation.

Dunno about that, I've done some wild flippers in the last few years, although do agree the Philippine population is much more polite as a whole.

from what I have encountered, to date:nt

  - for to her it means that they are being Rejected

 

 

learnt never to tell them off, in any form of...

 

The only 'get back at her' sentence that she still hasn't absorbed enough to understand, therefore not respond to:

 

"it gets very Tiring; to have to always have to act as Dumb, as you say I am"

 

 

 

 

 

54 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Yeah but their side is always the same story, you don't give me enough money and I'm not in the mood for sex (with you).

anyone faced with that situation should move on.(but i suspect that many find that so hard to do)   maybe i found that one in a million that doesn't give me any stress or make demands.    i kept trying and trying till i got lucky...... but if this one goes sour not so sure I would

try for a "real relationship" again.    reaching the age where my peace of mind takes precedence over a piece of something else.   

It really doesnt matter if she is Thai or whatever.

Look at divorce rates in several countries and you know its happening everywhere. USA, EU 50% !! Asia 50 %?!

I ve heard, seen , red, lived it. No matter what country, white, brown or yellow. You ve heard Philippines, most women are "seperated", divorce is hard to do and expensive for them.

It doesnt matter if you do good and stand with her, it doesnt matter. 

 

Love ? Whats love got to do with it, Tina song, its a second hand emotion.

Or Haddaway. what is love, baby dont hurt me.

So many songs from being together and rarely good.  

SO now the op knows, but has nothing to do with his partner being Thai, 

it's just in humans themselves. Once there is a switch pulled and a "divorce" is there, no matter what. ANd these days it is just plain normal, same as killing people. Has always been there since humankind exist.

Bringing it on to Thai women is just ridiculous, you can have it everywhere in the same way as with Thai.     

I couldn't resist to come back to the thread..."TV addicts anonymous member"...is he divorced yet ?

Very few guys here dating career women most are disguised bar girls lol.  This gal sounds like another nut job I have met quite a few.  Why buy the cow when you can milk it through the fence.  Best of luck and start grabbing your belongings. 

5 minutes ago, freedomnow said:

I couldn't resist to come back to the thread..."TV addicts anonymous member"...is he divorced yet ?

i dunno but if it was me that was facing big changes in my life, this would be the last place I would look for clarification...

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5 hours ago, mike787 said:

This guy is brilliant!  Adding to that DO NOT  invest anything in Thailand.  Makes life easier, hassle free existence, and exit.

Right on first point...wrong on second...when in Thailand do as Thais do.

 

Maybe just time of the month...... give it 2 weeks, see how you goes

Don't stay at the Nana Hotel 555

7 minutes ago, from the home of CC said:

i dunno but if it was me that was facing big changes in my life, this would be the last place I would look for clarification...

Agree, it would be better to talk to some real friends, provided that one has any.

3 hours ago, Pravda said:

Well, I noticed bus fares are up, some as much as 25%.

 

Has never a been a better time to leave!!!!

 

Kidding. Hustling around the mall Bangkapi, watching the world (girls) go by it's a depressing thought going back.

 

 

Those girls are almost all the same, shallow braindeads interested in all the same material junk, food, family, 'religious' bribery and annoying social media fixations and selfie addictions. As I said you, and most would be well out of it. They all look nice- at first.

7 hours ago, Pravda said:

 

I probably would.... if my visa wasn't expiring in a week.

 

Great timing!

..once you step onto that bridge that leads to the future; never look back..best of luck..friends are here if you need.

5 minutes ago, tandor said:

..once you step onto that bridge that leads to the future; never look back..best of luck..friends are here if you need.

 

Thank you.

 

I didn't expect so much support to be honest.

 

I am a wimp. About 2 hours until wife comes back from work. I'd rather not be at home, but as per her usual she never brings the keys with her and expects me to be waiting.

 

Now that I think about it maybe she is bipolar. I mean Thai women are known not to have any knowledge about mental disorders. God forbid she would ever consider seeing a doctor about this non existing problem.

 

 

 

 

American married 27 years to a Montreal girl. Now divorced 28 years. Four great kids. But much happier being off the leash. The entire family gathers for holidays. Go enjoy life.

59 minutes ago, Puchaiyank said:

Right on first point...wrong on second...when in Thailand do as Thais do.

 

 

2 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

Thank you.

 

I didn't expect so much support to be honest.

 

I am a wimp. About 2 hours until wife comes back from work. I'd rather not be at home, but as per her usual she never brings the keys with her and expects me to be waiting.

 

Now that I think about it maybe she is bipolar. I mean Thai women are known not to have any knowledge about mental disorders. God forbid she would ever consider seeing a doctor about this non existing problem.

 

 

 

 

Maybe just a bad patch,  You will know if there is any thought for you if she goes ahead and completes the visa requirements obviously that will be a telling factor

9 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

Thank you.

 

I didn't expect so much support to be honest.

 

I am a wimp. About 2 hours until wife comes back from work. I'd rather not be at home, but as per her usual she never brings the keys with her and expects me to be waiting.

 

Now that I think about it maybe she is bipolar. I mean Thai women are known not to have any knowledge about mental disorders. God forbid she would ever consider seeing a doctor about this non existing problem.

 

 

 

 

My ex wife was definitely bipolar, mainly depressed, but sometimes manic.

She would never even talk about our problems and as for seeking medical help- forgedaboudit.

A typical example of a cheap charlie. No future for you here in Thailand, for sure.

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I'd bet real money 80% of the people claiming 'successful relationship with, own job, never worked in a bar' on TV are essentially in sexless relationships. Which is totally OK if you miss your mom that much.

I was cranking through this extended OP, and came to your post ... and this little paragraph. I ended up reading it four or five times and still have no idea what you are ON about.

 

1) people claiming succesful relationaship with.

2) own job

3) never worked in a bar

 ----- This takes place on ------ " TV"     (??????)

= sexless marriage

 

I admit I do not watch much TV. I watch MLB games at 6AM, beyond that our cable has bad, dated, movies that I rarely watch but again I ask ... WHAT IN GODS NAME ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, OR WATCHING?               

 

 

 

 

6 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

A typical example of a cheap charlie. No future for you here in Thailand, for sure.

Why don't you send her tons of gold and cash! ????